Is it right to avoid a "friend"?

[molybdenumstudios]

^ Same here. I know how it feels to be betrayed. Good thing, I do not associate myself with that person anymore. Turns out, she's a selfish traitor (that was yeaaaaaaaars ago, sorta ancient haha). Naging elitista rin at the end.

Actually, my best guy friend and I parted ways (though not in an amicable way), but when we patch up things, our friendship isn't the same as before, but I don't have any qualms with it. Ayokong pilitin ang sarili ko sa kanya.

[17glut]

if they're being an a$$ or a b!tch then why not. I'd be doing myself a huge favor by dropping them. Got no room in my life for people like that.

[hazelbrown_eyes27]

I just found out that the twin sister na nag post sa wall ko, posted sa wall niya about ppl treating you badly etc, dont let them mistreat you" yeah! Look who's talking!  If she was a friend, she wouldnt even post those on my wall! Kung may issue siya, send me a pm, or talk to me personally! Not tell that to me on my wall. Now, sino kaya sa amin yun?

[brendzy]

Bakit ngayon ko lang nakita nag thread na to? 

Sometimes tama lang, lalo na if it is a trust issue. In my case, ako yung may kasalanan bakit kami nagkaroon ng gap and that was 2 years ago pa. I asked for an apology & did everything na maging ok kami, she said everything is fine and no problem anymore. But eventually, I felt we drifted apart, we seldom talk even we were on the same flat, same office, same group. She usually talk to me when we are with other people, very civil. it's been 3 weeks when we decided to separate from sharing flat. So it's been 3 weeks now since the last time we talk. I guess talagang nawalan na sya ng gana sa akin. I feel bad about it. I am trying really hard to understand that there is no problem between us, but her actions says otherwise. 

[hazelbrown_eyes27]

I guess oo naman, recently, nalaman ko I got unfriended bigla sa fb by a person I thought was a friend. No explanation at all, even his gf na nakakausap ko pa nga.. Biglang unfriended! I blocked them both and deleted my album with the 3 of us in it. Naka grayed out pa yung " add friend" so, okay, wala ako maisip na dahilan bakit ako inunfriend. Eh, nag cocommunicate pa nga kami ng fiance niya.. I felt, mga ganun, di totoong friends. Kung friends talaga sila, they will fix this, or atleast let me know ano nagawa ko. Wala.. Oh well.. Atleast, nalaman ko agad ngayon pa lang!:)

[gil12]

^ baka may misunderstanding kayo or baka may tinatago sila sayo? medyo similar situation tayo. I posted sa kabilang thread sa unsubscribe pero sakin kasi nagstart siya sa IG. Dahil dun, mas naging curious ako why she did that, considering andun pa sa FB. Then ayun, I found out something new kaya naisip ko na baka tinatago niya yun samin. Slowly, pati sa FB ganun na rin, friends but obviously nasa restricted list na. she isn't really considered as a friend, aminado naman ako we're not close and friend lang ng friend parang ganun. nagtataka lang ako if she's hiding her timeline from us why not just remove us in FB? kita niya samin tapos siya hindi? so we did the same to her.

[Filipinasadhart]

For me yes lalo na Kung isip bata ang friend mo at di mature mag isip. Tapos nararamdaman ko may insecurity factor sya Kaya yun iniwasan ko sya.
Saka hindi mo maituturing na friend ang taong Hindi nakakaintindi sayo.

[crazycoolchic19]

I have to cut our friendship kasi wala syang respect. hinde sya nakikinig at marunong umintindi.

[kikaygirl5810]

Done this many times over:

I had a bff for 7 years...Then she introduced me to this new girl shes helping to a have a job. She asked me if i could have here in my company im in and so i did kasi magaling naman yung girl.

After a few months working with us...may complain si girl na di daw sha sinahuran ng tama. So i asked HR bakit ganun. Na explain naman before she started to work with us eh mag start sha as minimum muna then after 3 months increase salary. Hindi daw yun ang sinabi ko! I told her na wala ako say sa salary, all i do is recommend her at wala ako na promised na salary.

You know what sha ang pinakingan ng best friend ko. Calling me power tripper!
There in then i cut all communication with her. Avoid her. Pero honestly ang sakit...

But i think it's worth it. After leaving that company...you know what that girl was caught duplicating receipts...
 

[lovely_carrot]

 Heck yes, esp if she is full of drama, a brat, who has this feeling of entitlement, na para bang dapat pag may hiningi sya pagbigyan agad otherwise she will make tampo.. Pag may nasabi kang di nya gusto she'll take it against me and again, make tampo..

I run out of patience for my 9 yr old daughter pag nagdadrama minsan, sa kanya pa kaya na early 20s na.. Mas mature pa ibang kaedaran nya..

I have this circle of  friends I've known half my life and not once did we take things personally even at the height of arguments.. No wonder she has no close friends. Sa Fb marami but in real life waley ako nakikitang kasa kasama nya..

Friends should bring you positives vibes, kaya dun sa mga nega at nakakastress goodbye

[pan.ian4ever]

I have a guy best friend whom I tried and is still trying to avoid. We are okay sana, though long distance yung friendship namin,we never failed to communicate. He's actually my classmate when I was still in college. When he went here in Manila to attend a conference, he visited me and we spent some time together. I asked him if he has a girlfriend, wala daw. I asked him because hindi ako comfortable na sumama sa isang guy na taken na because I put myself on the girlfriend's shoes,and I don't feel good knowing that kind of thing. After 2 months bumalik ulit sya ng manila para magbakasyon kasama ako. Then there was this incident na sinabi nya na lang na he actually has a girlfriend. 5 years na daw sila at yung bakasyon nya nga na iyon,pinigilan pa sya ng gf nya but still ako pa rin daw pinili nya makasama. Naghiwalay sila ng gf nya because of that incident.
Nagalit ako because of what happened. Umiyak pa nga yung guy bestfriend ko dahil sinabi kong ayoko na makipagkaibigan pa. He said hindi nya daw kaya. He even did some things (tawagan at makipagkita sa younger brother ko;maglasing at madisgrasya while driving,etc.)...
We used to be close but since then,hindi na naibalik yung dati. I still communicate with him kasi takot ako baka ano na naman gawin nya at kung ano pa mangyari sa kanya. But I would admit na hindi na maayos ang pakikitungo ko sa kanya, and he'd always feel sorry. At sasabihin nya na why is it so easy for me to just dump him.
Anyway, that's my bbff. Di ko na din alam ano gagawin sa kanya.

[may12]

^Sis, are you sure friend lang din tingin niya sayo? A guy won't dump his 5-year gf just to see his friend.

But you're right to avoid him. If ayaw mo naman makipag-relasyon din sa kanya, then don't be the reason na lang for other women's tears.

[kateguerzon08]

this reminds me...
i had a guy best friend (my first ex), last year lang we're hanging out pa, masaya puro kwento at nadiscover kong madaldal pala talaga siya, muka lang siyang tahimik..then nun na-engaged na ko last Nov, last meetup namen Dec back to tahimik na naman siya at halos wala kame pinagusapan though magkaharap naman kame..then this year totally nabawasan na yun communication namen hanggang sa hindi na din kame naguusap (chat, text, calls) at meetups..then totally wala na communication ngayon..nun last meetup pala namen na sinabi kong engaged na ko at pinakita ko pa engagement ring ko, bigla niya din sinabing may gf na din daw siya, which is dine-deny niya nun mga times na magkasama kame lagi last year, bigla tuloy ako naguluhan baket that time niya lang sinabi saken..nakakahinayang yun friendship for me, pero ano naman gagawin ko db? di ko kase siya mabasa bat biglang naging ganon since i got engaged...

[toria]

^Sis it's very obvious that he still likes you.

Yes sayang ang friendship pero kung minsan mas better this way kesa makasakit pa ng iba.

[kateguerzon08]

^Sis it's very obvious that he still likes you.

Yes sayang ang friendship pero kung minsan mas better this way kesa makasakit pa ng iba.

di ko alam sis, kase mahirap talaga siya basahin, whereas ako transparent..iniisip ko baka natutuwa lang to saken kase only child siya and last year lang talaga kame nagbonding ng ganon, lage kase siya busy dati kaya wala daw siya social life..and hindi ko din alam baket ako ang lagi niya niyayaya to go out, ang ginagawa lang naman namen madalas magkape, kumaen, kwentuhan, minsan milktea pero ayaw niya yun..tapos nood..saken kase wala naman yun iniisip ko bestfriend ko siya..tumatawag pa nga siya sa mobile ko, chat and text before, tapos pinuntahan niya pa ko twice sa office para magdinner kame..tapos bigla na lang ganon, unexpected lang kase..pero tama ka kesa naman makasakit pa ko, nasasaktan na pala siya di ko alam, bat kase di na lang sabihin saken, open naman ako for any conversation..

anyways, thanks sis..naka-moveon naman na ko, right now im busy on wedding research and preps..

[toria]

Sis, I've been there pero di pa naman ako engaged nun at iba pa ang bf ko.

I had this guy bestfriend, since high school to early working years ko magkaibigan kami.
As in every night magkausap sa phone, nagtetext, lumalabas.

I was actually waiting for him to ask me out pero wala. Pero based sa pinapakita nya alam kong meron.

Then I had a bf, naguusap padin kami even after nagbreak kami ni ex-bf (not because of him ha).

Then may iba na akong suitors, pero naguusap padin kami. Nakkwento ko sakanya pero inookray nya, syempre feeling ko dahil nga best of friends kami kaya ganun sya makacomment.

Until one day, he stopped talking to me. As in wala na. Ni ha ni ho wala. Di man lang sya nagpaalam.

I tried to reach out pero di na nya ako pinapansin. Eventually I learned to let go. Maybe di lang talaga kami meant to be friends this long. Minsan namimiss ko padin sya but not in a romantic way.
He was a really good friend to me, but I had to let go.

Now I'm engaged with a different guy and very much happy.

[kateguerzon08]

db sis, thank you kase you feel me..almost ganon din, i tried to reach out to him, kaso dinedeadma na niya ko, so sabi ko tama na..kaya yun until now di na kame nagusap..ok naman ako busy sa wedding preps kaya di ko na din namalayan its been 6mos na since we last talked..tas ayun nga minsan nakikita ko fb niya, kasama gf niya..na that time lang din sila nagiging public, unlike nun nagha-hangout kame, weird talaga, haha..

[toria]

^Haha never mind na yan sis. Let go na .

Ako nga naiisip ko kung magkita kami ulit makikilala pa kaya nya ako haha.

[Cheesecak3]

Yes, I let go one of  my friends in college kasi sobrang nega talaga nya.

[blackgreen]

Right now I am avoiding a "friend" whom I thought my bff for the past 13 years. Hindi pala. Totoo pala sinasabi ng kapatid ko na hindi siya totoong kaibigan pero hindi ako nakinig.