on wife who cheat...

[pomegranate]

Equality sa pagloloko? That's downright pathetic!

I think hindi yan ang ganyang equality ang hinahabol ng babae!

Walang redeeming factor, ang equality sa pagloloko. Ibinababa lang ang morality ng babae. I believe, na mas madaming GT sisses, who still believe sa morality at pureness ng family.

My remark was definitely misconstrued.

I mean equality as in there is no justification for BOTH men and women who cheats, just because women has different reasons does not make it a special case, yun lang naman ang ibig kong sabihin  Did not know what happened, anyway . . . and to fellow posters, sinners and sinners as we all are, as you can see, it was just a plain and simple opinion owkie dowkies, so don't overkill

[snowflakes]

skin lang mahirap manghusga ng tao. mahirap magsalita ng tapos. may dahilan sila kaya nila nagagawa ang mga bagay na di naman dapat ginagawa ng isang matinong asawa babae man or lalake. kung ano man ang dahilan na yun hinde dapat gawing reason para mangaliwa. pero kaya nga may word na weakness eh kase sila yun. naging weak sila sa pagsubok ng Diyos. na temp sila at nagkasala.

[k_heart]

k_heart - i love your posts, and i agree with you.

i really don't know the reason behind kung bakit nag che cheat yung wife/husband. pero sana kung married na ang tao, they should try to think or fix things muna diba. communication is the key. baka naman madaan pa. sayang din kasi. (IMO lang naman) sorry sa mahurt. pero sa mga
nag cheat, di ba kayo natatakot sa possible na manyari in the future? like karma? or kung may anak kayo, what if ganon ang manyari? (wag naman sana)

iba lang siguro effect sakin ng pre-cana seminar. i'm not yet married, but gettign married in the next 4 months. and nakakalungkot isipin na ang daming marriage na nasisira because
pambababae at panglalalake (di maganda pakinggan) hehe. kung may pagkakamali ang isa, pwede naman madaan sa magandang usapan. di naman sa nakikialam ako, but as of now, super puzzled ako. kasi yung tatay ko, once nag cheat sa mom ko. pero dinaan sa magandang
 usapan. mom ko di nag loko despite sa ginawa ng dad ko. as in caught in the act na may ginagawang toot. pero instead makipaghiwalay, they tried to fix things parin. may lamat na ang relationship nila, pero little by little, naaayos naman

basta, mali ang mag cheat, mapababae or mapalalake. mga sis, it's not too late na itama ang mali, di sa nag papaka angel ako, pero sayang kung married na kayo. you made a vow in front of
 God diba. and commiting adultery, is a sin. I don't want to sound judgmental, kaso may mga friends din ako na ganto ang pinagdadaanan. naaawa ako sa kanila, kasi di biro din ang pinagdadaanan nila. and sa mga sis dito na nahihirapan because of the situation, try to think
muna. pag isipan nyong maigi bago gumawa ng move. kung may nanloko or niloko ka /kayo ng asawa nyo para humantong sa pag cheat, try nyo nalang pigilan. at least kayo, clear ang consience. in the long run, kayo parin ang panalo. walang mawawala sa inyo.
some might say na nasasabi ko to kasi wala ako sa gantong position, pero sayang naman. kung ganon lang. masisira ang life because sa ganon na pagkakalamali. ang cheating, di basta basta biro. it is a sin, ang family ang nakasalalay. sayang naman
Peace! 

Thanks sis!

Yes, we are all sinners! And like me, i have my share of faults and shortcomings.
  I have been a long-time poster and girltalker and i just posts what i have in mind, walang personalan to fellow girltalkers. sinners as we are, i would like for us lalo na girls, to rise above our weaknesses! And not just say na tayo ay tao lamang. And we fall, for us to rise again and labanan ang tawag ng laman!
  Prayers and constant talk with our close friends and family members will certainly help us.

Question lang din  sa mga sisses who condones yung pangagaliwa ng babae or who has done the deed, if may anak kayo na mga babae or future daughters, ipapayo nyo ba sa kanila na tama ang ginawa nyo na ok lang na nangaliwa kasi may mabigat na dahilan  or ilalayo nyo sila sa ginawa nyo? Gusto nyo bang gawin ng mga anak nyo ang ginawa nyo balang araw?








Cheers!   

[k_heart]

I'm  not being judgemental naman kasi im not judging any one in particular. So wag din masyadong dibdibin ang posts ko. Pero syempre truth hurts naman. GT is a learning process, i also learned something from each and every posts, agree man ako or hindi, tinatamaan man or hindi ako personally.he!he!

But in order also to have a civilized society, dapat may clear Right or Wrong. OR else, chaos will reign.

[blackberryqueen]

We all know it's wrong to cheat, and a lot of the posters here have already explained very emphatically the reasons why it is WRONG.

For those who have never been cheated on, and never cheated anyone, let's all sing Hallelujah that we were never in this situation. That we were never weak enough to be tempted. That we never had to demand anything from our spouses because it is freely given. That any un-met need of ours, we learned to accept and be content with what our spouse can only give.

Now that we've said it all, rebuked strongly and reprimanded the wrongdoer, let's give way naman to counselling. The reason why the poster have confessed here is she's actually seeking help. She needs someone to listen and understand what she's going through, and guide her towards the right path. Kung ganito na babatuhin lang sya ng mga hurtful comments, siguro dapat i-PM na lang nya sa mga taong willing tumulong, like myself.

But i know we're like family here, we all came from different backgrounds kaya iba't iba tayo ng opinion, and yet we respect each other. Of course we all agree that cheating is wrong and can never be condoned, no question about it. Still, let's ask ourselves, are we posting comment out of genuine concern, or we simply hate cheaters and would be so happy to crucify them any chance we get.

[k_heart]

Yes, agree! And yes, i'm posting out of real concern! Parang bata yan, you are doing him or her a great disservice if hindi pagagalitan pag may ginawang mali. In short, kinukunsinte.

Truth hurts pero each and everyone of us should overcome that hurt to see the real message. Medyo mahirap i-sugar coat yunt bagay na medyo mabigay. Unfortunately this, subject falls under the Very Heavy Category!

For our GT sisses, who cheated, yes may dahilan, pero let's rise above that dahilan, keep ourselves busy with other things. Continue praying. Counselling will also help.

I just want to share a kwento, a real kwento. celebrity couple sila, yes, very well-known. I know both of them personally pero we are not that close. Yung  babae, talagang nagloloko, pero the guy instead na hiwalayan yung wife nya, chooses to be the bigger person. Na kahit pinagtatawanan na sya ng mga kasamahan nya sa industriya, he choose  to keep his family intact. nag uundergo sila ng counselling and therapy, and he's still wooing his wife, and taking his wife sa mga vacations para maayos ang realationship nila. We really admire him and hope that others will be like him. Kaya,up to now, buo pa rin family nila. That's love at yan din ang inagree nating lahat nung nagpakasal tayo sa mga partners natin.

[rianne_mallows]

i agree with kheart.. tough love ika nga..

[heavensent]

^^agree with you sis..

my partner cheated on me not just once, but I never even thought about doing the same, why add fuel to the fire, mas lalo lang gugulo, focus my attention to my daughter instead.

right now matino naman na siya, motor nalang kinababaliwan niya..

[spicyangel]

i agree with you sisses. noon sabi ko sa sarili ko never ko gagawin ang ginawa sakin ng asawa ko ang mag cheat. at kahit anong mangyare di ako manloloko ng partner ko. but God tested me. and i failed. But the most important is i learned my lesson (the hard way).

[k_heart]

Thanks sis Rianne_Mallows and sis Heavensent! : )

Sis Spicyangel, im also always praying that God will not test us or if he ever does,that we will be always strong enough to surmount it.

Pero sis, yan naman yung important, for us to recognize kung tama or mali yung nagawa natin. Kasi in acceptance and owning up to our mistakes, we can start a fresh beginning. To slowly rebuild our lives and makes us stronger in the process!

Good luck sis Spicy, God Loves You! Continue  praying and keep your faith!

Basta tama ka sis Heaven sent, pag nagloko ang asawa. dont fight fire with fire! Instead focus na lang on our kids and our work.

[heavensent]

^so true, and if you really don't love him anymore or don't want to stay in the relationship then get out before starting a new one at least that way walang masasaktan..

[spicyangel]

Thanks sis Rianne_Mallows and sis Heavensent! : )

Sis Spicyangel, im also always praying that God will not test us or if he ever does,that we will be always strong enough to surmount it.

Pero sis, yan naman yung important, for us to recognize kung tama or mali yung nagawa natin. Kasi in acceptance and owning up to our mistakes, we can start a fresh beginning. To slowly rebuild our lives and makes us stronger in the process!

Good luck sis Spicy, God Loves You! Continue  praying and keep your faith!

thanks sis... matagal na ko nagbago. and i made a promise not to God or anyone but to myself na di na mangyayare yun ulit. tanggap ko na rin na hanggang dito na lang love sa akin ng asawa ko at ayoko na umasa at maghintay sa pagbabago nya. acceptance is the key.  i'm happy with my life now and i know God forgave me.

[violet_dmd_75]

Sis k heart, I agree with you completely. I love your posts and I love your lola

[k_heart]

^Thanks so much sis Violet! Greatly appreciated! Mwahhhh! Kung Hei Fat Choi! : )

[justin3]

Tsismis is my bisnis! ...but based on facts.
after all, anytime sasabog rin to.

who is this Lawmaker A na ipinagpalit ng wifey nya kay Lawmaker B?

mga sikat to ang tatlo na to ha? not unless:
          wala kang kamuwang-muwang sa Impeachment drama. (Lawmaker A)
          di ka nanonood ng mga beauty pageants (wifey)
          di ka nanonood/nakikinig/nagbabasa ng news lately...something about showbiz (Lawmaker B)

i witnessed it myself last quarter, last year during a provincial festival. we'll, patay-malisya ako that time. baka "close friends" nga lang talaga ang dalawa. pero ang awkward talaga tingnan because i know that si gurl ay married. yon pala, yon na yon.


ah basta! di ako papayag na maging National Artist si Nora.  

[beatrize zuri]

^sis wala na bang ibang clue? kahit initials lang? hehe hirap hulaan ah?! 

[beatrize zuri]

naiimagine ko yung sitwasyon ni spicyangel mahirap yan, mahirap pati mabalik yung tiwala parang lagi kang paranoid lalo na kung pareho pa kayong nag cheat. malalampasan mo yan sis, focus ka na lang muna sa sarili mo at sa mga kids niyo. kaya mo yan sis!

[guilleanne]

Tsismis is my bisnis! ...but based on facts.
after all, anytime sasabog rin to.

who is this Lawmaker A na ipinagpalit ng wifey nya kay Lawmaker B?

mga sikat to ang tatlo na to ha? not unless:
          wala kang kamuwang-muwang sa Impeachment drama. (Lawmaker A)
          di ka nanonood ng mga beauty pageants (wifey)
          di ka nanonood/nakikinig/nagbabasa ng news lately...something about showbiz (Lawmaker B)

i witnessed it myself last quarter, last year during a provincial festival. we'll, patay-malisya ako that time. baka "close friends" nga lang talaga ang dalawa. pero ang awkward talaga tingnan because i know that si gurl ay married. yon pala, yon na yon.


ah basta! di ako papayag na maging National Artist si Nora.

I just read someewhere, so si koko pimentel pala to and his wife? sino si lawmaker B?

[JDC168]

Girls, how to know if wife is cheating? 

I would appreciate any inputs on this.  Medyo ito ang problem ko sa wife ko now...  feeling ko may ginagawa sya behind my back.  The reason I registered today dito sa female network, to solicit opinions from girls.

Thanks sa magre-respond. 

[JDC168]

Bigay ko lang additional info.

Dati, nung bago pa lang kami, umiinom kami ng best friend ko na guy.  Si wife at that time nasa isang event ng office nila somewhere nearby and tatawagan nya ako or ite-text once tapos na sila so I can fetch her and sabay na akmi uuwi kasi gabi yun.

While drinking, nagulat ako ng may tumawag sa phone ng friend ko and bigla ipinasa sa akin sabi nya misis mo.  Mukha namang gulat si friend ko.  Sabi sa phone ni wife kanina pa daw kasi sya tawag ng tawag sa phone ko di ko sinasagot kaya dun na sya tumawag sa number friend ko.  After namin usap, check ko phone ko, dami nga missed calls.

Ngayon nung nasa byahe na kami, nagagalit ako una, inusisa ko sya bakit meron syang number ng friend ko eh hindi ko naman binigay sa kanya.  Sabi nya nakuha nya sa lumang phone ko store nya lang daw para kung may emergency daw etc.  Nagagalit ako that time kasi feeling ko at yun ang sinasabi ko sa kanya, pasikreto nya kinuha number friend ko para mag-spy siguro kung lumalabas ako na paalam ko kasama ko si friend ko, ma-check nya kung si friend nga kasama.  Galit na galit ako dahil kung hindi masama intent nya in getting my friend's number, sana sa akin nya hiningi at hindi nya na kinalkal luma kong phone.  Nangyari ito more than a year ago na.

Then yesterday, may event sila ulit nearby dun sa friend ko.  So sabi nya, makipag-meet na lang ako kay friend habang wait ko sya matapos sa event para may kasabay sya umuwi.  Sabi ko sige dun kami sa nearby bar iinom.  Ask nya, iinom kayo?  SAbi ko alangan namang magtitigan kami ano gagawin namin.  Sabi nya eh di dun muna kayo sa house ng friend mo.  Sabi ko, ano naman gagawin namin dun?  Sagot nya, eh di mag-playstation kayo.  Dun ako natigilan, kasi once ko lang naman isinama si wife sa house ni friend ko.  At that time, may playstation nga sya pero nakatago yun that time I remember it well dahil niligpit nya mga things at clutters sa room nung dumating kami dun kasi iinom kami ng friend ko.  Kaya nagulat ako, bakit alam nya na may playstation si friend ko?  I ask wife, bakit alam mo na may playstation si friend?  Sagot nya wala lang feeling daw lang nya meron sabay ask nya ako, meron nga daw ba si friend playstation?  Sabi ko oo meron pero nakatago yun nung dumating tayo dati sa house nila kaya hindi nya nakita yun paano nya kako nalaman?  Sabi nya feeling lang nya hula lang, isip lang sya pwede kasi gawin namin friend ko pag tumambay ako dun.

Since kahapon, after nung usapan namin na yun, hindi ko nakinikibo si wife. Until now hindi ako maka-work maayos kahit marami dapat gawin.  Kaya nga ako napa-member dito sa female network kakahanap ng makakausap na hindi kilala si misis ko kasi ayaw ko rin ma-tarnish image nya sa circle namin.

Tama kaya hinala ko?  After yung yesterday bumalik agad sa isip ko last year na meron syang number ni friend kahit hindi ko binigay.  Ang naiisip ko tuloy, pumupunta si wife sa house ni friend ko ng hindi ko alam and God knows what kung ano ginagawa nila.  Silent treatment ako since yesterday kay misis.  Di din sya start conversation sa akin since last night until before kami pumasok sa office kanina.  though hindi ko naman sya inaway kahapon and di ako nagtaas boses, at hindi ko sya directly confront kahapon.  Yun lang ask ko sya pano nya nalaman may playstaion s i friend ko di na ako nag-elaborate.

Ano sa tingin nyo?  And paano ba kasi malaman kung si misis may iba?  Parang mabaaliw ako sa kakaisip eh kagabi pa ako tuliro kasi yung friend ko na yun eh not just an ordinary friend, matagal ko nang best friend yun eh.