on wife who cheat...

[glamorosa_09]

@chamfy

baka quality time ang hanap ng misis mo.

[miss resilient]

^bravo!hehe..o nga naman..wag magsalita ng tapos.

[simply_janee]

tama, if you've never been on that situation you don't have any right to judge, you won't know how they felt unless you where in their shoes..

[snowyice]

right! right! and honestly lahat yan dahil may problem between sa 2 na hindi naayos, unless likas na malikot talaga.

[Mr.Punch]

Kung saksakan ka ng yabang noon at madaling mag-judge tapos ikaw rin pala ang mangangaliwa .... hindi nababawasan ang kasalanan dahil lang napahiya ka.  What's wrong does not become less wrong just because you turned out to be a hypocrite.

Ito kasi ang hirap sa karamihan eh - akala nila sa sarili nila umiikot ang mundo.

So nung hindi pa sila nagkaka-affair, ang yabang.  Kino-condemn yung nagkaka-affair.

Tapos nung sila naman ang nagka-affair, kino-condemn naman ngayon yung mga nagja-judge.

Aba, napaka-espesyal mo naman na kung wala ka nang ginawang mali. 

So ano ngayon ang ipapayo ninyo, na lahat ng tao magka-affair para maintindihan nila ang nararamdaman mo?  Rakenrol!!! 

[j a n i z]

Kung saksakan ka ng yabang noon at madaling mag-judge tapos ikaw rin pala ang mangangaliwa .... hindi nababawasan ang kasalanan dahil lang napahiya ka.  What's wrong does not become less wrong just because you turned out to be a hypocrite.

Ito kasi ang hirap sa karamihan eh - akala nila sa sarili nila umiikot ang mundo.

So nung hindi pa sila nagkaka-affair, ang yabang.  Kino-condemn yung nagkaka-affair.

Tapos nung sila naman ang nagka-affair, kino-condemn naman ngayon yung mga nagja-judge.

Aba, napaka-espesyal mo naman na kung wala ka nang ginawang mali. 

So ano ngayon ang ipapayo ninyo, na lahat ng tao magka-affair para maintindihan nila ang nararamdaman mo?  Rakenrol!!! 

 

[showermist]

^^good punch, Mr Punch 

[bravo86]

sarap talaga tirahin sa backdoor ang manok na nakatali

[december]

di ka naman jina-judge ah, nagbibigay lang naman po ng opinion, kung natamaan ka eh nasa sa iyo na yan.  eh ano pala ang gusto mong marinig ang sabihin na ok yung nagawa mo?   

[happybee$$$]

I have a guy bestfriend and found out that his wife is indulging in internet infidelity. Yun lang ang nahuli niya, now they are on the verge of separation. Everyday I always tell him na dapat forgive niya si wife at baguhin na lang ang sistema nila, they got two babies with yaya and yung two siblings ng girl sa kanila nakatira all at the expense of my guy bestfriend, kaya ciguro nakakapagchat pa sa iba kasi wlang ginagawa sa bahay. They are such a lovely couple and my friend is very domesticated and dedicated to his family. Super sad ako sa kanila, tama ba advice ko na patawarin na lang since in a way wala pa naman talagang nangyayari?

[Mr.Punch]

Yes, you gave the right advice.  But there's a lot of work to be done to fix  the marriage.

[snowyice]

yes!  But I believe hindi lang yun ang problem kaya nagdecide yung friend mong guy na makipaghiwalay dahil hindi madaling gawin yun lalo na at may anak. May iba pang problem yan sigurado ako

[happybee$$$]

^^thank Mr.Punch...

sis snowyice, yung lang talaga eh as in yun lang kaya nga lagi ko sinasabi na hindi mo naman gf lang yun, wife mo yun at sayang ang pamilya.medyo conservative kasi si bestfriend, sa FB niya nahuli ang chat kasi email niya ang gamit. Nagbigay pa siya ng benefit of the doubt kaso nung nagpaalam na si girl to meet the guy, dun na talaga siya sumabog. The girl kasi is lying na girls ang meet niya. technically, walang nangyari as in kasi napigilan nga niya.hindi din niya sinigawan and until now sa text lang niya inaaway. ayaw kasi niya ng eskandalo. its been a month na cold na sila and ayaw na daw talaga niya.they are talking about separation na talaga and sustento.kami tuloy mag-asawa ang naaawa sa kids nila.as in wala pa silang heated argument sa marriage nila.sabi ko nga kay hubby mahirap din pala talaga pas sobrang bait, ang bilis ding bumigay eh.pero kay guy best friend ang payo ko is maayos pa yan.tataka nga ako kasi i know them both so well as in, they love each other so much, january lang kasama namin whole family nila for a picnic, simpleng selos lang pala eh bibigay na sila pareho ano ba yun?

[bravo86]

^kayang-kaya pa yan sis. convince/force your friend na mag undergo sila ng marriage counseling/retreat ASAP. word/text war pa lang yan, konting gusot, madaling plantsahin.

 sayang ang marriage.

[bravo86]

Prrrrrrrrrrrrt! Time Out muna bago dumanak ang dugo... este, magkalat ang lipstick at make-up pala.

parang may "post-war" dito ah.

keep your cool mga sissies. matagal pa ang Semana Santa para mag mukhang Biernes Santo mga pretty faces nyo every time mag log kayo sa GT.

let there be peace in GT and let it begin with you... la la la la la la

let's help happybee$$$ instead... post your advices.

[snowyice]

^^thank Mr.Punch...

sis snowyice, yung lang talaga eh as in yun lang kaya nga lagi ko sinasabi na hindi mo naman gf lang yun, wife mo yun at sayang ang pamilya.medyo conservative kasi si bestfriend, sa FB niya nahuli ang chat kasi email niya ang gamit. Nagbigay pa siya ng benefit of the doubt kaso nung nagpaalam na si girl to meet the guy, dun na talaga siya sumabog. The girl kasi is lying na girls ang meet niya. technically, walang nangyari as in kasi napigilan nga niya.hindi din niya sinigawan and until now sa text lang niya inaaway. ayaw kasi niya ng eskandalo. its been a month na cold na sila and ayaw na daw talaga niya.they are talking about separation na talaga and sustento.kami tuloy mag-asawa ang naaawa sa kids nila.as in wala pa silang heated argument sa marriage nila.sabi ko nga kay hubby mahirap din pala talaga pas sobrang bait, ang bilis ding bumigay eh.pero kay guy best friend ang payo ko is maayos pa yan.tataka nga ako kasi i know them both so well as in, they love each other so much, january lang kasama namin whole family nila for a picnic, simpleng selos lang pala eh bibigay na sila pareho ano ba yun?

if wala talagang ibang problem but yun lang eh sayang talaga and honestly you need to talk to both of them.  Baka yung girl tinatanggap na rin niya na maghiwalay sila. You need to hear both sides and just like what bravo86 said kayang kaya pang ayusin yan. 

[happybee$$$]

^am planning nga to go their house to visit the kids kasi itong friend ko madalang na umuwi sa bahay nila. he just go there to give financial support sa kids, parang more than a month na.sana nga maayos pa sila, baguhin na lang yung sistema nila tutal wala pa sila parehong 30, in short mababago pa yun at bata pa sila.hindi yung tipong konting away eh hiwalay agad.ang fear ko kasi sis eh taga province yung girl sa mindanao pag inuwi niya kids nya dun malamang eh hindi makapagaral kasi as in walang wala yung family niya.sayang ang future ng mga bata, akin na lang kaya sila...haysss mahal ko kasi talaga yung mga kids nila eh

[miss resilient]

So ano ngayon ang ipapayo ninyo, na lahat ng tao magka-affair para maintindihan nila ang nararamdaman mo?  Rakenrol!!! 

hindi ganun. ang point lang dito eh huwag magjudge agad na kesyo ganito ka makasalanan or what. puede naman magbigay ng opinion eh. Hindi kailangan maexperience ang pagkakamali ng iba para lang maintindan ang isa.

[Mr.Punch]

^ Point, eh?  O sige na nga, tutal ikaw yung threadstarter, ano ba ang point ng thread na ito?

Ayaw mong jina-judge ang mga nangangaliwa, so ano?  Support group ba ito para sa mga babae na nangangaliwa ng mister nila?  Sharing of tips kung paano hindi mahuhuli?  Ano ba dapat ang mangyayari dito?  Magyayakapan kayo at magsasabihan na "It's okay, it's not your fault.  You are not a sinner.  I was there, I know."  (*Sabay tulo ng luha.)

I'm okay with not judging, but if you want the so-called "holier than thous" to not post in this thread, then you should have said that in the very first post.

Just to clarify, I'm not holier than thou.  Actually, I'm quite the sinner.  But I call a spade a spade, and I wish most cheaters would do the same and not hide under the lame "you never went through what I went through so don't dare judge me" argument to somehow justify their cheating.

[muahmuahmuah]

I have a lot of friends who've cheated--in all variations imaginable--with their spouses, and from knowing them I gather that spouses who cheat have lower EQ and/or lack Emotional Intelligence.  So  a good number of them are attention seekers and identifying fun as being harmless or not can be difficult for them..parang aspergers, only with them they shut off reading moral cues in relationships and associations especially when they're coping with stress or problems. If logically they were emotionally adequate then the natural moral law of 'do good and avoid evil' wouldn't be that difficult to understand and follow.

At the onset of coupling and committing, couples should know where to draw the line when it comes to being friends and sharing themselves with the outside world. They are, anyway, most  answerable to their spouses and kids more than to their neighbors and friends. It is also the priority of both adults to protect the family -- and the family name -- from any (mode of possible)  harm and disgrace, and that includes protecting them from any emotional grief and not be the instigators of grief.