on wife who cheat...

[snowyice]

I was intrigue when I saw this thread. Well honestly, may it be husband or wife pwede talagang mag cheat.  I always remember the magazine that I read when I was still high school sabi dun na love is not forever so if you will spend your life with somebody else make sure may nakita ka na gusto mo lang talaga hindi yung pure love lang kasi pag nawala na yung love dapat meron pa ring mag hold on sayo dun sa tao.

Sa mga nagkaroon na ng other relationship well, tao lang tayo no kung mga lalake nagkakamali eh pwede rin ang mga babae dba?  But honestly, si God pa rin talaga ang magsasave ng relationship natin....
 

[shaunthesheep]

Some men actually find it easier to prey on married women, especially wives who think they are not happily married.

Ika nga, mas madaling hulihin ang manok na nakatali 

Besides ang manok na nakatali hindi maghahabol.

[magichild07]

^^ super duper mega over korek ka sis almost all men are like that ...

[acmomcee]

Before I read back and copy the advices others have given, I'll give my views first on this topic... 

When I got married, I made a promise to God, to my hubby and most especially, to myself and hanggang ngayon ito lang ang lagi kong sinasabi sa sarili ko, "HINDING HINDI AKO GAGAWA NG KAHIT ANONG IKASISIRA NG PAMILYA KO". When I said this, I know na ang tanging kalaban ko ay ang sarili ko. We all know that temptations are always present in marriage kase it's one of the many trials that will strengthen it once surpassed.

I only had 2 ex's - 1 was for around 5 years and the other was for around 2 years before I got pregnant and married.

Because they are only 2, sometimes I can't help but compare one from the other and because I am already married to the latter (who's been my bf for a shorter time), there are moments when the "what if's" are coming to mind - what if I ended up with my 1st, etc. But then, everytime I am at that point, bumabalik lagi yung pangako na alam kong mag ga-guide sakin.

So for me, it's really up to us, wives, if we will do it or not. Sabi nga nila, pag married kayo, you MUST do everything to make it last a lifetime. Nung nabuntis ako, I knew then that God is sending me a message - that the latter man is the right man for me. Kase sabi ko, hindi naman nya siguro gagawing komplikado ang buhay ko kung si 1st naman talaga dba?

Though I still compare and see that the 1st has so much MORE than the hubby, it's unfair to say that hubby is not even close because di man sya kagaya nung isa, I am proud to say na he's his own person and that he never loves and cares for me less - moreso to our family. Kaya kung mahina lang ako and if I only see what my hubby doesn't have, I guess our marriage will crumble as well. But I am holding to that promise and I know it'll guide me through.

[chengkii]

^ Thanks for sharing, sis.

[ashleyhan]

Some men actually find it easier to prey on married women, especially wives who think they are not happily married.

Ika nga, mas madaling hulihin ang manok na nakatali   

Besides ang manok na nakatali hindi maghahabol


**ETO SIS TUMPAK NA TUMPAK

[oyetken]

really very interesting ang topic , dami akong natututunan ..nakakarelate sometimes .. thanks mga sis..

[officebusters]

mahirap magcomment ng di alam kung ano ang dahilan. pero kung dahil lang sa personal na rason ang sama nya.

[ishko]

^agree... kasi habang tumatagal ang pagsasama, parang madaming panget na ugali ang nadi-discover nyo sa isa't isa na minsan cause ng panlalamig or ma-fall out of love.. kaya nagloloko..

[jotch]

dito natin makikita na kelangan ng open communication ng magasawa..
if theres any problem between you, try to tell it to your partner and discuss no matter how big or small the issue is, para may idea naman yung isa..
and as much as possible, dont keep a secret.. it is hard to hide a bagful of skeletons under your bed for it will haunt you and it will be scary..
..after all the two of you where bonded as one..

my pov

[chuuey]

interesting topic huh.....panoorin nyo nag movie entitled "unfaithful" with richard geere and dianne layne,,,sa isang banda maintindihan natin why some women accidentally cheats their husband.

[chellemitchb]

nkakarelate ako ng sobra  , pero ang problem kc nmin mag asawa lagi kami nag aaway kaya [textspeak!] d ko rin napigilan ang srili ko at nkpagcheat ako..naging ktrbho ko sha at nging close kmi hnggng sa ngka affair nga kmi mga more than 2 months din un bago sha umalis dto at lumipat sa ibang state [textspeak!] ang gf nya, nung una strong attraction lang [textspeak!] tpos naging like namin isat isa, hnggng ngyon ng uusp parin kmi minsan s chat or sa phone dto s work tntwgn nya ko, may balak kmi mag meet uli bibisitahin dw nya ko hindi ko na alam ggwin ko naguguluhan ako kasi mahal ko na din sha, inamin nya sakin na simula ng d kmi magkita namiss nya ko ng sobra at d naiwasan na madevelop ang feelings, nung una kasi iniiwasan nya [textspeak!] feelings kasi nga alam nya na hindi ako mapupunta sa knya dahil kasal ako [textspeak!] nako nararamdaman s asawa ko e mahal ko sha kasi sha ang tatay ng anak nmin pero inlove na ako don sa isa

[myerah]

nkipag friendly date ako twice sa isang taong nanligaw sakin kahit may asawa na ako, ewan ko kung bakit siguro kasi gulong gulo ang utak ko ng mga oras n yun kasi harap harapan na ako niloko ng hubby ko that time, tapos napansin ko lang ng ginawa ko yun since hindi naman nya sempre alam but i know nakahalata sya, hindi nya ako tinanong or ask any question kung sino kasama ko, basta sabi nya lang " pls wag mo na ulit gagawin na aalis ka ha" naisip ko siguro baka ayaw nya magtanong dahil ayaw nya malaman ang totoo or ayaw nya lang n ibalik ko sa kanya lahat bakit nakagawa ako ng ganun? mga sis matatawag ba na cheat parin yun kahit yun ay isang friendly date lang, tamang naghanap lang ako ng someone to talk to?

[marose17]

@myerah, Yes, it is cheating.  There is no such thing as a friendly date.  A married woman should avoid temptation with regard to the opposite sex.  Going out with a man (and a former suitor at that) other than your husband is a form of cheating.  Ditto talking about your personal problems with a man who is not your brother or father.  If you really need somebody to talk to, talk to your husband or your mother or sister or closest girl friend, not a former suitor.

One of the things I learned in Discovery Weekend is that when you are married, you should avoid circumstances that might lead to temptation - having a super close relationship with a man, going out with a guy friend (unless siguro he's gay), talking about intimate details of your life (not just your sex life ha, but your deepest thoughts and feelings) with a man, etc.  Cheating is not just having sex with another man.  Cheating takes many forms, I agree with mommy Fe.  Any act that will hurt or affect your husband in a negative way and vice versa should be avoided.

Once you cross boundaries, you will have a hard time rationalizing what is cheating and what is not.  It is really as simple as black and white:  If you learned that your husband went on a "friendly date" with a girl, would you just shrug it off?  Will it not affect you if you know that your husband has been "talking" about his personal life or deepest thoughts to another woman?

[myerah]

nagsisisi ako sa nagawa ko, but i think naging mas malakas ako after this trials, ewan ko rin pero dahil dito nabawasan or nawala hndi ko alam ang pagmamahal ko sa asawa ko, hindi ko po maiintindihan pero hindi na ako nagseselos, at ewan ko rin po hindi ko rin po alam kung bakit po nagsisisi ako na sya ang napili ko, parang naging matigas ang puso ko dahil sa mga pangyayari sa min, all concern ko na lang po is my children, feeling sorry sa lahat na hindi ako naging matatag, thanks po mga sis,

[DR.LAB]

may mga pagkakataon na dumadating sa atin buhay na di inaasahan.
at sa bandang huli pagsisisihan ang mga bagay na nagawa.

tiwala sa sarili ang dapat kailangan at huwag padadala sa mga tukso, dahil ang tukso ang sisira sa relasyon at walang magandang naitutulong.

sabi nga nila NASA HULI ANG PAG SISISI HULI NA ANG LAHAT.....

para sa mag asawa:

mahalin mo ang asawa mo. magkasama kayo habang buhay sa hirap at ginhawa. sa harap ng pari o judge at sa mga magulang at ninong at ninang may sinumpaan at pangako kayo sa isa't isa.

[iheartb]

just look at it this way...kung matino at worthy talaga yang si Mr. N and Mr. L, they wouldn't pursue a married woman. if they value relationships and families, they wouldn't do things na makakasama sayo at sa family mo. jan pa lang makikita mo na what kind of men they are.

[myerah]

nasa huli ang pagsisi huli na ang lahat, your right!

[zandystar]

just look at it this way...kung matino at worthy talaga yang si Mr. N and Mr. L, they wouldn't pursue a married woman. if they value relationships and families, they wouldn't do things na makakasama sayo at sa family mo. jan pa lang makikita mo na what kind of men they are.

correct! naalala ko tuloy yung movie na fireproof.. try to watch it sis, its very good movie. dun ko din nakita na yung mga guys na nanliligaw sa married women eh mga walang kwenta, isa lang habol nila and you know it.

[miss resilient]

buhay pa pala itong thread na ito

well it could be ..na isa lang ang habol ng guys sa married women and that is sex..also adventure na rin..pero hindi naman lahat..but mostly.

i ve also seen the movie "unfaithful" si diane lane and richard gere and lead stars..nag entertain ng temptation si diane kaya nag give in.

ang huli kong nasabi kay L is.."naibigay ko na sa iba ang love ko, at di ko na iyon maibibigay sayo..at di ko na puedeng bawiin yun para ibigay ko pa sayo.." di na siya tumawag since then..