Have you ever felt soo ALONE? [Thread 2]

[Dacian]

not anymore.  before, i felt so alone when i was not yet married.

[kinkytinch]

^^ Sis helga bakit naman depressed?

[a.k.a. HELGA]

^^ Sis Kinkytinch, sorry late reply na ako

Di ko rin alam. Yun bang alam mo naman you have your family and trusted friends na pwede mong kausapin anytime pero its just doesn't feel right. I still feel alone somehow.

[kittehdoll]

^^
pareho tayo sis klengmorales..
ganyang ganyan din ako, dont wori kelangan lang tlaga naten mag adjust
at i-accpet yung situation.
we'll be alright.

[bewitch]

i felt so alone, depressed.. i wanna go back to pi.. 

[ladyarcher]

madalas..feel depressed and i cry it out at times.

[kinkytinch]

Mga sis, I have a theory eh. How many of you have a best friend? I'm not talking about close friends ah.. Best friend na kasama nyo lagi and yung pinakanakakagets sanyo sometimes even better than you do.. Baka yun lang ang dapat natin hanapin para mawala yung feeling ng pagiging alone. Before kasi i refused to label anyone as a best friend. Baka that's why my friends and i are close but not that close.. Then later on after having diff jobs.. We somehow grew apart.. I don't know if this theory is true. I just know that upon reading your sharings here, malaking factor ang constant presence ng friends sa feeling alOne

[chris_mend]

i love this thread..we are going through the same ordeal.

[bewitch]

naiwan mga friends ko sa pinas,. Nahihirapan akong mag adjust dito sa states., i swear.. There's no place like home... I dont know how to start gaining friends...

[chris_mend]

madalas..feel depressed and i cry it out at times.

likewise. pero di ko na sya maiiyak ..tears have dried up but my heart never.. 

[ladyarcher]

sis, i have friends close friends but i dont label them as best friends.. kaya eto GT nalang ang best friend ko. 

[juice406]

yes. lalo na pag christmas. i've always felt i'm the fifth wheel sa family namin. this year they all planned to spend christmas abroad. hindi nila ko sinama. this is supposed to be my last christmas with them together kasi next year i'm getting married na. hay...

[bestfriendnijerome]

Actually I do feel so alone right now. Minsan na nga lang sya lumuwas ng Manila hindi man lang nya ako yayain lumabas or something. Hindi ko alam kung kailan pa uli kami magkikita. Bakit kaya ganun, mahalaga naman daw ako sa kanya, importante daw sa kanya ang friendship namin, pero hindi naman nya naipaparamdam yun. Nakakalungkot pag feeling mo ikaw lang ang nage-eeffor to sustain the friendship. Tapos pag iniwanan mo naman, hahabol habol. Nakakapagod na. 

[kinkytinch]

yes. lalo na pag christmas. i've always felt i'm the fifth wheel sa family namin. this year they all planned to spend christmas abroad. hindi nila ko sinama. this is supposed to be my last christmas with them together kasi next year i'm getting married na. hay...

Oh my for me kasi pag family na pinaguusapan, iba na level nyan.. Sis hug kita    are you sure it's intentional? Baka misunderstanding?

[juice406]

^thanks sis! actually mas na-sad nga ako sa nangyari. kasi nung una kinoconvince nila ko na sumama kasi para daw masaya minsan lang naman daw kami magkakasama-sama. so akala ko i belong na. tapos nung naconvince na nila ko ayun sabi huwag na ko magbook sila na lang daw. tumawag pa yung bro ko sa abroad to make sure na hindi na ko magboobook. ang sad pa lalo kasi excited na ko sumama sa kanila kasi nga feeling ko belong na ko. binilhan ko pa naman na silang lahat ng gifts and nag-extra pa ko kasi marami silang andun so kinumpleto ko sa lahat sana ng makakasama ko doon. ayun yung gifts ko na lang makakarating doon. mas nakakasad kasi parang bata na inalok ng candy tapos nung kukunin na biglang binawi. oh well. sana masanay na ko ang tagal na rin nila ginagawa sa akin to.

[whatswithjuly]

since nag-move out yung jowa ko dito sa house
sobrang na-alone ako, ang hirap pala when you're used to
someone na palaging andiyan.
Kasalanan ko din i did'nt make an effort to meet new people nung masaya ko
kasama sya, now na wala sya para akong na-orphan, kelngan talaga balance.
now im open na sa tao ang hirap lang limited ang network ko, hay i feel so alone. 

nakakarelate ako dito. i used to have a barkada in college..pero most of them are married na or may baby..busy sa family or malayo. umiwas rin ako actually kasi when i tried to stay away from my ex to pacify his wife, i had to stay away from everyone na kilala namin both... long story.
high school... busy rin. kanya-kanyang buhay na. ewan ko, sabi nila mabait naman ako... hindi naman ako pala-away pero bakit wala akong masasabing true friends talaga.

to add insult to injury, LDR pa kami ni bf. before my bf went abroad, i'm used to doing things alone..shopping, etc. malungkot pero nakakaya ko. siempre i prefer being with someone pa din, not just with my bf..pero friends din. tapos nun umuwi sya for 1 year, nasanay ako na may kasama palagi. ngayon kahit it's almost a year since umalis sya. hirap na hirap ako.

actually that's the reason i bought a dslr, para magkahobby..malibang. that's also the reason why dito ako naghahanap ng travel buddy. i love traveling pero wala naman ako makasama. ok lang naman sakin to do things alone paminsan-minsan.. pero wag naman sana palagi.

pakiramdam ko ngayon sabik ako sa kaibigan. naawa na ko sa sarili ko.

[sasha``]

hubby is not around right now, he's at teambuilding.  sister is miles away, relatives are oceans away, friends... oh well, i dont have "real" friends, they're just there when they need you.  my close friends are working abroad, and we rarely talk.  im sad and i feel alone all the time. 

[leihin]

Sis whatswithjuly, mukhang dapat tayo ang maging friends because we're in the same situation. I'm also in LDR and my friends are always busy. Hirap din ako maghanap ng travel buddies because of conflict of schedule.

I'm used to doing things on my own, watching movies, dining out, travelling, etc but there are times when I still feel SO ALONE lalo na kapag nagkakarift with my mom but I always end up having to forget about it and just let it go because she's sick. Kaya no matter how wrong my mom is or how hurtful the things she told me, she still ends up being the right one. It's so frustrating.

I live in QC with my lola, two second cousins and maids but I hardly see and talk to them. My lola prefers being alone inside her room where no one is allowed to enter except the househelp who brings in her food. I'm not close with my cousins, I get to see them mga twice a month tapos hi-hello lang. Yung feeling na the house is too big but empty? My parents live in the province, my two brothers study somewhere far and my sister has her own family na. Namimiss ko na sister ko, sobra. I can still visit her but it's really different now. She's so occupied with being a wife and mom.

Sa work naman, our head is competing with me but he's the least of my worries. I've learned to just ignore him.  But the nature of my work doesn't encourage us to be close to the people we work with. I always have to maintain my independence.

Even if you're used to being alone, the "alone-ness" still gets to you at some point and you'll wish that there's someone you can talk to, someone you can eat and watch movies with. Ang sarap ng may maaaya ka kapag may gusto kang gawin o puntahan. Honestly, minsan nakakatamad ng umalis kapag alam mo na mag-isa ka nanaman.
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[whatswithjuly]

Even if you're used to being alone, the "alone-ness" still gets to you at some point and you'll wish that there's someone you can talk to, someone you can eat and watch movies with. Ang sarap ng may maaaya ka kapag may gusto kang gawin o puntahan. Honestly, minsan nakakatamad ng umalis kapag alam mo na mag-isa ka nanaman.

Nalulungkot ako lalo kapag naiisip ko na more than a year pa bago ulit kami magkita ni BF, and he'll be in the Philippines for 3 weeks to 1 month lang then I'm all alone again.

hi leihin. mukha nga we're in the similar situation. ako din, bf is coming over for a vacation sa december pa..pero after that malungkot na naman. 2 weeks lang yun tapos i'm alone again. ang hirap pa naman ng feeling na parang uulit ka naman sa umpisa... for a short span of time, nafeel mong may bf ka, tapos wala na ulit. sabi nila high tech na, marami na means of communication. pero hindi naman enough un.

i visited my bf nun january for 4 days lang kasi wala naman silang ganung holidays dun. after that..parang nadepress ako lalo. and my mother didn't like the idea kaya ayun, cold treatment sa bahay. although i have bros and sis at home. we talk and joke with each other pero hindi naman kami yung tipong going out during weekends together.

sa office, feeling ko outcast din ako. may mga lakad sila na hindi ako in-invite kahit pakitang tao lang. although ok naman..civil lang siguro. ganun. pero we don't go out din ng weekends. workmates lang sila..

ako din laging tinatamad umalis kahit may kailangan lakarin. pati shopping kinakatamaran ko na. kasi i know i have to go out alone na naman. halos nakakulong lang ako sa bahay ng weekends. tapos ako lang siguro yung hindi naeexcite pag weekend kasi mafifeel ko lang lalo na i wanna go somewhere pero wala naman ako kasama.

[whatswithjuly]

At least you get to be with your friends pa..ako as in bihira na. Last year pa yata ako nakadinner with friends. Nagseself-pity na nga ko minsan.  online shopping din ako madalas.  pareho talaga tayo...like today..halos maghapon lang ako nakaharap sa internet. sobrang wala akong nagagawa pag weekends...