Choosing the god parents

[mdy]

How do you choose your baby's god parents? For me and hubby, somebody we trust and we know will look after our child. Dagdag ko na din na magse-set ng good example sa anak ko.

So okay, pasok dun sa qualifications na yon yun god parent and nasabihan mo na sya ahead of time... Pano kun biglang nagkaron kyo ng misunderstanding. Something na feeling mo won't get resolve anytime soon and the binyag's fast approaching. What will you do?

[bluekaren780]

i have no idea kasi kung ano yung misunderstanding na nangyari... just the same, since nasabihan na namin siya, itutuloy pa rin namin ang pagkuha namin sa kanya kasi hindi naman kailangang madamay at mag-suffer yung bata na walang kaalam-alam... will even remind him/her again of the schedule... and will hope na yun ang maging way ng restoration ng friendship namin...

[mctc_25]

siguro sis kung sa akin nangyari yun depende dun sa level ng misunderstanding 
kung sa tingin ko yung misunderstanding an yun eh hindi mababaw at tipong napingasan talaga yung pagkakaibigan namin, most likely di ko na sya kukuhanin para maging ninang/ninong ng anak ko, kasi kung hindi rin maayos yung relasyon namin bilang magkaibigan, palagay ko hindi rin magiging maganda ang relasyon sa pagitan nila ng anak ko
pero kung yung misunderstanding naman namin eh yun tipong alam kong hindi magtatagal eh maayos pa din at nandun pa din ang respeto ko dun sa tao at kaibigan pa din ang turing ko sa kanya, itutuloy ko pa din ang pagkuha sa kanya bilang ninang/ninong ng anak ko, at maaring yun pa ang maging daan para mas mapaaga ang pagkakasundo naming magkaibigan 

[mdy]

Thanks mga sis sa feedback. Ask ko nalang kaya sya straight-forward kun gusto pa din nya maging god parent?

[bluekaren780]

kung carry mo, then why not?

[seven82]

mahirap talaga kapag may misunderstanding. in our case nabinyagan na daughter ko, isa sa mga ninang e sister ng husband ko. then before mag birthday si baby tsaka nagka misunderstanding. she did not even attend the party at kahit greeting from her e wala. masama loob ko kasi dapat hindi na dinamay 'yung bata. if i only knew.. 

[periwinkle617]

^^sis, tama si sis bluekaren. pero siguro naman di niya tatangihan yung baby mo. di ba bawal yun? anyway, we choose people really close to us na in absence namen someone will look after our baby kasi sinasabi naman yun sa seminar before yung baptismal eh. yung roles ng mga godparents. kaya we make sure na talagang nandyan sila for our baby. pero kung magkaron man kami ng misunderstanding before the binyagan its up to her/him kung tatangihan niya yung baby ko kasi for us whatever it is na nangyari we still value the friendship. hth

[mdy]

I was with the "godparent" a few days ago, nahiya na din ako tanungin sya kung gusto pa din nya maging godparent kase for sure mahihiya yon tumaggi kase nga sabi bawal daw yon. Mejo naisip ko na din na kunin pa din sya based on your opinions na baka maging way yon para mabalik sa dati yun relationship namen. But sadly, nakita ko na wala syang ka-amor-amor sa anak ko so parang eto napapaisip na naman ako. 

Yung parents hindi naman ba bawal tumaggi sa mga gusto mag-anak sa binyag?

[periwinkle617]

^sis, di ko lang sure kung bawal tumanggi, kasi kami yung mga nagvovolunteer kinuha narin namin, since willing naman sila na maging godparents ni baby. and yung mga nag vovolunteer samin eh mga close friends talaga namin. kaya ok lang kunin.

[iflipcess]

sigh If pede ko lang paulit ang binyag ng anak ko papaulit ko hahaha. 2 yung ninang nya na nakasaulian ko ng kandila  , my fault, those times kase eh sila ang super close sa akin, kahit less than a year ko pa lang silang kilala, If I only knew whehe, actually hindi naman talaga dapat madamay ang bata however, since hindi na din kai nag-uusap halos ganun na din yun  so maybe next time I'll be choosy na din, mas ok yung kilalang-kilala mo na.

[LOVEmyLIFE]

Based from pamahiin, bawal daw tumanggi ang kapag inalok ka to be one of the godparents of the child. And bawal din magpresenta. I dunno what's the reason behind but if logically speaking, pangit nga naman if hindi yung parents ang kukuha at hahanap ng mapagkakatiwalaan nila para sa kids nila diba? Baka kunin na lang yun nagppresenta because of hiya. Hehe!

[rics]

Choosing Godparents should be given due importance by parents. Dapat talaga, panatag ang loob mo with the persons you intend to get as godparents to your child.

Like yung case ng thread starter, paano nga gagawin mo if in case you are in this situation, that along the way, medyo nagkaroon kayo ng problema ni friend. I would test the waters muna siguro, I'd ask opinions from common friends. If I could not ask her myself, I could solicit the help of common friends to talk to her about the issue. Like, make it the topic of the conversation just so you can juice some sort of reaction from this friend. From thereon, you can already decide if she's cold about it or is open to make amends with you.

Ang alam ko rin bawal tumanggi pag kinuha ka to be Godparent. Pero bakit nga ba? I knew of someone kinuha Godparent of 2 families, the event will happen on the exact same day and time. This person nagtataka bakit siya kinuha godparent ni family2 since hindi naman daw sila close, casual friend lang, its just that the mother was a former ka-trabaho. Family1 is a former ka-trabaho also, but they have known each other for quite sometime. Hindi na lang siya makatanggi to be godparent but walang intention talaga humabol sa binyag of family2.

Na-aawa naman ako sa bata sa mga ganitong situation. Minsan tuloy naiisip ko negosyo lang tingin ng mga parents why they get ninong/ninang na hindi naman nila gaano ka-close... just so their kid could get more gifts.

[ichelie]

personally, i dont find anything wrong kung tumanggi with being a godparent.  dami ko na inaanak na kapitbahay lang, wala naman kaming "relationship" nung parents.  just for the sake, na namamasko pag pasko.  when i wanted to refuse before, mommy ko sabi bawal daw, ayun dumami tuloy.  pero if i were to decide then, kung di ko naman magagampanan ang role sa buhay nun bata na maging "god"-"parent" kasi nga, wala naman kami relasyon to begin with, i guess it would be fair to refuse.

for my own child and my upcoming baby, our personal objective is to have a "relationship" with the godparents.  yung ka close namin, and they have the integrity to be God parents.  with my eldest, we chose 5 sets of godparents na all relatives namin.  sila kasi yung constanly nakikita ng baby ko sa family gatherings.  based from hubby's experience, di na niya nakikita yung ibang godparents nya kasi lost touch na rin with his parents.  with our coming baby, were choosing cousins pa din, my sister, and about 2 close friends.  our criteria for choosing friends, e yung not just ka close, pero may constant kaming communication and tested na yung friendship through the years, plus factor yung they live in the same area as ours.  this is so that our child can establish good relationship with them as well, and we know til they grow older. the God parents would be "constant" in their lives. 

[periwinkle617]

^i agree with you sis. kaya nga godparent kasi someone who will look after your child in your absence, yung mapagkakatiwalaan mo talaga. kasi you'll be sharing the responsibility to them. yun kasi ang sabi sa seminar bago binyagan.

[mdy]

Sabi ko nga kay hubby na wag na siguro namen kunin si "friend" as godparent of our daughter kasi feeling ko ayaw din naman nya mag-anak sa binyag. Pero sabi ni hubby nasabihan na kasi beforehand and nakakahiya kung biglang hindi ko kukunin. and baka magtampo yun hubby ni friend na super close kay hubby.

Yung stand ko kasi sa issue na to is to get somebody who will love my child, who is close to hubby and me, and someone who will set a good example. Yung mga naka-list na na kukunin namen yung mga siblings namen ni hubby, a sister-in-law who accompanies me sa mga ultrasounds ko kay baby, cousins and a set of close friends since HS.

Choosing Godparents should be given due importance by parents. Dapat talaga, panatag ang loob mo with the persons you intend to get as godparents to your child.

So true. Significant kasi ang magiging role ng godparent sa buhay ng anak naten.

Kaya ngayon I just resolved the dilemma I'm in. Hindi ko na sya kukunin na godparent for the simplest reason na hindi kami okay and wala akong nakikita sa kanya na amor sa baby ko.

[mdy]

Thanks mga sisses for you inputs. It really helps me a lot. And siguro for others na mababasa tong thread to, na choosing a godparent is very important. Dapat wag kukuha ng kung sino-sino lang just for the sake of you-know-what LOL

[ichelie]

^ another inpit in choosing God parents, is that you and those persons have the same values in life.  Like halimbawa yung religion, love for family, etc.  Cause how can we entrust them and let them care for our chidlren if conflicting naman yung mga bagay na mahalaga satin as persons, and in our little family.   

[cristina_diche]

At times, kaya tayo nahihirapang maghanap ng mga God Parents especially sa second and so on child natin is because sobrang na-excite tayo sa unang child natin na halos pakyawin na natin ang lahat ng puwede na parang hindi na tayo magkaka-anak ulit.  A pair of two is enough.  Hindi man kayo magka-anak ulit, may kumpil pa at kasal na na kakailanganin ang God Parents.  Chillax!

[sweet_tooth]

Oo nga no. Bukod sa binyag eh kelangan din ng ninong at ninang sa kumpil at kasal.

Yung godparent ba sa binyag pwede uli kunin sa kumpil o kasal? O di na pwede umulit? 

Tsaka pag godparent na ba ng isang anak di na pwede kunin na godparent para sa ibang anak?

 

[bluekaren780]

It's your choice kung gusto mo na kung sino ang god parents sa binyag, yun pa rin ang god parents sa kumpil... kaya lang kung sa binyag kasi eh unlimited pairs, sa kumpil po eh one pair or at times nga, isa lang talaga (hindi pair) ang nire-require... baka naman magka-selosan pa... but as for the wedding, nangyayari talaga yan na kung sino yung mga god parents nung binyag, kumukuha rin sila from there para sa kasal... pero more often than not, yung parents kasi ang nasusunod sa ganyan... dahil technically, it should be the couple ang nasusunod sa pagpili ng mga magiging god parents nila

anyway, it's your call pa rin kung ang gusto mong god parents ng lahat ng mga magiging anak mo eh the same set pa rin...

in our case naman, ang iniiwasan lang namin eh yung makuhang god parents yung mga parents ng mga inaanak na namin... kasi magi-exchange gift na lang kami pag pasko... ha-ha...