dating a korean..

[Halee]

I never dated any Korean but I’m stocked in this land of Kimchi. There’s a certain officemate who asked why I don’t like dating Koreans. Sinabi ko na lang mahirap may language and culture barrier.

Here are some of my observations on my Korean officemates:

-Hindi talaga sila mag’sorry kahit sila makabangga. So banggain mo na rin.
-Kung makatulak esp. sa subway ganon ganon na lang
-Very nationalistic, masyado ang bilib nila sa Korea at sa sarili nila
-They work hard and party harder. We have this monthly “waeshik” (dinner out) per department at asahan na ang lasingan. Malalakas uminom pati babae. Kaya after ng dinner sa sobrang bangenge eh taxi na pauwi. Sino ba naman ang hindi malalasing eh 2-3 resto/bar ang pinupuntahan in 1 night at di absent ang soju, beer at traditional wine. Most of my male officemates smoke too.
-I rarely see “fresh or mukhang naligo” na officemate. Some take a bath at night. Yong iba amoy at mukha talagang hindi naligo. And in 1 week may 1 or 2 exact outfits na uuliting isuot (walang pinipiling season) may 1 day namang interval infairness pero kapag susuwertehin ka magkasunod na araw. Hehe. Infairness naman sa kanila madalas silang maghugas ng kamay. Training daw sakanila yon since bata.
-Coming to work with wet hair (I assume for girls) is like coming unprepared. Madalas akong sabihan na gumising daw ako ng mas maaga para may time magpatuyo ng hair.
-Koreans are more on physical looks of the person they date. Nakailang reto na ako dito ng officemates din ng pinay friends ko pero napakachoosy nila. I have a Korean friend na nagsabing girls look for males with 3 M’s, money, manner and m (na nakalimutan ko na). Sila rin mismo nagsabing magastos daw maging gf silang Koreans. They demand for what gift they want to receive.
-Hindi pa tanggap dito ang badingdong.
-Early this month may sports fest kami. Kasali ako sa limbo rock game at lalaki ang nanalo. May hoola hoop game din at mostly boys ang nanalo. 
-Don sa nagpost ng about bags, may fake rin dito, class A siguro satin. May nabasa ako before na may certain place dito na famous for that. Saka may officemates ako mismo nagsabing cannot afford ang authentic. Siguro mas maganda lang ang quality kesa gawang Tsina.

Again these are my first hand observations on my officemates. Im not generalizing.

I have a Pinay friend married to Korean and Pinoy friend married to a Koreana. I have met also some mail to order brides. May mababait ang napangasawa saka byenan. At meron din naman sinasaktan.
 

[stameygirl]

^ Apparently sis, interracial relationships is not an issue for your office mates? Or ok lang bf-gf, but marriage is an altogether different matter?

[molybdenumstudios]

Sissy Halee truelaloo ang homophobia sa SK. Even my Korean buddies never had a good impression on my gay blockmate...

However, I was imagining myself whether I should marry a Korean guy or not. But I simply forego it... due to cultural barriers.

[Halee]

Yong closest guy officemate ko dont mind marrying a foreigner.

[Respect]

yan yung tipo ko, mga koreana looks. parang walang pores yung balat nila.. totoo bang normal lang mag pa surgery ng kanilang mga mukha para maging mga kutis manika ang mga koreana?

kadalasan at least two or group kung mamasyal ang mga koreans dito sa mga malls sa manila.

one time may ini-stalk ako na koreana sa supermarket kasi sobrang ganda at mukha talaga manika, mukha pang mabango. pero nung nilapitan ko amoy kimchi. 

[Halee]

Sa dami ng inilalagay nila sa mukha nila natakpan na pores. Hehe. Infairness naman sa kanila mostly maganda talaga skin nila. Saka nag-eeffort talaga sila to look good (like non sports fest, naka false eyelashes )

Its common here. May friend akong nagkwento na yong HS student na nagsummer job sa kanila, cosmetic surgery ang pinag-iipunan. I have an officemate na umamin na fake eyelids nya. Yong Exec. Secretary dito sa Co. maganda na pero few weeks after mawala sya halos hindi ko na nakilala. When I asked my friend kung nagparetoke, hindi daw.

I found this mykoreanhusband.com last weekend lang. Try reading if you want to learn more about them and their culture.

[molybdenumstudios]

Share ko lang: Based from what I have read, sa Vietnam naman, privilege 'yung magkaroon ng Korean husband, kaya no wonder, may mga schools doon sa Vietnam on how to be a Korean wife, or wife of a Korean guy. I have nothing against Vietnamese girls/women marrying Korean guys, but it's better if they marry their own kind kasi nga maganda ang lahi nila (I find Vietnamese people more attractive compared to Koreans).

[stameygirl]

OMG, Korean guys have the smallest dongs! True?!
http://www.11points.com/Dating-Sex/11_Random_Findings_In_a_Study_of_Penis_Sizes_Around_the_World

[molybdenumstudios]

^ Not surprising at all. Pati hand length tsaka shoe size nila maliit rin eh. Koreans are kinda small-boned (even more small-boned than the Japanese and the Chinese) since super liit talaga ng mga kamay at paa nila, no matter how tall and/or meaty they are.

[empire_maker16]

most of the posts here are true. I never date a Korean nor plan to date them. I admit natutuwa ako sa kanila because hello naman sa Korean Invasion sa Pilipinas di ba? from Music to series to fashion to skincare and cosmetics. I have experience with Korean  in terms of business. Sobrang demanding as in to the highest level. Gusto niya ikaw magaccomodate ng titirahan niya tapos ikaw pa papagawa ng office niya eh in a first place siya gusto mag business dito tapos hindi pa niya pagaralan gusto niya inegosyo. Sa office namin sobrang busy namin at pinagbigyan lang siya ng boss namin sa oras kahit super busy yun pero yun pa galit dahil mabagal daw etc etc kaso andito sila so dapat matuto sila makisama at not all the time tayo mga Pinoy makikisama sa kanila. Galit pa yun pag nagutos kala mo pasahod niya kami. Anyway, sooner or later im sure tayo namin magiging angat sa buong asia. No doubt yan! mas magaling ata tayo.. panahon lang nila or let say era lang nila ngayon pero ang nasa taas e ibababa din and vice versa so i will be happy pag nakita mga kapwa natin nasa good hands na at hindi na aapakan ng ibang lahi...

May isa pa ako experience na nangyari.. I'm with a cousin sa USA na doon na lumaki at most of her friends is Latina, American, African-American so groupies sila with boyfriends at bangag to bangag dahil lasing na lasing na.. natawa lang ako kasi she hates asian like chinese, taiwanese at koreans kasi feeling daw pero sa mga White Blood doon (i mean sa mga puti) insecure sila dahil matangos at maganda shape ng muka..  pero pag sa other asians feeling masyado e siya accent palang hindi mo mawari kung Pinay saka maputi kasi.. so eto na nasa bar kami nabangga niya [textspeak!] isang Chinese/asian girl kasi lasing lasing na siya so talak talak si girl ng language niya at sabay duro pero nageenglish din.. so cousin ko dahil lasing super patol na english slang ang sinasabi at aba si bf ni asian girl to the rescue hahaha talak din ng talak so sa dilim ng paningin ng cousin ko sinuntok nya [textspeak!] girl sa muka kaso wala na nagawa ang bf niya nagsilabasan na mga guy friends niya na kasama namin e alam mo naman sa US mga gangster yun mga yun mga american latino at black american.. hahahaha natatawa lang ako kasi sobrang yabang eh yan tuloy napala naging panda si asian girl.. kaya nga sabi nung isa namin na kasama sa kanya "dont mess with mah filipina b*tch a**h*le"... and that moment made my day ever! bad but atleast nalaman nila na matuto sila lumugar hindi lahat ng oras sila mataas kahit mapera sila..

[Juvilyn5]

Sa institute namin dami koreans gusto ko pa naman maka experience ng may ma pka date na korean guy kaso mukhang sa mga post dito halos negative haha lol pansin ko nga din sa classmates ko na koreano at koreana mga salbahe sila hindi sila marunong gumalang sa mga babae

[summerchic]

Kwemto lang ng helper namin na pag nag asawa ng korean gusto talaga ng korean hubby na pinagsisilbihan so baka kawawa ang girlaloo 

[Juvilyn5]

^ nako sis i changed my mind hindi kuna gugustuhing makipag date sa mga korean guy haha lol 

[summerchic]

^hahaha well di naman siguro lahat ganun. Baka mga conservative koreans yun  half-Korean soguro pwede like Daniel Henney hahah.

[empire_maker16]

^ ako ayoko talaga aside sa mga naexperience ko at nababasa ko.. pero siyempre hindi naman lahat.. pero ayoko talaga sa kanila yung nananakit talaga sila i mean nangbabatok at naghahampas ng ulo kahit sa mga palabas ganun. samantalang hampasin mo na lahat wag lang sa ulo at likod di ba? pero sakanila okay lang. nako if ever man magganyan sila sa akin papatulan ko sila kahit gwapo pa yung mala-jo in sung na muka hindi ko titiisin yun kung ganun lang trato sa akin.. pero kahit lalaki sa kanila obsess talaga sa skincare.. balita ko nga sobra sila magipon para gumanda ang balat at muka.. parang physical appearance ang importante sa kanila.. kaya yung mga artista nila na iba like kim soo hyun, totoo kaya sinasabi niya na natural beauty ang gusto niya... parang ako, meron pa ba doon niyan? haha

[happy_pinay]

Back in '97, (when Koreans were a rare sight in the Philippines) I met a Korean from the Seoul office of our organization. He was just here for a week, but we hit it off.

He explained to me culture-bound practices that are deeply ingrained in their system. At that time, it didn't make sense. Years later, I found myself teaching Korean professionals who were able to give me a low down on the uniqueness of their culture such as:

interracial marriage is discouraged they want to preserve purity of their race;
the eldest son is responsible for his parents
it is rare for a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to be friends ( kahit kapwa Korean, how much more kung di Korean, di ba!)
there are customs to be followed. customs that don't exist in our culture


The Korean I briefly dated was mabango, naliligo and well-mannered.

Will I still date a Korean? I would - as long as di siya ang panganay na anak. :-)