Moving In together

[muahmuahmuah]

when in doubt don't. basta if your heart is not in it and for it 100%  and you're not excited about it don't.  it just means your not ready yet.

mahina loob ko sa ganyan..not that i've been offered harhar...but because of my slightly conservative ubringing it would displease the people i love.  plus i'd be haunted by loved ones, in dreamstate, those who are not in favor of it...eh kung makipag halikan nga lang ako in while dreaming kung sinu-sino lumilitaw baka they'll give me nightmares naman or rise from the grave

[kathon]

For me, ok lang to move in together as long as both parties agreed to some terms and conditions and willing talaga na makasama yung partner sa bahay.

[shopaholic18]

i wouldn't know if i'd be willing to engage in one but then natawa ako sa mom ko, when she knew that my cousin and her bf are living in together she was like what? with eyes as big as a ball, just kidding, conservative talaga family namin and if someone wants me to live in with them or move in with them i think he has to deal with my parents first. but that i wouldn't know ha if ever someone applies a fiance visa for me, its another thing pero dapat may blessing parents and they know for sure that we'll be getting married after i left parang ganun.

[carmichael18]

sharing lang..

i moved in with my ex mga two years ago... the sad fpart is he cheated on me, kahit na magkasama kami sa house at sa work.. o di ba ang galing! officemate pa namin yung girl.. anyways, ang hirap kasi parang asawa ko na siya, pero in reality hindi, kaya kahit na gusto ko sugurin yung babae, at ipagtanggol yung relationship namin ni ex, hindi ko nagawa kasi hindi ko siya asawa.. at ang sad, pinamukha pa yun sa akin ng ex ko na makapal ang mukha...

so mahirap yung ganung set up lalo na pag dumating sa ganong sitwasyon.. kasi talo pa rin ang babae.. lalo na, nung nalaman ng iba na nakipag live in na ako, parang iba na tingin nila sa akin...

[shopaholic18]

^ so true, thanks sa advice sis

[carmichael18]

^ sis yung sa akin nga hindi pa alam ng papa ko.. pina-alam ko lang sa ate at tita ko.. and the worst thing happened, dahil nambabae na siya, at hindi ko naman siya asawa, siyempre pinalayas ko siya sa apartment namin.. ayun sinaktan niya ako.. as in bugbog ang inabot.. hay grabe talaga yun... ayun, luhaan akong umuwi sa family ko, kaya lalong galit na galit ang papa ko, kasi sumuway na ako, hindi pa ako sumama sa matinong lalaki..

lesson learned indeed..

[rainebowbrite]

^g**o yun ex mo sis! WTF! Hindi ko ma imagine bakit nya pa kelangan i-assault ka?! Hindi pa ba enough na nag cheat na siya and hiwalay na kayo.

At least tapos na. That's not someone you want to be with for the rest of your life.

[Mizz.Cee]

Inaya na rin ako ni boyfie mag live-in a few times na as he'll be moving out sa parents nya within this year.. Pero I said na ayoko pa mas gusto kong magsama kami pag kasal na para may excitement.. And aside from that I'm sure against din both our parents kasi sya only boy lang sa family, so parang natatakot parents nya na gumaya mga younger sisters nya.. Ako naman only girl lang sa'min.. Pero we agreed naman na once na may appartment na sya I'll spend weekends nalang sa kanya.. Siguro naman ok lang sa parents ko kasi he can sleep naman sa bahay namin pero once a month minsan once every 2 months pa lol and welcome din naman ako sa kanila.. Tas we go on vacation pa together..
Natatawa lang ako kasi nung palagi pa kaming nag aaway ng mommy ko, ako palagi nag aaya sa kanyang mag live-in coz I wanted to move-out pero sya ayaw pa kasi conservative masyado yun dati.. Ewan ko ano nakain nya't he changed his mind.. Now that ok na kami ng mommy ko ayoko na muna coz it might cause another problem na naman tas madamay pa sya.. 

[kahoy07]

We are now living together for 8 months na. Pero before that we would sleep at each other's house pag weekends. Not sure kung ok sa parents ko yun pero wala na rin naman silang sinabi.

The talks of living in together started because of Ondoy. If my memory serves me right, the Ondoy wrath happened on a Saturday night at nasa kanila ako non. My dad texted me na wag munang umuwi. I thought galet sya so I phoned him and he told me na binaha na daw kame. The flood in our house was waist high. Buti na lang ay may second floor yung bahay namen kaya nasave yung ibang gamit. But it will be impossible for me to report to work kung ganun yung bahay. So since wala namang kasama si BF sa house nila kasi yung parents nya eh nasa province, I decided to stay with him. He's way tooo excited. Matagal na din nya kasing binabalak yun. Ako lang ang may ayaw.

It was fun. Para lang kameng nagbabahay-bahayan. We loved doing our grocery shopping together. Parang nasa honeymoon stage. And his parents naman, knowing that I am living with their son, happy din. Kasi medyo mababawasan yung pakikipagbarkada ni bf since I'm there.

My parents' house remained flooded for almost 2 months. Kala ko nga aabutin pa ng christmas yung baha e. So that means I lived with him for 2 months! It was really sad when he had to take me back home kasi ayos na ulet yung bahay namen. He tried na pigilan ako umuwi pero sabe ko sa kanya, we should be thankful kasi pinayagan na kame magsama kahit for 2 months lang. He understood naman and I assure him na magsasama na din kame sooner.

September last year kame ulet nagsama sa iisang bahay. Medyo nakakaasar lang kasi kahit magkasama na kame sa iisang bahay, we rarely see each other because of our work schedule kahit na magkasama din kame sa work. We are still trying to manage. Funny thing din is pag magkaaway kame, pumupunta ako sa bahay namen at dun nagssleepover. When my parents ask me what's wrong, I just tell them that I miss them. Haha! Lately lang nila narealize na kaya ako umuuwi dun pagmakaaway kame. hehe.

We are planning to get married next year. Hopefully makaipon ng madami!

[tinapa]

best way to get to know one another. ayaw ko naman magpakasal muna and then find out after na iba pala ugali niya sa bahay 

did this with my ex and bf now. best decision i made 

[sweet.trish]

For me its true that  you'll know the person better if you'll live together under one roof.  You'll find out kung naghihilik ba sya, pano sya magligpit ng gamit, baka mamya sya yung tipong pag nagbihis kung san san lang hinahagis yung pinaghubaran nya, o baka burara pala.

Wag  ka lang papabuntis, baka mapasubo ka lang lalo.

[tokyogirl]

di ako pinayagan maglivein with my bf abroad. mahirap din kasi kasama nanay nya sa bahay. 

[purplerainne]

Based on experience, I do not suggest na mag live-in together not unless sure na kayong dalawa na nga talaga. Ang hirap kapag naghiwalay kayo. Nakababaliw. Hahanap-hanapin mo ang mga bagay na nakasanayan mong lagi syang tabi mo lang. Every little thing you do, maaalala mo sya. I am on this stage right now. At masakit ako yung naiwan, so torture sa akin whenever I am in our used to be bedroom. Yung mga gamit namin like utensils, hindi ko pa rin ginagalaw hanggang ngayon dahil maaalala ko lang sya at lalo kong mararamdaman ang pagiging alone.

[sweet.trish]

^ ouch sis ang sad. i know the feeling, when everything reminds you of him. but time will come na makaka-move on ka rin.

well its better pa rin kesa magpakasal ka tapos maghihiwalay rin pala.

[st_upid]

Ako naman, ok lang sa akin makipag live-in. ang mahirap lang, pag matagal na kayong mag ka live-in tapos wala kayong balak magpakasal.

[AlwaysFresh]

My boyfriend asked me to move-in with him a month ago and I was both happy and confused
The idea is great but, I don't think my parents would allow it...AT ALL.
Happened to my sister, lived in for 6 years. They were engaged. Then, they broke up:(

[FoxyPhoenix]

any single mom sis who moved in with her bf? i am a single mom and my bf and i are starting to fill his new condo unit with furnitures.

[FoxyPhoenix]

^hi sis. tanggap naman nya baby ko, he's 4 years old now. mixed emotion kasi ngayon na finally nagsisimula na kaming mamili ng furnitures at gamit sa condo nya. average lang kami financially speaking, so plan namin some of the cash we have right now, gagastusin para ayusin yung condo, then kapag 'livable' na, yung natitirang cash (and kontinng ipon pa) pangpa-kasal naman namin. target namin magpakasal next year or 2013.
75% im excited knowing na malapit na kaming magsama kasi im very family oriented and gusto ko mabuo na family ko. pero 25% parang 'cold feet' pa ko kasi mamimiss ko mom ko and everything na nakasanayan ko by myself. btw, im already 29, right age na naman.
another thing i am really worried about is baka pag napuno na namin yung condo ng gamit, magyaya na sya na magsama na kami (he asked me a year ago about this na if ever na malagyan na namin ng gamit yung condo papayag ba akong makipag live in, ang sabi ko gsto ko kasal muna). nagaalala lang ako na baka biglang ihirit nya ulit na magsama na kami tutal pwede ng tirhan yung condo, dko alam pano ko sya itu-turn down eh mejo matampuhin pa naman sya. siguro dun nalang muna kami during weekeends.

[jeune]

Oh wow! I forgot all about this thread lol. But to give you some update, I didn't moved in with my ex-bf, ex na sha ngayon haha! My heart told me not to and I listened. There are just things I can't take and I was thinking, if we ever get married I have to deal with it all the time. Don't get me wrong he was a great guy and good looking too haha but his mom's too controlling! Of course there's more issues aside from his mom. After we broke up, I rested for a bit in the dating world and never looked for somebody but I guess the saying is true about, " don't find love, let love find you", and I did. My then boyfriend is now my husband -- and I lived at his place while he was gone for deployment. This time my heart told me, 'go'. I may have done something my mom wouldn't let me do, living in before marriage, that is, but I never regretted what I did.

[FoxyPhoenix]

^Now that's a story with a happy ending Katuwa naman sis.