paano mo malalaman na sincere ang isang guy sa panliligaw sau???

[_Cecilia_]

^  Yes, may mga ganyang girls because they came from a very conservative family.  Minsan pa nga it runs in the family that most women in their family are old maids sa tagal mapasagot.  May ganon ba silang history?  Siguro at second month of courting kahit papano open na kayo sa isa't isa.  Hindi man lang ba niya sinasabi ano naiisip niya about you?  I mean, not necessarily about committing or something, about ano lang, about you as a person.  Ano tingin niya sayo?  Saka ano mga pinaguusapan nio?  Ganon.  Dapat kasi open.

[twinkletown]

^^ kung super conservative ng family yes...matatagalan ka nga...may mga babae pa din naman na matagal kung magpaligaw kasi they want to make sure na tama ang magiging desisyon nila.

[jojo2978]

tingin ko malalaman mo kung serious ang guy sa panliligaw if sinagot mo na... pag nanliligaw pa kasi parating best foot forward pero pag kayo na, eventually yung natural him yung lalabas.

[alessa30]

para sa akin serious ang guy if consistent sya....
walang mga excuses o alibi...

[feisty_one]

Being consistent is the no. 1 sign for me that he's sincere...not the kind who's like "now you see me, now you don't"..."now you hear from me...now you dont".  For us girlz...it's hard when men keep u hangin'...u dont know if you will still consider him to be "the one" or not...esp if you find him attractive too...Me..I want the straightforward one...where I know where I really stand in that guy's heart....

[twinkletown]

@ carlos_uno...kamusta ka na?

[carlos_uno]

Hi sissies, im back.

Unfortunately, this girl that i am regularly dating and have been courting for the last 4 months, eh hindi ko pa rin GF. Sad to say.

Hindi ko ala kung mahina ba ako dumiskarte or talaga lang mahirap syang ligawan.

Yesterday, i went out again with her in this fine restaurant by the beach. i opened up again and asked for my status. ang sagot nya lang eh "wala pa"....I was actually waiting for either a yes or a no. And i think she insisted to be on a safe side.

I was actually got disappointed and it was obvious while i was bringing her to her house.

Bakit ganun? I mean, bakit hindi nya na lang ako i dump kung or sagutin, bakit un ang lagi nya sagot? Wala ba talaga ako pag asa sa kanya, or stick with the old plan of courting way.

im getting tired na kasi eh, i have exerted all my effort, pero still to no avail.

Should i wait pa ba or stop this altogether before anything goes wrong between us.

ayoko na kasi ng away eh, masyadong messy ang mga ganung klaseng usapan.

The next day, i texted her saying sorry for showing some disapoinment nung nakaraang gabi. she replied back by saying na masaya ako kausap at kasama, blah blah and that ayaw nya lang lagyan ng pressure ang relasyon namin, blah blah and the end she said, kung madidis appoint lang daw ako sa nangyayari, better daw na huwag na kami magkita.

Ano tingin nyo po mga sissies ng status ko sa kanya ngayon. Is she just playing games with me and just trying to test my perseverance or i just need to follow her advice and walk away.

i am in fact beginnnig to like her more.

Nalulungkot nga ako eh...

[twinkletown]

^ hi bro! long time ha!

i think he is testing your patience lang...you would feel naman if he truly enjoys your company eh...stick with the plan. as what she said dont put to much pressure on what you have right now with her...enjoy, sail with the tide, dont go against it kaya pa yan...

[carlos_uno]

I am definitely sure that she enjoys my company. But the problem is,because there is oo much bonding na ang nangyayari sa amin, baka maging platonic na lang ang maging friendship namin ang getting deeper will be harder for me.

Kasi naman, we enjoy the company of being together without the benefit of being "us". IN fact we can say na parang kami na dahil we regularly goes out but wala kaming relasyon.

yun ang ayaw ko, i want na assurance na akin sya, by formally inviting me to become her bf.

Sabi ko nga sa friends ko, im on the crossroads now, ayoko sya mawala kasi i have invested all my time and resources to her and living her without clear answers, eh napakahirap for me.

In fact, outside us, there is another lady to whom i lately became associated with, we had this sexual relationship and i know, i can have her in no time. She has the same qualities but i didnt spend time with her, unlike [textspeak!] nililigawan ko.

HIndi ko rin alam kung nasa ego tripping pa ako, parang ayoko na nasasabihan ng ganun, na kesyo hindi pa pwede an all, parang na ba bust ang ego ko,

[justperfect]

hi carlos_uno.

hmm i can somewhat relate. people say im conservative and i think i am too in so many ways when i read your post i thought na possible meantime-guy ka nya kasi he doesnt even assure you of your status. ako kasi kahit conservative ako pag sinasabihan ako ng i love you ni bf before i dont say it back but i tell him i like him. it even came to a point when i have stages of like.. like..super like..super super like. parang ang arte di ba kasi may mga ganon pa pero i was just being honest because alam ko sa sarili ko na di ko pa sya love but i also want to assure him na may chance sya and parang in-process pa yung relationship namin so i always tell him "lets wait and see". pwede rin naman na hindi lang talaga sya vocal dahil mahiyain sya when it comes to expressing her feelings. depende din yan sa personality and background nya. nagka bf na ba sya before?

now... with your recent post... i know na wala pa naman kayong relationship so you decided to have a sexual relationship with another woman. alam ba nya na ganyan yung personality mo?(no offense meant) if yes... maybe she's just being cautious before having a relationship with you. kasi syempre kung ako yun and malaman ko about it super mahuhurt ako kung like na talaga kita.

just my two cents.. hope this helps. keep us posted.

btw, i didnt back read. just read posts from this page.

[simplelife]

siguro it takes time...wag ka nalang magmadali anyway kahit matagal pa siya maghintay kung gusto ka talaga maghihintay yan.

[muahmuahmuah]

uy nagbalik...ganun parin after what 4 months.

nah i dont think u should tell the girl of your exploits. your not in that steady relationsip. pero ito my views malaki age difference nyo and you clearly know what you want. but who do you want. given you had sex with another girl you can easily have long term with how she is in bed and all ca u see yourself in the long run with her. with the girl youve been courting the longest if you get to the point of finally having her siempre sex gets into the picture. if shes as ummmm maybe as stubborn as her heart to satisfy you are can you stand beng with her still.  parang id rather wish for you to go to the girl youve tested the waters with than start something that you wont go the distance for lalo na if youll be her first.

simple lang kasi yun yes or no like me or not. i duno if shes immature or too young.  as you said it could also be platonic.  maybe shes waitng for christmas? para special? hard to say pero siguro tone it down a bit and go see the other girl instead, the one u had sex with.  ikaw lang din makakasabi if the girl your courting is worth it at all. if you see so much value n her and if you can hang on in there pero decide on one lang.  you cant go doing 2 people chances are you might continue seeing the other one coz its so easy and because you can. 

if its your ego thats hurting more than your heart i think you know na who to go for.  nakakapagod rin yan eh sometimes all we need is a little assurance from them na yeah i got your back.

[carlos_uno]

hi carlos_uno.

hmm i can somewhat relate. people say im conservative and i think i am too in so many ways when i read your post i thought na possible meantime-guy ka nya kasi he doesnt even assure you of your status. ako kasi kahit conservative ako pag sinasabihan ako ng i love you ni bf before i dont say it back but i tell him i like him. it even came to a point when i have stages of like.. like..super like..super super like. parang ang arte di ba kasi may mga ganon pa pero i was just being honest because alam ko sa sarili ko na di ko pa sya love but i also want to assure him na may chance sya and parang in-process pa yung relationship namin so i always tell him "lets wait and see". pwede rin naman na hindi lang talaga sya vocal dahil mahiyain sya when it comes to expressing her feelings. depende din yan sa personality and background nya. nagka bf na ba sya before?

now... with your recent post... i know na wala pa naman kayong relationship so you decided to have a sexual relationship with another woman. alam ba nya na ganyan yung personality mo?(no offense meant) if yes... maybe she's just being cautious before having a relationship with you. kasi syempre kung ako yun and malaman ko about it super mahuhurt ako kung like na talaga kita.

just my two cents.. hope this helps. keep us posted.

btw, i didnt back read. just read posts from this page.

^^Hindi ko sinabi yung nangyari dun sa girl na yun, it was just siguro nagkataon [textspeak!] nagkaroon kami nang one intimate moment. kung quality wise nga, id say mas maganda qualities nya kasi shes so sweet and caring, eh guys like those traits di ba?

Now when it come dito sa nililigawan ko, nakow, walang ka sweet sweet sa katawan. Ewan ko ba why i still like her in spite of that. Sometimes feeling ko na chachallenge lang ako sa kanya kasi gusto ko mapalabas ang sweetness nya na parang pinagkakait nya pa sa akin.

Kanina lang we watched mo movie and i felt naman na enjoy na enjoy sya sa company ko. Pero posible nga na meantime guy lang ako. Swerte nya lang sa akin kasi i am giving her my time.

Gusto ko lang talaga ang assurance na may pag asa ako, at least, alam ko and next move ko.

[carlos_uno]

uy nagbalik...ganun parin after what 4 months.

nah i dont think u should tell the girl of your exploits. your not in that steady relationsip. pero ito my views malaki age difference nyo and you clearly know what you want. but who do you want. given you had sex with another girl you can easily have long term with how she is in bed and all ca u see yourself in the long run with her. with the girl youve been courting the longest if you get to the point of finally having her siempre sex gets into the picture. if shes as ummmm maybe as stubborn as her heart to satisfy you are can you stand beng with her still.  parang id rather wish for you to go to the girl youve tested the waters with than start something that you wont go the distance for lalo na if youll be her first.

simple lang kasi yun yes or no like me or not. i duno if shes immature or too young.  as you said it could also be platonic.  maybe shes waitng for christmas? para special? hard to say pero siguro tone it down a bit and go see the other girl instead, the one u had sex with.  ikaw lang din makakasabi if the girl your courting is worth it at all. if you see so much value n her and if you can hang on in there pero decide on one lang.  you cant go doing 2 people chances are you might continue seeing the other one coz its so easy and because you can. 

if its your ego thats hurting more than your heart i think you know na who to go for.  nakakapagod rin yan eh sometimes all we need is a little assurance from them na yeah i got your back.

^^Sana naman hindi platonic kasi its obvious naman i want that relationship eh. sabi ko nga i have invested [textspeak!] time and resources and yet platonic gusto nya? Ive got too many friends and i dont need to spend all my time for her na lang di ba?

Ewan ko ba masyado magulo eh, nakakapagod na rin minsan.

Its been 4 months pa lang naman and ive known for maybe 6 months. ill set my time limits, if nothing happens, ill vanish na lang into thin air and find anoter lady.

Tama ba?

[muahmuahmuah]

well give her an ultimatum para tapos ng malinis.para dead serious na this is the direction where i want to go if youre with me or not. if you say no right now i'll go and youll never hear from me and i wont waste your time nor mine on someone wo doesnt want the same. i wont take any maybes and not sure answers yun sabihin mo hwehwehwe. maski ako napagod sa kanya. imedyo you need to put a little fear in her na everything you have can disappear para she knows. by this time you deserve a clearer answer. makikita mo rin kasi in her eyes if shes ready or not. hindi ka naman nya rebound guy diba. nakalimutan ko na storya nya e.


 

[justperfect]

^^Hindi ko sinabi yung nangyari dun sa girl na yun, it was just siguro nagkataon [textspeak!] nagkaroon kami nang one intimate moment. kung quality wise nga, id say mas maganda qualities nya kasi shes so sweet and caring, eh guys like those traits di ba?

Now when it come dito sa nililigawan ko, nakow, walang ka sweet sweet sa katawan. Ewan ko ba why i still like her in spite of that. Sometimes feeling ko na chachallenge lang ako sa kanya kasi gusto ko mapalabas ang sweetness nya na parang pinagkakait nya pa sa akin.

Kanina lang we watched mo movie and i felt naman na enjoy na enjoy sya sa company ko. Pero posible nga na meantime guy lang ako. Swerte nya lang sa akin kasi i am giving her my time.

Gusto ko lang talaga ang assurance na may pag asa ako, at least, alam ko and next move ko.

well hindi mo naman kelangan sabihin yung mga nangyari dun sa other girl. what im trying to say is alam ba nya yung past mo with other girls? how you were with them? since youve been friends baka you have shared your girl stories with her. and if yes i think that could be the reason why she's being uber careful if thats the case.

alam mo when you say na nachachallenge ka im a little bit worried. kasi baka when you have her and napalabas mo na yung sweetness nya..parang whats next? and yung dating sakin parang investment sya. you've invested a lot in her..so what? baka yung parang kaya mo na lang sya gusto ipursue para sa return of investment and afterwards wala ka na din gana sa kanya. well that could only be the worst case scenario kung maging kayo na. typical courtship na super nice and sweet ng guy but nung naging kayo hes not that sweet and nice anymore.

well i think its ok to ask how she feels about you. just let her open up to you. when you say you like her ask her if she likes you too. siguro naman wala namang masama and di naman nakakahiya aminin na like mo yung isang tao kasi like lang naman yun e. and ask her if she thinks may patutunguhan yung relationship nyo. hindi naman now na but in the near future since youve been going out for quite awhile now. parang di naman na uso yung matagal na ligawan. kasi as long as you like each other and nagkakasundo kyo and kilala nyo na ang isat isa i dont see any point baket tatagal pa yung courtship di ba?

[carlos_uno]

^^Thanks for the nice and honest responses.

Actually, we dont share common friends kasi ive just met her during one of the event i usually gone to.

And hindi naman ako nagkukuwento sa kanya nang bagay bagay tungkol sa past ko, lalo na ang sex life ko. kasi ayoko magkuwento nya ng whatever related sa sex life nya. kasi although past na un, it could be not pleasing to my ears eh.

Now, im planning to make other another pa epek to catch her attention, by letting her miss me by not being there for her. Kasi lagi nya na lang ako kasama, lahat ng activities nya kasama ako. What if mawala ako kahit 2 days, baka sakali ma miss nya ako and could spark a fire. I dunno but im thinking towars that strategy.

Help me strtagize nga mga sissies, im runnong out of scenario to think of eh. Kasi lahat naman ng ingredient na pagiging close namin andun na, except [textspeak!] actual na kami na.

[muahmuahmuah]

simple just say work. pero the impatient me is responding so why make up something. id be blatant and honest. its just you tolerating her excuses, you allowing her to give excuses, you making up and giving her reasons and you prolonging your pain. hwehwehwe. i dont think shes toopid to not answer honestly, but shes smart enough to keep you hanging. the vicious me would also say to her 'if you cant be real dont play me.' tapos.

the tme you spent with her doesnt matter anymore that was all yesterday. its your choice. is she worth it? is she really worth it? if its all mutual and love is there wheres her compassion. i think shes just keeping you until you give up. im thinking thats her. if you plan to not show up and be unavailable dont be available ever. just skip town. again its just a yes or no. no in betweens. take it or leave it.

parang nababaliw ka na eh. kidding. goodluck.

[carlos_uno]

You're right. I honestly believe that she doesnt like or love me, just yet. It could take time and could also take forever for her to realize that. Hindi nga siguro ako ang type nyang maging bf.

Quality wise, i could have gone dating to other better girls her level and age, but i sticked to my old plan. I dont want people to say that 'i got busted', my ego's so high that i cannot somehow take it.

On the other, naiisip ko rin na pwedeng she likes me, just hiding her true self. See, lahat ng activities nya sa araw na un alam ko, even her menstrual cycle eh alam ko, shes honest and rude and she can be herself around me.

This is like an NBA game, i should know her strategy to win the game.

[twinkletown]

^ then good luck to you bro..

oh well...if the girl does like you, you'll feel it even if she doesnt tell it to you directly..you can see it in her eyes...kaso be on guard din. madami na din girls who knows how to play the game..para kayong nag lalaro ng cat and mouse! habulan ever!