paano mo malalaman na sincere ang isang guy sa panliligaw sau???

[simplemind]

His patient sa pag aantay....
Respect any of your decission ..

[luisacart]

sa totoo lang. naniniwala ako sa tinatawag nating "woman's instinct". if you're instinct is telling you something is wrong, most likely may mali nga talaga. if you're female friends are saying there is something wrong, maniwala ka.

[carlos_uno]

^^ Im just very confuse now.

     Im been very sincere dun sa nililigawan ko, we've been dating exclusively for more than a month now. Hindi nga lang dates, as ive mentioned before sa previous posts ko, anything and everything magkasama kami, although i do the initiation myself (na mas gusto ko naman actually kaysa ako niyayaya all the time).

    Last nightwe watched movie, i held her hands for the first time but weve been doing this things since a month ago kaso sa sasakyan ko lang when i am driving.

    Now, im facing a dilemna. May gusto ba sa akin ang girl na ito or what? Nagtapat na ako remember but still, ayaw nya pa ring mag commit.

    Kung hindi nya ako gusto, why is she allowing allowing me to hold hands with her, make some minor advancements (like akbay and all) pero pag tintingnan ko sya parang feeling ko wala pa rin syang feeling sa akin.

    If I invite her out, almost always she goes out with me. i dont think shes taking advantages of my generosity kasi we sometimes dont eat because she's currently maintaining her figure, in short bawas food intake.

   The question is, why cant i take advantage of the situation? I mean wala ba kahulugan sa inyo ang paghawak sa kamay ng lalaki? I do the initiation but thats what guys do right? Do the initiatives.

   Minsan I just wanna grab her sa bahay nya and kiss her but i cant. Kasi hindi pa naman kami. But i dunno if shes giving me signs na 'go get me". My god, im stuck.
   
   help me naman po.

   Does she like me or not?

[IceAngel_007]

Hello Carlos_uno...
IMO she does likes you but she just doesn't want a commitment or something there's reason behind all it naman. Sa akin lang kasi if the girl goes out with you for more than 3 dates that means she is enjoying being with you and likes you. You just have to distinguish if just for friends or someone special sa actions nya sayo. Then you can talk things over with her, your feeling on how you feel for her for sure malalaman mo sa pagsagot nya sau. Kasi sabi mo nga positive lahat ng responses nya sayo and surely its not just a barkada thing... so investing to with someone else means that you are special to her. So its just the timing and how you talk your feelings out with her. Good luck!   

[beautiful lady]

^^bro, although she goes out on dates with you when you ask her out, allows you to hold her hands, etc. sometimes, it's because she's still shy.  im like that as well.  it's like we are shy sometimes still and maybe want you to be more forceful and profess your love more.  hehe, sorry but maybe that could be it.  shyness.

[twinkletown]

carlos, why dont you ask her sa status ng panliligaw mo? i mean she was giving you all the signs na he also likes you yet something is holding her back to fully commit herself, maybe you can start by asking her the reason why she wouldnt commit now to you. or maybe she is just testing your patience with her. how long will you stay in this parade. lam mo yun? just always show that you love her. dont loose hope and dont confuse things..

[IronLady]

@carlos_uno: haha! dont be confused. maybe she just needs time.. one month ka pa lang nanliligaw diba.. siguro sinisigurado lang nya kung hanggang saan mo kaya mag-antay.. be patient.. may mga obvius signs na gusto ka nya... like letting you hold her hand.. pero siguro hindi pa sya ready magcommit.. or maybe she's waiting for something.. haha! ganun kasi ko dati sa manliligaw ko.. as in obvious na gusto ko sya.. pero like the saying goes 'hanggat hindi ka umaamin or hindi nanggagaling sayo, yung 3 words na yun', clueless si guy... gusto nya lang din siguro pag-isipan ng mabuti if you're all worth it.. hindi kasi ganun kadali ang pumasok sa relationship..

[carlos_uno]

Thanks for the responses...

@IceAngel_007 -- lahat na yata ng dates naranasan ko na with her, from ultra expensive dinner to cheap ones...ahahah. We go to church together. We shop and go to grocery together. I pick her up and sends her home every now and then, (if time permits, of course) and i get to go to her place also. Activity buddy ko rin sya. Texts are not frequent though but i call her maybe 2-3 times a day just to check. Lahat ng ingredients ng mag syota nanjan na pero hindi pa rin yata enough hehe. Although she allows those minor advancements, as compared sa ibang girls, shes not that sweet. But i like her just the same.

One thing i noticed though is if not sure kung kinukwento nya man lang ba ako sa barkada nya, coz it doesnt seem so. Although, we attended one of her bestfriend bday celebration. Sabi ng friends ko, if the girl doesnt like me, bakit ako isasama sa ganung party exclusive to her friends tama ba?

@twinkletown: we spoke about it maybe 3 weeks back, she said hindi pa sya ready sa commitment and just let the water run through its course. She clearly told me also na ever since ayaw nya nang i pressure sya into commiting herself, so since then i just showered her with time and affection. i hope it work wonders na lang.

@ IronLady - almost two months na rin pala ako nanliligaw and counting. Im not rushing but pressures for me to have her is everywhere. Mga friends ko inaasar ako bakit hindi ko pa rin sya girlfriend up to now in spite of all the times na ginugugol ko sa kanya.

You know guys, im just happy to be with her. Cant explain it myself either. but i do.

I must admit na those 3 words hindi ko pa nasasabi sa kanya, kasi feeling ko its not ripe to say it. Im not so sure pa kasi if indeed i love her already.

I just came from a not-so good kinda relationship and it aint easy to be the same person again.

What im trying to do now is to get closer to her, know her better, invest time and effort and lets see from there.

But clearly i like her so much.

And loving her will be just around the corner.

[yaris]

He calls for no reason.
His friends know all about you
He refers to the two of you as we.
He wants to know about your interests
He's nice to your friends
If you compliment a shirt, he'll keep wearing it
He opens up to you

http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-how-to-tell-if-a-guy-is-serious-about-you/

oh ayan may reference pa ko ha

dagdag ko pa.. .. malalaman mong serious sha sa yo kung ikaw lang nililigawan or fini-flirtan of course.. and dito dapat umeksena mga trusted friends mo. Teamwork

[IronLady]

@carlos_uno: maybe hinihintay nya rin yung 3 words na yun.. ang alam ko kasi pag nanliligaw dapat may ganun talaga.. and kapag sinabi rin nya yun, edi kayo na! hehe! and may mga girls din kasi na sigurista.. gusto nila manggaling talaga yun sayo, baka kasi mabalewala lang din yung mga pinagagawa mo kung hindi mo naman pala sinsabi yun.. thou hindi naman kita pinipilit sabihin yun.. sabi mo nga it's not 'ripe' to say that pa.. dapat siguro siguraduhin mo rin muna kung 'yan' na talaga yun.. maybe ganun din ang ginagawa nya.. thou sa case ko, kahit mahal ko na yung guy aba pinatagal ko pa talaga! hehe! kakabreak lang din kasi nya nun (from an 8yr relationship), akala nya hindi lang talaga ko handa pumasok sa relationship pero ang totoo sya yung binigyan ko ng time na siguraduhin kung ako na ba talaga ang gusto nya! hehe!

[carlos_uno]

^^ i have another dilemna. the reason why maybe i cant say these 3 words to her dahil im still stuck with my previous relationship. Im still in love with that girl.

But dont get me wrong sissies ha, im sincere dun sa nililigawan ko, its just that, i cant totally move on yet.

hirap nga eh. i want to totally focus on this girl but i have to erase the previous one first. this is somewhat insane.....

[twinkletown]

^ naku carlos. mahirap yan...you cant do both...you need to let go sa isa sa kanila...

it would be unfair for the girl na nililigawan mo now.

at unfair din sayo at dun sa girl na inlove ka pa.

[twinkletown]

^ naku carlos. mahirap yan...you cant do both...you need to let go sa isa sa kanila...

it would be unfair for the girl na nililigawan mo now.

at unfair din sayo at dun sa girl na inlove ka pa.

[icequeen]

you'll know when he's sincere pag may consistency and effort. meaning he goes out of his way just to prove na may feelings siya sayo and he's doing it consistently. hindi yung para siyang palitaw na lulubog-lilitaw. haha. hindi yung ititext ka lang last minute, sobrang late na para yayain gumimick. lol. booty call yun.

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carlos_uno: i don't wanna burst your bubble pero baka kaya ok lang sa girl yung advances mu kasi nahihiya siyang tumanggi at baka mapahiya ka. maybe she's thinking ok lang naman ang holding hands, akbay etc., wala namang mawawala. pwede din na  kaya ka nya activity buddy kasi it's more convenient for her? hindi ko naman sinasabi na user yung girl pero may mga girls talaga minsan na nahihirapan tumanggi lalo na pag alam nilang super bait ng guy.

[carlos_uno]

^honestly, iniisip ko rin yun. Although she doesnt look like the kind of girl na manggagamit..Still, dapat i consider din yun.

Hay, gulo. minsan yoko muna sya kausapin. Gusto ko muna mag isip, mag contemplate. Kasi yoko na ng mahabang ligawan eh. Nakakapagod din.

[IronLady]

^OMG.. hehe.. if you're still in love with your ex you shouldn't be courting another... mas magiging complicated ang lahat sa huli.. kelangan mo talagang pag-isipan ng mabuti..

[carlos_uno]

^^actually, un ang hard part dun. i am courting a person but still in love with another. It all started that way kasi eh, i was trying to fall for her para makalimutan ko na ang isa and move on.

Sincere naman ako, i mean, i stopped dating other person other than her pero it takes time pala ang isang tao na minahal mo nang sobra.

Right now, ill be on a business trip for 1 month. Gusto ko sana i maximize ang panliligaw ko sa kanya. This time i dont want to be a reluctant suitor, i want to be the persistent suitor na.

Baka you guys have grand ideas to help me with this. i still have 2 weeks to shower her with love. My plan is to pick her up from work everyday, give her a flower and a card for that next 2 weeks and see from there.

My last hurrah probably before i leave is to give her a bracelet.

Oks ba idea ko or too clingy, too jologs or what.

Give me ideas sissies.

Thanks.

[muahmuahmuah]

nyark and you wonder why you can't get a clear answer?!?  so quits quits lang pala kayo.

[althiana]

boyfriend ko ngayon nakuha ako sa sobrang persistent at consistent niya.

kahit puyat siya he will wake up to make me hatid sa office ko. tapos pag pauwi na ako kahit ma late siya sa work niya, kahit na namumula na mata niiya susunduin ako at ihahatid sa bahay. ganun ka tiyaga.

nagpustahan pa parents ko ha kasi sabi nila pag kami na di na daw [textspeak!] mag hahatid sundo. pero sobrang never siya nag bago. araw araw parin akong parang maay personal driver! hatid sundo.

[carlos_uno]

^^ Im just very confuse now.

     Im been very sincere dun sa nililigawan ko, we've been dating exclusively for more than a month now. Hindi nga lang dates, as ive mentioned before sa previous posts ko, anything and everything magkasama kami, although i do the initiation myself (na mas gusto ko naman actually kaysa ako niyayaya all the time).

    Last nightwe watched movie, i held her hands for the first time but weve been doing this things since a month ago kaso sa sasakyan ko lang when i am driving.

    Now, im facing a dilemna. May gusto ba sa akin ang girl na ito or what? Nagtapat na ako remember but still, ayaw nya pa ring mag commit.

    Kung hindi nya ako gusto, why is she allowing allowing me to hold hands with her, make some minor advancements (like akbay and all) pero pag tintingnan ko sya parang feeling ko wala pa rin syang feeling sa akin.

    If I invite her out, almost always she goes out with me. i dont think shes taking advantages of my generosity kasi we sometimes dont eat because she's currently maintaining her figure, in short bawas food intake.

   The question is, why cant i take advantage of the situation? I mean wala ba kahulugan sa inyo ang paghawak sa kamay ng lalaki? I do the initiation but thats what guys do right? Do the initiatives.

   Minsan I just wanna grab her sa bahay nya and kiss her but i cant. Kasi hindi pa naman kami. But i dunno if shes giving me signs na 'go get me". My god, im stuck.
   
   help me naman po.

   Does she like me or not?

Sissies, update ko lang kayo sa progress dito sa nililigawan ko.. Ive reached the second month of this hardship err courtship hehe..

Last weekend we had this fine dining by the beach, after that i brought her home.. Whilst driving, i opened up again, kung ano na status sa panliligaw ko and all. After i said those 3 words na u guys said is important in courtship, she just said after a while "anong gusto mo sabihin ko", then i uttered back "ikaw?"..she said "hindi ko pa alam ang sasabihin ko eh"

What the hell meant by this? Nasa stage pa rin sya na hindi nya pa alam ang feelings nya sa akin? Am i on the right track? I mean is this going on the positive side or what?

May mga ganito bang girls na mahirap mapasagot? yeah, its like 2 months only, pero bakit parang naiinip nako? I want her, but i couldnt have her just yet.

Ano ba next step ko?