paano mo malalaman na sincere ang isang guy sa panliligaw sau???

[carlos_uno]

^ eh di that's good! tuloy tuloy mo lang..let her feel the "kilig" of being courted the filipino way...

Just to give you an update about my panliligaw to the pretty girlash which is also younger than me 

Yesterday we went out strolling sa beach, i popped the question again to be my girl since we've been continously dating for the last month. This is where we go out, go to church together, watch movies and all other stuff. We were both living alone, since our respctive families are living on the other side of the globe.

Apparently, she said the same thing as last time: shes not yet ready and we should just continue and let see what happens next. She said she doesnt want to promise na magiging kami but we'll see. She just came from a long relationship and i came from a not so good one either.

I told her that i am beginnning to fall for her and i know it will  grow anytime soon.

Naisip ko lang, do i still need to be persistent as i have been? Or let the friendship grom into the next level by itself? Now hindi ko na alam kung kailan ulit ako mag pa pop out ng question without making her think na makulit ako.

Sabi nga friends ko, na hindi ko dapat madaliin since ive been couting her officialy for a month now. nahihirapan lang kasi ako kasi im pre occupied by her, nakakalimutan ko na ang ibang bagay. I know this is not good. But i think going out with another girl again just to forget her for a while will help. Plus ive been honest with her, that id exclusively date her, and nobody else. Ayoko na kasi maging unfair eh.

Siguro nga im beginging to fall. but is she? Sabi nya kasi hindi sya nangangako maging kami eh. Pero bakit ganun. Im with her all the time. Shes enjoying it naman. Shes comfortale with me naman since i can freely touch her hands while driving. Pero nadedevelop ba sya sa akin? Natatakot sya?

EWAN. maGULO. mIND GAMES.

[V_Lestat]

its not a mind game... obviously she has doubts pero may chance.... may be she finds you a good person, pero wala pa [textspeak!] attraction talaga... wait ka lang...

[twinkletown]

@ carlos_uno...since you've said that she just came from a very long relationship, maybe she is just really taking one careful step at time..dont pressure her...just wait..stick to your promise that you will exclusively date her..it will a solid proof that you are sincere to her and your intentions are good.. let everything fall into its place.

maybe yes, natatakot siya. she doesnt want to make the same mistakes again. may i ask, how was her previous relationship? why did they broke up? if you could answer those questions to yourself, maybe, you will understand where is she coming from.

[carlos_uno]

thats what im doing now...

sana lang i can hold onto what ive promised her.

Right now, im trying not to see her all the time. Almost everyday naman kasi kami magkasama. And i think habang nakikita nya lang ako na lagi nanjan, malamang hindi nya agad ma realize ang importance ko. im trying to lie-low, in short.

Mahirap din kasi sya basahin, and im keen to know how to decipher her actions:d

[twinkletown]

just be the same person that she met a few months back

[carlos_uno]

Hmmn.. before nya ako makilala i was dating several ladies.

Now hindi na.

Dati i enjoy dating without commiting.

Now i wanted it badly, ayaw namang makipag commit sa akin.

 

Pero hanep naman kasi lagi naman kaming magkasama. Short of saying na kayo pero hindi kayo. ewan, magulo talaga mundo

[V_Lestat]

i have been into your situation pero negative [textspeak!] result..kinulang sa tiyaga at pinressure ko [textspeak!] girl... so i suggest, just go with the flow...

[carlos_uno]

paano naman kung yung flow eh masyado nang matagal.

I mean i dont have too many years to just wait for her.

But the thing is i like her so much. though i dont think i have yet to love her.

[twinkletown]

^ bro like is different from love. matagal na ba ang months pa lang nakakalipas? yes, i understand you dont have too many years, but still a little sacrifice will go a long way with you.

[carlos_uno]

isa lang problem ko: pressure sa sarili ko.

all the positive signs are with me and yet im still like this. Its like courtship in highschool.eeheh

imagine, yestaerday we watched movie, tomorrow gimik may possibility na maginuman kami sa condo nya) then sa weekend may long drive kami. at kami lang dalawa..see..pero i feel down pa rin.

[twinkletown]

bakit ka kasi na-pressure...

eh ikaw din naman kasi ang naglalagay ng pressure sa sarili mo? at bakit mi nilalagay yun? dahil ba sa age mo...are you the person at this time na who is on the settle down mode na?

[carlos_uno]

Ewan ko nga ba..siguro dahil im challenged. Im quite challenged with her. Parang pag hindi ko sya naging GF, im doomed.

Siguro din dahil everbody knows im courting this fine lady na totally connected with me yet hindi naman nakikipag commit sa akin.

Hmmmn. sana mawala na ang pressure so that i can go with the flow.

One question; If the girl doesnt like you at all, will he be coming out with you on dates as such? It was clear naman kasi to her that i am courting her. Nonetheless, we continued as if we are friends.....

[muahmuahmuah]

oo if she sees you lang as a friend pero she enjoys being with you isnt a guarantee na magiging kayo.

own up to your feelings. if you feel like being used and duped stop pareho labn naman kayo magiging kawalang at hindi kawalan sa isat isa. pero wag ka na magpaka oa. we duno how you are with her and what type of guy she wants and is looking for. but if you're the overly-close-to-annoying-sweet guy who overthinks everything like a girl  laging there to impress medyo i duno if thats any less attractive for her or appealing. then why not just go again and ask.sya lang ang makakasagot ng lahat ng iyan. then if she says no tell her you'll walk away and never see her. tapos tago ka somewhere kung hahabulin ka nya.
yihhheeee parang sine.

relax ka lang kasi. 

[carlos_uno]

Hindi naman siguro ako anoying type of guy..

I do it in a nice way although mas binabawasan ko na exposure kasi baka nga ma over exposed then ill be over.

Sabi nya lang naman hindi pa sya ready and ayaw nya pa ng pressures and all.

kainis.

Pero kaya ko to!

[twinkletown]

^ now na binabawasan mo na ang exposure mo sa kanya...ano reaction niya?

pero, oo, kaya mo yan!

na extra challenged ka lang kasi your courting her the old fashioned way.

[carlos_uno]

wala pa naman syang violent reaction

basta enjoy kami sa company ng isat isat..kanina we were in the mall...sarap nya talagang patawanin.

we keep on going out and thank shes enjoyng it.

Who would thought na nanliligaw ako eh we'r so close na.

So from there..ineenjoy ko n lang. and think that someday she'd be mine...

[twinkletown]

^ yan ganyan nga...enjoy mo lang ang moment...dont let the pressure of having her as your girl get in your way!

[carlos_uno]

yeah i will and ill think na kaya ko to...shes for a keep so im willing to risk for her....

[abbey05]

yup wag mo sya masyado i-pressure. the more na i-pressure mo sya, baka lumayo sya sayo at isipin nya na hindi pa nga kayo, masyado ka nang mapilit. remember, friendship is the best foundation of a serious relationship.

basta prove mo lang sa kanya na serious ka and all. im sure in due time it will all pay off. good luck! =)

[twelve5]

i think pag patient yung guy sa iyo morelikely he is sincere.

may mga guys kasi na fastbreak yung courtship. tipong gusto agad ng sagot in such a short period of time. parang may expiry period.

meron din namang guys na maski abutin ata ng 10 yrs yung courtship, ok lang. hehe

di naman kasi nadadaan sa paspasan yan. dapat ok yung foundation nyo. so you really need time to discover each other.