paano mo malalaman na sincere ang isang guy sa panliligaw sau???

[muahmuahmuah]

yun din gusto ko malaman about courtng in your 30s how different it is. but maybe a new thread would help. pero since shes not of the same age she should be courted bata parin yan whatever experience she may have. and yes to show sincerity kahit making ligaw just shows exaggerated interest.

dude ayan ka ulit nag iisip.  if its getting to the physical aspect youll never know unless talagang suave ang da moves mo to get to the bases or to cover the bases...if you know what i mean....smooth enough not to scare her and not to make a jerk out of yourself. maybe ask the guys.  kasi fromthe looks of it di ka makuntentoo sa ginagawa nyo being together. baka sa kaka madali mo ikaw pa mag ayaw in the middle of it or in the process if you become physical and nag iba ugali nya. di mo masasabi parin.

if talgang windang ka give her 3months or a month to cozy up to you and be comfortable then ask her again to be your girl.

[carlos_uno]

^^maybe ur right in saying na hindi ako nakukuntento sa ginagawa namin. Dun nga dumarating ang point na nag ooverdo na ako.

Dito kasi sa environment ko, at least, i have all the time in the world to court her, i have the resources na rin, unlike before that it was very limited.

Siguro, dahil dun i was trying to compensate whatever i have lost when i was younger, when i was too busy trying to get my profession roll faster while having difficulty reaching into pockets because of limited access to it. Now, at least, its much more easier. Ewan ko ba if it will play on my side or what.

Yun lang naman gusto ko mangyari to easen up [textspeak!] pag iisip ko sa kanya. Pero ang naiisip ko lang solusyon dun is to go out with another, but that i dont want to do anymore. Ayoko nang maging unfair sa kanya.

honestly im confused right now, too much of her makes me forget about other things. Pero im happy. Shes happy too, i think. But i wish i could have make this thing easier if not for my nature of being so much in a hurry, to please her.

And i think ^{i love her na.}

[carlos_uno]

^^nga pala thanks sa lahat ng advices nyo, it helped me a lot. Sometimes, nagiging deciding factor ko rin kasi eh.

Mas madali kasi tanungin ang girls kasi alam nyo saloobin dahil same sex kayo.

Happy ako sa situation ko ngayon with her, although nasa courting stage pa rin kami, at least i am seeing signs na may pag asa ako. Regular naman kasi kami nagkikita, in fact tomorrow, we'r going to church on her invitation.

Slowly but surely im getting there.

A kiss is possible na kaya?

[twinkletown]

alam mo bro, tama si sis muahmuahmuah...your over thinking it nga because you want a more physical interaction...kuya, baka matakot ang bagets...alam mo yun, let her feel how it is to be courted..im sure and utak niyan eh hindi tulad ng mga utak ng ladies who are in their late 20s. eh kahit naman ako (27 na) i also want to be courted the "right" way...pero minsan kasi ako, personally, hindi na naniniwala sa courship na matagal...gets mo? just continue what you are doing, just dont over think and over do it, let it flow...weigh things kung nasan na kayo since the first time you met.

[carlos_uno]

^^Dont worry sis, im not after the physical interaction yet. Tao lang ako pero kaya ko namang mag pigil. if i want that e di sana tinry ko na sana kung papapayag sya since free naman pumunta ako sa house nila anytime.

    im courting her the filipino way. nakakainip pero masaya naman eh.

   Yesterday nga ok na ok eh, kasi all through out our ride, i was holding her hands. KAhit ganun lang masaya na ako.

[twinkletown]

^ eh di that's good! tuloy tuloy mo lang..let her feel the "kilig" of being courted the filipino way...

[riandrew]

another tip: dapat consistent ka. 

[twinkletown]

^ consistency is the key at hindi lang dapat habang nanliligaw ka! even if you already got the answer you've been wanting

[carlos_uno]

Oo nga noh... un yata ang pinakaimportante sa babae. CONSISTENCY.

Pero di ba minsan may thin line ang consistency and pagiging makulit?

[twinkletown]

bro, hindi ah, magkaiba yan...

consistency is an act of doing the same thing with itself at different times...meaning: kung ano ang ginawa mo sa kanya to win her heart, always mo pa din gagawin yun even if there is no special reason behind it. eg. giving flowers (im sure you've given her some) dating kasi pansin lang kapag nagin kayo na complacent ka na...so nawawala yung sweetness at moments na you'll suprise her with a reason na wala lang. ganun. gets mo?

pagiging makulit naman is annoying the person! yun na yun!

[carlos_uno]

ah ok kasi minsan napagpapalit ko ang pagiging consistent sa pagiging makulit. Nature ko kasi ang mangulit, well un ang sabi ng ilang nakasama ko

Un nga ang gusto ko eh, i do things randomly  for her pero un lang baka isipin nya makulit ako...

Pero honestly, ngayon lang ulit ako na excite sa panliligaw, ganun pala ang feeling..its been years! 

Kanina without telling her, i brought nice take out lunch. I drove all the way from the restau to her work and back to my office just to be able to bring the lunch to her. wala lang. randomly.

[twinkletown]

eh di good...

just keep it up...sana gagawin mo yan not only this time around na nanliligaw ka...even if naging kayo na, sana gawin mo pa din yan...because it would show the girl even more na tama ang pag pili niya sayo...consistency is also an assurance kasi, an act of sweetness and care.

[lala006]

Hi there gals and gents, im a man

i just want to know if i have a chance with the lady i'm courting,

 - first i work in call center and she works in a recruitment firm, its saturday and i tried a little job hunt for future oppurtunities, then she was there working at first i didnt pay enough attention because im so focus on the interviews and test, i realize her after i passed all the obstacles but the sad part is she left the office already, i dont know her number and mail,

 the next 4 days i sent sent flowers and chocolates with a card saying" to a gorgeous lady that caught my eyes" with my name and my number on the card,

i waited for next day because it was scheduled after all, then she texted me thank you about the things, then i called her around 8pm, then i've been consistent in texting her every morning and calling her every 8pm, then on the other day i was surprise that day was her bday it was texted to me by one of her office mates, then i took a half day at work then waited for shift then we talk and walk her home, then the routine text every morning and calling her every night just two times a day because i dont want her to think that im annoying, up to present she is still busy but i'll have to adjust on the time, our shift never met once, mine is 6am- 4pm, hers is 8am - 12:30 then 1:30 - 8pm

  so friends, future friends, colleagues you judge if i have a chance i know it will be difficult given the time frame, 

  the next thing that i have in mind is bring her a home made sinigang after she got home

   feel free to reply to this situation gladly appreciated because it just my second time to be serious in a girl, the last time i went all out i was betrayed

if your not online you can contact me at: 09175710966 and you can email any comments at ryu.sylia@gmail.com

thanks and have a productive day ahead
 

[sacred cow]

Hi there gals and gents, im a man

i just want to know if i have a chance with the lady i'm courting,

 - first i work in call center and she works in a recruitment firm, its saturday and i tried a little job hunt for future oppurtunities, then she was there working at first i didnt pay enough attention because im so focus on the interviews and test, i realize her after i passed all the obstacles but the sad part is she left the office already, i dont know her number and mail,

 the next 4 days i sent sent flowers and chocolates with a card saying" to a gorgeous lady that caught my eyes" with my name and my number on the card,

i waited for next day because it was scheduled after all, then she texted me thank you about the things, then i called her around 8pm, then i've been consistent in texting her every morning and calling her every 8pm, then on the other day i was surprise that day was her bday it was texted to me by one of her office mates, then i took a half day at work then waited for shift then we talk and walk her home, then the routine text every morning and calling her every night just two times a day because i dont want her to think that im annoying, up to present she is still busy but i'll have to adjust on the time, our shift never met once, mine is 6am- 4pm, hers is 8am - 12:30 then 1:30 - 8pm

  so friends, future friends, colleagues you judge if i have a chance i know it will be difficult given the time frame, 

  the next thing that i have in mind is bring her a home made sinigang after she got home

   feel free to reply to this situation gladly appreciated because it just my second time to be serious in a girl, the last time i went all out i was betrayed

if your not online you can contact me at: 09175710966 and you can email any comments at ryu.sylia@gmail.com

thanks and have a productive day ahead
 

dude, hinay hinay lang...baka masyado maoverwhelm yung girl...tapos magmumukha kang patay na patay, nakaka-turn off yun...be more of a challenge naman...not her puppy dog on a leash

[lala006]

dude, hinay hinay lang...baka masyado maoverwhelm yung girl...tapos magmumukha kang patay na patay, nakaka-turn off yun...be more of a challenge naman...not her puppy dog on a leash"""""


thanks for the answer bro appreciate it  if the others has comments or suggestions just feel free to do so thanks

[muahmuahmuah]

just wait and see as much as girls want consistency, men can't sustain this-maybe basic-need. don't start what you can't handle doing forever or at the least the longest.

[mooncake and leaves]

my take on consistency: for me, it's incredibly unrealistic and unhealthy for either party to expect that the perks you give and get during the courtship stage will remain during the relationship stage. i think that's why i've always been against the traditional style of courting because with it, the girl becomes a trophy that gets discarded after having been achieved. whereas if you're just plain dating, you both get to see how the other person's like and see for yourself if this is really the kind of person you want to be with. of course, you don't see everything but at least, you're not putting your best foot forward all the time. you have a clearer picture of what's it's going to be like when you're finally bf-gf.

agree though with sacred crow- for the guys doing the courting, it helps to be a bad a$$ once in a while. di naman masama talaga but yeah, don't be at the girl's beck and call all the time. leave a little bit of challenge.

[boracay2862]

  Maybe for me, when he can tell me anything na walang lihim. Even it will hurt me! When he can be a real friend to me first. And when he promise me anything at talagang ginagawa ny'a.  Last of all he could take my flaws! Don ko lang masasabi na sincere sy'a sa akin sa panliligaw! 

[twinkletown]

Hi there gals and gents, im a man

i just want to know if i have a chance with the lady i'm courting,

 - first i work in call center and she works in a recruitment firm, its saturday and i tried a little job hunt for future oppurtunities, then she was there working at first i didnt pay enough attention because im so focus on the interviews and test, i realize her after i passed all the obstacles but the sad part is she left the office already, i dont know her number and mail,

 the next 4 days i sent sent flowers and chocolates with a card saying" to a gorgeous lady that caught my eyes" with my name and my number on the card,

i waited for next day because it was scheduled after all, then she texted me thank you about the things, then i called her around 8pm, then i've been consistent in texting her every morning and calling her every 8pm, then on the other day i was surprise that day was her bday it was texted to me by one of her office mates, then i took a half day at work then waited for shift then we talk and walk her home, then the routine text every morning and calling her every night just two times a day because i dont want her to think that im annoying, up to present she is still busy but i'll have to adjust on the time, our shift never met once, mine is 6am- 4pm, hers is 8am - 12:30 then 1:30 - 8pm

  so friends, future friends, colleagues you judge if i have a chance i know it will be difficult given the time frame, 

  the next thing that i have in mind is bring her a home made sinigang after she got home

   feel free to reply to this situation gladly appreciated because it just my second time to be serious in a girl, the last time i went all out i was betrayed

if your not online you can contact me at: 09175710966 and you can email any comments at ryu.sylia@gmail.com

thanks and have a productive day ahead
 

sobrang aga pa to say things are working out for you...just be consistent..

be a friend. she doesnt know anything about you, and so do you...

[lala006]

thanks
 guys