paano mo malalaman na sincere ang isang guy sa panliligaw sau???

[carlos_uno]

^^ problema is we're living in the opposite side of the globe, and basically wala mga parents namin.

Once ba na pinapasok ang guy ng isang girl sa house nya (she living alone btw), that means maganda ang signal at positive ang panliligaw ko?

What about when i asked her to hold her hands, and she said yes, and i did of course  pwede na rin bang signal un na ang courtship is going smoothly?

I even planned to ask for a kiss sa house nya but since hindi naman kami magka relasyon, i backed off. Mali ba un or pwede ako mag ask?

[twinkletown]

^ bro yung pagpapasok niya sayo sa house niya it doesnt mean a thing, she is just being polite and hospitable sayo...so dont take advantage.

the fact that she let you held her hand, malamang naman.

kiss mo kaya sa cheek muna. as in dampi ng labi mo hindi beso there's a difference. tignan mo reaction..you would feel naman yan eh. technically, pwede naman mag ask kung ganun na kayo ka open sa isat isa..

[carlos_uno]

^^ Yeah ill try that one time.

Its very difficult talaga kung friends kayo sa simula ang then suddenly ma reaize mo na like mo na [textspeak!] girl.

Im still trying to assess myself kasi nga i was too hook with the previous girl in my life that i thought i was just using this girl to forget her. Ayoko ring maging unfair eh.

Pero as ive said, im being sincere naman sa panliligaw ko sa kanya, no hanky panky on the side, and that i am trying to give her the time that she deserve.

Another querry: paano mo malalaman kung ginagamit ka lang ng girl to take advantage of your resources while courtship is on-going?

[akthung]

pagnanligaw pa din pagkatpos matutukan ng baril ni daddy hehe

[vhanya]

kung napanood nyo yung "how to lose a guy in 10 days" gawin nyo yun hahahaha! kung gusto ka pa rin nya after that, aba sagutin mo na!

[twinkletown]

^^ Yeah ill try that one time.

Its very difficult talaga kung friends kayo sa simula ang then suddenly ma reaize mo na like mo na [textspeak!] girl.

Im still trying to assess myself kasi nga i was too hook with the previous girl in my life that i thought i was just using this girl to forget her. Ayoko ring maging unfair eh.

Pero as ive said, im being sincere naman sa panliligaw ko sa kanya, no hanky panky on the side, and that i am trying to give her the time that she deserve.

Another querry: paano mo malalaman kung ginagamit ka lang ng girl to take advantage of your resources while courtship is on-going?

mas ok nga na friends kayo, alam niyo na temperament ng isat isa, tapos pag naging kayo, to the next level na ika-nga..

better do that bro...nice naman for you to admit it that you are stil assessing yourself, baka naaaliw ka lang din kasi sa girl, kawawa naman siya, clean your plate first, remove all doubts bago ka tumuloy sa panliligaw, make sure na sigurado ka na talaga, but if you're saying naman na you are being sincere then go ahead.

madali lang yan bro! pareho na kayong working diba? kapag si gerl ay "bili mo ako" yun na yun! beware! personally kasi ang view ko dyan i work to support myself sa lahat ng luho ko. kung magbibigay ang guy ng gamit, hindi ko hiningi, he gave it to me voluntarily or he asked me kung ano gusto ko. ganun. there is a thin line kasi sa binili for you at sa pinabili, minsan nadadala yan sa lambing eh kaya mukhang hindi nag take advantage hope that answers your question .. sana makatulong

[carlos_uno]

^^ Thanks, im pretty sure hindi naman sya type ng girl na nag tatake advantage ng generosity and kindness ko

Siguro nga in due time (i hope its very soon) malalaman ko rin kung pwede naming dalhin ito into the next level.

IM happy kasi she always allow me to get closer to her. May planned activities na nga kami. Right now, i just want to be her "knight in shining armor"

Im sure i pretty like her too. Nobody in his right mind would want to spend a single minute sa isang tao na hindi mo naman gusto di ba?

[twinkletown]

@ carlos_uno..dont be just the "right now" person to her, be the "right" person to her. im sure you dont want to hurt her feelings after you've been thru with your ex. i may not know your story, but i know that you know how painful it is when somebody breaks your heart. so take care!

[muahmuahmuah]

@carlos the idea alone saying 'it might be a waste of time again' means hindi ka na sincere. we all want love to be reciprocated but nobody wants to pay the price for it regardless of outcome. she maybe thinking the same and shes downplaying you. if she's out there dating, meeting up with guy possible shes not sincere but in the end youll never know unless you force it up on yourself  na this is what you want and shes the one you want.

given she goes out with you and you guys have fun, why not just be upfront and confident maybe declaring that you like her and she likes you  to give it a shot. para magkaron ng konting backbone yung relationship and security. clincher rin kasi  ang need mo to be physical is that the only reason for taking it a level up. another given yun pero if you can sustain all the things you're doing for her now until ummm er magkahiwalay kayo continue but if you plan on ending the consistency after her getting used to it dont start. parang sinanay mo lang sya. discard din the idea of being hurt by an ex, the girl you're dating isn't and wasn't your ex unless you want her to be one already.

but then just being there for her and doing the same things without being antsy, until she intentionally  disses you might be the only way for her to trust you completely and see ow it will all pan out.

[beautifuldreamer]

^^ Thanks, im pretty sure hindi naman sya type ng girl na nag tatake advantage ng generosity and kindness ko

Siguro nga in due time (i hope its very soon) malalaman ko rin kung pwede naming dalhin ito into the next level.

IM happy kasi she always allow me to get closer to her. May planned activities na nga kami. Right now, i just want to be her "knight in shining armor"

Im sure i pretty like her too. Nobody in his right mind would want to spend a single minute sa isang tao na hindi mo naman gusto di ba?

oo naman just take things easy and one step forward at a time...enjoy when you are together and make the best out it...kung minsan basta na pang lumalabas ang kakaibang feeling at a given situation...

pero ensure ka lang naman the coast is clear...

[Happygal]

hayzzz how do you measure nga naman sincerity? you will never know it at the onset of a budding relationship.  You think, this is it na..napamatiyaga, very consistent, funny, smart, always ready to help me...but then what happened? mr. ambivalent shows up...parang green light, red light.  hot then cold, he is into you, he is not into you, he loves me, he loves me not.

I think consistency is the key, not just in the start of the relationship but it should continue...pag hindi na consistent ang behavior then something is wrong na...better address the issue

[carlos_uno]

@ tiwnkletown: Thats why im doing this time slowly but surely. Nakapag tapat na rin naman ako ang im just waiting for her if she would take this thing tothe next lexl or dump me i will never know for sure thats why im asking if im on the right track or not.

@muahmuahmuah: before ako nag tapat sa kanya, i stopped dating other girls. Gusto ko kasi maging honest sa kanya. She's a type of person na hinahanap ko eh: simple. And yeh, tama ka, thats why nagtapat na ako sa kanya last week para at least alam nya na gusto ko sya and i want to take this thing into a more serious kind of relationship. Pero as she said nga, ayaw nya pa nang pressure and she just wants to take this thing slowly. Ewan lang kung eventual meaning din nun eh basted. Although, we go out almost everyday.


@beautifuldreamer: Un nga ang hinihintay ko, [textspeak!] pagkakataon na un. I just dont want to over-do it, minsan sa sobrang gusto ko sa girl naooverdo ko ang panliligaw eh.

@Happygal: Yup, ill be consistent this time around. I dont care if it take a month, or more to court her.

[twinkletown]

^ yeah, so far on the right track ka naman...i think there is no such thing as "over-do" sa panliligaw. yun nga lang, wag ka lang best foot forward, tama si sis happygal, consistency is the key and good for you na tinapat mo na siya, even if you didnt got the answer that you wanted, yet i can sense naman what she said to you was also sincere and a little assurance that there is a possibility of a more serious relationship. goodluck bro!

[carlos_uno]

^^mga sis, im planng to give her either a ring or necklace. alin ang mas maganda ibigay to prove na talagang sincere ako sa kanya.

Gusto ko rin kasi ng proper timing para malaman ko status ng panliligaw ko.

ty.

[twinkletown]

^ personally, its too early for you to give her something that "expensive"

[muahmuahmuah]

yup too early ang atat naman ng dating. relax ka lang unless kung ganyan ka na talaga ka inlove sa kanya.dont put too much energy on planning your steps and motives let it flow.it doesnt matter now kung ano stat ng panliligaw mo importante ata na she responds to you and enjoyin mo lang yun. wag mo pilitin masyado. tingin ko. sya lang makakasagot talaga how she feels about you and nobody else. if its being physical up it a notch see how she responds bwahahaha pero di rin maganda na ganun.

[twinkletown]

^ yes tama ka sis!

@ carlos_uno, i think you need to step on some break fluid here..hold your horses my man! kaya mo siguro sinasabi na you tend to over-do your panliligaw kasi you think about it too much. YES its ok for you to plan things, pero not naman every step, gets mo? let it flow dude and let the course lead you to where is should be. ang mahalaga dito now is your showing your true feelings about her and she responds to that emotions, ma-feel mo naman kasi kung she is just trying to be nice to you dahil nice ka din sa kanya...enjoy mo lang, you are not technically over-doing it, BUT you're over-thinking about it. kung baga, sa pag-sangla ng gamit, you need na agad collateral para sureball ka na...wag ganun...

[muahmuahmuah]

sanglaan talaga eh noh....ito singsing akin na puso mo...if its forever naman why make madali. bwahaha.

[twinkletown]

^ kurik ka sis!

sometimes kasi ang guys, lalu na kapag well off..tingin sa girls material girl...

[carlos_uno]

ahahah... im not well off. I jusy coined the idea kasi i felt it would be a perfect gift for her. Pero syempre, nasa timing nga yun.

Pero tama kayo, hindi ko muna itutuloy ang plano.

Siguro nga po na ooverthink ko un. Feeling ko kasi im too close to her na within grasp na lang pero hindi ko pa rin makuha. Lagi ko na lang iniisip na kelangan ko ng pinoy style ng panliligaw, kasi thats what she deserves after all.

Btw, paano ko ba malalaman kug positive ang responses nya sa akin? I remember 3 months back nung makilala ko sya, she used to call me kuya dahil nalaman nya na mas matanda ako sa kanya and yet recently hindi ko na sya naririning na nag kukuya sa akin. Then as ive said before, she responds positively sa mga invitation ko sa labas plus we go out regularly, me as chaperon sa grocery, church and soon sa pag ja jogging 

Alam nyo sissies, i thought sa age ko na ito (im 30) i should not be courting like this kasi tapos na ako dapat sa ganung era, but then i find it exciting especially kung gusto mo talaga yung girl.