Does marriage counseling help?

[Ann_2128]

Relihiyoso ba yung dialogue nila sa CEFAM?
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Yung nag counsel sa akin, hindi.

[undecided2]

Hi sis ann2128, nag reply ako sa message mo but i dont know kung nag sent.

Hindi pa ako nakapunta sa CEFAM Makati but will try next week para sa schedule. Thanks for the info.

[luckysiete]

Tuwing kelan po ang schedule ng counseling sa Don Bosco Makati? Does anyone have contact numbers?

[Hannyagirl]

Try googling the contact number of cefam makati. Parang may nakita ako before para makapag inquire. Sadly ayaw ni hubby magpamarriage counseling

[naizlabonita]

Try googling the contact number of cefam makati. Parang may nakita ako before para makapag inquire. Sadly ayaw ni hubby magpamarriage counseling

Same.. i tried individual counselling sa sobrang desperate ko na..iniisip ko nun ako yung mali.hay.. anyway..  ayaw din ni partner magpa couples counselling. Hays..

[Hannyagirl]

^kamusta nAman ang individual counseling? Nakatulong ba sayo? Naisip ko na din if possible yan pero sa tingin ko mas kelangan ni hubby more than me. Sya kasi yung di makapag express or open up masyado e. And also i think mas matindi yung guilt na pinagdadaanan nya bec he cheated parang di nya mapatawad sarili nya. I know it sounds ironic since he did cheat pero i know he is also hurting seeing me hurt.

[naizlabonita]

^kamusta nAman ang individual counseling? Nakatulong ba sayo? Naisip ko na din if possible yan pero sa tingin ko mas kelangan ni hubby more than me. Sya kasi yung di makapag express or open up masyado e. And also i think mas matindi yung guilt na pinagdadaanan nya bec he cheated parang di nya mapatawad sarili nya. I know it sounds ironic since he did cheat pero i know he is also hurting seeing me hurt.

medyo nabigyan ako ng other perception at yung mga advise naman nung counsellor is maganda..yun nga lang mas okay daw talaga kung as a couple.. kasi me as coming there for counselling only means that I am the one who wants to fix things and he is only seeing or hearing my side and how about the other side diba?

Buti ka nga medyo mukang my guilt or what yung hubby mo eh yung partner ko parang walang ka remorse remorse.

[Ann_2128]

true sis, dapat 2 talaga kayong pupunta. On going ang marriage counselling namin ni husband.. so far may improvement na relationship namin especially sa communication..  may mga realization kami.. feeling ko nga nagpre-premarriage counselling kami. back to getting to know each other

[luckysiete]

Ask ko lang sa mga nakapag counseling na sa RMT-CEFAM. Magkano ba dapat ibigay/donate?

Salamat sa mga sasagot.

[Ann_2128]

donation lang sya Sis..its up tp you kung magakno ang kaya mong ibigay

[jenskie]

I had my counseling sa CEFAM last week sa Don bosco Makati... with Ms. Vicky Cantada, so far ok naman. Pero 1 hour kulang talaga.. kasi sa first part ng story telling ko iyak ako ng iyak. Pero at the end of our session, sabi nya na, if we want our marriage to work out, kelangan kaming dalawa ng hubby ko magpacounseling. Kaya lang hindi sya ooen dun. I tried to tell him as well, and he refused. Kaya ako ito, hindi ko malaman gagawain, i'm almost giving up. I'm planning to have another session with Ms. Cantada.. kaya lang weekdays lang sya.. meron Saturday schedule kaya [textspeak!] 9 to 12nn lang. Saka mag-sisimula na naman ako ng story ko.

[naizlabonita]

I had my counseling sa CEFAM last week sa Don bosco Makati... with Ms. Vicky Cantada, so far ok naman. Pero 1 hour kulang talaga.. kasi sa first part ng story telling ko iyak ako ng iyak. Pero at the end of our session, sabi nya na, if we want our marriage to work out, kelangan kaming dalawa ng hubby ko magpacounseling. Kaya lang hindi sya ooen dun. I tried to tell him as well, and he refused. Kaya ako ito, hindi ko malaman gagawain, i'm almost giving up. I'm planning to have another session with Ms. Cantada.. kaya lang weekdays lang sya.. meron Saturday schedule kaya [textspeak!] 9 to 12nn lang. Saka mag-sisimula na naman ako ng story ko.

Same sakin nuon sis si Nathan Chua sa may QC. Iyak ako ng iyak nagkwekwento palang ako eh bitin yung 1hr talaga and same din ng sinabi sakin mas advisable na couples yung magpunta to talk about what happened and yung action plans nyo. Sabi sakin ni Nathan Cruz..me coming there for counselling only means that I am the only one who wants to fix the relationship parang ganun.

[Girltalker2]

I remember I was able to convince my ex to come. Pero once lang nangyari.

Di din naman nakatulong. I eventually gave up and ended our marriage. But it took me 10 years to realise.

Ito lesson learned para sakin - if the guy is unwilling to make an effort to make the marriage work, it will never work. You will just keep on hoping hanggang sa mapagod ka or malosyang ka lang.

[Hannyagirl]

Ito lesson learned para sakin - if the guy is unwilling to make an effort to make the marriage work, it will never work. You will just keep on hoping hanggang sa mapagod ka or malosyang ka lang.

Thanks sis girltalker2. Parang ganyan ako ngayon e. Wag naman sana ako malosyang. Hehe pero im still giving it a chance or waiting for what will happen next. Pero no more expectations. Im just waiting for things to unfold if wala na talaga.

[Girltalker2]

^ it happened to me kasi. And 10 years wala naman nangyari. So I realised nasayang oras ko instead of moving on. So just sharing na sana you guys can find happiness and more meaning in life if you can find the right lifetime partner for you. I found mine 40 nako, pero had I known earlier, Mas mahaba pa sana ang mas masasayang years at nabawasan sana yung agonising years ko with my ex. Kaso that's water under the bridge. Just hoping for other women out there, to have the right wisdom and courage when to move on and when to wait. Just don't make waiting forever. Otherwise parang nag decide ka narin to accept a lifetime of misery.

[SirChief]

Waiting is good, rather than finding a lousy partner..
"Time is fast when your happy. Time is slow when your miserable"  So girls and woman out there i think its best to wait forever, don't be to sentimental and don't let dreams turn into dreams..  cheers!

[undecided2]

Hi, i also went there sa CEFAM Makati. Magpapa schedule sana ako pero wala ng slot that time na nagpunta ako. And pareho din ng ibang mga sissies naten ako lang din ang willing magpa counselling. Alam ko naman ayaw ni hubby. May nauna na akong counselling sa church din actually 2 magkaibang priest pa yon nag talk sa akin. Kasama na din ang confession. Yon din advise if willing si hubby magpa counselling isama ko. But siyempre ayaw naman. Im planning to continue pa my counselling sa CEFAM na ako magpapa schedule. I think hindinpa talaga ako okay although si hubby my mga efforts din naman but for me not enough. Casual lang ako always sa kanya. Minsan pag nasa mood okay ako pero madalas cold. Honestly, naguguluhan pa din ako if ipaglalaban ko ba or hindi na.

[anne071379]

I remember I was able to convince my ex to come. Pero once lang nangyari.

Di din naman nakatulong. I eventually gave up and ended our marriage. But it took me 10 years to realise.

Ito lesson learned para sakin - if the guy is unwilling to make an effort to make the marriage work, it will never work. You will just keep on hoping hanggang sa mapagod ka or malosyang ka lang.

Natakot naman ako sa sinabi mo sis. Going 12 years na kaming married ng husband ko and we've been through rough roads. He is so unwilling magpacounselling. Yung Marriage Encounter nga lang na gusto ko sana mag-attend kami nung May pinag-awayan pa namin. Ilang beses na din kaming muntik ng maghiwalay. Feeling ko ako lang ang naghahanap ng solution sa problem namin. I wanted to give up kaso we have 2 kids. Pero yung issues namin same pa din, hindi naman naaayos maski ilang beses na naming pinag-usapan. Problem din sa kanya maski pag-usapan ngayon bukas balik na nman sya sa dati kaya tama ka nga siguro....walang mangbabago. Pero hindi ako magpapakalosyang.

[cupcakejane]

Thanks sis girltalker2. Parang ganyan ako ngayon e. Wag naman sana ako malosyang. Hehe pero im still giving it a chance or waiting for what will happen next. Pero no more expectations. Im just waiting for things to unfold if wala na talaga.

I went to cefam in ateneo once and walang nangyari.  The moment he heard i want him gone, he didn't convince me to stay.  I went to a therapist with my husband, and i didn't continue narin.  We are working on our annulment now.

[Girltalker2]

Waiting is good, rather than finding a lousy partner..
"Time is fast when your happy. Time is slow when your miserable"  So girls and woman out there i think its best to wait forever, don't be to sentimental and don't let dreams turn into dreams..  cheers!

Waiting nang walang sakit sa ulo is good. Pero Kung Meron ka ba namang katabi sa araw araw na ginawa ng Diyos eh walang iniisip kundi sarili lang nya and treats you like trash. Aba you really have to stand up for yourself. And waiting for the longest time in these situation is never good.