Falling for a much Older Guy!

[yeyen]

omg. i was backreading this thread desperately trying to find a GTalker na same ang situation sa akin. wala akong makita! =( ako yata ang may pinakamalaking age gap sa atin. the guy i'm dating is 23 years older than me. yikes!

i'm worried that if my family finds out they would freak out. i have never in my life imagined myself falling for someone that old. i have a friend who was really into older guys and i would often tease her about her romantic preference.

in fairness, Rick doesn't even look over 35. nung una ko siyang nakita akala ko he was 30-32. i was like, pwede pa rin. but since he's a decade older than my older kuya (31 yrs old) i'm worried my family might take it wrong and think i'm being taken advantage of.

he's super sweet naman. he makes an effort to really try to do things i'm pretty sure someone from his generation will not enjoy. like watching the simpsons because he knows that's my favorite tv show.

ewan ko. i don't know how this would work out. i just wanted to know kung meron ding may mga sissies tayo na nasa ganitong situation din.

well...hindi tayo sobrang pareho sis kasi hindi naman naging kami nung guy pero we dated...he is 27 years older than me...pero infairness hindi halata...

family ko din yong naisip ko kaya hindi ko na pinagpatuloy pa ang pakikipagkita at pakikipagcommunicate sa kanya..
matanda lang kasi ng 6years yong tatay ko sa kanya...

[angelspawn]

marami talagang pwedeng maging issues pag much older ang naging partner natin. however, if it's meant to be... it's meant to be.

i am also attracted to older guys... as in gusto ko before almost 10 years ang gap. or at least 7 years ang age gap namin. my special friend is 10 years older than me. pero si boyfie, ka-age ko lang...

reason for break up with the other guys: my family and his family... ayaw ng family nya sa kin and my father wants me to have a bf after i graduated from college. ang hirap nun diba? aside from that, immature pa ko masyado that time kaya hindi din nagwork relationship namin.

[yeyen]

marami talagang pwedeng maging issues pag much older ang naging partner natin. however, if it's meant to be... it's meant to be.

i am also attracted to older guys... as in gusto ko before almost 10 years ang gap. or at least 7 years ang age gap namin. my special friend is 10 years older than me. pero si boyfie, ka-age ko lang...

reason for break up with the other guys: my family and his family... ayaw ng family nya sa kin and my father wants me to have a bf after i graduated from college. ang hirap nun diba? aside from that, immature pa ko masyado that time kaya hindi din nagwork relationship namin.

madami talagang issues...
sa nanay ko na lang pati hindi pwede ang ganun..
kung [textspeak!]-anong kanegahan naiisip nya agad eh...

[angelspawn]

correct... unang una na sis yung, syempre matured na yan. iba ang needs nya. haler?! lahat naman ng tao may needs, kahit bata or much older sayo di ba?

isa pa yung parang tatay mo na yan... or tito mo... or sa iba, parang lolo mo na yan... hay naku...

[yeyen]

correct... unang una na sis yung, syempre matured na yan. iba ang needs nya. haler?! lahat naman ng tao may needs, kahit bata or much older sayo di ba?

isa pa yung parang tatay mo na yan... or tito mo... or sa iba, parang lolo mo na yan... hay naku...

yeah..tama ka sis..needs kaagad yong issue..
kesyo baka pati daw magtake advantage kasi nga naman
bata pa ako...
ayy naku..kaya yon,para wala ng masabi pa i stopped seeing that guy na pero still older pa rin sa akin yong gusto ko...
hindi na nga lang tulad nung halos kaedad na ng tatay ko
for sure kasi hindi yon approve sa nanay ko eh at sa mga relatives ko...

[jaymilu_620]

We have all the same scenarios.. Me nagustuhan ako before and his 13 years older dan me.. Well maganda lang with this is nababy ka..but pipiliin mo din kung mga cradle snatcher sila..sakin naman we don't end up to become couples but a really good friends..he gives advices and gives me a hint din sa mga ugali ng boys hehe..right now ahead pa din yung h2b ko kaso he look like so older dan me... Kaya minsan nakakaoffend sasabihan ka nagmumukha ka ng anak niya nyan..but I don't mind them kasi I'm happy being with him and I want him to stay with me as long as I live.. Nakakasakit lang na for some akala ok lang manlait but masakit infairness..so ngayon di na ko affected kase he proven his worth siya naman makakasama ko di yung ibang tao..I fought for our relationship with my family and nakita naman nila yung sincerity sa tao..yun nga lang our partners must give an extra effort to prove their intentions para mawala yung doubtness ng ating pamilya..basta advice ko lang be happy kung yun ang preference niyo in choosing the love...for me kasi I'm not comfy sa ka age ko malayo pa yung maturity with them..I'm 24 and yung ka age ko nasa peak pa ng happy go lucky thing.

[cruelgirl]

I'm currently dating a guy who is 15 years older. Although maganda yung katawan niya (mas maliit pa stomach niya kesa sakin) medyo receding na ang hairline lol. So far, yun lang yung ayoko sa amin. But I like the fact that he is very much stable and mature. Saka I think older men tend to become more faithful. Nakakainis lang lagi siyang busy sa work but I understand naman how demanding his role is.

[sweetubeng]

count me in- i love older guys. we should start an "older guy fanatics" club or something like that. bf is 16 years older and compared to boys my age, well, he's just so much better. first, he's not an idiot. second, love handles and all, he's just much sexier. more manly. third, i agree- because he's older, he has this tendency to be protective. he knows more so i can always go to him for advice, whatever it is. mapa-career, pera, family, etc. i don't think i can ever get together with a younger guy. i've met only a handful of guys my age i can talk to and be comfortable with and these are all incredibly platonic relationships.

basta younger guys- di nakaka-arouse. older guys rule. younger guys suck. bwaha joke.

same here sis! ide prefer older guys than being with guys my age, di kami makapag jive sa mga ideas, kumbaga yong level of thingking is different from the guys na ka age ko lang or younger than me.. mostly talaga lahat ng nakilala ko naging suitor at naging bf, wala talaga, dun talaga kami nagkakaiba, it's like siguro mas naging matured lang ako kesa sa kanila,..so mas dun ako sa older guys kasi mas stable sila sa lahat ng aspect and they knows how to pamper and treat you as a princess and i like those things at ayaw ko ng pasaway din na guy na katulad ko..gusto ko ako lang pasaway tapos [textspeak!] older guy he can understand my moods and everyhting and im lucky kasi i found that person..Thank God

[o_O]

sa panahon ngayon, meron ba nagkakatuluyan until marriage pag malaki ang age gap? like 12 years? kasi oo, nung panahon ng parents natin, uso yung malaki ang age gap...pero sa panahon natin ngayon, meron pa ba nauuwi talaga sa kasal? and most importantly, nagtatagal ba yung marriage? 

[angelspawn]

guy bestfriend ko ngayon, 12 years older sa kin. we ended up being best of friends na lang kasi i have a bf & may family na din sya... aminin ko, before sya nagkafamily, we dated & kung hindi sya biglang nawala before, baka kami nun ngayon... oh well... ganun talaga. at least, we stayed very good friends.

[twinkletown]

^ silver lining na din yan sis....

i used to date one..masaya, pampered ako..reyna lang ang dating ko...kaso uber possesive naman...nasakal ako. kumalas ako.

[-happycamper-]

My firs love is 8 years older than me. Nagstart palang ako then sya ready to settle down (tho di naging kami talaga). Pero I fell deeply in-love with him. My theory is mas matagal mag mature ang mga guys kaya kahit they are way older than us nakakarelate pa din tayo sa kanila.

[babyjapnurse01]

di naman much older, a lil older lang, wala naman sa age yun.

[angelspawn]

^ silver lining na din yan sis....

i used to date one..masaya, pampered ako..reyna lang ang dating ko...kaso uber possesive naman...nasakal ako. kumalas ako.

oo nga sis, silver lining na din yun...

wala pa naman akong na-encounter na nagiging possesive. siguro yung nagiging kasing strict lang ng father ko. o kaya yung mas conservative pa sa lolo ko. meron akong na-experience na super old-fashioned & conservative. pero 8 years older lang sya sa kin ah... kahit manood kami ng sine, hindi nya hahawakan kamay ko. pag mag goodnight kiss sya, kiss nya lang ako sa forehead --- for some, it showed he respects me so much, pero sa ibang friends ko, feeling daw nila ginawa nya akong lola. hahaha

[autumn_lal]

A cuz of mine aged 19 married a 51 year old guy..i was thinking then..hmmm, ano kaya itatawag ko dito Para naman kadiri kung tatawagin ko lang sa first name nia, para wala kong respeto ke lolo

Not sure if that was love, siguro for convinience na rin coz they were in the pit of financial problem then...oh well...what's love got to do with it?

[twinkletown]

oo nga sis, silver lining na din yun...

wala pa naman akong na-encounter na nagiging possesive. siguro yung nagiging kasing strict lang ng father ko. o kaya yung mas conservative pa sa lolo ko. meron akong na-experience na super old-fashioned & conservative. pero 8 years older lang sya sa kin ah... kahit manood kami ng sine, hindi nya hahawakan kamay ko. pag mag goodnight kiss sya, kiss nya lang ako sa forehead --- for some, it showed he respects me so much, pero sa ibang friends ko, feeling daw nila ginawa nya akong lola. LOL

kiss sa noo! LOLA nga..lol..mine was 10yrs older..super strict din, as he wants my time devoted to him...eh at the start of our rship, i was just graduating from college...so i want to explore the world and its possibilities diba? dyosko! hindi ako makapag party! kaloka! pati pananamit ko pinakikialaman...

[riandrew]

my definition of "much older" is 8 years and beyond.

my bf is 4 years older. doesnt really matter kasi same level ang interests and hobbies namin. advantage pa nga kasi he's more committed and mature.

pero you still cant be sure. I have a friend, her bf is 12 years older. 1 week after nagpropose agad ng kasal. sino nasa matinong pag-iisip ang magpropose after a week?! after 3 months pinagpalit siya sa ibang girl. all the while she thought pag 35 years old na, di na magloloko ang lalaki... mali pala.

[riandrew]

A cuz of mine aged 19 married a 51 year old guy..

seriously?! 

[daydreamer]

ako rin, i'm attracted to a 33 year old guy and i'm 25. di ko rin maexplain why one day, bigla ko na lang siya nagustuhan...but the thing is he doesn't know about it...

While backreading, I've realized that its almost a year na pala...and yes, I'm still attracted to the same guy and STILL he doesn't have any slightest idea about... (well I think?!)

[o_O]

there's this guy 12 yrs older than me na parang nagpapakita ng signs that he likes me but natatakot ako coz of the age gap..first time ever ko magkaron ng "suitor" if ever na ganon katanda...pero i cant help myself from thinking na baka pag siya, e stable ang future ko since he's stable na VS my other suitor who is younger than me, nasa same stage lang kami ng life (ie walang ipon..ganon)...pero a friend also told me, ok lang yan pag ganito palang, prinsesa ka and lahat ng gusto mo bibigay, e pano pag nagkasakit na siya at una tumanda malamang, ikaw na magaalaga sa kanya... 

hayy!