Kaya mo bang walang katulong/driver (househelp)

[snooky]

Kayang-kaya!

my helper is more of a luxury than a need.

[web147]

yes kaya ko, kc mas malinis naman ako magtrabaho compared sa mga kasambahay namin dati. extra gastos lang sila. halos palpak mga nakukuha ko, kung hindi sobrang takaw sobrang tamad.

[design21]

hindi ko ata kaya kasi pro active si yaya. hindi mo na kelangan pa sabihan at turuan may kusa. mahirap na ata makakita pa ng ganitong klasing yaya ngayun.

[aiden]

We don't have a househelp. Natatakot kasi ako. Ang hirap nagtiwala kasi madalas wala kami sa bahay. Lalo lang ako kakabahan away from the house.

Medyo nakaka-drain nga mag-maintain ng house kapag walang helper lalo pa that I am a working student. Nakakainis pa kay hubby, madaming wires and computer parts naka-kalat. Pack rat pa. Tapos parang ahas iniiwan damit kung saan-saan. So kapag bad trip ako, hindi ako umuuwi sa bahay namin until hindi niya nililinis kalat niya. bwahaha!

[mikelly]

Kayang-kaya!

my helper is more of a luxury than a need.

oo nga, gastos lang sila then hindi naman accurate sa bahay!!!

how do u handle let's say if you have work and you have a kid the wala kang helper?

[LovingWife]

Pa-join dito sa thread.
Nangyari kasi sa kin last week, nagkasakit si Yaya, and ako nagwork ako, buti nalang day shift ako last week, so I imagine myself na wala na rin ako yaya, minsan I do anticipate na di na siya darating, kasi it's possible.

Anyway, more on how to multi-task and not waste anytime para kay baby, from laundry to cleaning the bottles to baby's bath, lahat ako gumawa, kasi si Hubby may work din, at the same time, I also asked help from my siblings, na avaialble to take care of my baby while I'm at work, effective naman, then after work, kunin si baby, then uwi na kami sa bahay.

Hirap but then challenging din sa part ko, because I really wanted to experience it too, dahil ayaw ko ako din mahirapan in the future.

[genivy21]

kaya pala. i have a 6yrs, 5 yrs, 2 yrs and 2 months old. would you believe kaya pala?! lol

eto kasing maid ko e menor de edad, kinuha ng nanay. di na makaintay ng kapalit. fine! kala nila papahostage ako ha! pero sabi ko balikan nila sweldo niya kasi di naman ura urada e magpapadala ang asawa ko ng sweldo niya. makaganti kahit konti hmpf!

buti na lang tom dadating na ang kapalit hehe... 4 days din ang kalbaryo ko!

[kitty07]

Ako din, about a month ago, Sunday nun, biglang dumating yung nanay and isinama that very day yung yaya ko, dahil pagaaralin daw ng tyahin nya the next day!  Nakiusap nga ako kahit a week to find a replacement kasi I have work at home and kalikutan pa ng anak ko, almost 2 1/2 yrs old. Di daw pwede kasi dadalin nya agad sa cavite and di daw papayag yung tyahin nya, duh..They promised me before ko ulit sya kinuha na until next year sya sa akin dahil 2nd sem pa daw sya papasok.  Anyways, first day hirap talaga pero as the day goes by nakakaya namin ni hubby.  Good thing hubby goes to work around 10 or 11 am, and work ko naman at home is morning in front of the computer kaya what I do start ako early, around 6:00 am, take a bath then work na while tulog pa si baby.  Hubby wakes up early rin to sometimes do the laundry, wash the dishes, sterilize.. and paggising na si baby sya muna bantay.  Pag time na to feed my son, stop muna ako magwork, feed ko si baby, give vitamins, give him a bath, then lagay ko sa playpen o let him play sa room while I'm working then si hubby ligpit ng things, take a bath then go to work na.  Around 1 pm finish na ko sa work, prepare ko naman si baby to sleep.  Pag sleep na si baby, I go down to eat lunch.  Pag gising na, we go down na, let him play or watch while i do chores like handwashing my son's clothes or sterilize ng bottles if di pa nagawa ni hubby.  Dun namin nakita ni hubby kaya pala although mahirap and nakakapagod like pag weekends din, instead na pahinga, major labahan and cleaning ng house. Matetrain ka talaga to multitask.  Pati paliligo with my kid sa gabi kaya ko pala, haha. Pero now parang ayaw ko na nga rin magkaron muna ng kasambay full time.  We have somebody now who goes here to clean the house and do the laundry 3x a week and okay na muna ako don.  Parang ayoko na rin muna ng may kasama almost 24/7 na ibang tao sa bahay.  Para ngang nadala na ako.  So far ok pa naman.. Siguro saka na lang ulit ako kukuha ng full-time/stay-in na yaya/maid.  Sorry, haba.  Just want to share na kaya pala lalo na if nagtutulungan.

[mango]

ako wala rin for 3months na ang hirap kasi ng nakuha araw araw ng gawain gusto iuutos pa rin naku kakawindang, tamad pero sa pagkain masipag hehe okey naman na matakaw basta masipag kaso tamad talaga...

[Kim]

Kaya ko pala ng walang maid. 'Yung last maid ko na almost 5 years sa amin ay inencourage kong mag-college para naman mas maganda future niya. Mabait naman kasi at masipag, saka may utak talaga kaya pinauwi ko muna sa province niya para mag-aral. Unfortunately, hindi na ako nakahanap nang matinong maid after her.

When I started doing the household chores myself, hindi naman pala ganun kahirap. In fact, mas maayos at malinis pa nga ako magtrabaho. Plus, may peace of mind na walang magnanakaw ng gamit, at wala ring worry na hindi nasusunod ang pinapagawa ko. Mas naka-save pa 'ko.   

[health.gal]

living alone at my flat, so kaya ko na walang maid, basta may taga agency na mag gegeneral cleaning once a month

[babymom20]

when i was single, i dont need any help..i lived alone for several years on my small studio type apartment. but now na may baby na, i think i can if im a housewife..but since i go to office everyday, its kinda impossible surviving without any help..kahit yaya lang for my baby.

i can live without a driver. ok lang mag commute.

[ceejhei]

^mommies, if you have a 1 year and 7 months old baby. how are you going to handle that? working ka din at the same time. Parang ayaw ko na mag yaya, bukod sa gastos lang sila, eh nanakawan ka pa at sakit pa ng ulo. hay. malayo ang mom ko sakin so i can't ask her to look after my baby. hubby works at night.

[babymom20]

^ hmm..mahirap po talaga ang walang yaya pag both parents are working. but since ayaw mo na magyaya at malayo si mom mo.. baka pwede na si mom or mil mo na lang ang pumunta at dyan sya sainyo mag stay for good. or kung ayaw nya, you may consider na si baby mo ang dalhin sa mom mo at bisitahin nyo na lang sya lagi dun. or kung siguro merong mga day care na tumatanggap na ng ganung edad, baka pwede yun. daanan na lang si baby pag uwi.

mga cousins ko kasi ganun ginagawa. pag manganganak na, uuwi ng province then paglabas ng bata, iiwanan sa parents at balik sila sa work nila.

nung nawalan ako ng yaya, si mom ko muna nag-alaga sa 9months old ko nun..one month sya alaga. then after a month wala pa rin akong nagugustuhang yaya, si sister ko naman ang kumuha ng one month leave sa hospital na pinapasukan nya sa province. volunteer nurse pa lang naman sya kaya ok lang daw yun na matagal. nung malapit ng matapos ang leave nya at wala pa ring pumapasang yaya, si mom ko panay tawag na,gusto iuwi daw si baby sa province at dun marami daw silang mag-aalaga. ayaw ko naman. hindi ko yata kayang malayo si baby sakin. nagtanong na ako ng possible leaves na pwede kong magamit sa office para in case ako naman ang magleave. fortunately, one week before umuwi ang sis ko e meron ng yaya.

i understand mahirap talaga iwanan ang baby natin sa wala tayong tiwala. maraming nirekomenda sakin nun na yaya.pero i prefer na walang yaya kesa sa hindi ako tiwala. meron nga na isang araw lang samin then nakita kong hindi ok, e pinauwi ko sa province the following day. meron naman, nasa terminal na sya ng bus papunta samin, pero nung pagtawag ko parang hindi ko nagustuhan yung pagsagot sakin, hayun, sabi ko wag ng tumuloy. lugi nga lang ako sa advance nila pero ganun daw talaga, trial and error. mas mahirap kung titiisin ko yung yaya tapos baka mas may magawa syang hindi maganda sa baby ko, naku! baka may makulong sa aming dalawa hahaha

[ceejhei]

^wala na akong MIL sis, and my mom alaga na ang kapatid ng kuya ko. sobrang hirap talaga. siguro ang chance ko nalang eh kapag nagaaral na siya. tiis nalang muna ako siguro. mahirap din ilayo si baby kasi si hubby parang nababaliw kapag malayo ang anak namin eh.

thanks sa mga advices mo ha? sana kayanin ko din yan.

[val]

It's been a month na wala akong maid. Fired two maids after two weeks and the other one  after almost two months living with us. So parang, I want to take a break from hiring one if they will just turn out to be a nightmare. I want to give myself ample time to really find a good one.

How do I survive as a "Cinderella"?

1. I work at home as a freelance writer. So it's never a problem when I don't have a maid or maid has to go out like emergencies. I can take care of the kids.

2. I wake up earlier than my kids - 3 yrs old and 3 months old. This is my mom's main advice and it's true. If you wake up the same time with the kiddos, it's hard to clean the house or cook. At least when they are awake, breakfast is ready and I already had my coffee. Kids want to be taken care of upon waking up right? So I can avoid having a cranking child.

3. Delegate.

-I ask my 3 yr old to "watch" for his baby brother like moving with the rattle when baby cries or pushing the stroller back and forth. My toddler likes it coz, it's like playing and I'm also training him to do some tasks.

- My son is trained to clean his own mess. This way, he also minimizes making "kalat" because he knows, he is the one who has to do the cleaning. He is also trained to return his toys to his big box after playing. I love seeing my son doing things on his own like changing since I don't want my child to be an inutile.

- During weekends, my hubby offers to wash the dishes and even iron our clothes. I find it cute seeing my husband who is a manager for a pharma company doing chores :-). When he is home, he takes a bath with my toddler or goes for a walk my the two kids.


4. Outsource

- if I'm really busy, tired or lazy (lol), I send some of our laundry outside to be washed. Jeans, pants, sheets, etc. The small pieces like my baby's nappies, I can wash them myself.

- my helper for two years who left to become a full time student comes to our house whenever she is free. So she can wash or even cook. Sometimes, she stay overnight to clean, wash and iron the clothes.

- When I'm busy to cook and when hubby is out of town, I just buy food or cook those easy to prepare meals. This way, I don't have to spend to much time cooking.

5. Discourage visitors

Another advice from my mom. This doesn't mean that you have to live like a hermit but I discourage them during my "working hours", hehe. This is during mornings when neighbors just want to make chismis. And we live in a townhomes area, no gates. So I close our windows and doors while I'm cleaning and let my son play upstairs.


It is tiring but if I will be given a maid that does mediocre work plus with personality issues, no thanks. Mornings are really busy but after lunchtime, I'm done with all the house work. I'm pretty used to this since there are really times that I let my maids go home like during Christmas.

[ceejhei]

^good job sis Val. i am hoping that one day i can let my maid go and do the chores by myself. That's one good thing about working from home. You have your own freedom.

[liyapot]

kaya ko na walang yaya kung hinde ako magta-trabaho..

[notsoforestfruit]

i can without a maid. its all about time management.

[ceejhei]

kaya ko na walang yaya kung hinde ako magta-trabaho..

ako din sis. pero parang may problema ako, gusto na talagang i-let go si maid kaso walang mag aalaga sa baby ko.