Kaya mo bang walang katulong/driver (househelp)

[fibia]

me hindi ko kaya ng walang  yaya.

wala akong stay-in driver pero may assigned driver sa anak ko hatid sundo from school etc. pero ang sarap ng may driver, hindi ko na problema ang parking! sa totoo lang nakakaimbyerna ang magdrive - kalaban mo ang mga jeep, bus,  tricycle, etc. - tapos ang hirap pa maghanap ng parking

[artegirl]

It's been 4 weekends na no helper ako.  On my first weekend I posted that I will die without a helper.  Hmmm, I think I'll actually live =D  I'm actually learning how to clean the house!  Before kasi I dont have to train my cleaning lady since  na-train na sya ng mom ko.  so yung house namin, parang extension lang ng house ng mom ko - everything gets done kahit hindi ko inutos.  I remember, pag tinatanong ako ni husband kung saan ginagamit yung different cleaning materials, hindi ko masagot ng maayos. 

I know I still have a long way to go - sakit talaga ng whole body ko after cleaning the whole house pag Saturday.  and feeling ko, ang bagal ko (I usually start around 9 am, and end around 4 pm).  But I know nasa learning curve pa kasi ako.  Someday ma-master ko rin ang domestic chores.  Sinasabi ko na lang sa husband ko (pag nagcomplain sya sa chores) and my mom (pag sinasabihan ako na I need a cleaning lady) na bakit ba yung average American wala naman helper.  If they can do it, kaya ko din. 

[douxmadchen]

Sa tingin ko hindi ko kaya. Lumaki na kasi kaming magkakapatid na may mga katulong kahit pa nandito naman parents namin. Minsan nga, kahit may natirang isang katulong, hirap na hirap na kami. Tapos sa tuwing wala na ni isa, grabe, sira lahat ng daily routine naming pamilya. 

As for having a driver, ok lang naman. Mama ko lang naman ang may kelangan, and kung wala naman, she takes taxi. Driver namin dad ko. Haha. 

[mommy_me]

^sis, why not bring your laundry to the laundry shop?  that's what I do.  kahit na with washing machine, I cannot do our laundry myself since I'm working.  and 2 lang kami ni husband.  so I can just imagine kung gaano kadami labahin mo considering you have kids.  for the pressing, pili lang pina-press ko sa laundry since press is so expensive.  strictly office clothes lang.  yung mga shirts and jeans (weekend get up), hindi na pinaplantsa.  we just hang them immediately pagkakuha sa laundry para wag masyado lukot.

oo sis nagpalaba ako.... oh my gulay mag-1 buwan na akong walang HH....

[val]

I finally got a new maid...after 5 months!! can you believe that! hay naku, finally I can have my hands manicured! hehee.

I just realized na grabe ang tagal ko palang na losyang. hahaha. pero nakaya ko talaga. along the way, you can have routines na to finish all tasks...

[bluemargarita]

its just me and my hubby..wala kaming helpers we're doing ok naman. scheduling lang ng chores.

i dont know if it will still work that way if we have a baby na

[val]

ay, I spoke too soon. Wala na naman akong helper. I got one last Monday after having no maid for 5 months. Masakit daw likod niya. Then she texted her ate ( who referred her to me kasi she is my friend's maid) na kaya masakit likod niya kasi pinaglaba ko daw siya nag major major! Gosh, I have my own labandera and she never washed a single cloth in my house!

I dunno if this is still relevant to this thread..basta, back to maid naman ako. okey lang, 5 months na akong walang maid ( and counting) so I have my own routines na to juggle household chores,the kids, hubby and my freelancing job..whew!

[mishmish]

If we live in a smaller place baka kaya ko pa... usually 2 helpers dito sa house, but right now, i only have 1 helper (labandera) pero she helps wash the dishes, look after my kid when i'm cooking, she also cleans the ground floor... yung isa umalis na, kaya maid-hunting again huhuhu

[artegirl]

I can now confidently say YES, kaya ko walang helper.  It's almost 2 months now since umalis helper ko, and I survived.  Nung umpisa, sobrang hirap talaga ko - I'm cleaning the house whole day of Sat; pag dating ng Sun as in sobrang sakit buong katawan kailangan ko magpa-massage.  Ngayon hindi na.  kaya na.  I can even cook a simple lunch (like nilaga) while doing house cleaning pag Sat.  malayo na naabot ko sa learning curve! 

[mooncake and leaves]

In my case, I think baka ikamatay ko pa sa high blood ang household help harhar. Ayoko talaga na may ibang tao sa bahay eh. And I have a friend who's a single mom for 8 years now, who works full time tapos may sideline pa and wala siyang yaya o driver. Lahat siya. So in my mind, if she can be a supermom, eh I have no excuse for not being one.

[ravena]

kapag matagal nasanay na walang helper hindi ko na hinahanap.

[sweety_paige]

I can now confidently say YES, kaya ko walang helper.  It's almost 2 months now since umalis helper ko, and I survived.  Nung umpisa, sobrang hirap talaga ko - I'm cleaning the house whole day of Sat; pag dating ng Sun as in sobrang sakit buong katawan kailangan ko magpa-massage.  Ngayon hindi na.  kaya na.  I can even cook a simple lunch (like nilaga) while doing house cleaning pag Sat.  malayo na naabot ko sa learning curve! 

So true... pag nakasanayan mo na kaya naman pala natin na walang helper. 

[val]

Agree sis! I survived having no househelp for 6 months. imagine that! I just got a maid, 2 weeks na. 2 weeks is pasado na sa akin kasi if I dont like your work specifically the attitude, I can always kick you out of my house..hehe

[ana mimi]

tama... kapag nakasanayan, keri na yan..

unless nalang talaga kung 10 ang anak mo at puro bata pa.. pahirap sa laundry and other chores!

[genericme]

Kaya ko for maybe a week or two...maybe three. After that medyo nagpapanic na ako. haha. Pag nasanay ka rin kasi na may helper/s lagi, mahirap talaga ang mawalan.

[garnet23]

so far kinakaya. . .after resigning from work 3 years ago. And that with 3 kids ages 6,4 and 2. Although very hard, doing everything, bringing all of them along whenever i need to do some errands out of the house (groceries, visits to pedia . . ., even during nearby trips to the sari-sari store 3 houses away) hubby helps out when he is home (dead tired after work). But with the prospect of hubby leaving for abroad anytime next month. . . i'm considering hiring a helper.  Mukhang necessity na given the situation. 

[genivy21]

sis, i have 7yrs(boy), 5yrs(boy), 2yrs(boy), 8(girl) months. no maid as of october 1. Hubby abroad. KAYA! lol

mind over matter lol. i just ask a stay out maid to general clean every first of the month. and we're set for the month.

i think about 2 to 3 steps forward, what is needed before it is needed. sa gabi, prepared na para sa morning, grab and go na lang.

i also train the kids to clean after themselves. clean as you go ika nga. even the 2 yr old knows that basura belongs sa trashcan. i may run a tight ship but parang nagugustuhan ko na this way. cheaper, or the money is really spent well kasi walang nananayang na kasama sa bahay.

i psyched myself that i am abroad, with no maid allowed. para alam kong i only can rely on myself. we do grocery once a month, dala ko lahat ng kids. kapag me kinulang, i buy it sa sari sari store kapag tulog pa sila or kapag pwedeng sumaglit. sinasama ko lang ang trigger, in my case, my 5yr old boy. the 7yr old is deadma to the world, the 2 yr old is an explorer but calms down when watching thomas the train, the baby is quiet unless hungry. but the 5yr old kasi is super sa kulit, ginugulo ang tahimik kaya usually siya ang dala ko.

my family naman who lives close can help pero they have their own lives. swerte na if pede iiwan ang mga bata sa kanila. i keep a list though for purchasing like Mercury or palengke or bank. They ask me kasi whenever they go out if i need to buy something para isasabay na lang nila. Bills, some kasabay na din sa kanila, but for most i pay online. Nagpapawithdraw na lang din ako. I have a cash card, so I just move money there para meron pa din akong financial privacy.

ang namimiss ko lang minsan, maghapong tulog! Kasi you can never sleep talaga as in sleep! Half of myself is/should always be alert kasi kids ang kasama ko and you'll never know what they can think of of doing!

i am sobrang awaiting my husbands vacation dahil siya daw mag aalaga sa kids!(kunwari lang iyon. isa pa din siyang alagain kapag nandito)

[mishmish]

^natawa naman ako sa last part na sinabi mo sis  pero wow bilib ako sayo ah, 4 kids?! naku kung ako yun baka nasiraan na ako ng bait 

Hay right now, I'm still searching for other maid, so far kaya naman, linis, luto, except laundry, since may labandera naman kami... siguro kung di lang ako nagkaka-allergy sa kamay, siguro mas hindi ako hirap kahit kulang sa maid..

[val]

idol ka sis genivy21! If you just know how to manage your time ,you can really do it.

When I'm really tired, I just remind myself na if kaya ng mom ko ( we were 5), then kaya ko ron. Imagine before, no disposable diapers, etc. So there is no reason, why hindi ko kaya. If we are just staying in the house, honestly walang excuse na hindi natin kaya.

Its hard and tiresome pero there are other mothers there who have to face worse issues like walang pangkain sa mga anak nila. This might sound overrated pero that's what I really tell myself or hubby ( naaawa sa akin minsan nun..hehe).

I didn't have a maid for 6 months. nakaya at kaya naman talaga. Time management, ma una gumising than the kids and train the kids too.

I have a maid now as expected....high blood ako sometimes. I told my mom ( who recommended the maid) na if she can stand me, fine. Pero I won't make any below-my-standard measures just to keep her. Maids, they can come and go.

Plus, I'm learning how to drive. At least, I can really go out for errands. My baby is now 9 months, so I can really bring him along with my 4 yr old....

[twelvth_goddess]

Technically, we can survive without a maid when worse comes to worst cus we know how to do house chores. But with our current situation, mejo madame kame sa house, hinde na feasible especially because I dont want my mom to do so much chores anymore.

With yaya naman, well, I've been without a yaya for a few months and while we were all able to survive thanks to my mom, we really still need one kaya I'm thankful to have a matinong yaya now. Hubby and I are both working and kelangan lage may magbantay sa 5 month old girl ko. My mom is there naman but I know she cant always devote her time to my daughter cus she has things to attend to and she's not that young anymore.