kasabay nyo ba sa pagkain ang yaya/maid nyo??

[mira.dreyes]

Pa-join po...

just curious mga sis : ako kasi kapag kumakain kami kasabay na namin sa pagkain ang yaya/all around househelp namin ( isa lang naman siya )...

kayo?? sa tingin n'yo okay lang ba 'yun? since bago kasi ang yaya/all aroundhousehelp ko, gusto ko revised ang mga rules na dati ko ng practise sa aking mga naging yaya, like dati sobrang bait ako sa kanila to the point na halos parang kapatid na ang turing ko sa kanila, pero kapag ganun pala na sobrang attached ka sa kanila eh lumalaki ang ulo at nagiging abusado... kaya ngayon tama bang itrato ko sila ng nararapat lamang na trato sa kung ano sila. not to the point naman na maltratuhin or parang discrimenate (tama ba spelling) ang sa akin lang 'yung tamang trato sa isang yaya/househelp na hindi sila aabuso..parang medyo may wall pa rin...

sometimes kasabay namin siya kumain, but mostly not. kasi sinusubuan niya si antoinelle (bunso/ 2 year old) ko.

for me, hindi naman sukatan yung pagsabay sa pagkain ang respect niya sa'yo. this should be established.

[schizoprano]

My grandmother was a real stickler for "hierarchy". She didn't want us mingling with the helpers, much less eat with them at the same time. I absolutely abhorred that side of her. But when Gramms moved to the US, the house rules changed and the helpers were treated with "equal opportunity."

Now that we're all here in the US, isa na lang ang naiwan na helper sa Pilipinas, taga-bantay ng bahay. We trust her and we treat her like family.

[mira.dreyes]

@schizoprano~ for me kasi sis you should also treat the helpers like fam. kasi you trust them your everything...even your life.

[hunny_ally]

no i dont. meals esp dinner are the only time we get together as family. usually yan either nasa office, school. kapag weekends naman, most of the time, nasa kanya kanyang room. meal times lang talaga are the only time we can sit and talk with each other.

[mira.dreyes]

no i dont. meals esp dinner are the only time we get together as family. usually yan either nasa office, school. kapag weekends naman, most of the time, nasa kanya kanyang room. meal times lang talaga are the only time we can sit and talk with each other.

you have a point sis. siguro it also depends sa set-up ng family niyo... but for us, kung pwede siyang sumabay, ok lang.

[girl24]

yes! kung ano kinakain namin yun din food nila. we want them to feel part of the family para me malasakit hindi lang employer - employee relationship. and from experience nagtatagal at kung umaalis man (nagaasawa) bumabalik pa para kamustahin kami.

[KB]

kasabay before but not now kasi nahihiya ang isang maid ko maki sabay bago lang kasi .

[chuzzle]

Hmmm...not really. they have their own table naman.

[rianne_mallows]

yup.. hindi na kasi help ang turing.. part off the family..

parang sila lang yung pinakamasipag samin sa family!! madalas akala ng iba pinsan namin 

[nicquee]

yep kasabay namin. ayaw namin na nale-left out siya. part of the family sila dapat.

[Gladz31842]

yes...and we never call her yaya/maid/katulong...part of the family na.

[myjc]

kasabay namin sila parati..very close kami sa  kanila like yung yaya ng anak ko i treat her like my younger sister.. 4 years na siya sakin nung umuwi nga siya sa province nila last year pinilit ko sya [textspeak!] bumalik though ayaw na ng nanay nya hirap na makahanap ng yaya or maid nowadays na mapakakatiwalaan mo  sa lahat ng bagay..

[happy_pomelo]

Our "supervisor" household help has been with us since I was a kid.  Nakaugalian na nya to eat much later than us - iba siguro oras na nagugutom sya.  So when my baby's yaya arrived di na rin sumasabay sa amin.

My tita taught me na although you treat them well - may distance pa rin since they are hired help. Parang do you always want to eat with your boss?  

During mealtimes nila or when I feel like it, I talk to them about the household and other concerns nila.  But for me, mealtime is for our family - well, kami pa lang naman ni hubby, but I'm training yaya to teach baby to eat  her solids (she's 6 months and 2 weeks) at the table this early. 

I observed that when we used our formal dining, mas nakakapag-usap kami ni hubby ng maraming bagay and no holds barred [textspeak!] hindi naririnig ng mga kasambahay.  Some matters do not concern them and they need not be informed of these things.

For me, before (breakfast) and after (dinner) a day's work - mealtime is my bonding time with hubby.  I want to keep it that way.

[suPer girL]

minsan kasabay, minsan hindi. pero niyayaya naman namin sila kaso syempre minsan may ginagawa pa sila. wala naman kaso kung sasabay sila o hindi kasi ganun din naman yun. parehong food pa din naman kakainin namin. pero sa bahay ng lola ko, ayaw niya talaga na kasabay kumain yung mga kasambahay. gusto niya pagkatapos niya kumain tyaka lang kakain yung helpers niya.

[23and14]

maids and yaya sa bahay most of the time hindi, pero may times na oo.

sa mga handaan or funtions na invited kami - una muna si yaya kumain then ako na.

[qt_babe]

sometimes...pero madalas kasi una muna kami eat kasi wala bantay si baby then after siy anaman.

[tamarind26]

Sabay kami. Ganyan ang setup na kinalakihan ko.

[super bratinella]

Sabay na kumakain with us ang yaya ng baby ko, dahil inaalalayan niya ang baby ko to eat, and our reasoning is : We treat our helper as member of the family so she will not think of doing any bad things behind our back most specially sa daugther namin...

[babyjapnurse01]

ako ang sumasabay sa kanila, thats how my mom taught me kung pano makisama sa mga helpers. in return, i gain naman their loyalty.

[mdy]

Dito sa house namen, kasabay namen yung helper kumain (kaya alam ko pag napapalakas sya ng pagkain LOL ) Pero pag dun kami sa house ng ILs ko, hindi. Either after namen kumain sila kakain or sabay but sa ibang table.