MAYA3, IMO - your husband is into flirting around already. Sadly, IMO, he is opening himself up to monkey business/infidelity. Sorry. But talagang andon na sya -- konting tulak na lang -- he will be effing around. Pwes, hwag ikaw ang tutulak sa kanya to eff around.
Cheating is a Choice -- his choice; unfortunately, it is beyond your control.
BUT you can do a lot to prevent it, or minimize it, or stop it if he has started on it.
How? Be The Best you are & can be.
Instead of getting stressed out because of his flirting, FB & texting -- chill & concentrate on playing your cards well.
Think back & be the GF he had fun times with. The GF na he was all hot and bothered over.
Easier said than done, lalo na kung grrrrr ka inside & distracted by his dis-connect. But how else can you be proactive? You wanna fight this out as the majadera, suspetchosa (though your suspicions are true, naku he will turn the tables on you), constipated/uptight controlling wife? You can do better than that.
Give this marriage your ALL, BUT set a Deadline. Ikaw lang maka set kung kelan Deadline: depends on your capacity to wait, pray, hope & yes, suffer. But there MUST be a Deadline para you do not just drift, parang ghost na floating around lang. Hwag mong antayin "till Death do you part" -- if dumating ka sa point your heart is already very tired.
Be The Best you are & can be. Be light, happy & sparkle.
Sino ba may gusto kasama ang sad, galit, suya or pala reklamo. Yeah, I know -- normal lang to be like that sa dis-connect nya sa inyong mag-Ina. But the situation calls for more-than-normal effort.
So i-sugal mo na lahat, gawin mo na lahat - pati pag tumbling at kain ng apoy (just kidding). Dapat ma throwback mo sya sa Past -- na he remembers the reasons he fell in love with you. Tapos, dagdagan mo pa. Para ma-Boink! sya na: Teka, his Best Life pala is with you!
Hwag ka pa down sa flirting nya, sa deadma deadma ng mga ka FB FB nya.
If you can't beat them, join them.
Pag sumama ka sa gig -- be the sexist one there. Nakukuha yan sa aura, sa projection, sa visualization. Go and enjoy! Be friendly with all -- men & women, lalo na men. Peg mo si Sunshine Cruz. Why not?married but desirable, independent (why not, may sarili kang work di ba), & won't take crap. Kelangan sweet na sweet ka, very nurturing, very connected ka with him (kahit he ignores you) -- but give him the feeling puede ka din manipa, or mawala. Make him realize: You can do better.
What have you got to lose? If you live The Best you can be -- how can you lose? Mawala man sya: well, you can do better or live an even more Beautiful Life. Be bold; hwag mo hatakin sarili mo pababa by getting scared, lost, depressed.
Malay mo, tulad ng mga ibang Sis dito -- sila mismo nang-iwan sa mga philandering husbands nila. Got fed up & kicked them out or left them.
Sis, isipin mo hindi ka lang mabubuhay without him; but you can be more successful kung hindi ka naiistorbo at na de-depress or natatakot dahil sa mga gawain nya.
You can never control him. He will choose, as you will choose, at ang ganda or pagka walang aasenso ng bawa't buhay nyo ay dahil sa choices you each make. So, best you make Good Choices FOR YOURSELF --- yang work on yourself to be attractive, to advance your career, to make more money, to be a very interesting person, etc. Tapangan mo sarili mo, at mag sipag ka -- para mag improve ka. At the end, mawala man sya: Belat nya.
You gonna fight positively, or cry miserably? Your Choice.
Take best care of yourself, Sis.
