To give room or leave

[natlevi]

Parang nakakarelate ako dito ah! ouch!
My bf just broke up with me blaming my being to emotional as the reason. Sabi pa nya I like to complicate things pero yun ang di ko ma-gets. Matagal kaming friends bago naging kami so I tried to work it our pero sya ayaw mag-compromise.
Feeling ko ayaw nya magcommit! Oh well! Emotional kaya talaga mostly ng mga babae. 

[Cessiechu]

Isa lang masasabi ko. NAPAKA-SELFISH ng taong to. Love is a risk worth taking. Kung madame siyang reason, hinde ka talaga mahal niyan. At una sa lahat, kung mahal ka niya, he would not let you feel this way. Bored lang yan or miss ka kaya ka sinasama as a date pero in totality wala siyang paninindigan. He needs to MAN UP! So , for me.. tapusin mo na tong relationship.

[Jaguar.Paw]

kung ako..

do or die.. die!

aba leave na ko nyan. ang arte nya ah. mabulaklak ang bibig. napaka emosyonal talo pa ako. parang di lalaki. ano ako reserved? di uso reservation sa gf! susme. goodbye!

[jacquetta]

Thanks again to everyone who replied. Even after all these months I re-read it parin.

[airish_2]

^kayo pa rin ba?

[jacquetta]

^kayo pa rin ba?

Yes (some of you might want to stone me for that). It's been very difficult since then though. I guess I'm still salvaging yung natitira, hoping na maging ok kami. Pero nakakapagod na..

Dami pang nangyari after at hanggang ngayon...

[kvandenhaak]

Parang the classic line "It's not about you, it's about me" and all that kind of BS that guys do when they want to be out of the relationship. You have to ask yourself if you deserve that kind of treatment and if you deserve that kind of person.

Iwan mo na. Whatever you want to salvage is already broken. Do you want to start your marriage life with a that? Walang divorce sa Pilipinas...hala ka!

[Girltalker2]

Yes (some of you might want to stone me for that). It's been very difficult since then though. I guess I'm still salvaging yung natitira, hoping na maging ok kami. Pero nakakapagod na..

Dami pang nangyari after at hanggang ngayon...

Sis, it's been almost 6 months. I think you have given it a try. Move on, bata ka pa naman. And I am sure, once you find a guy who WANTS you to be his GF, you will regret why you even stayed an additional 5-6 months with your current BF. Sana iniwan mo nalang sya ng mas maaga para makameet ka ng better guy.

[khaleesiCersei]

the way i see it, he wants to out but he is not man enough to admit it. gusto nya syo mangaling, kasi ayaw nya na sya yung maging bad guy.. i think you should just move on without him. he's a douche anyway, he clearly doesn't give a crap about how you feel. you deserve somebody better sis.

[p0isonIvy]

i think TS' bf is confused.. confused sa gender nya. haha! seriously, guys who are more fickle-minded than girls shouldnt be tolerated. dont waste your time trying to figure out what he wants. eh sya nga eh hindi din nya alam kung ano ba talaga gusto nya. labo lang

[quinone]

since it has been a while nung first post mo, ang advice ko sayo is maghiwalay na kayo. kung baga sa plot line e nandoon kayo sa 'falling action.' tingin ko you are hoping na maging favorable para sayo ang decision niya, pero i doubt that very much.

just keep the good memories and sana matuto ka sa mga bagay na ayaw niya sayo. change for the better para sa ikabubuti mo rin naman yun.

hirap lang siguro kayo now na maghiwalay kasi comfort zone na ninyo ang isa't-isa.

[ziontrec]

pretty much everybody said what i would want to say,
just praying that you make the right decision and the strength to move forward.

[aquacharly]

Yes (some of you might want to stone me for that). It's been very difficult since then though. I guess I'm still salvaging yung natitira, hoping na maging ok kami. Pero nakakapagod na..

Dami pang nangyari after at hanggang ngayon...

No. Nobody here will judge you for your determination to keep this relationship going.  Nobody will want to stone you.   Most may not agree with your decision to hang on; but most will understand. 

Keep in mind too: 
Some relationships start as simple/uncomplicated.  Some start complicated.
Those that start as complicated, then become uncomplicated/simple -- are the happy ones, the keeper relationships that level up to deeper ties.
But those that are complicated and remain so... Or worse, those that started simple then turned complicated:   These are the ones that bring heartbreaks of dis-connect and/or betrayals.
The Truth in relationships is a simple short line, but for some: very hard to see. 

It's your call. Hope you play your cards really well, or that your bf is still playing the same game with you.
Good luck, take care of yourself. 

Edited to add:
Some things that get lost:  are forever lost.  Waste of time trying to regain these

[lovely_carrot]

Ako, I decided to leave.

Ex BF/live-in partner of 5.5 years asked me for space, nung una ayaw ko pumayag but it seems like I couldn't change his mind so I let him go. Sabi nya lang gusto nya maibalik yung "nawalang feelings" pag okay na sya he will come back. Deep inside I wanted to wait for him, pero di ko sinabi sa kanya.

After he left the house, no communication na kami. 3 weeks later, there's a girl who befriended me on FB, they're mutual friends, same town so I figured, this is it pansit. In the years that we were together, wala akong naging friend from his side (relatives or barkada nya). So I deleted that FB account, blocked him from my daughter's FB and the new one that I created para wala na ko marinig from him.

For me, pag may ibang babaeng umeksena, goodbye na. It wasn't easy in the beginning, but its very doable.

[pandorasbox]

sis iwanan mo na yan. it's hard but someone's got to do it.

ako I've been in a relationship for 7 years.. we had a small argument last month and then drops me a line " ayoko MUNA ng commitment/relationship/etc" been begging siguro mga 1 week para mag usap kami. nung nag usap kami sinabi ganun din, ang labo, ayaw pang makipagbreak, parang gusto nya break/cool off kami, pero gusto din nya kami pa, gusto nya maghintay ako(?) so i was the one who had to say goodbye to him. I have no time for that sh*t na, grabe 7 years na kong naghihintay sa kanya...kung ayaw nanya sakin edi go di ba. oo sayang, parang tinapon lang, pero anong magagawa mo kung ayaw na sayo nung isa?

payo ko sayo konting pride sa sarili. YOU CAN DO IT. YOU'RE CAPABLE. kung palagi ka nandyan pano kanya mamimiss? pano mo masasabi sa sarili mo that you're worth it? pano kung one day may mga anak  na kayo tapos sinabi nya yan sayo? di ba kawawa naman sila. if the relationship is really really serious babalikan ka nyan, but don't wait for it, just go. enjoy yourself and malay mo IF you meet again mas better na cya for you.