Ano masasabi niyo?

[misslovelyjoy]

I just want to share this. 5th yr college na ko, 20y/o.


Nung 1st yr kasi ako, may isang prof ako na feeling ko may gusto sakin. Feeling lang naman, syempre tayong girls nararamdaman natin pag may gusto satin isang guy.

Reasons bakit ko nasabi na gusto niya ko:
1. Pag may activity kami nun (drawing), lagi siya nandun lang sa may tabi ng table ko tinitignan ginagawa ko.
2. Lagi niya ko kinakausap. Yung parang kwento, di usap na related sa school.

Napansin din ng classmates ko yan non. Lately ko lang din nalaman na napansin din naman pala nila. Nabanggit lang nila sakin. Everytime kasi na bumibisita siyang AUF (4yrs na din siyang di nagtuturo dito), lagi niya kong hinahanap. Syempre nakahalata classmates ko.

Nung 1st yr kasi ako, may isang prof ako na feeling ko may gusto sakin. Feeling lang naman, syempre tayong girls nararamdaman natin pag may gusto satin isang guy.

Reasons bakit ko nasabi na gusto niya ko:
1. Pag may activity kami nun (drawing), lagi siya nandun lang sa may tabi ng table ko tinitignan ginagawa ko.
2. Lagi niya ko kinakausap. Yung parang kwento, di usap na related sa school.

Napansin din ng classmates ko yan non. Lately ko lang din nalaman na napansin din naman pala nila. Nabanggit lang nila sakin. Everytime kasi na bumibisita siyang school (4yrs na din siyang di nagtuturo dito), lagi niya kong hinahanap. Syempre nakahalata classmates ko.

Kahapon bigla namin syang napag-usapan ni college buddy ko. Naaalala daw niya [textspeak!] mga papansin ni prof blah blah. Tapos kanina nagulat nalang kami nandun siya sa school. Pinag-uusapan lang namin kahapon tapos kinabukasan nagparamdam agad? Haha.

Tapos yun nga, di ako lumabas ng room. Yung college buddy ko lumabas nakipagchitchat kay prof. Sabi niya unang una daw tanong ni prof "nasan si lovely?" Haha. Sabi daw ni prof sa kanya hintayin niya graduation bago ako ligawan. Blah blah! Ang di ko alam na madaldal kong college buddy naman, nabanggit daw out of nowhere yun ngang mga napansin ko kay prof nun, etc.

Tapos dahil hinahanap nga ako and nakita na ko ni prof pinatawag niya ko. Syempre lumabas na ko, nakakahiya naman di ba? Vip lang? Haha.

Ayun nga, tinanong niya ko kung may napansin daw ako, kailan pa, etc. Sabi niya din gusto nga daw niya ko noon pa kaya lang 1st yr pa ko nun at di pwede kasi nga prof siya, student ako. Blah blah. Salamat daw 5th yr na ko ngayon. Nakabuti din daw na wala na siya sa school (nagturo syang mapua at nagwork sa company tapos nasa rival school ng school namin na siya ngayon) pwede na kahit papano. Gusto daw niya ko makilala pa, nagyayaya lumabas, etc.

Ang awkward kanina promise. Awkward na awkward ako. Hehe.

[baliwsayo]

eh kung type mo siya di masaya ka.. kung hindi eh di wala lang..

[misslovelyjoy]

Creepy! As in. Para siyang maniac na ewan.

[juni]

^ Since you're creeped out sa ginawa niya, I'm guessing hindi mo siya gusto and wala kang balak na iexplore ang possibilities between you two.  So set him straight na, tell him na you don't like him in that way and don't want any kind of relationship with him, and that you feel really uncomfortable with the way he's been behaving.  Talk to him in a manner that's civilized but firm.

Alam ba ng friends and classmates mo how you feel about the professor?  Mas mabuti kasi na alam nila that you don't appreciate his attentions para pag kinulit ng prof na yan yung friends mo for feedback or help in wooing you e masabihan din nila siya na ayaw mo nga sa kanya, para mareinforce yung message kay prof.

[baliwsayo]

Yeah if I were you sis, nung time na sinabi nya na gusto ka pa makilala pa, sana sinagot mo na ng ay sir sorry po may bf na po kasi ako. 

[misslovelyjoy]

The day after na kinausap niya ko, I told him na na ayaw ko. I don't like him. And I'm not really comfortable. Alam ng classmates ko. And even other profs kasi sinabihan niya pa na bantayan daw ako. Creepy!

[juni]

Kinausap mo ba siya face to face, and anong reaction niya nung sinabi mo na ayaw mo nga sa kanya?  Anong reaction ng profs na sinabihan niya na bantayan ka, did they agree to his request?

[misslovelyjoy]

I didn't tell him face to face, di ko kaya. Minessage ko lang siya sa facebook. He told me binigyan ko daw ng malisya pakikipagkaibigan niya. Tssk. Kung ganun ang approach lalagyan mo talaga ng malisya di ba? After that naman eh tumigil na siya sa pagtext at tawag. But I changed my number pa din and blocked him sa fb.

[juni]

Palusot lang niya yun sis, it's pretty clear na he wanted to be more than friends with you.  I'm glad tumigil na siya sa pangungulit sayo, but I suggest that you still be careful.  Keep the messages that he sent you, sa Facebook, email or text man yan.  Para if he harasses you again in the future, mas marami kang proof.  Professor pa man din siya, dapat mas may sense of ethics siya.  If he keeps on bugging you, you can talk to your school officials pati na rin officials ng school where he currently teaches, pwede siya patawan ng disciplinary action.  Pwede mo rin siya icomplain sa PRC and pwede matanggal professional licenses niya.

[misslovelyjoy]

It's sad nga na I deleted na his texts. There's nothing harassing naman sa texts niya. I told my other profs na about it. May issue na pala siya before na nangungulit sa students niya kaya pinaalis sa school namin.

[juni]

So habit na niya pala yan.  Alam ba ng school where he's currently teaching na may ganyan siyang history?  Nakakatakot kasi baka may students siya sa bagong school na yan na hinaharass, who knows, baka mag-escalate yung behavior niya.

[misslovelyjoy]

Yun lang ang di ko alam. Fetish pa man din yata niya ang students. :/

[juni]

Naku sis, I suggest you tell your parents about it and kausapin niyo na yung administration ng school niyo.  If may ganyan pala siyang history, bakit pa siya pinapayagang makatapak on school grounds?  Kahit na hindi na siya sa school mo nagtuturo e the fact na pwede pa rin siya makapasok is a security risk.  Talk to your school's administration, tell them what that prof has been doing, including yung bilin niya to the other profs na bantayan ka.  The other profs should have warned the administration tungkol sa bilin niya kasi that is out of line, hindi na karapat-dapat na behavior yun ng isang prof, especially a male prof toward a female student.

Your school's administration should talk to the admin ng school where this prof currently teaches.  Delikado kasi, paano na lang kung ulit-ulitin din niya to sa students sa new school niya, and paano na lang kung hindi lang panghaharass ang gawin niya?  Naku, be careful sis.

[aquacharly]

Oh my, what: long-playing seduction? Or, baka maka-isa?

Yeah if I were you sis, nung time na sinabi nya na gusto ka pa makilala pa, sana sinagot mo na ng ay sir sorry po may bf na po kasi ako. 

Agree.   Yes, don't string them along. 

The day after na kinausap niya ko, I told him na na ayaw ko. I don't like him. And I'm not really comfortable. Alam ng classmates ko. And even other profs kasi sinabihan niya pa na bantayan daw ako. Creepy!

What's this?  Why did you need to spread the news?  Alam ng classmates mo na what - binasted mo?
Other profs nakiki -- este, involve din sa ganyang cuentuhan at nakiki sakay sa bantay requests??  Isn't that unethical/unprofessional -- to be baby sitters?
.... But don't mind me, what do I know about professor-student romances anyway. 

It's sad nga na I deleted na his texts. There's nothing harassing naman sa texts niya. I told my other profs na about it. May issue na pala siya before na nangungulit sa students niya kaya pinaalis sa school namin.

Well, magaling nga -- tracks covered, no malice in his texts.  There you go -- he turned the tables on you, na ikaw pa naghanap ng kilig. 

But I kinda raised my kilay at the profs who can so casually discuss sensitive matters with students.  IF there was an issue worth their attention, they should have not just kicked him out, but kicked him out with matching bad commentaries on his records/resume.  Hindi iyong basta ok he shits elsewhere, but not in their backyard. 
But then, that's just me - what do I know of professors' alleged high standards of behavior, delicadeza and whatever.   

IMO, charge this all to experience/naïveté. .  Move on, move on. 
I don't think there are sufficient grounds, and the "window of opportunity" has passed, to file a complaint  of whatever against him.  He didn't molest you nor harass you. Besides, you deleted most of the evidence.  Your classmates/professors are not likely going to bolster your complaint by serving as reliable witnesses to support you.  His defense  will focus on  painting a picture of you as being feelingera or disilusyonada that he has great amore for you.  That's how he will fight back.