I think my fiance is falling for someone else..

[Kriman]

@manang02

Huwag kang matakot sis, magtatanong ka lang naman eh, totoo hinala mo kapag kakaiba ang kilos ng asawa after mo magtanung. magiingat na yan

[manang02]

Hi mga sis!

fiance is officially an EX of mine almost a month na rin. as in no contacts whatsover.
I also deactivated my FB account while working towards self-healing.
Slowly, nare-realize ko na yung advantages ng pangyayari.
Thankful ako in a way, kasi na realize ko yung mga pagkukulang ko and I intend to improve myself.
And most importantly, na-realize ko kung anong pagkatao meron yung supposed to be mapapangasawa ko and hindi ganung attitudes ang gusto ko for a husband. 

[janix athena]

^I'm glad you're moving on sis. Whew, you dodged a bullet. Pasalamat ka talaga nakaiwas ka sa miserable marriage and tama ka, time to work on your weaknesses and nakaka-excite to work  towards a better you. God bless.

[rae]

@manang02, ang swerte mo! I can count a number of people i know who'd exchange places with you.

Kung ako din, nasa ganyang situation, Ill be somehow happy that I dodged a bullet.

[ayami]

manang02, ang swerte mo. nangyari ang ganito sakin back in 2009, but the thing was, we were engaged to be married kasi nabuntis ako ni boyfriend.

I really regret what happened. Pero nasa acceptance phase na lang ako and well it has been 3 years, I still could not get over it. wala na yung galit na feeling ko sa hubby ko, pero andun yung doubts, fears, paranoia, etc. minsan obsessed na ata ako dun sa girl na talagang nakikifriendly friends aka flirt din sa kanya before we got married. yung sa case ko wala akong way out kasi alam mo na pinoy culture na ipilit ipakasal kapag nabuntis. though I must say, love ko din naman si hubby that time and gusto ko na may daddy yung baby ko pag labas nya. 5 years na kami magkarelasyon nung nangyari yun e, somehow kaya ko sya di kinonfront dahil ikakasal nga kami and dahil sa baby.

I did confront him pero 2 months after I gave birth na. Nagwala ako nang bongga non, sinaktan ko sya, di naman gumanti pero andami kong rules na sinet for him. Super rocky ang first 4 months namin as a married couple lalo na yung first year na hindi pa ko ganon ka-confident. Ngayon, tinatawanan ko na lang yung nangyari, hoping na hindi sya uulit (pero prepared naman na ko if in case he does it again, may long history na rin sya since 2007 pa e). maawa na lang sya sa anak namin diba.

anyway, napakwento pa ko pero I'm happy for you, sis.

[Miss.Pancake]

Hi sisses!

My bf and I just got engaged and to be married next year.
All is well between our relationship, not until 2 days ago.
We're on a trip for our anniversary and during some time I noticed something different from him. Most of the times, I caught him texting and everytime I looked at him he would stop and hide his phone.
I waited if he would tell me who it is, coz he usually does it, but to no avail.

Believe me, I really felt that he's hiding something that time.
So one night, i checked his phone. I am not actually used in doing it coz my fiance told me before that he hates it, but that time I really want to do it.

I checked first the Inbox, I found nothing. Then the Sentbox, I also found nothing.
But what I noticed was the sentbox only contains 3 messages, the most latest was the one he got from his mom sent around afternoon of that day, whereas, I saw him texting very often beyond that time. I continued the probing until I got to the screened messages folder and there I saw 2 messages, from his girl officemate whom I know he's very close with. The girl and I know each other, I actually know their closeness as I understand that my fiance is really has this friendly attitude towards women. But I did not mind it as I know that the girl is also engaged to be married.

And so with the messages, the first one that I've read was like a response. So they indeed exchanging messages. One thing made me curious was the girl addressed my fiance as "Bez", which is short for bestfriend, right??

The other message, which strucked me the most goes like this.. "Bez, uuwi ako sa Taytay after opis, birthday kasi ni Ate..Kamusta? Alam mo ang ganda ng sermon ni father sa mass kanina. Sabi nya, me reason si God kung bakit nya ina-allow na mangyari ang mga bawal at di dapat mangyari.." and so on, forget the other line.

And on the drafts folder of the phone, I saw lines of different songs such as If you're not the one by Daniel Bedingfield, I won't give up by Jason Mraz and Beautiful days by Kyla, etc.

Now, Am I just paranoid to think that my fiance is having an affair w/ this girl?
I know I have to ask him personally to know the truth but I don't know how. I'm also afraid that he will get mad at me after what I've done on his phone.
I really don't know what to do mga sis. Please help me.
I'm confused, sad, torn and heart-broken, yet, whenever I'm with my fiance, I need to look happy.

Sorry for the long read, just need to vent it all out.

Sis, first of all i want to commend you for being strong. Mahirap yang pinagdadaanan mo and you chose to be strong and faithful sa fiance mo.

I know you've been thinking about it and its been bothering you a lot kasi nangyari narin yan sakin. I sw pictures of girls sa phone ni fiance and he had this application where he can hide text messages sa android nya and yet i chose to kept quiet.

Piece of advice, try to calm yourself muna. Try to be busy with other things or get yourself a makeover or get a spa day for yourself. Once relaxed and okay ka na, then that's the time you try to open it up with him. Pero dont tell him na you opened his phone and found out something. Instead, tell him na if it's not too much to ask, baka pedeng wag muna siyang magtext pag magkasama kayo. Gusto mo kamo ng quality time etc. Basta try to find a way na mabawas bawasan yun oras niya sa phone. It that way mafeel din ni 'other girl' na nababawasan na ng oras ni guy para sa kanya.

May mga ganun talagang girls, nang aagaw sila or kumakabit sa ibang guys na may commitment na kasi they have so much insecurities that they thought they could get away with it if they try to compete with other girls.

Stay strong sis. Ipaglaban mo si fiance pero know how to play your cards.

Don't worry, di ka nag iisa.