Sharing here this post from Reddit:
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I had the chance to know RAB personally. While I can?t share all the details of our relationship because I prefer to remain anonymous, I want to share some honest thoughts based on my experience with her.
Her online life has taken over her self-worth. RAB?s life revolves so much around the internet that it has made her self-worth fragile. She knows a lot of people dislike her, and it clearly gets to her. I?ve seen how much she doubts herself because of this, and she ends up putting the burden on those around her?people she considers friends?to make her feel better. She?d often ask things like, ?Maganda naman ako, di ba? Mabait naman ako, bakit kaya galit na galit siya?? while showing screenshots of hate comments. As her friend, I?d feel compelled to comfort her and tell her she?s kind and beautiful. But kind words from others can only go so far. True self-worth comes from within, and I hope she realizes that one day.
She?s carrying unresolved childhood trauma. RAB has been through a lot, and I know some of the painful experiences she had as a child. I won?t share them here, but I can understand why she avoids dealing with them?it?s hard to face that kind of pain. But avoidance doesn?t fix anything; it just creates more problems. Some people call her delusional, but I think she?s simply trying to escape a reality that hurts too much. Unfortunately, having her life on display for everyone to judge only makes it harder for her to heal and grow.
She?s struggling to reinvent herself. I?ve seen her try to reinvent herself so many times?changing her image, her goals, even her personality?and documenting it all on YouTube. She wants to seem spiritual, relatable, and new, but real change isn?t pretty or easy. It?s messy, raw, and uncomfortable. True reinvention means having hard conversations with yourself and the people in your life. You can?t just wake up one day and become someone new without addressing the past. I wish she?d stop focusing on the aesthetics of change and start doing the real work that leads to growth.
Leaving social media was the best decision. With everything happening now, I think stepping away from social media was the right move. Being a private person will give her the space to reflect and heal. There?s no point in creating anonymous accounts to defend herself?there?s nothing left to protect at this point. I honestly don?t think going back to her old identity as RealAsianBeauty is possible anymore. If she does return online, I hope it?s after at least a year?when she?s had time to truly heal and reflect. And if she comes back, I hope it?s as her real self, without any pretensions or lies. It would mean a lot if she could own up to her mistakes and apologize to the people who supported her despite everything. By then, maybe she?ll have a career outside the internet, or even a family, and a better sense of who she truly is. I know there?s good in her, and I still believe she can change for the better. I just hope she takes this time seriously, instead of brushing off constructive criticism because it?s hard to hear.
Despite everything, I still wish her the best.
