Hello Girls, I was asleep morning and nice to see interesting conversation here again including new topics.
Yes, on kabit. Let's agree to disagree (and i said that already -- just as you guys don't agree with my views, i don't agree with yours but guess what that's okay!). I'm a true believer of women power, a feminist especially knowing society (lalo sa Pilipinas) has an unconscious bias AGAINST women (pink tax, anyone?) and the case of kabits is one SORE issue i vehemently have strong feelings about because i see
TWO disadvantaged women and one ADVANTAGED man. I might very well start a new thread about this but let me tell you this, g
oogle any of these options: "why does a man cheat" or "what causes infidelity in marriage" all the top hits in google (and i will LINK a few here for you girls to read) -- you will see a lot of reasons why men cheat, but NONE OF THEM IS BECAUSE HE WAS SEDUCED BY A NEW GIRL!
When a person cheats in their marriage, that is a flaw in their character, a personal issue of that cheater (man or woman), a cheater, will cheat regardless of who/what they are cheating on.. placing blame on a mistress is misplaced anger. Instead of asking WHO IS THIS PERSON CHEATING with -- isn't the correct question, WHY IS THIS PERSON CHEATING? I will (and hate this na talaga) use Liz as an example -- take Liz out of the picture, Raymond will still cheat.. men cheat with internet chats, facebook chatting an old flame, finding a paid escort service, etc... some have emotional affairs and some actually leave their rightful spouse and kids. In the MILLIONS of articles, STUDIES (scientific and psychological), no one in the developed world said "my husband cheated because he was seduced by a whore." yet in the Philippines the instinct is to place the blame on the mistress. Why was the man looking for a mistress in the first place? Again, this does not condone kabits, it's just misplaced blame-placing.
Just try it and google why do men cheat -- it's not because a kabit came in the picture. Remember how disadvantaged a kabit is especially if they can not get married -- they are willing victims, accomplice to a crime, and overall just as disadvantaged as the wife... men get a free pass, almost, but women HATE each other.
All this time i've been ranting here, my issue is NOT liz or not kabits, when i hear or know someone is a kabit, my first instinct is to ASK THEM WHY, understand and uncover their reasons and often times (like alyssalicious) it's naloko, napaikot ng lalaki who wants to two-time. But in some cases, there is a man who really wants out of a relationship that is long doomed emotionally and finds happiness in a new person.
Some of you will say "technically married pa rin kasi sila eh" but kahit baliktarin mo ang mundo, that TECHNICALITY will not solve WHY there is infidelity in your marriage. You have to ask what is the cause of infidelity. Do not give MEN too much credit - that "nasilaw" sila ng isang magandang babae. Hello? That's a huge joke.
Remember this girls, kahit anong pangit mo, and ganda ng ibang babae, kung mahal ka ng asawa mo, hindi yan ma-aakit ng magandang babae. Para niyo namang sinabi na lahat ng lalaki pag nilandi ng babae, bibigay? Have you not met or known men who REFUSE to cheat even when temptation presents itself to them? Why do they refuse to cheat? Because their character does not have a flaw and their marriage is happy and in tact.
In case any of you want to read "why men cheat" from women, professionals (psychologists, therapists , official studies and surveys) -- there IS SO MUCH EVIDENCE on the web. Men do not cheat because a new girl happens to come along. Men cheat because they are a piece of trash to begin with, and/or the marriage has problems:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/love-and-sex-in-the-digital-age/201704/13-reasons-why-men-cheathttps://www.huffingtonpost.com/stacey-freeman/10-lessons-i-learned-abou_b_8016308.htmlhttps://www.redbookmag.com/love-sex/relationships/advice/a3966/why-men-cheat/https://drkarenfinn.com/divorce-blog/surviving-infidelity/447-what-causes-infidelity-in-marriagehttps://www.mamamia.com.au/whos-fault-is-it-for-cheating/I am going to challenge any of you -- do your research
"is infidelity the cause of a marriage problem or the symptom of a problem" even as i try to dig through this topic,
NOT ONE ARTICLE, NOT ONE MAN OR WOMAN agreed that the cheating happened because of a seductress. Nope.You are welcome to ignore this post. I am trying to end this topic with the hope that US WOMEN will stand against MEN instead of letting them get away with it.
Finally, in this thread it's quite funny how because i don't share the same view as others, i get attacked, mocked and ridiculed. I did not attack anyone -- you see the cycle of the problem? women want to put other women down. It's really sad. You all have access to the internet so i assume you are all privileged and educated women -- be the change you want to be, don't be rude and attack someone just because you are hiding behind a computer.
Smash the patriarchy and support women instead of letting men get away constantly. Ok i'm done with this rant.
