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Re: When is it acceptable for a man to hit a woman?
« Reply #20 on: May 20, 2016, 05:39:38 pm »
May kasalanan ka Sa mga nangyari sayo, why? Kasi pumayag ka na ganun ang treatment sayo from the start.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Battered_person_syndrome

Additionally, repeated cycles of violence and reconciliation can result in the following beliefs and attitudes:[8]

  • The abused thinks that the violence was his or her fault.
    The abused has an inability to place the responsibility for the violence elsewhere.
    The abused fears for her/his life, and/or, the lives of loved ones whom the abuser might or has threatened to harm (e.g., children-in-common, close relatives or friends).
    The abused has an irrational belief that the abuser is omnipresent and omniscient
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Re: When is it acceptable for a man to hit a woman?
« Reply #21 on: May 21, 2016, 12:48:07 am »
@akotobakit,

Gaya ng sabi ni sis j.adore walang masama humingi ka ng tulong sa family mo, kaya nga sila nandyan to support you para kahit nasa bahay ka hindi mo nafe-feel na nag-iisa ka in facing this problem. Kung dati naglilihim ka at di nagwork siguro naman ngayon pwede mo nang subukang humingi ng tulong sa kanila. Talk to your mom first kung mas close ka sa kanya hindi naman kailangang buong family agad makaalam.

Also this time try to focus on yourself na muna, wala na munang lovelife sis mahalin mo na lang muna ang sarili mo para once may dumating na bago alam mo na sa sarili mo kung papaano ka dapat itrato ng lalaki. Huwag mo ring i-compare and relationships ng siblings mo sa iyo walang maitutulong yon para sayo. I'm glad you're already talking to proffesionals/healers ituloy mo lang you're in the right path sis and if bored ka at need mo ng mga kausap magpost ka lang sa mga threads dito para malibang ka..
Attraversiamo..

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Re: When is it acceptable for a man to hit a woman?
« Reply #22 on: July 08, 2016, 06:51:27 pm »
Whoever hits who is not really acceptable lalo na kung engage kayo sa isang romantic relationship. Its just that, meron talagang times na hindi natin mapipigilan ang ating mga damdamin at bigla nalang gagalaw ang ating mga kamay (o paa) para saktan ang kapwa natin for reasons that triggered the emotional stress.

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Re: When is it acceptable for a man to hit a woman?
« Reply #23 on: July 17, 2016, 02:18:05 am »
I don't think it's ever acceptable to hit a woman. 

It happened in my family several times in the past though.  My brothers and this younger sister of mine na talagang grabe magsalita nakakaprovoke talaga. 
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Re: When is it acceptable for a man to hit a woman?
« Reply #24 on: July 17, 2016, 12:45:16 pm »
self defense?!? ??? but then again theres what we call.. running.. running away fast   :o

as much as we men tried to invent reason for this one, to no avail we havent discovered it yet, which makes it favorable for you ladies  :P
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Re: When is it acceptable for a man to hit a woman?
« Reply #25 on: August 11, 2016, 06:48:06 pm »
I'm starting to think na ako yung may problema bakit ako sinasaktan ng mga naging partners ko.

2012, College ako noon. 2 years kami ng ex ko nun. Thrice nya ko sinaktan. Sinakal nya ko tapos inuntog sa pader and minsan nilason nya yung kinakain ko, nilagyam nya ng baygon.  Up to know hindi ko parin mapatawad yung ex ko na yun kasi minahal ko siya ng walang natitira sa akin eh.


Yung bf ko ngayon, nagkasakitan nanaman kami. Dati nagsimula lang sa tulak. Pero hindi padin mawala sa isip ko yun. Tapos naulit pa, tulak ulit tapos kaladkad tapos mga kalmot tapos pasa. Lagi kong sinasabi sa kanya na wag nya na akong saktan.
Sumunod nagaway kami dahil panis yung patis na binigay sakin nung maid nila. Nagwalkout ako tapos ayaw ko magpapigil hanggang tinulak nya nanaman ako. Kaya bawat away namin gusto ko ako na yung lumayo kasi baka manakit nanaman siya. Last time kami nagaway sabi nya pag hindi pa ko umalis sasaktan nya daw ako. Hindi nya naman nagawa pero masakit kasi alam kong kaya nyang gawin yun.

Hindi ko alam kung nasaktuhan lang ba ako or ako yung may ugali kung bakit nila ako sinasaktan.

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Re: When is it acceptable for a man to hit a woman?
« Reply #26 on: August 12, 2016, 12:19:42 am »
^you know what's wrong? You let them hurt you. So maybe tama ka ikaw ang may mali kasi hinahayaan mo. You're wrong kasi you're choosing the wrong people to love.
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Re: When is it acceptable for a man to hit a woman?
« Reply #27 on: August 12, 2016, 05:06:53 am »
Kahit kelan hindi magiging acceptable regardless kung ano reason. Pero may mga babaeng sobra rin manakit ng bf/hubby nila at sobrang nagger na nakakarindi. Kaya tayo mga babae wag sasagarin ang pasensya ng lalaki.

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Re: When is it acceptable for a man to hit a woman?
« Reply #28 on: August 14, 2016, 10:48:43 am »
I can't think of any reason/s for a man to hit a woman kahit pa siguro mahuli niya na nanlalalaki ang babae since there is a proper venue for that. Kahit saan angle tingnan mas malakas physically ang lalake, women can never equate men's strength.
If a girl understands your b******t, stick through your mistakes, smiles even when you've done nothing for her , it's obvious she's a keeper. But it's also obVious that you don't deserve her...

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Re: When is it acceptable for a man to hit a woman?
« Reply #29 on: August 14, 2016, 12:17:43 pm »
Sis TS sorry for saying this pero buti nalang dj natuloy kasal nyo ni 3rd. No person deserves that kind of treatment kahit ganong depensa mo pa sa kanya o past partners na provoked sila. May ra 9262 kasi yung domestic violence Kung ikukumpara sa sports e parang pinaglaban mo si pacquiao saka si paeng nepomuceno. Mismatch sis, physical attributes palang talo na babae. Yung galing natin Hindi sa physical strength kundi sa wit, emotions at instinct Kaya yun Lang dapat Ang gumagana tuwing may away.

My friend always says: you train a man to treat you well. Sana mag break Ka muna sa love life ngayon pero come your next relationship, subukan mo to. Straightforward sabihin mo Kung Ano gusto mo at Kung may nakita Ka na ayaw mo sabihin mo rin. Importante na may comfort at security tayo sa partners natin.

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Re: When is it acceptable for a man to hit a woman?
« Reply #30 on: August 14, 2016, 12:57:38 pm »
Sis janinajanina wag mo hayaan na masanay Ka nalang sa pananakit nya. Kahit tulak tulak Lang yan o galit na pisil, Hindi yan normal. yung ibang girls princess o queen and treatment sa kanila ng partners nila, wouldn't you like the same thing? Hindi ko alam kung kaya pa baguhin ang isang abusive partner pero Kung kaya man sis kahit suntok sa buwan, malamang not by you. Sana lumayo ka na sa kanya sis.

Kung sakaling pagbuhatan Ka pa Nya ulit ng kamay sis pls make a big deal out of it (cos it is) Kausapin mo ang Gabriela sa Kung ano ang magandang move. Tapos ako PM mo Lang ako Kung kailangan mo ng tulong.




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Re: When is it acceptable for a man to hit a woman?
« Reply #31 on: August 14, 2016, 01:40:28 pm »
Sis jeninajenina sa dami ng issues mo sa bf mo di ka pa ba nakakapag-isip?! Yan din ba ang buhay na gusto mo pagmag-asawa na kayo?! Di mo ba napapansin na dumadami na ang problema mo to think na magbf pa lang kayo. Lahat ng red flags nasa relationship ninyo na yet you still choose to stay. Yes, ikaw talaga ang may problema kasi pumapayag ka na ganyan ang treatment sa iyo. Hindi mo mahal ang sarili mo sis, learn to love yourself first baka pagminahal mo na ang sarili mo mahanap mo ang pagmamahal na nararapat sa iyo.
If a girl understands your b******t, stick through your mistakes, smiles even when you've done nothing for her , it's obvious she's a keeper. But it's also obVious that you don't deserve her...

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Re: When is it acceptable for a man to hit a woman?
« Reply #32 on: August 18, 2016, 07:14:03 am »
Physical and emotional harm will never be acceptable. Never have been, never will be.
You don't need that in your life.
Don't mind me, nobody does.

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Re: When is it acceptable for a man to hit a woman?
« Reply #33 on: August 27, 2016, 08:44:24 pm »
never acceptable

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Re: When is it acceptable for a man to hit a woman?
« Reply #34 on: August 28, 2016, 11:04:35 am »
Never! Not at all!
Dump them, it's not love.
I don't know what's holding you back.

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Re: When is it acceptable for a man to hit a woman?
« Reply #35 on: September 04, 2016, 11:37:05 pm »
how come may girls na lapitin sa mga guys na nananakit nga. 
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Re: When is it acceptable for a man to hit a woman?
« Reply #36 on: September 06, 2016, 11:46:13 pm »
NEVER.

Same goes for us girls. It is not acceptable for us to hit our man.

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Re: When is it acceptable for a man to hit a woman?
« Reply #37 on: September 21, 2016, 03:57:31 pm »
What if binantaan ka na sasampalin ka ng asawa mo?yungbasawa ko nag away kami sa sobrang pikon niya sinabi niya saken na pag di ako tumigil sasampalin niya daw ako!  Inaalok ko na yun pisngi ko na sampalin niya ako pero di niya ginawa.. 

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Re: When is it acceptable for a man to hit a woman?
« Reply #38 on: September 21, 2016, 05:01:00 pm »
^tingin ko sis wag mo na hayaan nagpunta kayo sa ganon, o kahit sumagi sa isip nya na pwede nya get pagbuhatan Ka ng kamay. Ano nang unit ng away, hinto Ka lang muna (para may gulat factor sa delivery) tapos sabihin mo: "you don't do that to me" Straight faced, iwasan umiyak.

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Re: When is it acceptable for a man to hit a woman?
« Reply #39 on: November 16, 2016, 03:12:19 pm »
It's never acceptable for anyone to hit anyone except in self defence regardless of the sex of both parties.  If in an argument hitting someone harder than they hit you doesn't prove you are right, just that you can hit harder!

 


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