Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 8)

[young_maiden]

Guys, question. How do you react pag may nakikita kayong gwapong guy? Nasasabi nyo ba sa isip nyo o sa mga kaibigan nyo na gwapo siya? Pag ang lalalki ba nagagwapuhan sa isang lalaki, sign ba iyon na bading siya? hehe.

[eladyo.cz]

para sa akin hindi ko masasabing bading. insecure lang ako pag nasabi ko sa isip ko na gwapo ang isang lalaki na sana ako din hahaha.

[kvandenhaak]

Oh yeah! Napapansin ba rin ng guys kapag me gwapong lalake? I have asked some guys before and they all said they are guys so they don't notice those things. Totoo ba yun? I mean, kasi kaming girls napapansin namin kapag merong ibang girls na maganda. Not necessarily insecure but minsan we admire a girl's physical attributes or how they dress and stuff like that.

[mysterioza_me]

Siguro minsan di lang nila maamin na naggwapuhan din sila sa ibang guys pero deep-inside alam naman nila kung anong totoo haha.
I remember kapag kasama ko bro ko and sasabihin ko na ang gwapo naman ng guy or ang cute naman, agad kokontra yun e. Like sasabihin niya, "gwapo na ba yun sayo? Maganda lang gupit nun pero mas gwapo ako dun!" or "mas matangkad lang yun saka mas maputi sa akin."

[jtansanco]

Guys, question. How do you react pag may nakikita kayong gwapong guy? Nasasabi nyo ba sa isip nyo o sa mga kaibigan nyo na gwapo siya? Pag ang lalalki ba nagagwapuhan sa isang lalaki, sign ba iyon na bading siya? hehe.

We acknowledge in our mind that the guy is handsome but it's no big deal. It's only an issue if he starts getting to know our crushes or significant other. But if he's some random guy passing by, our mind will pause and say, "This guy looks good", and then we go back doing our thing.

[young_maiden]

Salamat sa mga insights nyo. Si guy friend ko kasi (whom I've been secretly liking for a long time) may mga times na nagagwapuhan sa kapwa niya lalaki so heto minsan duda ako sa gender preference niya. I asked another male friend ng tanong ko. Sabi niya di naman ibig sabihin bading agad basta objective lang ang pagkakasabi.

[emcee]

bf said i was insecure in our relationship (well, i realised i was so i hope  it's still not too late for us), we talked over the phone and i thought we're ok.

but now, he wasn't calling or sms-ing me. i feel like he wants some space. What should i do? I am trying my best not to initiate calling or sending him a message just to prove i'm not insecure in our relationship. is this the right thing to do?

[budzwhiz]

^ Yes. Give him space. Do your own thing. Ipakita mo sa kanya na hindi sa kanya umiikot ang mundo mo. Spend some time on yourself or with your friends, tapos i-post mo sa facebook.

[jtansanco]

bf said i was insecure in our relationship (well, i realised i was so i hope  it's still not too late for us), we talked over the phone and i thought we're ok.

but now, he wasn't calling or sms-ing me. i feel like he wants some space. What should i do? I am trying my best not to initiate calling or sending him a message just to prove i'm not insecure in our relationship. is this the right thing to do?

If a guy likes, he will initiate any communication with you, If not, he won't. If you're the one who keeps initiating, he may not be heads over heels with you anymore.

[emcee]

^ Yes. Give him space. Do your own thing. Ipakita mo sa kanya na hindi sa kanya umiikot ang mundo mo. Spend some time on yourself or with your friends, tapos i-post mo sa facebook.

lol, kaso di kami friends sa fb..hehe. decision namin pareho..lol

[emcee]

If a guy likes, he will initiate any communication with you, If not, he won't. If you're the one who keeps initiating, he may not be heads over heels with you anymore.

thanks! well he sent me sms na just sending me a picture of a property we bought (actually, sumama na naman loob ko at pumunta sya dun ng hindi nagsabi sakin pero i ignore it na) anyway, i sent him messages as well on why i was acting that way and admit that He was right.

His only response was 'ok, glad you see that.' ayun lang? then wala na naman ..parang he is soo cold :S

[Girltalker2]

Guys, I was going to go through with it. My brain was not listening to my heart. I made my hotel reservations to meet my trainer, but having read all your advice today, natauhan ako. Salamat sa inyo. Sure, honestly, I still want to go. I really want to go, pero hindi nga dapat. Mali! I cancelled everything, I am extremely sad, but I am sure I am glad nakinig ako sa inyo. Thank you for helping me deal with this difficult situation.

Sis, hope you're doing well now. Naalala lang kita nitong pumutok ang balita about Delima and her driver/bodyguard.

Time and again, it just shows na we women have to be wise in these kinds of decisions. Hindi puedeng bara bara lang, especially sa lahat ng tyaga at sacrifices mo to attain where you are now. Mahirap masira pangalan mo just because of a guy na di mo kalevel.

Anyway sobrang embarrassing for Delima yung balitang iyan. Not to mention pa sobrang babaw at most questions pa ng congress halos walang kwenta at nagmukhang Showbiz gossip corner ang interrogation. Sorry OT na... 

But lesson iyan sa mga kababaihan talaga na Maging mapanuri sa magiging BF mo or anyone na Ma-l-link sayo, huwag Basta Basta or kahit Sino lang.

bf said i was insecure in our relationship (well, i realised i was so i hope  it's still not too late for us), we talked over the phone and i thought we're ok.

but now, he wasn't calling or sms-ing me. i feel like he wants some space. What should i do? I am trying my best not to initiate calling or sending him a message just to prove i'm not insecure in our relationship. is this the right thing to do?

So sis, are you or are you not insecure in your relationship? Para sakin Ang security ng babae sa relationship - malaki factor dyan is how the guy takes care/treats you. Unless ikaw mismo wala sa lugar. But it is important he recognises your feelings and accepts you as who you are. Pero mukhang sa usapan nyo, ikaw talaga ang insecure at you agreed with him. But on the other hand, ikaw naman ayaw mag initiate ng communication. Para sakin, iyang BF mo, as the guy, he should never subject you to this situation - pinapahula sayo where he is etc. Di naman sa gusto mo sya imonitor, but as partners, napakahirap ba to update each other on what is happening on his day?

[jtansanco]

thanks! well he sent me sms na just sending me a picture of a property we bought (actually, sumama na naman loob ko at pumunta sya dun ng hindi nagsabi sakin pero i ignore it na) anyway, i sent him messages as well on why i was acting that way and admit that He was right.

His only response was 'ok, glad you see that.' ayun lang? then wala na naman ..parang he is soo cold :S

Guys don't like the "drama" part of a relationship... Haha. Relax. 

[kwang sun]

Matanong kang ah... bakit ba may mga guys na sobrang yabang ? Hindi na cute na yabang eh yung nakakairita na.lol.  Men pov pls thanks

[dismembered]

^ I think same lang din sa reason ng mga girls na "super maarte" at "super feelingera". Sadyang may mga ganun lang talaga.

[jtansanco]

^^ That's normal for people who are "feeling Alpha males".

[yourboyToy]

^hahahaha, yes maganda talaga katawan nya, ang hirap ipaliwanag sa sobrang ganda! hahaha - he is also quite popular in the gym where I go to. He has attained a pseudo celebrity status sa paningin ko, may sarili na syang mga followers, parang fans. That, plus the attention that he showered me, feeling ko noon ang haba-haba ng hair ko hahaha. Before I knew it, I felt strongly for him.

Pasensya na po kung gusto ko ulit buhayin ang kwento ni nightingale.  Ang ganda kasi ng plot. Hehe..Pang romance novel.  So, kumusta naman, Doctora, este, nightingale...?  Naudlot na talaga ang lahat sa inyo?  Pano mo naiwasan?  Lumipat ka ng gym?  Tumigil? Sayang naman ang kwento. 

But more seriously now...I am also for the "pick your own size" line of thinking when it comes to relationships.  I think that the problem I'm having with my wife right now stems from her insecurities...like being undergraduate, mababa sweldo, watak-watak ang pamilya, etc...So I guess importante talaga ang compatibility.  (Please dont get me wrong.  I do not belong to the rich kids league.  But my wife thinks I have too many achievements in the academe compared to hers) 

Pero sa tingin ko rin hindi naman ito tungkol sa "ka-level" o hindi lang na usapin.  Masyado kasing pyudal yun.  I think what our friends in the thread are trying to point out is compatibilitya also.  I mean, ok lang naman siguro kung hindi mo sya ka-level sa income bracket as long as he can compensate for that in other areas like, character, brains, looks (why not).  Besides, hindi ka pa naman siguro papakasal agad-agad sa kanya.  Date-date lang naman siguro, or even sex, if that's your thing.  I really guess you ought to give yourself a chance with him and him with you. But with plenty of caution kasi mukhang may emotional investment ka na eh.

Just saying.

[snowhite_12]

I have a question. Why do guys prefer sa girlfriend nila to be simple but if mai makita sila sobra glamorous na babae nag appreciate sila? ano ba talaga mga guys...

[mysterioza_me]

^Sabi ng bro ko alam daw kasi ng lalake kung ano ang tumatakbo sa isip ng kapwa nila lalake. So kung si girl super ganda, sexy and lakas ng dating agad-agad lumilipad na ang "imagination" ng guy, pero ayaw daw ng mga lalake na pinagpapantasyahan ng ibang lalake ang gf/wife nila kaya they prefer na simple lang si gf/wife.

[dismembered]

I have a question. Why do guys prefer sa girlfriend nila to be simple but if mai makita sila sobra glamorous na babae nag appreciate sila? ano ba talaga mga guys...

Most guys kasi, kapag nag isip ng longterm, mas prefer nila yung mga simple. Sabi nga nila, pang habang buhay. Yung pagiging glamorous, sexy at attractive physically, nawawala yun in the long run. Kung i-appreciate man nila yun, more like as is where is basis lang. Most guys ayaw din ng pansinin na partner. Gusto nila sa kanila lang maganda si Partner. Kinda selfish pero tama din si mysterioza_me. Gusto ng guys mambakod din.