Problems You Encounter Wile Planning Your Wedding Part 8

[ms.pharmer]

Hi maedonnas! Mahirap din kasi kung hindi mcontrol un suppliers eh. What if one of them won't arrive on time? Baka madelay un wedding, and worse, if let's say San Agustin Church un mabook namin, baka hindi na kami maikasal niyan dahil sa sobrang daming nakapila doon. hahah

Hi LilaFowler and exquisitegem, exactly the point. Like ngyon, start palang ng October pero sobrang traffic na. What if December comes? and lalo next year pa. Problem is, magagalit si dad ni h2b pag hindi nasunod yun gusto niya. huhu  Baka mag away pa yun family niya nang dahil sa wedding namin 

[LilaFowler]

^ You can't make everyone happy. In the end, you have to do what you think is best for your wedding.

[stella021817]

@ms.pharmer: I agree with the others, that Jan 2018 seems like the best choice.  If you choose Dec 2017, not only will you be dealing with traffic, but I think you also may have a harder time booking caterers, venues, lights/sound systems etc since that is a very busy time for suppliers (because of xmas parties and all).  I would assume Dec prices might be more expensive too? Maybe if you explain all of this to his dad, he would understand.  I get that he wants your grandmother to be present at your wedding, but he should be considerate of the other family members (and guests) as well.

I think to avoid arguments, you and your fiance should just sit his dad down and have a calm, face to face talk with him. Show him all the pros and cons, and emphasize what YOU want. It's your wedding after all. I think if he cares about his son (and you!) he will come around. Good luck!!

[MS_JanDel]

Sis rowan sometimes it's really easier to talk to strangers.  It means a lot that our words makes you feel a little better sis. We'll keep praying for you.

Sis ms.pharmer sorry this might sound selfish but, i think you should decide on what date, i mean kayo lang ni h2b. It's your day, kayo ba yung dapat magadjust? You can always talk to them sis and lay down your reasons, for your they will understand.

But just like our other sis, i'd prefer jan 2018 too. 2018 is a good year because it has the infinity in it "8" and then you have less traffic, not a peak month for suppliers plus more relatives can attend. December is the peak wedding month, you might not be able to get the suppliers you really want especially na hindi pa kayo nagstart magbook sis. October/November usually may bagyo, anjan yung super typhoon so traffic may also be a problem. 

[Tincywincy]

^ sis ms.pharmer, relax. just because you're having a bit of problem with your wedding date doesn't mean hindi kayo para sa isat isa. Blessing din siguro yan para ngayon palang maexperience nyo na mag decide on something really really important, as one 

December 2017 bride din ako sis. and yes, problem din naming yung bad traffic. Pero kaya naman sya gawan ng paraan. like our church is just a stone throw away from our reception venue. sa suppliers, hindi naman naming nafeel na mas mahal yung samin, except siguro for the flowers. basta mabook ng maaga, and your wedding wont fall in a holiday, I think same naman  BUT, ang downside neto is those that are coming in from abroad would definitely spend a lot more on their plane tickets.

January 2018 naman, based sa suppliers namin hot month din to for weddings because typically, a lot of couple would pass for the Christmas season and have their wedding in January instead (primarily because of the same reasons mentioned by our sisses)

either way, the earlier you get to decide, the better para you can move forward with your prep

[MissPotatoChip]

I agree with Tincywincy!  Dec 2017 bride din ako, and nagbook na rin kami agad ng major suppliers since fixed na ko sa mga gusto ko like Church, Reception, Photog, Caterer, MUA and Host. The rest okay lang kahit maghanap pa kami. At first hesitant din ako sa date namin kasi malapit na sa Christmas pero since si h2b ay OFW pati sister niya and may mga kasama sa entourage from abroad kailangan namin iconsider sila para makapagbakasyon ng mahaba. Ang ginawa namin sa friends and families dito sa Manila is nagpasurvey kami kung pupunta sila kahit Dec 23, sabi nila ok lang daw kahit sa Christmas Day pa mismo. 

[ms.pharmer]

^^^^ Thanks mga sis LilaFowler, stella021817, MS_JanDel, Tincywincy.

Nappraning na nga kami ni h2b. haha pero siya yun mas kawawa kasi every other day siya kinukulit ni [textspeak!]. Naawa naman ako sa kanya. Hopefully maintindihan ni [textspeak!] yun mga cons, (actually Oct 2017 talaga yun gusto niya) and sana mapilit namin si dad niya na Jan 2018. Pray for us mga sisses! TIA! 

 

^ Tincywincy, what date exactly yun wedding day mo? Gusto nila kasi Dec 17, 2017 eh.

[Tincywincy]

^ sis you're welcome  our wedding would be December 29. we're banking on the thought na hindi na ganun katraffic yan since mostly umuwi na ng province for the whole week (25 kasi is Monday so MAYBE a lot of people would really take the whole week off work  pero kahit hindi naman, we would still choose a hotel na malapit or within the area lang para worst case eh kaya kong lakarin. Char! wag naman sana. tee hee!

17 is nice sis. kaya lang baka mahirapan ka humanap ng church nyan ha. I read in some comments here mahirap maghanap ng church pag sunday (at December pa) kaya the earlier you guys decide, the better talaga.

keep in mind lang sis na wag kayo masisiraan ng loob ni h2b kung ano man mapag kasunduan nyong date. positive lang lagi 

[LilaFowler]

I have a very big problem.

I woke up to a 2am text from my coordinator. My church is being renovated and will not be available for my wedding. I am so disappointed.

I seriously found it so unprofessional that they would take bookings and then suddenly decide that they will renovate and cancel all the bookings.

My second and third choices are also unavailable and there are no other old churches in the area (all damaged by the earthquake). We are limited with church choices because our wedding is on a Sunday.

I don't know whether to settle for any church or just have a beach wedding which will disappoint the parents.

[exquisitegem]

^Aww. That's a big problem nga. Do you have a signed contract with the church already? If there is, there should be a legal implication. Especially if everything is already set.

Just an advice, if the parents (or if you and your h2b) really wanted to have a church wedding, then just settle on the other options sis. You can invest na lang on the decors (sound too cliche that when life hands you lemons, make lemonade). Too sad nga lang you won't be able to do it in an old church (which is yun talaga ang gusto nyo).

Hope you can decide well sis.

[LilaFowler]

^ I have paid the deposit. No formal contracts signed unless my coordinator signed on our behalf.

Hayy I can't sleep tuloy. My coordinator presented a couple of alternatives, pero nothing is catching my eye.

Nakakainis talaga. We already knew that there's possibility of the church being renovated so they initially refused to take a deposit until they are sure that the renovation will not push through. They said sure na yung date namin so they took the deposit.

I feel so bad for the other couples having their wedding there. My coordinator said that the parish only informed them today and the renovations are to start next week and all weddings starting next week are cancelled. At least we have 6 months pa. My coordinator has a wedding there this Sunday sabi nya there are scaffoldings na.

[exquisitegem]

^Can't imagine the stress the couples have to deal lalo na pag malapit na yung kasal.

Pag siguro sakin nangyari yan at may contract, idedemanda ko sila. haha 

Well, good thing you still have 6 mos. sis so makakapili ka pa. 

[LilaFowler]

^ Sis, even if you sue them you can only sue them for damages - which is just the deposit we paid and they will return this anyway. We can't stop the renovation and we still have to use another church. Siguro if we will incur expenses to change the venue, we will look into suing.

Buti na lang I was being lazy with the invitations I haven't had it printed yet. Kung hindi, I will have to reprint everything.

[kdramaholic]

Big hug sis LilaFowler! Can't imagine what you are going through right now... Siguro, ang mahalaga sa ngayon you still have 6 months to look for a church.. Nakaka-sad lang na sana di na talaga sila nag accept at all ng bookings kung basta lang nila icacancel.. Don't worry dear, God is great, makakahanap ka din.

[Rory_Lorelie_Gilmore]

LilaFowler, Sis. This is beyond frustrating. I can't imagine how you feel. Kelan ba wedding mo?

I guess, one way or another, kailangan nila man lang kayo iassist by referring you to another Church. Iprioritize kayo since I'm sure you've booked them a long time ago na.

They can't get away with it, they MUST do something.

[LilaFowler]

The problem is after the earthquake there are no old churches in Bohol that is available. They are either destroyed or under renovation.

I was a bit calmer today and I went through a list of old churches in Bohol. I found one that is possibly still standing and possibly not being renovated. But it's 48 minutes away according to Google maps. Is that too far? Alam ko sa Manila 48 minutes is nothing, with the traffic, 48 minutes can just be around the corner.

[Rory_Lorelie_Gilmore]

^^ good to know, my Church anc reception/prep place is also 30-45 mins apart Tagaytay. 2PM nga lang ceremony kaya di ako masyado worried sa traffic.

I think that will suffice, basta gusto mo pa din yung Church. Good luck. Keep us posted.

[Tincywincy]

^^^ sis i'm sorry to hear about your church problem. IMO, basta okay na sayo yung new church siguro dont mind the travel time nalang. Basta maayos yung road and accessible naman, i think go mo na. Kesa icompromise mo naman eh yung mismonh church wedding.

[rowan]

LilaFowler, theres no traffic in Bohol daw:) Just make sure you provide a clear and easy to understand map so the guests won't have a hard time locating it.

[LilaFowler]

^ Oo nga kaya 1 hour to travel is malayo talaga - 39km. Although I travel that much to work everyday (I hate it).

Sabi ni H2B masyado daw malayo. One hour to and one hour from church. He does not care where we get married basta we get married daw. For him, a church is a church.

What do you guys think of this church? Sa tingin nyo ba mapapaganda with styling? Eto ang suggestion ng wedding planner namin.

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