Problems You Encounter Wile Planning Your Wedding Part 8

[littlemissbiatch]

^ My friend got married in South Palms din and I agree the food was really, really good! We stayed in the resort and availed of the group rate and halos same nga lang din sa Agoda. Pero we ended up getting upgraded so in the end ok na din. It's a really nice resort although ang mahal ng car rental service nila vs yung outside rates.

For what it's worth I just found out lang din na the discounted rates for my preps hotel ay more expensive (but not by much) than Agoda. I'll raise pa lang the issue with my coord.

[LilaFowler]

^ Napansin ko in Panglao, hotels are really expensive.

My cousin said the rate we are paying in Panglao is almost the same level na as Maldives.

[shopaholic]

Hi everyone, just an update. Well, my grandfather passed away. He was 103 already, and I know he led a full life and everything. But he raised me and I lived with him for a good part of my life so it was very very hard. I actually thought of postponing my wedding, but my entire family was very supportive and said that Lolo would have wanted me to push through. I hope and pray that he will be looking down on me from heaven on my wedding day.

I also had to let go of one of my secondary sponsors, a guy I've been close to since high school. He's always been kinda flaky, and we don't stay in very constant communication. But I thought it's my wedding so maybe he'll step up? And he was also very supportive first few months. But when it came time to get fitted for his suit, he slowly disappeared. First he'd just say he was busy, apologize and promise he'd get fitted. Then he slowly stopped responding to my Facebook messages and texts. Since I was going through a tough time in my life, I decided I do not need this extra stressor and decided to let him go. So I told him via Facebook. He still hasn't responded. My OC self is annoyed that he's on the invitations and I can't change it, but what can we do.

My friend was also supposed to supply our cake. But since he's not responding, we had to quickly look for one. My coordinator and fiancée were very helpful and I am so happy we made the choice to switch. My cake will now be all-edible and will be super yummy. Extra gastos Lang though.

Most recently we also had to remove one of our ninangs. It was a very painful betrayal on the part of my fiancée's family that led to the decision and they're still going though it so I can't post about it. But needless to say I understand.

So there, my wedding preps seems to be like a movie /teleseeye, it's like every week something life-changing happens. But through it all, what I'm grateful for is that it's made me and my fiancée love each other more. He has been my rock, and he has been 100% supportive all the way, even though he is going through a difficult time with his family.  Sometimes I think these trials are just God's way of completely equipping us for the road ahead as a married couple.

[exquisitegem]

^That's sad to hear. Condolence sis!
Yes, nakakalungkot pag may mga ganyan, yung sumasabay pa sa pinagdadaanan mo. Good decision din to remove those who are not participating in the preps, dagdag lang kasi sa iisipin mo.
Don't worry, with prayers, God will make everything perfect. 🙏🏻

[yn061515]

less than 7 months to go at nagsisimula na ang mga issues.

Ang sarap mag-post minsan sa FB na wait ha, this is my wedding. Kasal ko! Bakit ikaw ang masusunod? I should be the one to decide, not you!

I am starting to have issues with my lady abays. Nag-decide ako ng style ng dress for MOH, BM at secondary sponsors. Karapatan ko naman siguro bilang ako ang ikakasal diba? May fashion sense din naman ako at isinaalang alang ko din naman ang mga itsura at pangangatawan nila sa pagpili ko ng design. 

Ngayon, nakita ko lang na may PM ako mula sa magkapatid kong abay. Hindi ko pa inoopen at sa pasilip pa lang eh naiirita nako. Yung isa, BM ko. Pwede daw bang lagyan nya ng konting twist ang gown nya? HINDI HINDI HINDI!!! Pare-parehas ang bawat role!

Yung kapatid, nagsend ng sariling design ng dress at yun daw ang gusto?
Gandang ganda ka sa sarili mo te? Kasal mo??? Nakaka irita lang. Iseenzone ko kaya mga to!!!

Respeto lang naman sana sa ikakasal. Alam ko nakukuha nyo lahat according to sa gusto nyo pero this is my wedding! MIIIIIIIIIINE!!!!!!!! WAAAAAAAH!!!!! 

[Rory_Lorelie_Gilmore]

less than 7 months to go at nagsisimula na ang mga issues.

Ang sarap mag-post minsan sa FB na wait ha, this is my wedding. Kasal ko! Bakit ikaw ang masusunod? I should be the one to decide, not you!

I am starting to have issues with my lady abays. Nag-decide ako ng style ng dress for MOH, BM at secondary sponsors. Karapatan ko naman siguro bilang ako ang ikakasal diba? May fashion sense din naman ako at isinaalang alang ko din naman ang mga itsura at pangangatawan nila sa pagpili ko ng design. 

Ngayon, nakita ko lang na may PM ako mula sa magkapatid kong abay. Hindi ko pa inoopen at sa pasilip pa lang eh naiirita nako. Yung isa, BM ko. Pwede daw bang lagyan nya ng konting twist ang gown nya? HINDI HINDI HINDI!!! Pare-parehas ang bawat role!

Yung kapatid, nagsend ng sariling design ng dress at yun daw ang gusto?
Gandang ganda ka sa sarili mo te? Kasal mo??? Nakaka irita lang. Iseenzone ko kaya mga to!!!

Respeto lang naman sana sa ikakasal. Alam ko nakukuha nyo lahat according to sa gusto nyo pero this is my wedding! MIIIIIIIIIINE!!!!!!!! WAAAAAAAH!!!!! 

Doha represent haha! I know how you feel. Ako naman kasi 4 lang sila, super close ko pa. Anticipated ko na din ang mga iba ibang opinions as to the color, style etc. Meron kasi chubby, matangkad na bagong panganak, morena and petite. Sa color hinayaan ko sila mamili, nagpapili ako. May mga nagreklamo na nakakaitim daw etc haha. So ok ni let go ko ang 1st color ko in mind, tutal di din naman ganon kaganda. Next may 1 nagpipilit ng trip nya na color pa, at fist sabi ko [textspeak!], pero sa huli, ako pa din naman nagdecide.Matter of factly lang sabi ko ay, ganito nalang kulay ng dress (infinity kasi) para di kayo masakit sa mata na naliligaw sa motif. Haha. Close friends ko naman so wala naman gano issue.

Dedmahin mo nalang, be firm sa design and color na gusto mo, KASAL NATIN ITO. PERIOD. Haha!  Try to avoid arguments nalang din para less bad vibes hehe. Naisip ko na yan eh. Kaya infinity dress din pinili ko. Kanya kanya sila style, pero color to my liking. Mas tipid pa ng sobra. P1250 kay Audrey Sabandon haha. Winner. 

Wag ka na patress Doha sister. 

[britzm]

^^chill ka lang sis. nung ako kinasal, may mga ganyang comment din. eh hindi naman nila sagot yung gown. edi seen ko nga. haha! o kaya, simple and straight answer like, "hindi pwede" or "iisa lang design ng gown for bridesmaids"
but of course, depende sa dynamics niyo ng bm mo. sakin kasi may pagka maldita ako.
meron pa ayaw mag send ng measurements, keso papayat pa daw. nagdala nga ako one time ng medida, sinukatan ko siya.
dont dwell too much on nega things para hindi haggard ang itsura sa wedding 

[LilaFowler]

^^^ Did you consult them with the design of the dress?

For our wedding, my bridesmaids picked the dress. Binili ko kasi RTW, I picked mga 5 styles that I like and fit my budget, then they picked from that. Easygoing naman sila. Their only request is long dress.

I get that I'm the bride and what I say goes pero diba ultimately they're the ones wearing it? If di bagay sa kanila, di din maganda for your wedding.

Shoes and accessories din sila na bahala. I just said gold shoes please, sila na bahala if flats or heels. Accessories, just earrings.

[sparklingjewel]

Yes, it's your day. And lalo na if you're the one paying for the dress, you really feel like you should have a say.

Unfortunately, since you wont be the one wearing it the entire time, to an extent you also need to consider their preferences. Some are given sheer fabric, or bodyhugging fabric kahit di naman sila payat. Or a style that is too revealing or that they're simply not comfortable with (i had MOHs who were conscious about their arms). So if you really want them to be a part of your wedding, you need to be considerate as well. Ask them anong part of your design that doesnt work for them and why. If it's reasonable, i allowed it. Had them choose their own style out of about 10-12 sketches i had made.

[itsKat!]

^nakakasad lang yung mga girls na may poblema sa sa abay. In the first place, your BMs and MOH should be the one supporting you for your big day. I am glad na wala akong poblemang ganyan, kahit 9 pa sila, including MOH, kahit anong design at color sabihin ko okay sa kanila. gusto ko din kasi uniform lahat ng style.

Anyway, 4 months before the wedding and I am feeling this "wedding stress". I don't know if it is normal pero yung feeling na lagi parang ang dami mong kelangan gawin and iaccomplish, (aside from my work). Minsan it gets really tiring to the point na iniisip ko na sana wedding day na para matapos na lahat ng decision making and stress. haha! Is this normal girls?

[exquisitegem]

More than 4 mos na lang din samin sis pero dpa naman ako na-istress. Baka sa december ko mafeel yung pressure hehe
Wala din ako problem sa mga abay ko. I let them choose the style of their gown kasi pero ako magpapatahi.

[MS_JanDel]

^In my case kasi, my bridemaids are paying for their dresses, I'll just give them the fabric.
I just gave them a base design, separate skirt na my slit and then top na flowy. Sabi ko sila na bahala kung
anong design ng top nila pero yung skirt ganito. Same naman yung tela nila, printed yung top, plain yung skirt. So parang mismatched na coordinating pa rin.

[yn061515]

you guys are right. What I did, hinayaan ko na lang. I spoke with my designer and she said that only 3 designs are allowed/included in the package. That means, 1 for MOH, 1 for BM and 1 for SS. I just told my abays na those who belong in each role should agree with 1 design. Ang sa akin lang, same color and same bagsak at length. They'll be having the fitting on November 5 and I'll leave everything to my sister (MOH). She'll just make chikka na lang after.

Totoo nga na you cannot control everything. Yes my abays know that I am maldita and a control freak but with this wedding, I want them to feel important also. They are the chosen ones ika nga, very dear and special to my heart. Kaya I keep on telling myself not to stress on the small stuff. A little over 6 months to go, wuhoo! 

[Rory_Lorelie_Gilmore]

you guys are right. What I did, hinayaan ko na lang. I spoke with my designer and she said that only 3 designs are allowed/included in the package. That means, 1 for MOH, 1 for BM and 1 for SS. I just told my abays na those who belong in each role should agree with 1 design. Ang sa akin lang, same color and same bagsak at length. They'll be having the fitting on November 5 and I'll leave everything to my sister (MOH). She'll just make chikka na lang after.

Totoo nga na you cannot control everything. Yes my abays know that I am maldita and a control freak but with this wedding, I want them to feel important also. They are the chosen ones ika nga, very dear and special to my heart. Kaya I keep on telling myself not to stress on the small stuff. A little over 6 months to go, wuhoo! 

True, ako din yan mantra, I want our wedding to be happy, light, full of love, may personal touch ko and ng g2b pero I promised myself na di ko iistressin sarili ko over little issues. I let go ng i let go ang mga bad vibes. Of course di maiiwasan mga conflicts, pero at the end of the day this must be a celebration of love, di lang ng bride and groom but also mga people na a-attend since most of them will be our families and closest friends.

Good luck satin Doha sister. 

[MS_JanDel]

^it's a good thing you finally settle it. Yay lapit na sis!

[marbleslice]

itsKat! Ganyan din nafifeel ko especially now we're left with a few more weeks before the big day. Hirap na din magconcentrate sa work. Parang wedding preps thing is always on my mind. Yung minsan gusto mo na lang matapos lahat. But then i remind myself na try to enjoy this phase pa din at wag padala sa stress.

I also shouldered my ladies' gowns and para mas simple i let them choose the available designs since they know what will look good on them. Pinakita lang nila sakin. at least wala akong issues naririnig.

One concern Im having now is the rsvp. Low turnout ng response esp. the groom's relatives. But when I had my h2b's parents follow up on their relatives ayun mga nagconfirm naman. If only I knew, baka di na ko nagpa rsvp sa coord ko (coz the rsvp was extra charge). People should learn how to respond to rsvp texts.

[maedonnas]

^hi sis what i did is nagcreate ako event sa FB.You're right may dagdag bayad nga sa coord ang RSVP. And then you could put in the created event, please confirm so we'd know who to send formal invites. This would give them the idea na pag di sila nagconfirm, they won't be given an invite. 

[yn061515]

True, ako din yan mantra, I want our wedding to be happy, light, full of love, may personal touch ko and ng g2b pero I promised myself na di ko iistressin sarili ko over little issues. I let go ng i let go ang mga bad vibes. Of course di maiiwasan mga conflicts, pero at the end of the day this must be a celebration of love, di lang ng bride and groom but also mga people na a-attend since most of them will be our families and closest friends.

Good luck satin Doha sister. 

Good luck talaga sa atin kapatid. haha!
Thank you ha!

[marbleslice]

^^maedonnas thanks for the tip sis. For the groom's relatives most of them mga titos and titas and from the province kaya di sila gaano techie hehe so we had to rely on the rsvp to contact them. Worry ko din earlier baka may tendency sila to bring additional companions in short, wont follow the allotted number of guests written on the invite. So what happened was aside sa invite, the parents had to emphasize na x number lang ang dadalhin nila.

[maedonnas]

^^maedonnas thanks for the tip sis. For the groom's relatives most of them mga titos and titas and from the province kaya di sila gaano techie hehe so we had to rely on the rsvp to contact them. Worry ko din earlier baka may tendency sila to bring additional companions in short, wont follow the allotted number of guests written on the invite. So what happened was aside sa invite, the parents had to emphasize na x number lang ang dadalhin nila.

Tama ka sis, yan talaga yung di maiiwasan na kahit may nakaspecify na di parin ifofollow. I guess I also need to reiterate to avoid gate crashers.