Biglang nag laho na parang bula

[snowhite_12]

Hi Friends.

Share ko lang experienced ko,Bigay si Boylet ng Friend ko,kasi single ako  eh baka daw mag work out to.so i gave it a try.at first,I was having second thoughts of giving my number to this guy baka kasi ma dissapoint ako when the time mag meet kami. usually kasi yan yung experience ko.so since na bored ako i gave it a try.So we meet up and I was surprised,hindi ako na dissapoint. the conversation was good it went really well.Hindi ko nga inexpect he would text me right after sa date namin,if i was home na ba and even thank me that he had a great time with me. kinilig ako syempre,so i was thingking.. ito na may chance nato mag bloom to something better.

Before we meet he usually do the first move maki pag communicate and consistent talaga, may times pa nga tinutulogan ko siya then na next day na ako mag reply.kasi ayoko maging close sa hindi ko pa nakita in person at baka ma dissapoint pa ako lalo.

eh now,hindi na siya nag paparamdam. bat ganon? wala naman akong ginawa masama,hindi ko naman siya inaway and presentable naman ako the time we meet.

na pa think tuloy ako"maybe he's not that into me anymore after we meet" ang unfair naman. hindi naman ako nakakahiya.
Ang Ouch! Has anyone experience this?

[17glut]

Kaka-meet nyo pa lang so there are still room for improvements and part of that process is to not let assumptions get in the way - malay mo busy lang sya or walang load, etc so wag mo muna pag isipan ng kung ano-ano. Get to know each other first kahit mga ilang months lang and just go with the flow.

[snowhite_12]

kaka meet lang nga pero unsual kasi hindi na nagpaparadam. alam ko may load siya kasi postpaid line siya.

[17glut]

here's one way to settle this, try initiating contact with him - pag seldom pa rin reply nya then alam mo na agad na he might just not be THAT into you. 

[aquacharly]

If it's meant to be, it's meant to be.

Do not confuse his capacity to act like Lucky Manzano (a perfect gentleman, or a consummate irresistible & endearing flirt. Hahaha) for an interest in building a relationship.

More important:  do not take it against yourself if things do not develop.

[snowhite_12]

@ 17glut sige pag isipan ko yan gawin

@aquacharly yun na nga eh kasi i prayed i wont be dissapointed when i meet him, nag expect ako ito na yun

[cecilydee]

Baka may ginawa ka na nakaka turn off sa kanya. Lets say instead of naglaho ng parang bola, it should be - bula. Lol kidding aside. Diba you just said na hindi ka naman seryoso sa kanya nung una? Ok lang yan kung naglaho siya. Move on kana sa next. At least wala kang gano emotional investment sa kanya diba?

[ohcmon]

Sorry, TS, he probably doesn't think your date went well. If it did, you would've known soon enough, and trust me, you wouldn't have posted this thread in the first place.

Okay lang 'yan. A guy who doesn't see your worth is not worthy of your time anyway.

[snowhite_12]

@cecildee ay sorry na wrong spelling nga ako.lol pinapatawa mo naman ako anywayz i texted him to give it a try last night. He replied late about 3 hours. Sabi "sorry late reply.slep ka na siguro ngayon.Good night (my name) " ganon yung reply. Syempre hindi ako naka pag reply tulog na ako.

[zelda]

TS, after this kind of text, don't reply na ha. It was just a date, and unfortunately mukhang wala syang interest to pursue a 2nd meet-up. 

[Girltalker2]

@cecildee ay sorry na wrong spelling nga ako.lol pinapatawa mo naman ako anywayz i texted him to give it a try last night. He replied late about 3 hours. Sabi "sorry late reply.slep ka na siguro ngayon.Good night (my name) " ganon yung reply. Syempre hindi ako naka pag reply tulog na ako.

Sorry sis ha, I also noticed the wrong spelling. Di lang kasi iyan, ang dami pang iba. Isip ko naman baka naka iphone ka lang at naka auto check.

In any case, going back to the topic, a date is just a date, especially these days. Especially yung date nyo na setup lang. How can you expect the guy to like/love you agad eh kakakilala nyo palang. You should not expect in dates like this. Just enjoy the friendship and companionship. Hayaan mo sya magyaya ng 2nd date. Kung wala, move on sa next.

[17glut]

some guys are not usually into the casual dating scene, most of them are into into just to get their quick fix na maka-score agad...probably he didnt see that chance becoming possible with you so ganun naging reply nya. In short, kung wala rin naman kaming mapapala sa isang girl then why bother taking it further di ba?

[heartfortress]

Move on ka na sis. Paganda ka pa lalo not for other people but for yourself. Isang date pa lang naman yun, malilimutan mo agad yan (based on experience lol). Another thing, when you go out on a date next time, just don't expect anything para di ka mahurt or madisappoint. Just go with the flow. Kung magtuloy tuloy e d wow. Kung hindi, ok lang yan.

[simpleemie]

It happens, baka di nya lang naramdaman yung spark. Minsan wala sa ganda o personality yun diba.

Nangyari to before sakin. I know crush nya ko at years ago crush ko din sya. After the 1st date, wow di na nagparamdam. Nakakaloko lang ☺

[snowhite_12]

Actually nag text siya this morning yung hindi mo inexpect.hindi sana ako mag reply eh hindi to naka lock yung cellphone ko kaya may auto reply.ano ba naman to...kasalan sa cellphone... i listen to all ur advice naman..

[snowberry]

Haha baka strategy yan, testing the waters kung baga. Nagpapa miss muna.

Guys do that, try muna nila hindi mag paramdam para hintayin kung mag initiate ng next move  si girl para alam nya kung interested din si girl.

[simang]

While he's testing the waters, or is unsure if he really wants a second date... Go enjoy your time on your own. :-) don't stress too much about it. A guy who wants to communicate with you will communicate with you. It's that simple.

can you give us a timeline kung gano kayo katagal magkatext before nagkita, then ilang araw after sya bigla nawala. Para lang may idea. Baka naman kasi you're rushing into things din.

[shayne_12]

Move on na sis.. Whether you like him or not, don't ever expect na may mga 2nd chances para hindi ka madisappoint. Kapag nakipagmeet ulit, go lang ulit. Tapos kapag hindi na nagpramdam, try to text him kapag walang reply ng ilang araw delete his number. Para hindi ka na ma-attempt na magtext ulit sa kanya.  hehe

[ReservoirDogs]

Happened to me before.

I thought the guy was so into me because he'd travel all the way from Pampanga to Manila just to see me. Then after our third date (as in naka-third date pa kami), poof, nawala parang bula.

So I did what 17glut suggested. I contacted the guy after two weeks.  He was nice and all, but he said na he was busy because he was taking his masters daw and that we should meet up soon. So I got the hint and moved on. Ayoko magsayang ng oras sa lalaking sasayangin lang oras ko.

Madali naman mabasa lalaki. They're not into mind games. If gusto ka nyan, hahabulin ka nyan.

[simang]

^exactly. Tsaka wala naman taong sobrang busy, talagang pinipili nya lang gawin yung mga ibang bagay kesa itext/tawagan/yayain ka lumabas. Kaya ako hindi ako naniniwala sa lalaking torpe. Walang torpe. Kung gusto ka nya, gagawa sya ng paraan to let you know one way or another. Kung nahihiya, eh baka hindi ka nya ganun kagusto to risk it. Some girls lang tend to give the benefit of the doubt sa mga guys lalo na kung feeling nila eh may potential. But then, if the guy feels the same, he will consistently show you that.