Just Friends/ Friendzoned

[jeune]

Awwwts! Anong nangyari? I'm still pushing, hanggat walang gf si moks May pag asa pa din si sis pumpkin

[pumpkin13]

I'll detail what happened.

So we met at Rob Galleria, took a cab to our friend's house. And yes, I wore the minidress, which he didn't seem to notice at first. I don't know. Or he just didn't care. Once there, sabi nya, nakaskirt ka pala? Takpan mo nga yan. So nilagyan ko ng throwpillow kasi puro guys yun bisita. Natawa na lang yun guyfriend namin. Ako medyo nabadtrip ng slight. So we started having fun, kain, kwentuhan, kanta. He sang a series of love songs. Then here's the conversation between him and our guyfriend (I remembered almost the exact words):

Friend: Parang daming hugot ng mga songs mo pare ah.
Moks: (laughed)
F: Andito ba sya? (The only women around were me and friend's wife)
M: (laughed)
F: Bakit kasi di na lang totohanin?
M: Wag ganun boy!
F: Ayaw mo sya maging girlfriend?
M: Kung maggigirlfriend ako, syempre sya ang gusto ko. Pero kung gusto mo i-keep yung someone ng matagal, ganun na lang yun. Ganito lang.

He began singing again. Friend looked at me. Patay malisya ako. it was so awkward kasi walang namedropping na nangyari and I was sitting right beside moks. Nawalan ako ng gana. So that's it, guys, I guess. Sakit lang. Pag uwi ko di na ko nagpahatid sa kanya kasi iyak na iyak na ako.

[17glut]

I'll detail what happened.

So we met at Rob Galleria, took a cab to our friend's house. And yes, I wore the minidress, which he didn't seem to notice at first. I don't know. Or he just didn't care. Once there, sabi nya, nakaskirt ka pala? Takpan mo nga yan. So nilagyan ko ng throwpillow kasi puro guys yun bisita. Natawa na lang yun guyfriend namin. Ako medyo nabadtrip ng slight. So we started having fun, kain, kwentuhan, kanta. He sang a series of love songs. Then here's the conversation between him and our guyfriend (I remembered almost the exact words):

Friend: Parang daming hugot ng mga songs mo pare ah.
Moks: (laughed)
F: Andito ba sya? (The only women around were me and friend's wife)
M: (laughed)
F: Bakit kasi di na lang totohanin?
M: Wag ganun boy!
F: Ayaw mo sya maging girlfriend?
M: Kung maggigirlfriend ako, syempre sya ang gusto ko. Pero kung gusto mo i-keep yung someone ng matagal, ganun na lang yun. Ganito lang.

He began singing again. Friend looked at me. Patay malisya ako. it was so awkward kasi walang namedropping na nangyari and I was sitting right beside moks. Nawalan ako ng gana. So that's it, guys, I guess. Sakit lang. Pag uwi ko di na ko nagpahatid sa kanya kasi iyak na iyak na ako.

sinabi ko na kasi syo lasingin mo muna eh ayan tuloy i guess fate's been sealed already 

girls! kapit kamay tayo para sa ating sis.... 

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[jeune]

Hmmm, he does like you but I don't think he's ready for a commitment or he's just scared of losing his friendship with you. Maybe he needs more time to asses his feelings? Palamig ka muna sis, this is not the end of your journey with him yet. When the right time comes, let him know what you feel but be ready with an open heart whatever the outcome is. At the end of the day, you know in your heart there will be no regrets. Cheer up! 

[17glut]

^lemme rephrase that, moks DOES like you pero nothing more as what you guys are now. Atleast maaga pa lang nalaman mo na...problem is, things will get alot more awkward now at work - atleast for the next few days or weeks to come

[Girltalker2]

^ why awkward?

Basta pareho parin ang position ko for sis pumpkin. Move on and meet other guys din. Make yourself available at huwag ka papa bakod sa kanya. It is his loss and the only way for him to realise it is for you to expand your circle of friends.

[shayne_12]

nasad naman ako.. pero hindi ako nawawalan ng pag-asa.. hehe Ano ano ba mga songs na kinanta niya? nacurious lang... oh well siguro sis distance ka na lang muna ng konti sa kanya para makamove-on ka na..  andito kami for you.. hug...

[pumpkin13]

May namiss out pala ako na part nun conversation. Sabi ni friend, eh pano kung may feelings din sya sayo? Sagot ni moks, ayoko na lang malaman.


Sis shayne:  kinanta nya sunod sunod before the conversation (not in exact order) Be My Lady - martin nievera, Say That You Love Me - martin nievera, Fallin'- janno gibbs, ipagpatawad mo - janno gibbs, nakalimutan ko na yun iba.

Girltalker2: yes sis, move on ako. Di naman ako aarte sa kanya na loser at bitter. Eh yun pala gusto nya, eh di yun. kahit masakit ano pa magagawa ko. Tiis.

[jeune]

^
After reading the missed out part of your conversation, move on na nga. Kala ko pa naman kahit konti meron pang pag asa. Maybe better nga to remain as friends lang. Kumusta naman kayo sa work sis?

[pumpkin13]

^Di pa kami nagkikita after last night, sis. Tues-Sat shift namin ngayon. Eto nagtext, di ko pa naoopen. Kinakabahan ako.

[pumpkin13]

Eto yun text:

"About last night... I don't know if I should say sorry (name ko). I've fallen for you. Obvious naman yata sa usapan namin ni (guyfriend). Kaso lang (name ko) alam mo naman priorities ko. Ang dami ko pa pinoproblema. Ikaw nga ang nakakaalam nun. Hehe... Kaya nga di ba pag trip nila ko hindi ko pinapatulan kasi hindi pa pwede e. Napapalayo tuloy ako. Ayaw kong maging ganun tayo. I want to keep you, and this is the only way I can do that, to suppress my feelings. This is all assuming that we feel the same.Hehe. If not... oh well. Wag ka magagalit sakin at sana walang magbago."

Di ko nireplyan. Nawalan ako ng gana. Ampangit ng ending ng teleserye.

[shayne_12]

speechless... ateast umamin na rin.. yun lang marami pa siyang kelangang ayusin...  ano nararamdaman mo ngayon sis?

[jeune]

The feelings were mutual naman pala He's just not ready to commit yet. How deep is your feelings for him sis? Are you willing to wait?

[zelda]

Hangtaray ng updates! I'm so hooked!

:virtual hug: Like what other girls said here, yeah, di pa nga ready sya mag-commit sa yo. May hang-ups sa buhay?

Don't make the situation difficult for both of you. Try to act like nothing happened. Keep the friendship dahil bihira ang ganun company. It could be a lifetime friendship with him. For me, don't ever bring up this topic sa conversation nyo unless sya mismo ang magkusa. Dunno, siguro to save your heart since sya rin naman ang nagdecide na di ka iinclude sa priorities nya.

While enjoying your friendship, get to know other people.  Seriously, you have to set aside those feelings para maging happy ka ulit sa company nya. He might reassess his priorities once he sees you in a different light.

[Girltalker2]

^ totally agree!!! Don't talk about it. Just be cool about it.
Enjoy mo lang company nya just like how you enjoy the company of your other friends. There's nothing wrong with that.

If ever may ibang umaaligid, you entertain them din, ok lang maki pag flirt and don't allow moks bakuran ka. Hayaan mo sya magselos, or ma realise he wants more to this.

I don't think it is a sad ending. In fact, I like his disposition. Ayaw nya mag gf for the sake. He cares about you and the friendship. Ang daming lalaki dyan crush lang papatol na tapos after a few weeks, may iba nang kalandian.

Again, hindi pa tapos ang love story mo. Huwag mo masyadong dibdibin. Bata ka pa. if ever maging kayo later, ok lang. If not, I'm sure there are much better guys out there for you.

[17glut]

Eto yun text:

"About last night... I don't know if I should say sorry (name ko). I've fallen for you. Obvious naman yata sa usapan namin ni (guyfriend). Kaso lang (name ko) alam mo naman priorities ko. Ang dami ko pa pinoproblema. Ikaw nga ang nakakaalam nun. Hehe... Kaya nga di ba pag trip nila ko hindi ko pinapatulan kasi hindi pa pwede e. Napapalayo tuloy ako. Ayaw kong maging ganun tayo. I want to keep you, and this is the only way I can do that, to suppress my feelings. This is all assuming that we feel the same.Hehe. If not... oh well. Wag ka magagalit sakin at sana walang magbago."

Di ko nireplyan. Nawalan ako ng gana. Ampangit ng ending ng teleserye.

Although umamin si moks na gusto ka nya atleast maayos naman nya napaliwanag yung side nya. That gesture is rare even among guys - yung pag value ng friendship over romantic feelings. Pag ganyan, move on ka na lang imbes na maging hopeful pa sa kanya kasi kung talagang gusto ka nya maging GF he would have said and done otherwise. Hindi ka malalagay sa friendzone at all.

Para hindi awkward, bawian mo ng biro, sagutin mo text nya sabihin mo  "ok lang, di rin naman kita type eh"  atleast back to kulitan ulit kayo. 

[momentum]

been a silent reader of this thread..makiki comment na ako 

^ yeah I would go for that too, yung ganung reply sa text like what Glut said.
or something like "huh?haha kaw talaga. tigilan mo na yan dahil baka maging awkward pa tayo"

Ganun. basta don't make it a big deal. DEADMA. no other choice. don't show na apektado ka

Then like what other sisters said here, go and hang out with your other friends.
Mejo iwas ka muna konti para maka move-on ka na. One day, pagtatawanan mo nalang to.
You said it yourself rin naman previously eh, na he is not a boyfriend material.
So take him out of your mind na. May mas okay pa na dadating and he will have time for you, and won't let you slip away. Hayaan mo na yung mokong iprioritize mga problema nya. Maglaway nalang siya kapag may naging boyfriend ka na. Sa kanya bagay ang "nasa huli ang pag-sisisi" 

Pero okay narin at he became honest with you. I guess it took a lot of guts for him to text you that. Parang inunahan ka na siguro na siya na nag-reject ng idea. Yun nga lang..masakit kasi may feelings ka. Pero don't worry sis pumpkin, makaka-move on ka na nyan  matatapos narin kahibangan mo sa knya hehe just be the same good friend to him, but I would suggest bawasan mo na pagiging madikit sa kanya. para parehas narin kayo maka-move on.

[zelda]

LOL sa text. pre-emptive supalpal yun, girl! Chos!

At ang suggestion ni glut17 is a good example of a counter pre-emptive supalpal.  Actually, maganda yun to forget those things that have been said. Clean slate for your friendship.

[wandergirl1980]

Wag mo naman sabihan ng di kita type kasi malamang emotional din si moks ngayon he migth take it personally. Sabihin mo na lang "puro ka drama libre mo na nga lang ako hehe" para di din sya mailang.

Cheer up sis pumpkin...you may not have gotten what you really want to happen but at least you got to keep your friendship.

Saka isipin mo na lang at least wala kang inamin so hindi ka na-reject at the same time nalaman mo ang feelings nya for you. It wasn't a case of one-way love affair...just that he can't give you the relationship you're hoping to have now because of reasons that are beyond his control.

[pumpkin13]

Haha! Thank you sa girltalkers ko at sa guytalker ko for all your support. At least hindi eto typical romcom na nagkatuluyan sa huli. Hahaha!

Yes, mga sis, momove on. Dami ko na din naman pinagdaanan na real heartbreak. This is relatively simple, so I'll be fine. And I'll keep the friendship and be open to other possibilities.

Thank you sa pagsubaybay at sa mga advice. Glut, romcom naman naten? Hahaha! Joke lang. Thanks, bro.