Overprotective guys, cute or insecure?

[simang]

^ buti pala nakawala ka na sa kanya. malas lang ng GF nya now.

Napansin ko kasi sa mga incomplete (insecure) na guys, somehow nadadala parin nila iyan sa future eh. Gaya nga ng ex ko, nung BF/GF palang kami, kung bakuran ako akala mo naman ako si Ms Universe.  Eh hindi naman. Yes, minsan may umaaligid, pero di naman ako yung tipong habulin ng guys noh.  Pero kung umasta sya parang anytime mawawala ako. Kaya sabi pa nga ng friends ko before, maswerte daw ako kasi I have him wrapped in my little finger. Though hindi nyako pinagbabawalan, lagi kasi sya nakabuntot sakin, pero ang motive nya talaga is para wala nga akong ibang circle of friends na di nya kilala. 

nako sis i can so relate! haha natatawa ko habang binabasa ko kase naalala ko talaga how my ex was. ganun din, he was so controlling na ayaw nya akong magkaron ng bagong kaibigan, or bagong experience. nagkaron ng time na naghiwalay kami, pero mega pa din sya sa pag check sa akin. ako naman, dahil siguro bata pa ako nun, sinasabi ko sa kanya kung anong ginagawa ko, sinong kasama ko, para magselos sya. nung nalaman nya na nililigawan ako nung HS barkada ko, saka ulit sya pumasok sa story. niligawan nya ko ulit and guess what, sya ang sinagot ko. i dumped the HS friend (for the 2nd time). in short, naging kami ulit and tumagal pa kami ng 5 or so years after that.

marami syang drama nung college ako, working na kase sya nun and LDR kame (sort of, nasa province sya and i was here in manila studying). ayaw nya na lalabas ako with my friends, as in lagi nya sinasabi saken that my friends are no good, na puro inom lang alam, etc etc. FYI, he has never met my friends. one time may text pa syang "drink that beer and you'll never see me again". umiyak pa ko nun sa mga kaibigan ko, pero uminom pa din ako! hahaha my friends thought sobrang swerte ko daw kase he's so into me, pero dumating talaga sa point na sobra na. dahil dun natuto din akong magsinungaling sa kanya lalo na if di sya approved sa mga gagawin/pupuntahan ko.

when i started working his concern was mag eexpand na daw ang mundo ko. dun ko narealize the things i missed when i was with him. may part na parang feeling ko di nya narealize that i was growing up.. 16 pa lang kase ako nun and he was 25. even when i was working already, he still treated me like i was a teenager. hindi na talaga sya healthy for me.

[Queen Chokolah]

Meron kasi hindi na kami 
(parang hay salamat pa!)

Parang nabasa ko nga somewhere na na annul yung kasal nyo. I know im not supposed to say this pero congrats sis! You're one of the lucky few sa pinas na nakawala sa unhappy marriage.

[Girltalker2]

when i started working his concern was mag eexpand na daw ang mundo ko. dun ko narealize the things i missed when i was with him. may part na parang feeling ko di nya narealize that i was growing up.. 16 pa lang kase ako nun and he was 25. even when i was working already, he still treated me like i was a teenager. hindi na talaga sya healthy for me.

Good thing sis, you were able to realize this early on. You were young pa nga kasi nung nag BF kayo. Ganyan na ganyan din sakin, I was around 14yo. Imagine that.  Sakin kasi hindi din ako nagmature enough, at nagstagnate ako kasi sya nga lagi kasama ko hanggang ikasal kami. Kaya gumuho ang mundo ko nung nalaman kong may babae sya kasi wala akong ibang close na kaibigan kundi sya. Lahat ng kaibigan namin, kaibigan din nya. Kahit kasal na kami nun, yung insecurities lalabas at lalabas talaga sa isang tao eh. 

Pero ang message, iyang ganyang guys kelangan talaga pag isipan mabuti kung gugustuhin mong makasama panghabang buhay,

 

Parang nabasa ko nga somewhere na na annul yung kasal nyo. I know im not supposed to say this pero congrats sis! You're one of the lucky few sa pinas na nakawala sa unhappy marriage.

Yes sis! Yes Yes! 

Boy am I glad nakawala talaga ako!  It is only when my marriage ended that I was able to grow and bloom. Ang dami kong narealize about "me" just being ako at hindi kami.  It is a very wonderful experience talaga and I am still discovering more and more about myself now. Yung hindi ko nagawa nung kabataan ko (kasi nga ba naman teenager all the way to 20s yung kumag ang kasama ko hanggang sa ikasal kami all the way to my 30s), ngayon ako nagc-cram. Better late than never. 

[simang]

Pero ang message, iyang ganyang guys kelangan talaga pag isipan mabuti kung gugustuhin mong makasama panghabang buhay,

that was actually my turning point. as in inimagine ko life ko 10 yrs in the future and kasama ko sya, and i swear hindi ko nagustuhan yung nakita ko. dun nagstart na gawin ko lahat ng gusto ko without considering him (di pa ko agad nakipaghiwalay haha), then eventually we just grew apart. di na talaga pede.

Yes sis! Yes Yes! 

Boy am I glad nakawala talaga ako!  It is only when my marriage ended that I was able to grow and bloom. Ang dami kong narealize about "me" just being ako at hindi kami.  It is a very wonderful experience talaga and I am still discovering more and more about myself now. Yung hindi ko nagawa nung kabataan ko (kasi nga ba naman teenager all the way to 20s yung kumag ang kasama ko hanggang sa ikasal kami all the way to my 30s), ngayon ako nagc-cram. Better late than never. 

Natuwa ako dito sis, kase ganito din naramdaman ko nung naghiwalay kami, yung tipong bolder, wiser stronger and peg. haha. dun pa lang ako naging 'out there'. nakakatuwang experience and it made me a better person talaga

natuwa ako sa better late than never haha. pero i am happy for you sis.

[gharz412]

ganito din asawa ko... nung bf/gf kame feeling ko okay lang kaso when we got married naging worst na! 1. lhat ng shorts ko sinunog 2. working mom ako pag di ako nkpag reply kase nasa office it's either tatawagan mga ka office mates ko or pupunta sa office , 3. wala na kong social life, pag ako d pwd pag siya ok lang    at this is one of the factor na nasabi kong I HAD ENOUGH! nakakasakal at di siya cute idea!

[langley]

ganito din asawa ko... nung bf/gf kame feeling ko okay lang kaso when we got married naging worst na! 1. lhat ng shorts ko sinunog 2. working mom ako pag di ako nkpag reply kase nasa office it's either tatawagan mga ka office mates ko or pupunta sa office , 3. wala na kong social life, pag ako d pwd pag siya ok lang    at this is one of the factor na nasabi kong I HAD ENOUGH! nakakasakal at di siya cute idea!

eh ganyan na pala ang asawa mo bago pa kayo maging mag-asawa tapos ngayon nagrereklamo ka? Tanggapin mo na lang ang asawa mo. Magpasalamat ka na pinoprotektahan ka niya. Ano ba gusto mo wala ng pakialam sa'yo asawa mo?

1. lhat ng shorts ko sinunog

Ayaw lang ng asawa mo na pag naka short ka may titingin na ibang lalake sa legs mo.

[gharz412]

eh ganyan na pala ang asawa mo bago pa kayo maging mag-asawa tapos ngayon nagrereklamo ka? Tanggapin mo na lang ang asawa mo. Magpasalamat ka na pinoprotektahan ka niya. Ano ba gusto mo wala ng pakialam sa'yo asawa mo?

Ayaw lang ng asawa mo na pag naka short ka may titingin na ibang lalake sa legs mo.

iba ang overprotective sa obsessed...

[simang]

^you shouldve realized that prior to getting married. Ang OA yung sinunog na shorts. I mean, pede naman pagbawalan ka lang or let's say gawing basahan yung shorts or idonate sa less fortunate pero para sunugin?! That's crazy

Some girls just don't know themselves well. Kaya dapat bago talaga pumasok sa relationship clear sa atin what we want.

And i have to agree with sis langley, married na kayo so it's harder to complain and you might just have to suck it all up..

[gharz412]

^you shouldve realized that prior to getting married. Ang OA yung sinunog na shorts. I mean, pede naman pagbawalan ka lang or let's say gawing basahan yung shorts or idonate sa less fortunate pero para sunugin?! That's crazy

Some girls just don't know themselves well. Kaya dapat bago talaga pumasok sa relationship clear sa atin what we want.

And i have to agree with sis langley, married na kayo so it's harder to complain and you might just have to suck it all up..

That's the reason why I'll ask for an annulment... And as for all you know, walang pagsisisi na nasa unahan or else wala na tayong natutunan sa mundo...

[baliwsayo]

Everything in moderation naman dapat. Cute ang guy who protects his girl of course.. just don't overdo it. Kakabadtrip naman ang guy na deadma lang. Sarap din naman sipain kung ganun ang bf mo. Lol!

[wildorchid]

Nope, hindi attractive the acts A-D. My guy allows me to do what i want, alam naman nya capacity ko. But kung hindi safe, dapat kasama sya..

[nixiquita]

a ) ang daming bawal like sa pananamit. CUTE. BUT DAPAT HINDI YUNG CONTROLLING ANG DATING. YUNG PARANG NAGWWORRY LANG SIYA NA AYAW KA NYANG MAGMUKHANG BASTUSIN OR KATAWATAWA.
b ) bawal pumunta sa mga gimik with friends
na hindi sila kasama. OA! OK PA KUNG KUNYARI MAGAAALALA LANG AT MAGVVOLUNTEER SUMAMA KUNG PWEDE. HAHA. TAS SUSUNDUIN KA AT HAHATID SA GIMIK PLACE PERO WOULD STILL LET YOU ENJOY WITH OTHER PEOPLE.
c ) may kakilala siyang nagbabantay sa ' yo sa
office na magrereport sakanya if someone is
flirting with you. CREEPY NAMAN! OKAY PA YUNG KUNYARI MERON SIYA BANTAY NA KAPAMILYA MO OR KAWORK OR FRIEND, NA MAGCCHECK LANG SA SAFETY MO OR SOMETING, WAG NAMAN YUNG PARANG MAY PRIVATE INVESTIGATOR AT SPY.
d ) threatens any guy who shows the least bit
admiration for their girl. NOT CUTE, OKAY PA YUNG KUNYARI MAGSESELOS OR MAGKUKUNWARING INSECURE OR BOTHERED KUNO. HEHE. CUTE YUNG GANUN.

[happie]

Your examples are too much naman but i think my guy will probably check up on me if i werent in an all girl office set up He expects me to bring him when i hangout with my hs friends but later understood that thats not how it works. To be fair to him , he brings me when he hangs out with his guy friends too. He prefers that i workout at home, or he will also enroll in my gym. Cute nman pagka protective niya

[sacred cow]

^ what's his reason why he doesn't want you to workout at the gym alone?

[happie]

I think he doesn't want other guys to approach me. The last time i went to the gym with him, he was just always beside me.

[sacred cow]

^ then what does that say of him?

[alice_alice]

Para saken OA yung iba na nasa listahan, ayoko ng ganyang klase ng karelasyon.

Kasi di ko yung tipong nagbabawal makasama ang mga kaibigan at katrabaho niya, di lang naman sameng 2 nakaikot ang mundo kaya mali naman na pigilan ang tao na makasama yung mga kaibigan at workmates. Ang pagkilala naman sa ibang tao kelangan sa buhay yan kelangan rin minsan ng network na maaring makatulong sa iyo o sa kanya balang araw kaya para saken importanteng may nakakasalamuhang ibang tao.

Yung about sa damit, understandable ito ayaw lang naman niya siguro mabastos ako so ayos ito. Di rin naman ako nagsusuot ng revealing na damit kaya di ito magiging issue.

Yung may kilala sa office at binabantayan ka, ang creepy lang ng dating okay naman na he checks me from time to time pero yung mangistorbo ka pa ng ibang tao dahil lang gusto mo malaman ang ginagawa ko medyo nakakainis para saken yan.

Yung magbanta ng ibang lalaki dahil lang may gusto saken, talagang napakainsecure ng dating saken neto kung admiration lang as long as di naman ako kinukulit, liniligawan or di naman gumagawa ng move magpacute saken i do not see any reason na ithreaten niya yung lalaki. Pero kung nangungulit at sinabe kong may bf na ako pero di ako tantanan by all means pwede niya ito gawin ako pa magsusumbong sa kanya.

[little_princess]

Insecure, he needs to be confident that you don't have a wandering eye and that your relationship has a solid foundation. A certain level of protectiveness is always good but anything OA is bordering crazy already.

A guy needs to know the boundaries and he needs to let a woman have her own independence or she in turn will be too dependent on him and he will say that she is needy blah blah.. it's a vicious cycle.

[sugardrop]

I think these types of men have no idea na hindi sa kanila umiikot ang buhay ni girl.

[tisaygirl123]

Hay nako ha, ganyan ang ex ko. maybe sa culture din..
I find it

INSECURE and WALANG TIWALA.


-Kailangan pa may picture ako na suot ko yung damit na sinabi ko sakaniya.
-Bawal mag post ng sexy sa FB.
-Bawal mag short or sleeveless
-Kailangan conservative looking padin pag pupunta ng clubs.
-Dapat lagi ko siyang kasama.
-Dapat laging naka shoes
-Bawal mag palda or short basta maikli
-Bawal ako tumitig sa iba.
-Pag hindi siya kasama bawal ako sumama.
-Hatid ako sa pupuntahan ko to check who's with me.
-Pag sinabi niyang uwi agad. uwi agad dapat. pag hindi umuwi break agad.