Singles on early and late 20's

[mars13]

I'm 27 NBSB pa nga haha, sabe ng kuya ko wag na ako umasa kasi di na ako makakapag asawa  he's so mean  Gusto ko syempre magkaruon ng husband and kids pero kung hindi yun mangyayari tatanggapin ko na lang. Sabe pa ni chico loco wag ipilit baka dumugo hahaha

Sabe ng friends ko kulang ako sa exposure,tamad talaga ako lumabas ng bahay, hindi ko alam kung anung exposure ang dapat kogagawin .

Ganyan din ako sis, di ko alam kung anong exposure ang gagawin. Karaniwan puro married na ang nakakasama ko, siguro kasi wala na ako masyadong single friends .

Nagtratravel naman ako, lumalabas kaso sa mga mall lang hehe.

[Ma.Jewel_1987]

^ uu nga sis eh pati sa mga cousins merun pang iba na mas bata sakin pero may anak na. Majority din sa girl friends ko may mga anak na, yung mga male friends na lang ang wala.

[mars13]

^^same here. kaya pag halimbawa nagkakasama-sama ang mga relatives ko, lagi ang tanong "ikaw, kailan ka ba magboboyfriend?" or "may asawa ka na ba?".

[fredprinz]

Basta 'wag lang kayo papadala sa pressure. Enjoy lang.

There are a lot of opportunities lalo na sa edad niyong 'yan.

I learned to answer questions like that, if elderly people ask me bakit wala pa akong girlfriend/asawa, I tell them I'm saving up for a house. Tapos ang usapan.

^^same here. kaya pag halimbawa nagkakasama-sama ang mga relatives ko, lagi ang tanong "ikaw, kailan ka ba magboboyfriend?" or "may asawa ka na ba?".

[misslovelyjoy]

Same problems pala tayo girls. Masyado daw ako nagtatago sa lungga ko at masyadong masungit. Hahaha!

[argento]

Madali lang sa babae makapag asawa kesa sa guys

[young_maiden]

^ i disagree. ang lalaki kung gugustuhin magkalovelife at makahanap ng lifetime partner, walang problema. liligaw lang siya at kung nagustuhan siya pwede mauwi na sa kasal. ang babae maghihintay lang yan na may manligaw sa kanya. kung wala siya suitor, mahihirapan siya magkalovelife at makapag-asawa.

[Ma.Jewel_1987]

^ agree

[fredprinz]

^^^

And this is exactly why I despise the culture of "courtship" dito sa aten. Yes, you girls might think it's easy for us guys to court girls, but we get dumped too. And this is also why I don't court girls, I ask them out on dates. How I wish single ladies will change their mindset and ask single, unattached guys out on dates too. I find it very attractive if a girl knows what she wants and doesn't mind doing something to get it. Oo, maghihintay lang ang babae, pero what if ang dumating is hindi nila gusto? Do they settle for less? I hope not. And take note na merong mga babaeng hindi talaga kaligaw-ligaw (e.g. hindi physically attractive, boring, boba and other factors). Kaya unless you do something to meet people, good luck.

[argento]

Ang girls Puwede magpakasal kahit hindi niya gusto yung guy basta ito ay mapera.

[misslovelyjoy]

^Not all. We girls are hopeless romantic. We still want to be married to the guy we love.

[Ma.Jewel_1987]

Ang girls Puwede magpakasal kahit hindi niya gusto yung guy basta ito ay mapera.

Ang asim lol 

[young_maiden]

^^ hindi lahat ng babae gold-diggers. meron pa rin nagpapakasal dahil sa love. anyway, for me, mas madali pa rin for guys magkalovelife. oo narereject din kayo minsan pero makakahanap pa rin kayo ng babaeng makaka-appreciate sa inyo. kayo ang pwede gumawa ng first move eh. kaming mga babae maghihintay lang ng may darating. kung walang darating, wala talaga. ang awkward naman kung yung babae magyayaya sa lalaki makipagdate di ba. baka isipin nyo pa desperate kami.

[fredprinz]

^^^Kaya nga eto yung perception na dapat mawala sa culture naten.

I don't find anything wrong with women making the first move, pero taboo kasi ito sa culture naten. I hope you ladies never settle for less and kung sino-sino na lang available. Always stay positive and 'wag magsettle sa latak.

Kung feeling ng babae na hindi siya totally attractive/pansinin/"ligawin" material and maghihintay na lang siya parati, sayang ang opportunities in meeting new people. But hey, that's just me. To each his own.

[Girltalker2]

Madali lang sa babae makapag asawa kesa sa guys

This is not true.  Look around you, mas maraming singles na girls na 40yo and up kesa single guys na over 30yo.

Ang girls Puwede magpakasal kahit hindi niya gusto yung guy basta ito ay mapera.

I am really not sure pano ko ito basahin.  when you say "puede na" pakasal sa guy na mapera, I would say true. Lalo pa kung wala na syang choice. Iisa lang ang manliligaw na may pera, madali naman ma-fall yung girl lalo pa kung everyday nya ito nakikita tapos susuyuin sya ng husto.

The other thing that you may be implying is if the guy is not mapera, mahihirapan sya to get married with girls who are high maintenance at nagd-demand ng grand wedding?

I don't find anything wrong with women making the first move, pero taboo kasi ito sa culture naten.

I guess for me I never did this siguro nga because of culture. Pero feeling ko hindi iyan ang main reason e.  May reasons why I think women should NOT make the first move.

Una una, men are men.  Lalo pa kung hindi mo naman BF yung guy, at may crush ka sa kanya, malay mo ba ano ang character nya bilang tao?  Malay mo mapagsamantala?  Lalapit ka ba at papatuka?  I always believe the guy should make the first move kasi kung babae, hindi mo masabi kung taking advantage si guy o hindi. Sa pov ng guy, sakin na lumalapit, since "puede na naman sya", why not make patol? 

It takes guts for a guy to approach us, I would think ha, maliban nalang sa sanay na playboy.  So makikita mo rin kahit papano na pinag planuhan din nya to get to know you.  May effort kung baga at totoong interested sya sayo o hindi.

I hope you ladies never settle for less and kung sino-sino na lang available. Always stay positive and 'wag magsettle sa latak.

Sobra itong importante. Sa girl kong anak, paglaki nya, ito siguro ang pinaka importante na kelangan ipasok sa utak ng bawat babae sa mundo.  Oo, there is always hiwalayan, there is always divorce.  Pero syempre ang sakit kaya sa ulo makipaghiwalay sa asawa.  Kaya if there is one thing na pinaka importante na decision one has to make - you should marry right. Kasi if you don't, the consequences can be far far more detrimental than you think. Kala mo hiwalay na tapos na?  E pano kung may anak kayo?  It is life changing.  It was 17 years ago when I got married, 6 years ago when I separated.  Pero up until now, I am still suffering from its consequences. Parang lifetime nga e.

So never settle. Marry right.

Kung feeling ng babae na hindi siya totally attractive/pansinin/"ligawin" material and maghihintay na lang siya parati, sayang ang opportunities in meeting new people. But hey, that's just me. To each his own.

Bilang babae, you should never feel unattractive.  Kasi kung feeling mo hindi ka attractive, then always do something about it. Iba parin kasi ang nadadala ng confidence. 

^^^

And this is exactly why I despise the culture of "courtship" dito sa aten. Yes, you girls might think it's easy for us guys to court girls, but we get dumped too.

Well, I agree with you on going out on dates, if you really have not found the one you really want to be with.  It broadens your perspective din kasi. I also prefer going out to get to know each other kesa sa ligaw agad.  First you enjoy each other's company and wait if something develops at both kayo willing to take it to the next level - pursue MU, then slowly work from there.

As for getting dump. Naku naman, for guys, yes you can get dumped. Pero that's it.  E sa girls?  Pano if they approach the guy?  Hindi lang dump.  Una una, ang risk that ladies take if they invite guys out --- una, puede din sila mapahiya, mas nakakahiya pa kamo, kasi ikaw nanga babae, ikaw pa nire-reject.  Second, kung hindi naman ikaw i-reject, how do you know that the guy does not have evil intentions, since alam nya na may gusto ka sa kanya, feeling nya, 1 day puede na magBF agad? 
So I really do not recommend this route --- unless you are desperate.  As per sis young_maiden, puede isipin ng ibang tao desperate ka - which is kinda true, but never mind what other people think - what do you think as a lady - why ask someone out - kasi wala ka na ibang makitang okay? Iisa nalang ang lalaki sa mundo?   






 

[fredprinz]

^^What others may say about you is none of your business. Kung alam mong wala kang ginagawang masama, di ka nanggugulang at wala kang inaapakang ibang tao, I say go ask a guy out. Kung iisipin na parating mapapahiya or any negative stuff, wala talaga.

Muhammad Ali once said, "He who is not courageous enough to take risks will accomplish nothing in life." And I believe it applies to love, too.

[argento]

^^ hindi lahat ng babae gold-diggers.

ikaw nagsabi niyan di ako 

[young_maiden]

fredprinz and girltalker2,

wala pa ako courage to ask a guy out. hehe. sabi ko nga sa isang thread ko i grew up with a low self-confidence pero inaayos ko na. nag-ayos ako. naging friendly. i got so many compliments from other people including guys. pero ang magyaya sa guy lumabas? parang di ko pa rin keri yun. hehe.  kaya ko magyaya dun sa mga guy friends ko na purely platonic lang at dapat kkb kami. pero yung within the context of dating? hmmm... sorry di ko kaya. takot ako mareject.

kaya ko mag initiate ng friendship with guys. actually mas madami nga akong friends na lalaki kaysa babae eh. pero wala pa ako guts i-move sa next level unless may first move from them.

@argento

eh kasi naman para yun ang na-imply dun sa post mo. pero peace tayo ha! God bless

[chinablue]

I'm 26 and I'm single. I came from a painful heartbreak 2 months ago. Now I'm just enjoying life. Work keeps me busy which is a good thing kesa naman magmukmok ako. I have many plans for the next year at isa na dun ang magtravel overseas.

My friends keep on telling me na mag-asawa na. Ayoko na magpapressure. I did before and it just led to heartbreak. Ayoko na magmadali, ayoko na magsettle. Masarap kayang maging single!

[yellowvessel]

Im 4 months single now. Mabuhay ang mga SMP! Hehe