giving him the cold shoulder, how long can you withstand not replying?

[nixiquita]

uhm yeah well. pwede din, unless my friends arent available so talagang im left with myself and my eagerness at pangigigil na "pestehin" bf ko regarding sa mali niya or kasalanan niya sakin. hehe

[kwang sun]

natry ko 5 days nagtanong na siya on the second day if bat d na ako nagtetext pero d ko pa rin pinapansin .. ptuloy naman din siya sa pagtext

[quinone]

luckily, bihira kami mag-away. siguro kasi naiinis pa lang ako sinasabi ko na, na naiinis na ako and mamaya na kami mag-usap. it doesn't last very long though, mabilis kasi kami mag sorry pareho, kahit sino pa ang tama/mali.

i don't do silent treatments/cold shoulders because i don't want it done to me either. as far as i know, it is some form of emotional abuse. if ganyan ang hubby ko, iiwan ko talaga yan. i used to have a friend who does this to me, so hindi na kami friends ngayon.

[klariza_yabu001]

Can't withstand to ignore my bf din pag may mali sya. Longest time ko is 3-4 hours lang noon pero ngayon 30 mins nalang hehe. He doesn't retaliate naman at palagi syang nagmamakaawa sakin na pansinin ko na sya lol kaya di ko rin talaga natitiis. I don't want to emotionally abuse him by giving him the cold shoulders. I don't want that to happen to me too. Pag ganun kasi usually iniisip ng bf ko na di ko na sya mahal or wala na ko pake sa kanya which is ayoko isipin nya na ganun. Iniisip ko din minsan baka maaksidente sya tapos ganun last treatment ko sa kanya. Kaya every moment talaga I make sure he knows I truly love him every single second he does the same to me din.

Try to avoid making your fights bigger. Once a quarrel starts, ask, assess, try to understand and forgive right away. It's part of comprehending life and living it. Life is short so make the most of it. Pero syempre depende pa din sa weight ng kasalanan or pagkakamali yan. If need nyo ng space to soul-search or some peace of mind just tell each other diba para mabigyan nyo ng space and time ang isa't isa to think over your feelings always put God between yourselves and your relationship and pray it will work out. Amen! Hahaha

[starf1sh]

Try to avoid making your fights bigger. Once a quarrel starts, ask, assess, try to understand and forgive right away. It's part of comprehending life and living it. Life is short so make the most of it. Pero syempre depende pa din sa weight ng kasalanan or pagkakamali yan. If need nyo ng space to soul-search or some peace of mind just tell each other diba para mabigyan nyo ng space and time ang isa't isa to think over your feelings always put God between yourselves and your relationship and pray it will work out. Amen! Hahaha

i think i'm weakening! getting weak at this.. one day nalang (24 hrs) dati 2 days .. :S

[iamlili]

Longest was 3 weeks.

Aminin ko ma pride ako eh. Kaya lang kung hindi ako ang may kasalanan, ay bahala ka sa buhay mo. Haha. Pero kung ako din ang may mali, maybe 2-3 days, then after kakausapin ko na siya ng maayos.

[mebpa]

3 or 4 days, not sure exactly. nagkataon everyday OT me that time so it was easier, pagdating ng bahay matutulog na and early morning leave for work. mahirap kase mag-usap ng ganun, pagod so mas mainit ulo, better na deadma nalang. pagdating ng Friday nagpansinan na since weekend na, no point na hindi magpansinan, ano yun paabutin pa hangang next week. petty reason lang naman, hindi nagtext na may after work videoke/birthday party sila, eh I waited, nag-iintay pala ko sa wala. GRRRR

[Yurusenai]

4 days, it eventually lead to the break up..girls would know when to leave i guess. medyo cryola pa ako but what a relief to finally get out of that relationship.

ergo, cold shoulder can be a way out of it. >.<

and after the last phone call, never attempted to communicate. end

[minatay91]

one week going pero thats not good! I can usually go about my day without him I have so much to read, exercise on, catch up with while I was busy with him for a time.siya ang di nakatiis and will call and text.One time after a major fight I swore to myself nga I will not call or text him and not respond if he does.

my phone blasted with messages and calls pero I ignored them all.
Dammit he called my house and my sister picked up the phone (he never calls me sa house so I didnt expect him to.) and my sister doesnt have a habit of asking who the caller is he begged not to be hung up on..still did it and he ended up outside my house (1 hr 30 mins away)

Then again, Im the type of person who can hold grudges for years Not that I would hate someone, but I would completely wipe off a person off my life like apathy towards a person..bitterness maybe? but not hate. so sad.

[ajang]

depende sa pinag awayan, kapag sya may kasalanan tapos yung tampo tampo lang 1 week pero kung yung away na mabigat ang rason 1 to 1 and a half month. pero kapag kasalanan ko wala pang 5 minutes.

[Dyesabel]

Hindi ko kaya ang silent treatment.

Cold treatment, siguro mga 2 days maximum.  Pag nagagalit ako tapos nagtetext sya, ang bilis kong basahin tapos may reply din ako agad..haha. Pero ang texts ko ay very short lang, isang word lang or maiiksing sentences lang. Isang-tanong-isang-sagot lang.

[imyourangel]

2 days lang, after that magsusuyuan na kami (kung sino man may fault) but never a day goes by na hindi kami naguusap. Kahit galit kami, we always update each other. That way, I still feel loved despite the fact that we're not in good terms. I can still feel he cares for me.

[purple.strawberry]

Dati kahit one week walang contact haha. Ngayon with current bf di ko na pinapatagal kahit naiinis pa ko. Pansin ko din kasi yung mga pinagpuputok ng butsi ko e di naman big deal sa kanya madalas so parang ako lang ang mahihirapan.

[yasbabyangel]

Ako overnight lang. Haha. Pag may away kame ako madalas pasimuno.  Tsaka yung last fight namen triny ko di kausapin si bf ng one day, ayun mom nya na yung di ako tinigilan kakatawag at text kase daw di makapagfocus si bf sa work. Nagwowork kase sya overseas. Di ko matiis mom nya kase super baet saken ng family nya kaya kahit gusto ko pa magpasuyo kay bf nakipagbati nalang ako agad. Alam na alam nya na weakness ko family nya kaya dun nya sinabe na may problema kame.

[SkippyCat]

Just reply. Talk to him. Let him know how you feel, bigyan mo sya ng ultimatum. Kesa manghuhula sya. XD

[Serena.]

I was very good at this before because of my mala-tore na pride! haha (I ignore him as long as anyone could imagine, and if he doesnt sms/call me first, he could expect that we're automatically not together anymore..) But I've changed and learned that it's okay to act first, say sorry if im wrong/ ive hurt him, and to never sleep holding grudge against your partner, hindi pwedeng sya lagi ang susuyo sayo, they deserve to feel that too! you might wanna give the cold shoulder but it shouldn't last more than a day, this should be more like of you want him to know you're upset about something, that's okay coz there will be times that we couldn't say it and show signs instead.

[sensi]

pag super duper hurt ako, mga overnight lang...hindi niya rin ako matiis kaya next day after giving my space, he would try to talk to me and put at end to the problem na...

[Shadow Angel]

Kung ako kaya ko ilang days kaso si hubby never papayag ng ganun. Mga more than 3hours nga lang hindi na sya sa mapakali ayaw ng cold shoulder treatment type if sya may tampo 30mins to 1hr lang. Lalo na sa text if hindi ako nagrereply ang dami messages. Pero in a way na appreciate ko naman.