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Re: Kapatid sa labas
« Reply #20 on: September 30, 2013, 07:09:03 pm »
Mga sis, nagalit ba kayo sa mga parents n'yo nung nalaman n'yo?
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Re: Kapatid sa labas
« Reply #21 on: October 01, 2013, 02:29:59 am »
^wow sis ilang taon na? Very teleserye naman ang peg.

Anyway, i dont have half sibs, pero my only brother had a son out of wedlock nung teenager pa sya, and currently he's married to another girl and they have a daughter. Nagkasama na yung 2 kong pamangkin whenever nagkakasabay sila umuwi dito sa pinas. Fortunately, my eldest pamangkin who's 12 years old is much much more mature than his age. Love na love nya ang half sister nya.

He also have half sisters sa mother side nya. Naalala ko yung ganitong conve namin dati siguro mga 4 or 5 yrs old sya nun:

Tita, diba kapatid ko si <insert name here> (referring to his half sis sa mom nya). Tapos kapatid ko din si <insert name here> (referring to his half sis sa brother ko). Pero bat silang dalawa hindi magkapatid?

Hahaha swerte na lang that the kids don't have any grudge sa parents nila. At least the parents made an effort to make them undertand the situation.
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Re: Kapatid sa labas
« Reply #22 on: October 01, 2013, 11:59:24 am »
I have three half-sibs on my Father's side..

Sila nauna sa min.. As far as I can remember, we have a smooth sailin' relationship naman.. Although hindi kami close. But we are civil. I think its important na as children aged e naeexplain na ng maayos sa kanila para unti-unting naabsorb at nasasanay sa ganong sitwasyon..

 
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Re: Kapatid sa labas
« Reply #23 on: October 04, 2013, 04:28:12 am »
Ako may 3 kapatid sa loob(anak ako sa labas with a younger bro so = 5 kame kay Papabear.  But we are not close so parang kaming dalawa lang ng Brother ko magkapatid.

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Re: Kapatid sa labas
« Reply #24 on: October 05, 2013, 06:35:09 pm »
I have half brothers na nakilala ko lang christmas two years ago. 10 years ang tanda ko sa kanila. Nung una ok lang naman sakin na nandito na sila palagi sa bahay umuuwi. Ako na lang kase ang nandito. I have one full brother na nasa abroad. Tapos mom ko nasa NY. Tapos nalaman ko pa na namatay na yung mom nila gawa ng cancer. Naawa naman ako sa mga bata kahit na sa totoo lang sa isip ko siguro karma niya yun dahil sinira niya yung family ko.

Kaso after sometime nagstart na mawalan ako ng pera sa kwarto. Hindi naman ako kase naglolock dahil all my life sa bahay namin di naman ako nawalan. Nung una around 5k yung nawala. Iyak ako ng iyak, sinabi ko sa dad ko pero parang dedma lang siya at sabi pa baka namisplaced ko lang. After several months nawalan ako ulit $100 na kakawithdraw ko lang. Dun na sinabi ko ulit at nahuli na yung bata. Kaya after nun wala na akong pakialam sa kanila at pinasabi ko na lang sa mom ko to tell dad na umalis na lang sila dito. After ilang months pa bago sila umalis. Minsan pumupunta pa din dito pero may lock na ang kwarto ko ngayon :P

Sorry mahaba, naglabas lang din ng sama ng loob  ;D
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Re: Kapatid sa labas
« Reply #25 on: October 06, 2013, 09:50:01 am »

^ For me it matters kung yung mga half sbilings mo are created when you have a complete family at nasira ito dahil sa nanay (third party) nila. 

Being a betrayed wife, I would not want my kids to have anything to do with their half siblings, simply because the other woman and the stupid father made a mistake. And worse pa, I worry about the future din para sa next generation ng mga half siblings. 

Given a choice, ayoko na sana maging involved sila with their half sibilings.  Kaso yung tatay I am sure gusto.  Eh naman, inaayos ko kaya ang pagpapalaki sa mga anak ko.  yung kabit nya, hindi ko alam kung anong natapos.  Yung typical mistress na makapal ang mukha at matapang pa sa asawa, taas noo kahit buntis sya pa ang mayabang.  So yung ganitong values na natututunan ng mga anak sa labas ng ex ko, ayaw ko makahalubilo ng mga anak ko sa future. 

Di ko alam, pero nakikinita ko na.  I strive hard to send my kids to the best schools and teach them the important  values of life.  I make sure I will have enough retirement when the time comes.  Alam ko hindi naman natin masabi ang future, pero the point is I make sure I lay the foundations right.  Kaso yung kabit?  Wala, puro luho at borrow money left and right for the relatives and so forth.  Pati ex ko na hindi ko kasundo minsan nagk kwento na tinatanong sya sa sweldo nya, kino control ang travels nya to see my kids kasi may ibang gustong paggastusan, etc. and things like salbahe daw anak nya dun (kako eh san pa magmamana kundi sa pinanggalingan).  So I really dont know ano ang magiging products ng mga anak sa labas ng ex ko. And worry ko, baka bad influence lang sila sa mga anak ko pagdating ng araw.



 

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Re: Kapatid sa labas
« Reply #26 on: October 07, 2013, 07:50:21 am »
^ Tama. Kapag naiikwento ko yan sa iba, may nagsasabi na hindi daw dapat ako maging ganun dahil kahit ano pa man ang mangyari kapatid ko sila. Pero basta mahirap kase sabihin yun kase hindi naman sila yung nasa lugar ko. Hindi nila alam kung gano nasira yung pamilya ko because of them. Tapos bigla bigla na lang kase dadalin sa amin yung mga kapatid ko daw tapos ganon pa ang ipapakita sakin na ugali. Naisip ko talaga that time, nagmana nga sila sa nanay nila. Magnanakaw din. Wala naman ako ginawang masama sa kanila kahit after that, basta I chose na lang to pretend na parang hindi sila nag exist. Lumayo na lang sana sila sa amin.
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Re: Kapatid sa labas
« Reply #27 on: October 07, 2013, 05:35:35 pm »
@ sis Simang narecall ko nung time na maghihiwalay na dapat parents ko, i was about 9 y.o. Na-connect ko lang nung nalaman ko na may kapatid ako, naisip ko na baka yon ang cause. Wala naman daw relasyon, basta na lang nangyare. Mom ko naman, matagal ng alam at tanggap tsaka hindi naman tuluyan nasira family namin kaya hindi na lang namin ulit napag-uusapan. Nagiging biro na lang namin magkakapatid na kung sino kaya sa'min ang kamukha non  ::) Never naman sila nang-gulo at subukan lang talaga nila mang-gulo, ako makakalaban nila lols.  8)

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Re: Kapatid sa labas
« Reply #28 on: July 17, 2015, 11:10:29 am »
In my case, kami ang anak sa labas.
My half sisters and the orig wife hate us..
 As in.. H-A-T-E
When my dad died, we were allowed to see my dad in an URN na at my uncle's house.. We were not allowed to attend the funeral na. How hurtful.. Pero ganon ata talaga fate namen.reading your comments, I understand why my half sisters hate us. Minsan I ask my mom why did he continue a relationship to a married man..
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Re: Kapatid sa labas
« Reply #29 on: July 17, 2015, 06:59:28 pm »
It's hard to have a half brother lalo na we have different upbringing.  We are the same age, so obviously nagawa siya ng dad ko while married to my mom.

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Re: Kapatid sa labas
« Reply #30 on: July 18, 2015, 02:41:52 am »
ako din may half-brother courtesy of my dad.  considering he's such a philanderer, 1 lang ang nabuo.  my half-brother is even a few years younger than my baby sister, pwede nga na anak ko siya age-wise.  kahit anak siya sa labas, my dad still brought him here in the states, considering that it's my mom's side of the family who originally petitioned/sponsored us.
we treat him like family, but it's not the same as what  i feel towards my two sisters.  i'm sorry but that's just how i feel, we cannot teach our hearts how to feel.  no i don't resent him,  it's not his fault, ipinanganak lang siya.
and btw, he's a clone of my dad, hindi pwede ika-ila.
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Re: Kapatid sa labas
« Reply #31 on: July 18, 2015, 06:10:35 am »
Yung 2 kids ko meron courtesy ng tatay nila dahil nabuntis niya si kabitch.  If you ask me I don't want my kids to have anything to do with the anak sa labas. My kids doesn't know yet it's not my job to tell them bahala na ang magaling kong asawa na mag open sa kanila someday.  Ang maganda lang hindi basta basta maiuuwi ni hubby yung bata kasi nasa pinas sila at nasa abroad kami. I know walang kasalanan ang bata pero nanay niya ang reason kaya muntik ng masira ang pamilya namin. 

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Re: Kapatid sa labas
« Reply #32 on: July 18, 2015, 08:15:27 am »
I have a half sister on my father's side. She was born out of wedlock and a year older than my eldest sibling.

My initial reaction when lola told me about her was indifference. i didn't feel angry or excited. It was not a big deal for me. I met her only once and that was an awkward but civil meeting.  I honestly don't know what to say to her.

Now, i don't want to see her. I dont want her near my family, esp. my dad's relatives in the province.
That woman forged my dad's signature and sold a property that was intended for all us (siblings -equally divided - yes including her).

I still think to this day that my dad's illness worsened because of the stress brought on by her greed. He probably felt betrayed and thought he was responsible for losing our inheritance.

I thought maybe she did it out of spite because my dad was not around when she was growing up. But no, turns out, she's just a really horrible person. She left her husband and son to run off with another man. She's also an addict. My kind-hearted dad's last wish was for us to not sue her and just leave her be.

We didn't tell her that our dad passed away, I don't care whether she knows or not.





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Re: Kapatid sa labas
« Reply #33 on: July 22, 2015, 05:25:22 pm »
We often read that we should be more accepting with our half brothers or sisters, kaya lang when the time comes, manggugulo at manggugulo sila, normally binubuyo pa yan ng mom nila na nag cause ng pain sa legitimate family namin to begin with.  Like yung nangyari samin, instead of looking for work, business or making sure he finished school, nagbulakbol so now he doesn't have much left and he wants us to provide for pangkabuhayan package aside from the property that he is asking for and cash.  Demanding lalo na yung mom niya na puro pera na sa isip.

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Re: Kapatid sa labas
« Reply #34 on: July 23, 2015, 10:12:53 am »
i have 2 half siblings both girls..

when someone tells me na.. "dapat kilalanin mo at tanggapin mo un kapatid mo kase wala sila kasalanan.." i just tell that person na sana it doesnt happen to you or if it happens to you tsaka na lang tayo mag-usap or i just stare into that person eyes and walk away.

i  was 12yo when we found out that my dad got a contractual officemate pregnant. he was asked to leave our house during that time. funny because my dad had no vice.. we were pretty happy and well adjusted kids. we had a happy family or so i thought.

A few years back my dad said they want to get to know us.. and i just stared at him.. no words, just a deadly, icy stare.. apparently his children saw our photos and wondered who were were and upon checking FB they found out that we were older and we already had families of our own. all the while they thought that we were the "other family"..

if and when we get to talk maybe i'll ask them to ask their mom how she caused a family to break up and how would they feel if their husband does the philandering and takes a mistress and have another family..

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Re: Kapatid sa labas
« Reply #35 on: July 23, 2015, 12:19:35 pm »
Sa mom ko 3 half sister, sa dad ko 2 half sister and 1 half bro, and 1 full sister. So dalawa kaming original na anak. Naghiwalay na kasi parents namin noong bata pa kami ng ate ko. Naghati sila, ako sa mom ko at ate ko sa dad ko. After 26 years, saka kami nagkatuntunan ng ate ko. Nahanap niya ako sa friendster, wala pang FB noon. Sa samar siya lumaki at sa bataan naman ako. Nang magkita kami dito sa manila ay saka ko nakilala ang mga half sister at brother ko. Wala namang galit sa isat isa. Masasaya kami at close pa. Tinuturing talaga nila akong ate. Sa mom ko naman yung mga half sister ko doon, close ko rin. Ako rin ang tumatayong ate nila.  :D :D :D

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Re: Kapatid sa labas
« Reply #36 on: July 23, 2015, 03:38:23 pm »
Meron kaming kapatid sa labas and my mom has no idea about it  :'( My dad kasi cheated on my mom while he was on an out of the country trip tapos me and my siblings along with my mom were devastated about it nung nabuking namin siya.  My mom gave him another chance kasi ayaw ng mom ko ng broken family kami. Since my dad cheated on him,  it really hasn't been the same for them.  My mom always has these doubts na eveytime may pupuntahan ang dad ko ay may tatagpuin na babae. My dad eventually got tired of my mom's constant trust issues but we really can't blame my mom since he cheated on her.

So yeah moving on.. this Brazilian girl kept on messaging me and my other siblings on facebook and sobrang trying hard mag tagalog (siguro she used google translate) so ayun we blocked her. Pati sa twitter, naghahasik ng lagim so we blocked her there as well pero a couple of months ago, I decided to randomly unblock her from twitter to see what she's up to and dun ko nakita yung mga pictures na pino-post niya. I was really shocked na nagbunga pala yung infidelity ng dad ko dun sa brazilian girl tapos ginagamit nung girl yung surname ng dad ko sa anak nilang boy which made me even more upset. I had this heavy sinking feeling on my chest while I was thinking about my mom who has been really loyal to my dad  :'( We never told my mom about it kasi alam kong sobrang masasaktan siya kapag nalaman niya. Some things are better left unsaid talaga.
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Re: Kapatid sa labas
« Reply #37 on: July 28, 2015, 11:05:11 pm »
hyder0926, oo nga, those who have no half siblings, or have no idea if they have can't relate.  What right do they have to say na walang kasalanan?  Buti sana kung hindi sila nakakagulo sa family. 

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Re: Kapatid sa labas
« Reply #38 on: July 29, 2015, 09:49:50 am »
^ i dont know why people say that to us before.. they don't know the feeling of having a perfectly happy and stable family life getting shattered by a mistake that now has been glamorized and immortalized on tv and movies..

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Re: Kapatid sa labas
« Reply #39 on: July 30, 2015, 04:22:43 pm »
Wala akong kapatid sa labas. Thank God matino dad ko. Mahilig lang uminom dati.  ;D Baka kung nagkataon mapatay siya ng nanay ko.

Husband ko may kapatid sa labas. Bigla na lang daw dumating sa house ang isang teenage boy. Hinanap daw father-in-law ko. Nasa grade school husband ko that time. According sa boy, anak siya sa labas ni father-in-law and tita niya kasama niya. My husband didn't see any resemblance. Hindi niya pinapasok sa house kasi he wasn't even sure if they were telling the truth. Pero after inamin naman ng father-in-law ko meron nga. 2 pa nga yata eh. My husband and my SIL never got to know them. The alleged son is older than my husband for a few years. Nagwork kasi sa army father-in-law ko so many years ago. Naassign sa Mindanao. Baka dun niya nameet ang mom ng bata. Walang ibang info ang MIL ko and hindi na rin niya inalam kasi nangyari naman before they met. Playboy kasi father-in-law ko dati. Buti natigil na. Naging issue rin nila sa family yan before. A lot of heartaches dahil sa ibang babae.
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