husband forgets your anniversary or birthday

[imbisibol_]

husband forgets your anniversary or birthday, what do you do or how do you react?

mine forgot my birthday our first year together.  i brushed it off pretty easily.  he didn't really forget entirely anyway.  he did remember midway through the day.  he just forgot to say anything before he left for work that morning.  when i came home in the evening, he had the works running- flowers, card, gift, and a medium rare rib-eye.  i went straight for the steak, of course.  i don't even remember now what the gift was or what the card said. 

the very next year, he promptly forgets my birthday again.  and again- it's not entirely.  he was just, so he says, soooo sleepy when i said goodbye to go to work that morning.  and he was blowing up my phones (cell and work) at around 10 AM to put his morning birthday greeting in.  this time around, i played hard to get a little.  i didn't talk to him, except for one-word answers, for about 2 days.

anniversaries, he's never forgotten.  but we don't celebrate those anyway.

[k_heart]

We'll ako yung mas makakalimutin,kaya nung minsang nakalimot ako, talagang tinandaan ko na lahat
ng important dates sa life namin ng hubby ko. Kasi nagalit sya sa akin nung nakalimutan ko sya
igreet sa birthday nya. Parang nag greet ako ng night before then sa day itself, hindi ko sya natawagan.
Lagi kasi kami LDR dahil soldier sya.he!he!
Pero sya, very sweet kasi. He has gifts or tokens for me sa lahat ng special occasions.Sometimes, not that
mahal like roses or cards. Pinaka special sa kanya pag Christmas at birthday ko. Dun yung splurge
gifts like designer bags and gadgets. Pag mothers day at Valentines day, flowers,cakes at perfumes (romantic
tokens). We are 9 years married pero the gifts are getting better each year.ha!ha
Pero yung wedding anniversary namin, categorized as one worth of the romantic tokens or a vacation time
for both of us or the whole family including our kids.

[aquacharly]

Next year, remind him before your birthday. Like a few days before or a day before, have your mom/sister send you a birthday gift.

[ReservoirDogs]

^

That's what I always do. My husband forgets birthdays of parents, sisters, so I always remind him of MY birthday. It works.

[mrsmarilopez]

I think sometimes kung valid naman yung reason, then patawarin mo na... Hehe

[Girltalker2]

Minsan hindi naman talaga sinasadya. And depending sa personality ni hubby iyan.

May iba kasi talagang romantic, will prepare everything kasi gusto nila.  May iba couldn't be bothered at mas practical.  May iba hindi naman talaga kasi romantic at hindi thoughtful pagdating sa mga important dates - pero it does not mean hindi ka nya mahal.

You have to know your hubby by now kung anong level ng thoughtfulness meron sya.  Pag lagi nya nakakalimutan, then make plans on that special day with him or remind him. 

Kaya nga sometimes in choosing a life partner, dito pumapasok sa isang babae kung anong importante sa kanya. If she wants someone who is romantic, thoughtful, etc for the relationship to work kasi sya mismo eh hinahanap hanap yun sa relationship.  But not every girl are alike, for some, ok lang naman ito basta importante he is truthful to you. 

May iba nga the works lahat ng gifts surprises meron, pero may ibang babae naman.  Kaya since hubby mo na sya, accept him as he is, pag usapan ninyo ano ang gusto mo mangyari. Kung di nya talaga maalala every year, as I have suggested, make plans nalang with him para di nya makalimutan.

[little_princess]

hubby is super bad with dates so he has a database in his cellphone and computer of all the birthdays, anniversaries and even our first kiss hahaha

magtatampo ako if he forgets but it doesn't have to be on the stroke of midnight. basta he greets me or better yet, may gift

[jmeangeL]

ako ang nakakalimot ehhh... 
kausap ko pa sya sa fone nun ng matagal, pero di ko pa rin naalala na birthday nya. the following day ko pa naalala kasi nakita ko may bumati sa kanya sa FB

beat that! 

[jeune]

Hubby was 'confused'  ::)when I had my birthday 2 weeks ago. He thought it's the next day since we were going to Paris as one of his birthday present. He didn't greet me at all until he went to work and him and his coworkers are talking about the day. I can hear them giving him a hard time for not greeting me . I got home from my appointment that afternoon with flowers, sewing books and dinner with our friends!

He's not really good at remembering dates so I'm his calendar

[grace0619]

ako ang nakakalimot ehhh... 
kausap ko pa sya sa fone nun ng matagal, pero di ko pa rin naalala na birthday nya. the following day ko pa naalala kasi nakita ko may bumati sa kanya sa FB

Haha! Same here... I'm a newly-wed. Nung mag-bf palang kami, lagi rin ako ang nakakalimot... Pero nung kinasal na kami. I promised na hindi na ko makakalimot ng birtday, or anniversary, or kahit ano pang event. Pero.... fail pa rin ako kasi I forgot his birthday. Hindi naman totatlly forgot, pero kasi ang nangyari, early in the morning yun tapos he was going to work so nagmamadali eh rest day ko yun so chill lang ako. Nung paalis na sya ng bahay sabi nya sakin, "Wala ka bang sasabihin sakin" ako naman, sagot ng "Wala." Fail talaga.. Nagtampo sya for a while pero tinanggap nya naman sorry ko. Hehe. Tapos nung Sunday (Father's Day), we were watching TV when this TVC showed - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0jzGgZj6hjw&feature=youtu.be... Sabi ko tuloy sa kanya na pag nagkaron na kami ng anak, hindi ko na talaga lilimutan ang Father's Day. hehe. Sabi nya na lang sakin, "We'll see about that..." Hahaha. Sana mapanindigan ko! Wish me luck, girls!

[mommylyn]

We don't forget annivs or birthdays. We just don't celebrate it like we used to do, like we don't go out na on the day itself. Sometimes we just celebrate at home. No gifts na rin, although sa anniv lang naman. Birthdays meron pa rin. Ganun ata pag nagtitipid. LOL 

[jonielle]

Tip lang pagka nakalimot sa anniversary or birthday.

Wife: Did you know day today?
Husband : Oo naman thurday
Wife : tatahimik yan for sure
Husband : o bakit ka natahimik?
Wife : tse anniversary natin ngayon.
Husband : alam ko sinusubukan lang kita kung natatandaan mo 

proven and tested ko na to 

[morrigan-erinyes]

Sa aming dalawa, ako yung nakakalimot. He makes sure either to greet me first or greet me when clock strikes 12 midnight.

Regardless if none of us remembers, it's no big deal.

[cassey05]

hmmmmm.. buti pa kayo...

ako, mga ilang years na akong umiiyak or galit sa mga special dates na yan... 

[Myealexis21]

To TS baka naman tactic niya yan para mid day ayan na yung surprises

Hindi pa naman nakakalimutan ng hubby ko ang birthday ko kahit nung gf/bf pa lang kami.  Nung una Nalilito lang sya hahahah! kase my real birthday ay iba sa birthday ko sa documents (blame it on the midwife who took care of my registration sa munisipyo haha!).  Nalilito sya kase one day apart lang yung dates.

But now syempre nakatatak na yan...pagpasok pa lang ng birthmonth ko alert na sya.  Plus nakalagay sa phone niya ang birthday ko.  Nung nandito pa sya nagwowork, he actually file for one day leave so that we can go out on a date   Same din kapag birthday niya..

Yung first year anniversary namin, di naman niya nakalimutan... may chatdate na nga kami (LDR kami now)... sa sobrang pagod dahil graveyard shift nakatulog until time na para maligo sya. Hayzt sama ng loob ko.... sabi ko you have to make up for this big time pagbalik mo dito, ililista ko yan LOL!

[ching-chung-chang]

My hubby is really bad din with dates, he's so bad he even forgot his own bday once lol. We have 2 anniversary dates - the first day that we met and ur wedding anniversary, which confuses him more. I just keep reminding him two weeks before.

He doesn't forget my bday kasi me and mum in law shares the same bday. Mum reminds him everytime

[jmljoven]

hehe i enjoyed reading these posts - i thought i'm the only one who had this problem...
hubby also forgets birthdays, anniversaries, etc. pero consistent naman na ganito sya sa lahat.
minsan sa galit ko, sinadya ko din kalimutan yung birthday nya! good thing, okay naman sa kanya, naintindihan naman nya. so after a while i got used to it na, nakamove on nako. not a big deal anymore! hehe

[pinksuman]

we are married for almost 5 years and he doesn't remember dates also. mas na uuna ako parati. magcelebrate, to prepare for a place, dinner etc

sa tingin ko when you get mature you don't think much about it because its better for me that he is a responsible man. even though he forgets birthdays and anniversaries, he doesn't forget to pay the bills

[fairywinkle79122]

lapit na kami mag 7 years ng hubby ko..ngayon hindi ko ipapa alala,kasi lagi na lang ire-remind pa siya,titignan ko kung magkusa siya alalahanin ha lagi kasi ganyan,kahit birthdays sa kanya yung mas special.pag anniv.,ako lagi nag effort..