Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 2)

[tough_guy]

Kung merong girl from the office na may crush sa inyo, sasabihin nyo ba kay gf?

yes, it's a must. so that she knows. hindi nalang one time magugulat siya sa tsismis/text/social media niya pa malalaman. at least alam niya. walang doubt

[tough_guy]

oh just now, he told me to go out again this weekend and he is researching a nice place to dine in seoul...

nice, ingat lang sa raw foods

[FOURever]

When you got a chance to talk to your ex, you said you're ok now, happy now and you didnt directly said na you're moving on but that's how it sounded to the girl, then you spent the whole night outside with her (plainly kwentuhan lang), is it merely kwentuhan lang? Catching up?

[ragnar_danneskjold]

@Fourever: For me, yes. It means i'm completely over it but i'd like to win back our friendship. Ganun ang ginawa ko with my 1st ex. We're cool like that.

[FOURever]

^thanks bro! Got it

But another question bro, would you still say yes it's for the sake of the friendship if you talk about how you became bitter when your ex left you? Will you go far sa pagkukwento like sasabihin mo how she can shake your world isang hello lang nya sayo? And the things you do to celebrate on your own her bday na di mo naman magawang isurprise sa kanya kasi di pwede? And when you talk to her, you always say you're happy kasi parang kahapon lang nag uusap din kayo when in fact it was a year ago?

Sorry bro if i ask this because this is the last chance i have kasi if he has moved on na pala, i'll let him go although I promised to myself if he show signs na he still loves me, igagrab ko na yung chance para maayos namin lahat..

[ragnar_danneskjold]

^that's an entirely different story now. for me it looks like your ghost is still haunting him. he's not over you! aminin, kinilig ka. go and grab him by the ears and shake that piece of meat between them. alugin mo utak nya ha nang umayos na ang lahat.

[FOURever]

^kinilig ako syempre bro especially when he said na na-sheshake yung world nya when we meet again on weekend at confusing pa rin yung mga sinasabi nya, lakasan ko na lang loob ko na linawin lahat :/ i'm a little confused with him because i am used to be with guys na direct to the point yung sinasabi.

[ragnar_danneskjold]

^kinilig ako syempre bro especially when he said na na-sheshake yung world nya when we meet again on weekend at confusing pa rin yung mga sinasabi nya, lakasan ko na lang loob ko na linawin lahat :/ i'm a little confused with him because i am used to be with guys na direct to the point yung sinasabi.

That's better. Ingat lang. Baka arte lang yang shake your world na yan. Pagkatapos na-shake ang world, pupulutin naman nya ang mga nalaglag na bituin para sayo. Matuto din pag may time. 

[FOURever]

^aw. That's what i need bro. Thanks thanks! I'll do my best to be smarter.

[arnz5858]

ako im curious.. when a guy does something wrong, be it serious or small.. How do you put him in his place without nagging him? Yung tipong hindi niya na uulitin..A guy friend once told me that a girl earns his respect when the girl puts him in his place when he's being a jerk or ahole, letting him know she wont accept this kind of behavior from him. Just dont know how girls or wives can do it without nagging the guy.

[mimiku]

Guys, what turns you on during a typical date? What about turns you off?

[tough_guy]

Guys, what turns you on during a typical date? What about turns you off?

gusto ko yung makwento, hindi boring at naka focus yung kwento sa amin 2 lang. i easily turned off pag yung girl laging nagccheck ng watch niya or yung laging nagccheck ng phone niya.

[nenmaroon]

guys eto sa akin. meron kasi akong crush at alam niyang crush ko siya, parang ng first move na ako, nagkatext kami or should i say ako ang laging nagiinitiate na magkatext kami. kasi nga gusto ko siya. may tawagan na nga kami sa isa't isa. Sabi niya sa akin hindi pa daw siya ready into a relationship at balang araw daw liligawan niya ako. then napansin ko bat ako nalang lagi nangungumusta sa kanya so i stop texting him at ngayon parang kinain lang niya sinabi niyang liligawan niya ako. wala na naputol na. though hindi ko na siya tinitext but i hope na one day siya naman  mauna na mangamusta at ligawan na niya ako. kasi sakit umasa kasi i think i fall na to him ano sa tingin niyo guys na serious ba siya na someday he'll court me?

[sacred cow]

Guys, what turns you on during a typical date? What about turns you off?

turn on:

when a girl can hold her own in a sensible conversation, when she knows how to have fun

turn off:

when the girl answers her phone/texts ng harapan. when the girl talks about how so and so guy is head over heals in love with her, if you're that lovable
you don't have to tell me 'coz I'd find out myself

[jtansanco]

^^^^ Talk to him. Tell him you don't like what he did. Say it in a serious way. Something like, "Hey, I didn't like the way you bla bla bla. I'd really appreciate it if you don't do it again. (And then once he has accepted it, change topic)." Usually, guys will get what you want to say. If he repeats it again, he doesn't care about what you feel.

^^^ First impressions last. Be on time. Look really good. Less makeup is good. Ride with his jokes. Don't talk about yourself all the time. Ask questions regarding him. Try not to have silent moments. Eye contact is important. Be touchy but sometimes, guys might misinterpret this. Don't curse or say things which degrades others. Just try to make each other laugh. Never talk about your exes.

^^ That's a bad move on your part. Does he like you? Because if not, baka lumaki ulo ni guy. He can just manipulate you since he knows that you like him. Ang nangyari is ikaw napunta sa waiting game when the guys should be the one doing the chase. When a guy doesn't make an effort to contact a girl, sad to say, big chance na di niya type si girl...

[arnz5858]

^is there a subtle way of doing that? anyway thanks bro and i have another question.. if a guy becomes complacent in a relationship what does the girl do? Dati he texts and calls often now nagmamadaling ibaba yung phone no more i love yous doesnt care anymore.. hindi na rin nagaaya ng dates parang isisingit na lang last minute..

im asking this ecausethis is what me and my boyfriend are going through right now.. although he reassures me that he loves me the spark is gone.. masyado ng comfortable.. is there anything i can do para lang mabalik yung spark or at least get gim on his toes.. he's become too comfortable eh parang to the point na taken for granted nako dahil alam niyang andito lang ako

[jtansanco]

^ If I was your guy, that means I'm bored in the relationship kasi baka nagiging routine nalang mga nangyayari. Try mo lumandi sa kanya when you go out on dates. Wear something sexy so that his impression when he sees you will be, "Wow, ang hot pala ng gf ko!". Try to be touchy with him. Then maybe cook him food when you meet up. Ask him to go out with you and do something that he really likes. Try to do the little things which he can appreciate. Now, if wala pa rin after all your effort, mag-isip isip ka na.

[mimiku]

turn on:

when a girl can hold her own in a sensible conversation, when she knows how to have fun

turn off:

when the girl answers her phone/texts ng harapan. when the girl talks about how so and so guy is head over heals in love with her, if you're that lovable
you don't have to tell me 'coz I'd find out myself

I see. Thanks for the reply.
Another question - I know you guys are visual creatures but I'd like to know about the "defining attribute" that a girl has that will make you like her and drop dead amazed. Something that will compel you to say "wow this one is different!"

[mimiku]

^^^ First impressions last. Be on time. Look really good. Less makeup is good. Ride with his jokes. Don't talk about yourself all the time. Ask questions regarding him. Try not to have silent moments. Eye contact is important. Be touchy but sometimes, guys might misinterpret this. Don't curse or say things which degrades others. Just try to make each other laugh. Never talk about your exes.

Ok. Got it. Thanks.

[Awesomecakes]

Hi Guys! Need your POVs.

Three months ago when my boyfriend transferred to another company. I somehow felt comfortable na dito sa new company niya since before we had issues sa girls, and I expect na more professional ang tao dito. He's open naman and nagk-kwento about his colleagues, but I find it weird lang kasi there's this guy/gay/bi(whatever you call it) who's into him. My boyfie's such a funny and friendly guy kaya hindi nakakapagtaka na madali siya mapalapit sa colleagues niya. Plus, he's super vain din which I think makes him more attractive.

Day one of his training, he opened up na kakaiba yun tingin ng "trainor" niya sa kanya and even his co-trainees noticed it. So ako dedma lang kasi even before may gantong scenario na. I really don't consider this as an issue for us pero I am just curious if that trainor really likes my boyfriend.. Considering na months pa lang siya sa new work niya.

What made me think that he's into my guy? My boyfie has no fb for almost two years na, so he pushed him to create one para maka-join sa asaran, tagging of photos etc etc, he's constantly bugging my boyfie TO JOIN HIM sa GYM and acting like he's annoyed kapag hindi sumasama si boyfie sa kanya (msg like "ganyan ka naman eh excuses etc etc"), he always send private msgs din sa fb na obviously papansin lang naman (like "pssst", "papostpost na lang ng pics ah"), auto-like din sa status ni boyfie sa fb as in every post, pero kapag ang status ni boyfie ay about love or sa amin dalawa, dedma na si kuya! Haha There's more atually but I think this would be enough muna for now.. So what do you guys think? Confirmed ba or is it just me?