How do you deal with your hubby's Exes na nangungulit pa rin?

[jenger109]

i acidentally read the email of my husbands ex gf,it was something like this " when you called me and me told me that you and your wifeis having problems,i thought you are going to separate,it excites my whole being...you and your daughter's smile is living in me,you said that i remind you of your mother and we have not talk about this yet...i want to be a mother and you know that,i am offering you that i can take care of your daughter only if you will ask me..." nakakaimbyerna diba?

Oh my sis! Kapal naman ng face ni girl! Tsk tsk

[miray]

i acidentally read the email of my husbands ex gf,it was something like this " when you called me and me told me that you and your wifeis having problems,i thought you are going to separate,it excites my whole being...you and your daughter's smile is living in me,you said that i remind you of your mother and we have not talk about this yet...i want to be a mother and you know that,i am offering you that i can take care of your daughter only if you will ask me..." nakakaimbyerna diba?

bwisit naman yang babae na yan parang nananalangin pa na maghiwalay na kayo para mapunta hubby mo sa kanya...

[heartbreaker_Rae]

natatawa naman ako. Joining in....

actually 1 lang ang naging ex ni hubby and ni-try ng i-add nung girl si hubby but I don't care kasi panget nya noh, di rin cya ni ad ni hubby, nilagay pa cya sa blocked list.

But may girl na naging kasama namin sa work ang bwisit na bwisit ako hanggang ngayon kasi kahit na alam nyang nasa same company ako nilalandi pa din nya ang hubby ko na bf ko noon. Naka add pa din sya sa FB ni hubby until now. Wag lang syang magkakamaling mag message dahil papatayin ko cya :p

[leonilyn]

Haha! nakakatuwa naman mga reply dito. Agree ako sa iba na depende nga sa Ex.. Si hubby ata dalwa ang EX niya sa FB at isang feeling EX...hahaha!! wala akong problema sa EXs sa feeling EX lang. waah! at dahil close friend siya ng pinsan ni hubby nagkikita kita kami pag may okasyon.

One time birthday ng mommy ng pinsan ni hubby na friend ni feeling EX so andun siya. Abah! pasikretong lumalapit kay hubby nung nagpiktyuran na. Nakita ko naman na lumapit siya at paturo turo siya sa screen ng kamera namin. Ang hindi ko alam nidikit daw niya boobs niya ke hubby... nikwento lang naman ni hubby sakin.. nyay! umaasa pa ata ang luka luka! 

[japonica]

i met my hubby's ex even before nakilala ko si hubby. and i like the girl so much. (she's younger than me) i have no problem with hubby's ex.

pero na insecure ako maigi sa statement ng common friends nila during a christmas gathering - bakit daw kasi naghiwalay pa si hubby at si ex, sana sila na lang nagkatuluyan. i did not know how to react, i felt insulted but did not want to retaliate because it was not my house and it was Christmas.  ang tagal kong naapektuhan. until i decided i will not attend their gatherings na lang, period. iwas stress 

as an aside, i started to talk to my ex after several years of avoiding him. he began contacting my sister via multiply. i decided okay its been more than a decade, might as well patch up and be friends. after chatting with him and clearing the air, he asked if it is okay for us to continue being friends.  akala ko okay ang lahat, so i accepted his Add-a-friend request on facebook. sinasabi ko din kay hubby lahat ng communication at ang cellphone ko ay malayang buksan at basahin.

 i added his wife to show good faith.  hehe bad idea. his wife never accepted any of my requests nor replied to any of my messages. hehe so okay. i decided to unfriend si my ex. mahabang paliwanagan kay ex kung bakit. isa lang din ang paliwanag ko -- i told him however which way you look at it, your marriage is ultimately more important than our friendship. and if your wife does not feel comfortable with the fact that we remain to be friends then there is no sense to mantaining this friendship. 

sa maikling salita, past is past 

[break_free]

i decided to unfriend si my ex. mahabang paliwanagan kay ex kung bakit. isa lang din ang paliwanag ko -- i told him however which way you look at it, your marriage is ultimately more important than our friendship. and if your wife does not feel comfortable with the fact that we remain to be friends then there is no sense to mantaining this friendship. 

Sis, ganda ng sinabi mo.  Tama naman talaga. Namilit pa ba si ex mo after non anong reaction niya?

[gummy bear]

i acidentally read the email of my husbands ex gf,it was something like this " when you called me and me told me that you and your wifeis having problems,i thought you are going to separate,it excites my whole being...you and your daughter's smile is living in me,you said that i remind you of your mother and we have not talk about this yet...i want to be a mother and you know that,i am offering you that i can take care of your daughter only if you will ask me..." nakakaimbyerna diba?

May mga babae talagang ganyan makapal ang mukha! Hindi nila naisip na makakasira sila ng pamilya. Para bang mauubusan na ng lalaki sa mundo... Anyway, makakarma din ang mga 'yan... Malay mo, pag nag-asawa yan balang araw, gawin din sa kanya ng iba...

[chicafabulosa]

Before i was okay with it but when my hubby told me till now this girl carries the no he gave her a long time ago and pati ang atm pin eh anniversary pa rin nila, i told him to stop talkin to that girl. Akala ni hubby kasi baka kasi convenient lang daw kaya di pinapalitan sabi ko nga balit di anniversary nilang mag asawa ang gawin nyang pin...

Atbang girl kay hubby pa tumatawag para sa problem nilang mag asawa. Sabi ko nga bakit wala bang ibang friends yan para sayo pa tumawag.. Then pinagbawalan ko na sya kausapin yung girl. Bahala sya kunsensya na lang nya if kinakausap pa yung abnoy na yun.. Dahil sabi ko sa kanya once makita ko lang yung babae na yun kahit sa public sasabihin ko talaga dun sa girl pwede ba tantanan mo na asawa ko... Di ka rin nahihiya sa akin eh no. Palitan mo na rin atm pin mo obvious na desperada ka pa rin makuha asawa ko...

[nageinna]

i told him however which way you look at it, your marriage is ultimately more important than our friendship. and if your wife does not feel comfortable with the fact that we remain to be friends then there is no sense to mantaining this friendship.

i super like this as well. tama! good for you sis!

kami ni hubby walang problema sa mga exes, kasi we're both each other's first

[japonica]

sis nageinna and sis break_free, the reply of the ex was a question. he asked me if we had a chance to turn back time, and we had a chance to both be free, and we had a chance to choose who to be with katulad ng cine na "Where Dreams May Come", who would i choose? And who do i think ang pipilliin niya? dahil para sa kanya ako ang pipiliin niya makasama.

ang sabihin sa kanya na mas mahalaga ang pamilya kaysa sa pagkakaibigan namin was easier said than done.  in fact,  it was the hardest thing i ever did in my life, to say those words and not return calls or messages afterwards. he is / was such a good friend of mine. we laugh so hard whenever we talk. we have so many common thoughts and common dreams. how could a friendship that makes you so happy be so bad??  it did not help any that at that time my husband and i were going through a really rough time too.

it is really flattering to know someone continues to value you ten years after you last saw each other.  noon ko lang naunawaan ang kalagayan ng maraming iba pang babae kung bakit sila nagkakaroon ng affair. maaring hindi simpleng malandi ka o gusto mong manira ng buhay ng may buhay.  maari din kasing ang mga nakaraang sirkumstansya ay hindi kayo naging malaya maging magkasama, at eto ten years after you realize that this is the person na napasaya ka ng maigi pero hindi pa rin kayo malayang maging magkasama. and he is offering to leave his family to be with you.

temptation comes in so many forms and in unexpected corners, when you are most weak. it was an offer i considered and thought about, kahit na saglit lang. my marriage is not perfect. and at that time, i had a strong feeling my husband was having an affair with someone in his office. inisip ko, maybe ito na ang solution. maybe this was the perfect alternative.

my daughter was still a toddler then. i looked at her as she was sleeping, and the decision became crystal clear.

 i told the ex, more than ten years ago i left you without accepting your apology and listening to your side of the story. and this devastated you and ruined your life. at the time you needed someone the most, i chose not to be with you. and it was your wife who you met soon afterwards who took care of you and stuck by you at your most difficult time.  i thank God that she came to be that someone for you, that she took care of you at the point when i could not. i have now accepted your apology and really value you as one of my closest, "best-est" friends ever.  and it is because i value you that i must learn to respect the person who took care of you all those years that i chose not to or was not here.

i cried when i put down the phone. that was our last conversation.

every now and then i would "lurk" in his FB page or his twitter account.  he remains to be friends in FB with my sister. but he does not message me anymore. nor does he text or call. his godparents who acted as his parents and took care of him growing up continue to contact me and invite me to family gatherings but i make sure i bring along my family.  in his FB all he posts now in FB are pictures of his wife and kids. they seem to be very happy.

life is always a choice. and kailangan piliin natin ang tama at matuwid kahit na napakahirap. thanks for letting me share my story mga sis.

[break_free]

^ Sis napaiyak naman ako sa mga sinabi mo.    Very beautiful talaga. I will keep that in mind palagi.

i told the ex, more than ten years ago i left you without accepting your apology and listening to your side of the story. and this devastated you and ruined your life. at the time you needed someone the most, i chose not to be with you. and it was your wife who you met soon afterwards who took care of you and stuck by you at your most difficult time.  i thank God that she came to be that someone for you, that she took care of you at the point when i could not. i have now accepted your apology and really value you as one of my closest, "best-est" friends ever.  and it is because i value you that i must learn to respect the person who took care of you all those years that i chose not to or was not here.

I like that, ikaw mismo nagpa-realize sa kanya nung value ng wife niya na hindi niya napapansin. Sana maging kasing strong mo ako when making decisions na ganyan. Pero kamusta naman yung husband mo? How I wish kasing strong mo din siya when it comes to temptations.

[japonica]

i believe in a woman's kutob. once kinutuban tayo 99% true yan. hehe.
pero you now sis break_free i never dared to ask and confirm.