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Re: Paano Kayo Makisama sa HH/Maid?Yaya Nyo sa House?
« Reply #20 on: December 18, 2012, 10:05:13 am »
^Same here unless utusan ko.  ;D

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Re: Paano Kayo Makisama sa HH/Maid?Yaya Nyo sa House?
« Reply #21 on: December 21, 2012, 01:16:12 pm »
^minsan kasi parang nakakabaog kausap maid ng inlaws ko, as in. kaya di ko talaga kinakausap unless nga may kailangan ako ipagawa.
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Re: Paano Kayo Makisama sa HH/Maid?Yaya Nyo sa House?
« Reply #22 on: December 28, 2012, 11:08:59 am »
I can so relate to this especially now! The maid we got from an agency, who i thought would last a long time with us kasi mabait naman and maayos magwork eh nagtext sakin na di na daw sya babalik ng new year. Sobrang sama ng loob ko kasi my son liked her so much even more than his yaya. Di ko alam if my ginagawa ako na mali, pag umutang pinagbibigyan ko, i give sss, phil health, 13th month, xmas bonus. Magaan work sa bahay, she only cooks and cleans & doesnt even do the laundry since we have labandera and planchadora pero i dont understand why they keep leaving!

Aquacharly if you dont mind me asking when you say above average compensation is it around P8k or more? Kasi im just trying to benchmark how much im giving my help. Im so sick & tired of help leaving or-orada.
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Re: Paano Kayo Makisama sa HH/Maid?Yaya Nyo sa House?
« Reply #23 on: January 06, 2013, 09:21:52 pm »
^how much were you paying your HH before?


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Re: Paano Kayo Makisama sa HH/Maid?Yaya Nyo sa House?
« Reply #24 on: January 07, 2013, 10:47:59 am »
I think in addition to how you treat your yaya and helper, depende rin sa personality and values nila.  Kasi kahit anong bait at maayos na pakikitungo ng isang amo, meron talgang tao na may problema sa ugali at mahirap mabago yun. So dont expect na dahil ok kayong amo, eh maging trustworthy at loyal sila sayo. minsan swertihan lang din makakuha ng yaya/helper na like nyo at tatagal pa.

Kami, ang first step namin, we try to look for yaya/helper na kahit papano, kilala ng isang kilala, etc. And how we treat them:
1) hindi sinisigawan or pinapahiya
2) binibiro or nagkwentuhan pero hindi naman kami BFFs (wala kaming drama moments at hindi namin inuungkat ang personal lives nila)
3) maayos (not necessarily very high) ang sweldo, may bonuses at maluwag kami kapag nagpaalam ng leave/day-off kasi hindi naman sila weekly magday-off
4) we have basic rules, like they cant accept visitors at home and avoid asking for advance or bale.
5) pareho lang kami ng kinakain sa bahay. when we go out at nagkataon kasama sila, kahit highend resto yan, kasama namin silang kakain. if naghinayang ako sa gastos then we leave them at home.
6) may boundaries and kahit pano we avoid talking about money or how much we paid for this or that, we avoid tempting them by leaving valuables around. hindi pa rin sila magulang at kapatid ko para itrust ng todo todo sa ganitong bagay.
7) tao din silang napapagod at inaantok. so kapag napuyat sila (like nung new year dahil may bisita kami), i tell the helper she can sleep late or hindi kami kakain ng maaga. pero hindi rin naman kami feeling guilty everytime puyat sila kasi bihira din naman un. At daig pa nga nila ako kasi may nap time sila at diretso ang tulog sa gabi bec im the one waking up to prepare milk for my son in the wee hours of the morning. hehe.

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Re: Paano Kayo Makisama sa HH/Maid?Yaya Nyo sa House?
« Reply #25 on: January 07, 2013, 04:49:56 pm »
ang hirap makisama sa mga kasambahay, kapag mabait ka sa kanila aabusuhin ang kabaitan mo, kapag nakita nilang napakadali mo silang mabigyan ng cash advance gagawin ka naman nilang atm machine, sa totoo lang minsan nakakapagod na ring makisama sa kanila bakit ba mga amo lang ang dapat makibagay sa kanila, eh pano naman sila pano sila mag-aadjust sa mga amo nila.  Di ba parang kapag nag-oopisina ka, makikibagay sa sa lahat ng kasamahan mo...just my opinion lang.

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Re: Paano Kayo Makisama sa HH/Maid?Yaya Nyo sa House?
« Reply #26 on: January 08, 2013, 09:37:57 am »
^how much were you paying your HH before?

For the househelp we paid her P5k.
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Re: Paano Kayo Makisama sa HH/Maid?Yaya Nyo sa House?
« Reply #27 on: January 08, 2013, 05:11:26 pm »
^wow! that's a lot! How old is she and what does she do?

I pay our HH 3K a month, though I know she's looking elsewhere, but at her age and experience everyone is offering her the same rate or a little more, but harder job. Hahaha my yaya also always convinces her to stay. In truth I don't really mind what she does - as long as the house is clean and laundry is done. Whatever they ask for to eat I buy for them

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Re: Paano Kayo Makisama sa HH/Maid?Yaya Nyo sa House?
« Reply #28 on: January 13, 2013, 03:20:13 pm »
^khriseee super dali ng life ng househelp namin. She just cleans & cooks & washes the clothes of J. Hubby & my clothes were washed by a labandera pa. Kaya nga i dunno why our hh leave. Kakainis!
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Re: Paano Kayo Makisama sa HH/Maid?Yaya Nyo sa House?
« Reply #29 on: January 14, 2013, 06:11:11 pm »
^Yeah! For 5K she won't find that anywhere else! Unless she got bored? Did you provide her with a TV?

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Re: Paano Kayo Makisama sa HH/Maid?Yaya Nyo sa House?
« Reply #30 on: January 16, 2013, 05:40:01 pm »
^yeah she had TV. Its not cable but she has access to the usual tagalog channels (ch. 2, 7, 5).

Maybe she got bored nga, well she said that her sister asked her to go nalang to Abu Dhabi instead... if that's true then maybe its really the money. I mean I don't think I can afford to pay her the OFW rate. Sayang talaga I liked her pa naman and most of all, J liked her. Haaaay!

Now naman I have new HH na, old! My goodness so hard to train and talk to her. She may be cheaper pero I still have to monitor everything.

Tapos my yaya abandoned us!!!! Kainis!!!! As in I don't know what we do wrong or rather I don't know what's going on in their heads. My yaya had an easy life/stay with us din! She's stay out, Sunday's off, with transpo allowance. Haaay!
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Re: Paano Kayo Makisama sa HH/Maid?Yaya Nyo sa House?
« Reply #31 on: February 03, 2013, 12:12:23 am »
Ako I'm leaving indepently pero may helper ako. I'm single and all she does is cook, lanudry, clean the house and be with me when I need her to my work.

I'm just clear with my rule like I want the house to be clean and my car wash everyday. Clothes and food are prepare ahead. After that i tell her she can do anything she wants, like now pumapasok sya sa acceleration class ek ek para makagraduate sya ng high school. Mas madami pa ngang activities sakin like may prayer meeting and dance practice sa church nya. Hahahaha! Taray diba..  ;) Sabi nga ng workmates ko daig pa ko sa mga activities.. Yun lang sabi ko sa kanya walang bf and manliligaw ngayong nag aaral sya or else wag sya magschool.. Giving her bonuses also, same food as what I eat even take her to movies with friend and restos!  :)

Minsan lang since parang feeling nya super close kami, umaabuso sya and when I see it coming I tell her wag masyado feeling... I tell her that she still working under me, na ako boss and sya helper. I think its better parin to set a line between you and her. ;)

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Re: Paano Kayo Makisama sa HH/Maid?Yaya Nyo sa House?
« Reply #32 on: February 05, 2013, 09:23:52 am »
struggle ko din ito nung una because for the longest time, stay out ang maid namin. she comes in twice a week lang for laundry, plancha, cleaning and since im usuallly at the office, hindi kami nag-aabot sa bahay. nung nagkaron na kami ng yaya at maid, i didnt really know if tama bang maging chummy sa kanila or deadma. eh im not naman machika sa kanila. so i have distance. occassionally, we find something humorous and laugh but overall, im distant.

i give very strict and detailed instructions about how i like things to be done. if it doesnt go the way i want, i talk to them calmly and address why things arent the way i want them done. minsan kasi may sariling diskarte, eh i like the way i like things. i am generous with them though not overly so. i buy some toiletries, give them some of the stuff i have (lalo when i get freebies from work or wherever). i also know their clothes and shoes sizes so pag may nakita na pwede sa kanila, i buy. i also occassionally send them load. these are small things lang but i think it matters.
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Re: Paano Kayo Makisama sa HH/Maid?Yaya Nyo sa House?
« Reply #33 on: August 21, 2013, 03:43:41 pm »
my baby's yaya is getting very nosy. hindi ko alam kung normal ba sa mga yaya/maid ginagawa niya. Unang-una, masyado siyang concerned what me and my partner does for work, we work online kasi kaya we're always at home. We're not the typical employee na pasok sa office and we don't follow a 9am-6pm work sked, sabayan pa na we live with my partner's parents house kaya room namin dun na rin kami nagwwork, wala kaming home office for now. to some extent I understand where she's coming from na syempre kung ikaw ayaw mo naman magwork for someone who's a drug lord or ano pang illegal activities dba pero we're not doing anything illegal for work. hindi naman kami late magpa-sweldo, tong yaya nga wala ginawa kung hindi huming ng advance eh. tapos everytime she brings my baby to my mil's room nakakasagap siya ng mga personal or private info, when she gets back to our room, yan na si yaya tatanong sakin na si ganyan, ganto, etc.. kumbaga she's fishing for other info from me or parang gusto niya malaman sakin kung totoo or what. there's this one time pagbalik sa kwarto ni yaya sabi ba naman sakin, "si mil mo pala gumagastos pag pagawa ng bahay niyo" ang reaction ko naman parang why do you need to know kaya NR lang ako kapag ganun siya. I don't want a yaya or maid who's like that, pakilamera na tsismosa pa. It doesn't even concern her life or her sweldo. gustong gusto na namin paalisin kung di lang mahirap maghanap ng yaya.
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