I just need to vent out my frustrations in being married

[kiz_me1109]

I know exactly how you feel sis. Here are my opnionions to your problems. =) Opnion ko lang to ah...

1.Regarding your husband's relationship to your parents, I really think that you and your husband should sit down together and talk about it. For me kasi, maselan talaga yung ganitong issue. You chose to be with him but it doesnt mean na kakalimutan mo na yung family mo. When I was still single, I always tell myself that I will only marry the man who will love my parents like his own. Mahirap kasi kapag may ganung awkward moment. If you really love them BOTH, do something na magkakaayos sila. Dapat tanggapin na ng husband mo na second parents na niya yung parents mo. And sana ganun din ang parents mo. =)

2.My husband was born and raised in manila. Ako naman, sa Iloilo.After I graduated, I moved to Manila to find a job and eventually, we got married. We've been married for 3 years now and we're staying with his family. Yun kasi ang gusto ko. Si Hubby naman, gusto niya umuwi sa amin because it's his dream to be a farmer. =) But we already talked about it and agreed na uuwi lang kami sa Iloilo kapag may enough money na kami to buy our own farm. Ayoko kasi na umasa sa parents ko.

In your case, I understand na dapat naman talaga kung saan yung husband mo e dun din dapat kayo. Pero kailangan ba talaga na sa kanila ka mag work? Ask your husband kung pwede na magjanap ka ng sarili mong work. Tell him that you're doing it not just for yourself pero para din sa anak niyo. Mahirap din kasi kung 6 days a week ka mag wo work. Kung yung husband mo, ok lang yun. Pero ikaw na mother e dapat you have more than with your child.

3.Regarding naman sa travel, ayaw ba ng hubby mo na mag travel? May nabasa kasi ako na yung family daw dapat mag travel at least once per year. You have to go to a place na hindi niyo pa napuntahan. lalo na kung pareho kayong busy. Bonding time niyo na yun. I think, kapag nag usap naman kayo ni hubby e maintindihan niya yun. =)

4.Regarding naman sa shopping, since you're married now and lalo pa na may anak na kayo, dapat mag adjust ka narin. =) I also used to shop when I was single. Pero nung nag asawa na ako e nag-guilty na ako kapag nags shopping ako. Most of the time, napapansin ko nalang na para parin sa anak ko yung mga nabibili ko. Ganun talaga. =) You have to sacrifice kasi hindi ka na dalaga. =)

5.With the salary naman, I don't get it kung bakit sa kanya parin napupunta yung sweldo mo? Kahit pa kasi family business nila yun e ikaw parin ang nagtatrabaho and respect nalang sana niya sayo yun. Dapat may equal rights kayo sa pera. So why not ask him kung pwede maghanap ka nalang ng ibang work?

Yun lang sis... I hope nakatulong ako. =)