Are you tired? Waiting for someone?

[Girltalker2]

^ totoo naman it is not easy.
Having a good partner and husband is such a rare sight these days. Sabi ko nga dati pa, we have better chances in winning the lotto kesa finding him.

But once you find him, it's worth it. Kaya hang in there. Lagi self improvement ang peg, while waiting. Live life the way you want to. Darating din ang para sayo.

[kvandenhaak]

Hindi naman. There's more to life than finding a guy. Para di mainip, do something else while waiting.

[Schiza005]

I do other things and travel, too. But every guy I came across turned out to be the wrong one.
One guy broke up with me because according to him, he doesn't want me to have a non-existent boyfriend. (he's a seaman). Now, he told me he wants me again, I am not sure if I still feel the same way after what he did to me.

Another guy broke me when I learned he was engaged to a girlfriend of 5 years, right at the time I've fallen for him. But he chose his girlfriend.

Another guy, I tried really hard falling for him because he really likes me. But, we don't speak the same language Every time we were on a date, I got mad at him. It came to a point that he was hurt, he was clueless why I was always mad. So, I had to break up with him.

Another guy I dated, we liked each other but he was too dependent to his mother even at 32. He had to ask permission from his Mom before we can go out and 70% of his salary goes to his mom. He had to go home before 7 pm. Shocks!

And right now, I am deep into that friendzone kind of thing. We were almost going to friends with benefits relationship but then maybe he realized he really likes me as a friend but not looking for commitment with me. He stopped being flirty but keeps communication with me. I tried to stay away but he sends me messages. He wants me to be not too close but not too far. Unfortunately, I am already in love with him. 

When will the right man comes? I am almost 30 years old.

[mysterioza_me]

^Baka nandiyan lang siya sa paligid sis pero di mo napapansin or baka hindi pa lang siya ipinapanganak. Wag ka mawalan ng pag-asa.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.cnn.com/cnn/2017/04/24/europe/france-candidate-macron-married-his-teacher/index.html

[Schiza005]

hahaha!


Di naman ako nawawalan ng pag-asa, it's just nakakapagod.

[three8one]

^ hehe.. grabe naman yun sa hindi pa pinapanganak... possible ba yung grandmother-apo love affair?
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baka lang talaga nalagpasan mo lang sis. dumaan na siguro pero sa iba ka nakatingin kaya di mo napansin dumating na pala. malay mo ako pala yun??? echos lamang. ahaha! keep on praying lang sis na ipakita sayo o I pameet na sayo yung tamang guy na makakasama mo for life.

[mysterioza_me]

^binasa mo ba yung article na post ko bro, sample yun ng may-dec affair. 39 si guy and 64 si girl, highschool teacher ni guy si girl at married si girl during that time with 3 kids. Kaya possible talaga na baka di pa lang pinapanganak ang para kay sis

[Girltalker2]

Unfortunately, I am already in love with him. 

When will the right man comes? I am almost 30 years old.

Don't you see sis? Do you think the problem is you might be always expecting na sya na ang guy for you but you end up disappointed?

Why do you have to fall for the guy if you know that he is not a worthy partner? Imho, di ko hahayaan ang feelings ko to grow for someone
- LDR, seaman (prone sa affairs)
- sinungaling (your bf#2)
- <Another guy, I tried really hard falling for him because he really likes me.>
you don't fall for someone who just happen to LIKE you. You try to fall for someone who you know is determined/serious to be with you as a life partner
- chemistry is important. If magkaiba kayo ng language, lahi, religion, Kaya mo ba to have a relationship with someone different? If no, tanggalin mo na sa checklist mo.
Yung third to the last guy sa list mo, why mo naging bf in the first place if you cannot communicate?
- on the mama's boy naman, running before he gets too close would seem to be my approach as well
- and sa mga nag f friend zone sayo, I don't see any reason para malungkot ka, unless nag eexpect ka. Chill lang and move on to the next. Di iyan ang tipo na guy na dapat binibigyan ng pansin.

Sorry sis, I think your frustration stems from your strategy. Just be in love with yourself since you're  single. No matter if you're 15yo, 30yo or 50yo.

If a guy comes along who is worthy of your heart, tsaka mo nalang ibigay. That way, you don't need to wait and you don't need to get tired unnecessarily. If he is not worthy, move on and just enjoy life.

[Sisigandbulaloplease]

50/50... talaga ba pag single everyday mo naiisip na single ka? Pag may karelationship mas varied ang iniisip araw araw haha

[princessette]

the people who surrounds me makes me feel tired of them making me feel alone.  I already accepted the fact that 1) old 2) single  however the people surrounding me i.e. my family and some friend and co-workers are non stop in pointing out that I should start looking for a partner and who will get me pregnant.  But in all honesty if they just stop badgering me about it I will not make a fuss about it and will totally forget that I am single and that's not really a problem at all. 

[eischied_21]

^I feel your sentiment sis. People who surrounded us were the ones who made us feel that we are alone. If I were you, kun hindi naman sila kawalan sayo like your friends I will let them go and with circle of friends who will me me feel that Im not alone if I am single, friends who will understand me that its not easy finding him. Kahit ako ASAR ako sa mga taong ganun. They even telling me na magpabuntis na lang kaso hindi ko naman kaya makipag-do with someone for the sake of having baby lang.

[kvandenhaak]

^^I can totally relate.

[DeathToMondays]

the people who surrounds me makes me feel tired of them making me feel alone.  I already accepted the fact that 1) old 2) single  however the people surrounding me i.e. my family and some friend and co-workers are non stop in pointing out that I should start looking for a partner and who will get me pregnant.  But in all honesty if they just stop badgering me about it I will not make a fuss about it and will totally forget that I am single and that's not really a problem at all.

^I feel your sentiment sis. People who surrounded us were the ones who made us feel that we are alone. If I were you, kun hindi naman sila kawalan sayo like your friends I will let them go and with circle of friends who will me me feel that Im not alone if I am single, friends who will understand me that its not easy finding him. Kahit ako ASAR ako sa mga taong ganun. They even telling me na magpabuntis na lang kaso hindi ko naman kaya makipag-do with someone for the sake of having baby lang.

These people don't really care about you. They badger you to get a partner to feel good about themselves and their own beliefs about relationships.

If they truly cared, they'd let you be. Or, if they're uncomfortable about your choice to be happily single (or waiting), they would at least have the decency to ask you about it, listen to your side, and respect your choice.

Not everyone is in a hurry to be in a relationship. Not everyone wants to be in a relationship. Not everyone wants to have sex. All of that is okay. A lot of people refuse to understand this and overstep others' boundaries with their own projections.

[eischied_21]

^ very well said sis they don't know that those single people are the ones who are stronger because they can live a life on their own.

[princessette]

^I feel your sentiment sis. People who surrounded us were the ones who made us feel that we are alone. If I were you, kun hindi naman sila kawalan sayo like your friends I will let them go and with circle of friends who will me me feel that Im not alone if I am single, friends who will understand me that its not easy finding him. Kahit ako ASAR ako sa mga taong ganun. They even telling me na magpabuntis na lang kaso hindi ko naman kaya makipag-do with someone for the sake of having baby lang.

I have already let go of some of them.  if only I can let go of family but  then you can't choose your family.  I avoided going home and pinipili ko na lang family events na pupuntahan ko.  I have few friends who knows and understands my situation and I'm happy I have a few of them.  I used to tell them that yung magpapabuntis na lang ako.  Now I just tell them I am going to tour the world. hopefully hindi ako maubusan ng pasensiya 

[princessette]

These people don't really care about you. They badger you to get a partner to feel good about themselves and their own beliefs about relationships.

If they truly cared, they'd let you be. Or, if they're uncomfortable about your choice to be happily single (or waiting), they would at least have the decency to ask you about it, listen to your side, and respect your choice.

Not everyone is in a hurry to be in a relationship. Not everyone wants to be in a relationship. Not everyone wants to have sex. All of that is okay. A lot of people refuse to understand this and overstep others' boundaries with their own projections.

Guess for my case they care too much because I am an only child, they think that I will go old alone and no one will take care of me when I reach that age.  Plus the culture of the traditional pinoy that  we are once we are born our ending is to get married and have kids.  That thinking kasi na umabot ng ganitong edad ng wala pang asawa or kids is something they still cannot accept na normal.  In my case I think I will be first in the family so it's really hard to make them understand and accept it.

[princessette]

^ very well said sis they don't know that those single people are the ones who are stronger because they can live a life on their own.

So true sis!

[kvandenhaak]

Look, I am way older than you guys and I am single (again) and I don't really feel that way. Bored lang minsan especially my son is getting older now. It will come one day so, don't lose hope. Just bake the best out of your being single. It is still a calling.

[piatos]

I'm tired waiting for someone na rin. Lalo ko nafeel na im alone nun nangungupahan na ako hehe walang nagmamahal ang peg hahaha.Nakakababa ng self-confidence pero nun nagsimba ako sa st. Jude nun thurs na-lift ulit ako.  Pray lang tayo sis na matagpuan din natin. Alam nyo sis isa sa mga pinagdadasal ko sana yung magiging asawa ko may itsura naman hehe kasi gusto maganda ang gising ko hahaha.

[amethyst028]

You can meet your future bf in the most unexpected places. Just always look and be your best wherever you go. Pwede din online. Basta dapat open ka na anywhere you can meet someone.

I met mine sa fb. Long time fb friends but we personally don't know each other. We graduated from the same university same building but 9yrs apart so hindi rin kame nagkita nung college. I don't even remember paano ko siya naging fb friend or kung kelan.

He sent me messages over the years which i never replied to kasi di ko naman siya type. Until this year lang nag message ulit and asked me out on a date. Dahil lack of prospect and the year just started pumayag na ako with no expectation na mag click kame or what. And from our first date hindi na niya ako pinakawalan.

So kapit lang mga sis, dadating yan. If it's meant to be it will happen. Maybe sa fb niyo may mga may crush sa inyo or type kayo di niyo lang pinapansin.