How do couples get back together?

[sum.mer]

^oo ok talaga jogging sis. i-avail mo na yan!  also, kung kulang pa yan at marami ka pa ring oras at naiisip mo lang sya at nae-emote ka lang, hanap ka pa iba hobbies. pwede din isingit mo naman magpa-beauty. or work. ganun lang. go you can do it!

[freelancer_babe]

I don't want to give up on our relationship yet, kasi I believe na mahal pa namin isa't isa.

Malabo yan sis. That's why my advice is to forget, avoid and move on. Paano ka makakarecover kung umaasa ka pa? Mahihirapan ka nyan kasi ayaw mong bumitaw - actually kailangan mong bumitaw na para talagang makakarecover ka. Yun ang first step and it's a very important one. In the end, ikaw ang mas mahihirapan at hindi ang guy, which is not fair. Mas lalong masakit pa kung malalaman mong may iba na sya... eventually - at mangyayari yan pag ayos na lahat ng mga pinoproblema nya ngayon. And... chances are.. hindi na ikaw ang gusto nya once na dumating ang panahon na ayos na ang lahat sa buhay nya and wants to settle down.

Guys tend to look for new love pag ok na sila sa buhay than go through the hassle of repairing an old one. It's just much easier that way. Swerte mo lang talaga kung sya pa rin in the end, but that rarely happens.

Habang maaga pa ngayon na dapat ang move mo. Obviously kinakalimutan ka na nya paunti-unti. Plain friendship na lang ang hinahabol nya sa mga meetups ninyo. Nothing further from that. Kung sakaling magkikita pa kayo... sure na yan na he's doing it for the sake of maintaining friendship at para di ka rin masyadong masaktan. Pero wala ka na masyadong maasahan coz he is happy to be just alone - and i'm sure he means that when he said that.

You're still lucky to have such a guy na gusto pang makipagcommunicate sa iyo, and to help you take things slowly when it comes to breaking up. Yung iba sinasaktan pa nila ang babae para lang matigil lang ang paghahabol nila. Such stories are posted here... sa GT. Nakakalungkot.

[peenitokss]

I remember the days when my relationship with my then bf was on the rocks. That was 2 years ago. We were  on our 10th year noon. Petty things lang yong issue namin. No third party. Sinumpong lang ang pagiging immature ko. I broke up with him. After 5 days yata of no communication, nahimasmasan ang lola mo. I called him.  Pero ang mokong nag inarte.  Dadating din daw yong araw na magiging ready na sya ulit sa relationship namin.  We text parin naman every now and then. In fact, lagi parin sya nag a-i love you sakin at namimiss daw nya ako. Un bang out of the blue bigla magtitext na nalulungkot daw sya tandaan ko daw mahal na mahal nya ako. Pero hindi kami nagkikita. As in text & call lang. Everytime na yayayain ko sya to go out of town, ire-refuse nya. hindi pa daw sya ready. So ako naiinis na talaga. Ano ba to kami ba o hindi?? Pero in my heart, parang hindi kami. Ganun yong relationship ng halos half a year. So hopeless na talaga ako na maaayos pa. Until 1 day nalaman ko, may iba pala. My heart was crushed when i learned. Dali dali akong nag-punta sa house nila so we can talk. Pero bago yun, i texted him something like, gusto kita makausap gusto ko lang maging clear tayo then after that malaya na kayo ng girlfriend mo. So nalaman na din nya na alam ko na. He texted me back, "hindi ganun. wag mong sabihin yan".

So we talked. Iyak ako ng iyak. kahit hopeless na ako non, hindi non nabawasan yong sakit na naramdaman ko. He told me the whole story. Hindi daw nya mahal yong girl. Hindi daw nya niligawan. Parang naging sumbungan lang daw nya thru text. Then they started daw kumain sa labas. Twice daw sila kumain sa labas. Gustung gusto na daw nya mkipaghiwalay pero naaawa sya sa girl kasi kamamatay lang daw ng mother & yong father is na-stroke at paralized na. sya na lang daw yong breadwinner something na ganun.

Hindi daw nya alam kung bakit nya nagawa yon. Hindi daw nya sinasadyang dalawa daw yong babaeng nasaktan nya. Yakap yakap nya ako & sorry sya ng sorry. Kung minsan daw lungkot na lungkot sya kasi gustung gusto na daw nyang sabihin sakin yung tungkol sa girl. Gusto na daw nya kmi mkpag-start ulit. Gustung gusto na rin daw nya mkipaghiwalay sa girl pero hindi nya alam kung pano sasabihin ng less hurtful sa girl. Pinapili ko sya. Sabi nya, sympre ako daw. Bigyan ko lang daw sya ng time to talk to the girl.

So ayun, we are now 1 month & 18 days married. 

[sum.mer]

^ aww sis that's good

ako naman ayun we communicated na ulit and he wants to fix things with me again. and tama nga na talagang during the times we weren't communicating he would think of me but he tries to divert his attention. ganun talaga most guys. they don't want to confront their emotions

[Juricks]

pero sa case mo parang antagal nyo na talaga break..i mean not just days.. pag ganun sabi ng bf ko mas nasasanay na yung guy na wala sila nung girl..mas hindi na nila hinahanap and mas less chance to get back together. i remember we studied this too in psychology, na love is essentially rooted in familiarity. kapag nalalayo yung dalawang tao they become less and less familiar with each other and has nalelessen yung tendency to love (esp kung nag-break or nag-away).

I know this reply is quite late as mejo tahimik na yung thread, ngayon lang ako nagawi ulit sa topics na ganito.  I must say I so agree with what you said sis.  Habang tumatagal na nagkakalayo ang dalawang tao, they become less and less attached to each other.

[Quin Bee]

nasa ganitong situation ako ngayon. i'm afraid...