FLINGS

[superjuzh]

Hindi ko malaman kung fling ba ang tawag dun pero sige, oo fling yun. lol Katrabaho ko siya, at first pinagtitripan ko lang siya kunwari type ko pero hindi naman talaga tapos one time sinama ko siya sa mall, naulit yun ng naulit hanggan sa naging super close na kami na dun na ko natutulog sa bahay nila. Kaso nung tinigilan ko nag away naman kami. sobrang immature niya na nagpapasalamat ako malinaw ang lahat saamin na hindi magiging kami.

Meron pang isa, pinakilala lang ng katrabaho ko. May asawa siya pero hiwalay sila ng bahay kasi may problem pa silang inaayos. Paulit ulit ko siyang tinatanong kung ano bang gusto niya kung maging kame or friends with benifits lang. Sabi niya gusto niya maging kame, hanggan sa pinaamin ko umamin naman tungkol sa estado nila ng asawa niya. Ok na, friends na lang. Pero ang sama pa rin ng ending.

[mischa04]

lahat ng mga nainvolve sakin puro flings lang..minsan mas okay kasi no expectations nga and no commitments pero syempre pag palaging ganon nakakamiss din yung real and serious relationship..pero ewan ko ba mas okay yata sakin ang puro flings lang muna..I'm enjoying it sa ngayon..masaya lang..light.. and dapat both of you knows na fling lang talaga.. Dati madali din ako ma-attach kaya ayoko ng flings pero ngayon na-learn ko na yata not to put emotional attachment kaya mas naeenjoy ko na ang fling.. And may bago kong natutunan ha, guys call it FUBU/FWB pala while girls call it FLING..haha.. Parang same lang naman yun setup nun..term lang ang naiba hehe..  pag para sa mga conservative and not open minded then it's a fling..    

[Lurker_Man]

lahat ng mga nainvolve sakin puro flings lang..minsan mas okay kasi no expectations nga and no commitments pero syempre pag palaging ganon nakakamiss din yung real and serious relationship..pero ewan ko ba mas okay yata sakin ang puro flings lang muna..I'm enjoying it sa ngayon..masaya lang..light.. and dapat both of you knows na fling lang talaga.. Dati madali din ako ma-attach kaya ayoko ng flings pero ngayon na-learn ko na yata not to put emotional attachment kaya mas naeenjoy ko na ang fling.. And may bago kong natutunan ha, guys call it FUBU/FWB pala while girls call it FLING..haha.. Parang same lang naman yun setup nun..term lang ang naiba hehe..  pag para sa mga conservative and not open minded then it's a fling..

hmmmmm 

[budzwhiz]

pag para sa mga conservative and not open minded then it's a fling..

Hindi ba more for openminded people nga ang flings? Kase it's sort of an open relationship. Conservative people? I don't think they'd go for being fubus or flings... 

[ohcmon]

And may bago kong natutunan ha, guys call it FUBU/FWB pala while girls call it FLING..haha.. Parang same lang naman yun setup nun..term lang ang naiba hehe..  pag para sa mga conservative and not open minded then it's a fling..    

I disagree. Two people could be flings without necessarily having sex.

[mischa04]

nabasa ko lang din po dito sa thread yung guys call it fubu/fwb while girls call it fling.. I understand po na not all ganon ang setup, some would think na same lang yun pero sa iba magkaiba ang meaning nun.. i didn't mean to generalize, pasensya na po.. About for conservative ang fling, what i meant was the term itself na pang conservative, yung para hindi panget and bastos pakinggan..it's for those lang din po na ang fwb and fling for them is just the same..

Thanks po at least malinaw na rin po sakin na hindi lahat ganon.

[superjuzh]

May friend ako na ang tawag ng guy dun ay fling pero naghahanap siya ng liberated ng girls tapos everytime magkikita sila binibigyan niya ng pera. Parang sugar daddy aang dating? haha

[stradivarius]

it was fun for a while. he was a funny guy and i loved being with him. nga lang, i learned eventually that he had a girlfriend -- kaya pala di kami pwedeng lumabas ng weekends, hay.
iniiwasan ko na din sya ngayon. he invited me this weekend, out of town daw. himala, weekend aalis. wala siguro si gf sa pilipinas. haha.
sabi ko na lang may iba akong plano.

[ryan22]

masaya talaga ang fling. may kaunting emotional attachment pero walang commitment. siguro iba na ang definition ng fling ngayon.

[confusedjoanna]

FLING.  eto yata yung meron ako ngayon with a former lover.
masaya pero nakakatakot na, i think I'm falling everyday.
medyo dumidistansya na din ako.

kapag fling, it doesn't necesarily mean na may sexual affair.
kami kasi wala, more like mutual understanding.

[superjuzh]

fling o ang term naming ng mga kaibigan ko ay 'lalake ko'  ganon ang tawag namin dahil parang hanggang landian lang walang seryosohan. kasi nga naman kung boyfriend o jowa atlis alam naming seryoso yun.

hindi na ako nalilito pagdating dito kasi kung seryoso naman siya manliligaw yan pero kung hanggang fling lang edi yun yung tipong walang effort. haha. ang labo.

[leapilario]

Flings are your sort of fake boyfriend. You do stuff with him, you date, youre either friends with him or he's just your date. Usually nasa latter ako. Kinda like gamitan na rin bith physically and emotionally. It's bad at a point pero modern civilization na ngayon kaya accepted na rin kahit papano. And fling is different from fubu. Theyre similar by having no strings attached, no feelings too, pero magkaiba sila kasi fubu is purely sexual/physical and normally rin yung iba yung fubu nila ang syang fling rin nila para magmukhang okay sila sa paningin ng tao. Like yung sila pero hindi talaga

[Lurker_Man]

kinda agree with @leapilario

been there done that

[itsmeangel]

I don't wanna sound like a victim, pero lapitin ako ng mga lalakeng ito lang ang hanap, probably because as what others here have said, mas gusto ng mga ganitong type of guys ang naive girl. I've had a lot of flings/ fwb whatever you wanna call it, mainly because I THINK I was very naive. It took a lot for me to finally realize na hindi lahat ng lalaking lumalapit sa'yo eh seseryosohin ka. I fall in love easily, get attached easily, and sometimes mahirap idistinguish din lalo na kung magaling talaga magpaikot yung guy, malalaman mo nalang once nakuha na nila gusto nila, iiwan ka na  Dami ko natutunan encountering guys na hindi seryoso. Being the serious relationship type, lugi ako lagi sa ganitong set up.... at masakit ha 

The main thing I learned though, is NEVER give IT up. LOL, hindi naman sa yan lang mapanghahawakan mo pero it will be a good indicator kung ano ang habol ng lalake. date him, but never consent to going to bed with him.

 Next is NEVER admit your feelings, mapanghahawakan mo din yan once nagka lokohan na hahaha.

Never invest too much, like never put too much effort for him. Ni pantayan nga ang effort nya eh(or maki ride, as what they say) wag mo gawin... dapat mga 3 ladders up ka sa lalake. If he does this, only return/respond like a quarter of that effort. Pasundo ka lagi, wag ikaw mageffort puntahan siya, let him pay sa dates.. mga ganyang bagay.

 Date/entertain other guys so as not to get attached to one guy(this is vital, especially if madali ka ma fall)
and do the same for everyone

Never expect, never assume... hindi porket sinabihan ka ng mga sweet words, eh seryoso na sayo.
hindi kayo until stated otherwise. pag hindi kayo, keep doing lang yung mga sinabi ko sa taas, never act "girlfriend"

lastly, pray and hope na maka meet ka ng serious guy

I just wanna share this for naive girls like me na prone maloko/ or baka maloko ng mga lalake. One fling I had sobra a***** siya talaga na akala niya hindi pa rin ako nakakamove on sa kanya even after a year Hindi siya masaya and you def have to know how to protect yourself. Kung trip mo ang mga ganitong set up definitely KNOW what you're getting yourself into.           

[kvandenhaak]

Fling, FUBU or whatever, I think what's important is to set rules.  And to make sure you understand what you are getting into so walang regrets later.

[Schiza005]

I had this fling, I guess he noticed I am getting attached to him
Well, I notice that, too. I was just enjoying our times together a lot that I neglected it.

Then, one day, he told me to avoid getting attached to him.
After that, he would rarely reply to my messages.
It was so painful, I could not tell him how I was feeling because I have no right at all.
I have to keep moving on and stay away from him.

This kind of relationship is very risky, it's enjoyable but you have to be sure of yourself not to fall or you'll end up a loser.

[futboler_dati]

Tama yung dinsbi nung ito,, eto yun tinatawag na "landian lang" sweet kayo sa isa't isa pero di kayo. parang bf-gf pero parang lang. masaya, medyo cute pero risky. ang ganitong relasyon ay para lang sa mga taong handa at kayang makipaglaro. pero kung marupok ka at madali kang mahuhulog sige ka, baka masaktan ka lang.