All About Yayas (Nannies) Thread 2

[reb_woods072683]

I'm glad hindi ganyan ang yaya ng anak ko. hindi pihikan sa pagkain, minsan ako na ang nahihiya pag tinatamad ako magluto, prito prito lang talaga.

[twelvth_goddess]

Nakakairita ang mga yayang pihikan sa food or pala-pintas sa food. Buti wala pa kong nagiging ganyang yaya. Yung yaya ko now and my previous one, mahina kumain sobra. Hinde pihikan pero mejo ignorant sa food. Gusto fish, veggies, and usual pork viands; ayaw ng beef or anything that looks fancy

[m_lim]

mga sis, saan ba maganda kumuha ng midwife yaya? or yung caregiver ang previous job? basta may experience ayaw ko ng teenager or walang experience mag alaga ng newborn

[LC]

Sis m_ lim yaya ko caregiver, like you I don't like hiring one without experience or even a teenager, my yaya is 29 with enough experiences, mahirap na may edad Ayaw paturo, most agencies have these naman just be specific with your requirements, good luck!

[m_lim]

^thanks sis! Sana swertihin ako sa agency.

May friend kasi ako galing sa makati med yung midwife yaya niya. Ni refer ng hospital after niya manganak. Pero hindi okay eh

[sachism]

Nagkaroon na din ako yaya na pihikan sa food at malakas kumain. Luckily wala na sya. Ngayon, ok ang mga kasama namin sa bahay.

[LC]

yes sis parang tumataya lang sa lotto ang paghahanap ng yaya LOL! super lucky with mine jackpot haha

[Diane]

^ if babysit/stay out yaya, dapat ba may Sss or philhealth pa din?

[sweetsorrow]

Umalis na yaya ng baby ko,nagday off saturday until now hindi pa bumabalik, sabi niya sunday before lunchtime uuwi na siya hanggang sa namove ng 3pm at 6pm. Nagtext sa akin before 7pm pauwi na siya, so naghintay ako. Nagtext ng 8pm na uuwi daw siya sa province dahil namatay daw lola niya, uuwi daw siya dito to get her things, pero until now wala pa. She promise that she will be back, pero ayoko na umasa. Walang isang salita. Absent tuloy ako sa work ko.

But im happy that i can spend more time with my baby. Kung pwede lang, mas pipiliin ko na magstay at magalaga nalang ng anak ko.

Ang hirap talaga makahanap ng matinong yaya/helper

[babiebrat26]

sweetsorrow: ganyan dati kong yaya, walang isang salita. naipon ng naipon ang galit ko ayun one day pina alis ko nalang. pati text ata hindi marunong mag basa??? hirap! sinungaling pa and madalas tulala puro [textspeak!]. masama pa aba kumakain kaming 2 nag ring ang cp sinagot at nakipag chikahan?? dinabugan ko at hindi na ako kumain. na sobrahan ata sa closeness.

[khriseeee]

My yaya just inhformed me over the weekend that she will need to take a few weeks off in September as she needs to bring her apo back to the province. Her daughter will be working na abroad and so the apo will move back to the province. I asked the yaya exactly how long she needs, she said it depends daw coz she needs to enroll her sa school, buy uniform, etc. She said maybe 3 weeks! I asked her if it would take that long to do those things - I'd understand if a week, but 3 weeks?? Then I asked her who will take care of her apo, she said she has to find someone pa daw to take care of her. That sounded alarms na in my head, I'm thinking my yaya won't come back anymore, how can she just leave her apo with anyone right?

What's annoying is, I asked about her son-in-law naman, he's also working abroad. So now, both parents will be abroad. I'm thinking if ever my yaya does come back, she might end up going back to the province a lot, especially if something happens to her apo. I don't want to be put in a situation without a yaya at the last minute. Annoying lang, shouldn't it be the mom arranging for all this? Why does my yaya have to make all the arrangements (unless she's lying and found another job).

Anyways, she has a friend who she is recommending to come in while she's away. Actually this friend has been looking for a job for awhile and I've recommended 3 people na to her but badluck they always found a yaya before I referred her. I told me yaya they need tohave an overlap of a week so she can understand how my baby is (my baby is very particular, especially in eating and sleeping habits). I'm thinking rin of telling my yaya na this new one will be her replacement (ie. she doesn't need to come back to me anymore) since I'm worried that she'll need to keep going back to the province if something happens to her apo. 

What do you mommies think? What should I do?

[sachism]

Based on her answers, there is a big chance that she is not coming back so it would be best not to expect na lang. Better na may overlap talaga para ma orient nya at makaobserve ang new yaya. Kung magaling syang yaya, sayang naman pero mas magiging sakit pa ng ulo mo pag lagi magpapaalam na umuwi ng province.

Re pag asikaso, i think normal lang for a lola to do that. Apo naman nya un. If it were me, i would understand kug bakit sya ang nagaasikaso.

[reb_woods072683]

I remember na we had a yaya na allergic sa itlog. Mahilig pa naman kami magluto nung sisig na delata tapos lalagyan ng itlog at mayonnaise, ayun, we need to prepare a different ulam pa for her. Kaloka!

[sweetsorrow]

Nakakainis mga yaya ano? Pero hindi mo sila masisisi, lalo na ang mga yaya na parang bakasyonista kakalipat ng amo.

Kahit anong bait mo, aabusuhin ka. Kapag masungit ka naman o mahigpit iiwan ka pa din. Ang hirap talaga walang kasama sa bahay lalo na 3 months old palang baby ko.

Sis kriseeee, its good na may inoffer si yaya mo na replacement yaya while she's away. Mahirap talaga ng new yaya, back to basic ang instructions lalo na kapag baby palang madami tayong rules kasi.

[twelvth_goddess]

^That's true. Kaya madalas nakaka-frustrate din eh. Ewan ko ba kung san na napunta ang mga helpers nung araw na years talaga ang binibilang.

[reb_woods072683]

^^ oo nga. I remember nung bata pa ako, yung helper namin inaabot ng 5 years sa amin. Meron akong friend na hanggang ngayon nasa kanila pa yung hlper. Lagpas 10 years na siguro. Nakakatuwa yung ganun.

[lyca28]

san kaya makakahanap tlg ng yaya or kasambahay na walang masyadong conflict sa buhay. Yung yaya ko ngayon ok sana kaso habang tumatagal parang lumalaki ang ulo. 1st month namin super ok as in, wala akong problema. Hindi ko tinuturuan at sinasabihan kung ano ang kailangan gawin, may kusa sya at minsan nasusuprise ako kasi yung mga bagay na hindi na masyadong pinag uukulan ng pansin ay ginagawa pa nya, like linisin o punasan yung gate namin every day or yung wall, ganun ka ka okey. Pwede ko syang iwanan na walang problema akong babalikan. Tapos wala syang celphone kaya naibigay ko yung luma namin cp kaso di daw sya marunong kaya pinaturuan ko sa pinsan ko, hay dito nag umpisa ang kalbaryo ko. Ngayon nagsisinungaling na sya at laging alis ng alis, yun pala may katxt mate sa may kabilang subdi at nagkikita worst madalas umuwi ng naka inom. Grabe na ito. Gusto mo silang intindihin at pag bigyan umaabuso naman, pag pinagalitan biglang magpapaalam, san kaya kami lulugar...Sana makakita na ng tunay na kasambahay na tatagala samin ng mga taon o habang buhay... 

[australis]

Yaya ng baby ko napapadalas ang paghiram sa akin ng pera, ikaltas ko na lang daw sa sweldo nya which is weekly ko binibigay since yun ang request nya (hindi sya stay in, bantay lang sya kay baby sa umaga hanggang hapon), may mga weeks na nagsasabi sya na wag ko muna syang kaltasan sa kulang nya kasi need na need daw nya ng pera...

ang problem ko mga sis hindi ako makatanggi pag nanghihiram siya ng pera at ngrerequest na wag ko muna iawas yung kulang nya sa akin, natatakot kasi akong sumama ang loob nya sa akin at kay baby ibunton lahat kaya lagi kong pinagbibigyan mga requests nya , hay... nagagalit na nga sa akin si hubby kasi oo daw ako ng oo, kaya lang kapag iniisip ko na baka may gawin sya kay baby natatakot talaga ako kya hanggat maaari pinagbibigyan ko lahat ng requests nya 

[reb_woods072683]

^^ sis kung hindi ka comfortable sa setup at kung may fear ka na may gawin sa baby mo yang yaya mo kapag hindi mo pinahiram, eh maghanap ka na ng yayang iba. baka inuuto ka lang niyan para makakuha ng pera. mahirap yan.

[clueless]

^That's true. Kaya madalas nakaka-frustrate din eh. Ewan ko ba kung san na napunta ang mga helpers nung araw na years talaga ang binibilang.

May mga ganyan pa din naman til now. Swertihan na nga lang talaga.

My daughter's current yaya has been with me for a few months pa lang but she's been with my family for more than 10 years. My all around has been with me for 6 years, she was with my family for a few years before i took her on.

I've had my fair share of yaya woes but i'm very satisfied with the 2 household staff i have now. May malasakit sila. And very loyal. Yon nga lang, yung yaya mukhang mas loyal sa mom ko kesa sakin. Nagtingin kami ng kotse sa showroom, planning to buy pa lang. A couple of days later, my mom called me asking if we were buying a new car kasi nagpunta daw kaming showroom. Si yaya ang nagbalita. Ok lang, i can live with that, for now at least.