Be your husband's mistress.

[ladykid1]

i agree to those na nag sasabi na you should be the mistress of your husband.. and i also agree na klangan all in one ka. bestfriend, cook, nurse, advisor, at kahit ano pang maisip mo.. no one is perfect but we can try to do everything to make it work. 

[ldrwifey]

sabi ng co-worker ko, ang asawa is KAIBIGAN, KATULONG at PROSTITUTE pag dating s kwarto. parang ang halay pakinggan but sex is part of married life, even if you love each other very much if walang chemistry s lovemaking, magkakaron at magkakaroon ng problema

[jpsv72]

Question ko lang, paano mapag aaralan ito, as I remember, i tried to be nice before to him, nagawa ko ng lahat but sometimes di ma accept ng ego ko ang pinagagawa nya, Pa'no na?
Especially LDR kami at we usually see each other only on the net, but pag magkasama naman kami wala namang nagiging problema. I was once a mistress of my husband, pano ko maibabalik yung dating ako?

[justin3]

oo na, sige na. ikaw na ang pinakamagaling na mistress for your hubby, talagang PSE (pornstar experience) when you're inside your room. pero dalawang punto lang...

UNA - with the kids to attend to, with the house chores/office job/business to take care of... could you sustain/maintain it daily naman kaya?
alam nyo mga sis, totoo yan, ang hirap magkaroon ng extra-curricular activity (during office hours) if you are having it daily with wifey, either bago matulog o pagkagising. ang sakit kaya sa yag-balls nun. kung pipilitin mo, mapapahiya ka lang sa kulasisi mo. kung titigasan ka man, baka di ka maka-isa.

PANGALAWA - ano average age nyo dito mga sis, mid-20s to mid-30s? will you still have that bodz when you reach 40s? kahit maligo ka pa ng Bvlgari o ng D&G, mas masarap pa rin amoy-amoyin ang amoy-gatas o amoy-notebook.
don't you know that pag sinuyod mo lang ang mga girlie bars and MPs sa stretch ng Quezon Ave, weekly may nagde-debut?... eh, ano ang laban mo sa "daisy" kung nasa "losyang" stage ka na?

i suppose, si TS created this thread to get ideas on how to strengthen and have a blissful marriage. at tama nga naman ang lahat ng mga sinabi dito. be a prostitute, be a good cook, a good mom, etc.
i just noticed something missing. the MOST IMPORTANT sa lahat. of the 20 sisters who posted in this thread, nobody mentioned GOD.

wala akong pakialam kung sinasamba nyo si Isprikitik as your god. i don't care kung anong religion kaanib kayo... but hey! wala pa akong nalamang "matinong" religion which promotes polygamy o extra-marital relationships. meron ba dito sa Pilipinas?... (not even Islam where men are... ibang discussion na yan)

kahit na civily-wed kayo ng mga hubbies nyo, siguro naman pareho kayong may kinikilalang Dyos.
so, have you considered your God as the base/main foundation of your marriage?
tandaan nyo mga sis, magkulang man ng pagmamahal at pag respeto sa inyo ang mga hubbies nyo, but, kung buo ang pagmamahal at respeto at takot sa kinikilalang Dyos nya, hinding-hindi magpariwara yan at mangibang bahay.

[rae]

@justin3, I'm not discounting the things you said.

I think this thread encourages wives to be the best wife and mother she can be.  At the end of the day, ang sarili mo lang ang pwede mong i-control. Sa sarili mo lang ikaw may magagawang paraan.

[mistiqshannen]

I also agree with justin 3. Well aside sa we should atleast put some effort na maging maganda sa harap ng mga asawa natin, kahit paano e uuwi ang asawa natin di tayo nangangamoy ewan at mukang walang suklay which i am sometimes guilty on this the fact na wala ako yaya at katulong sa ngayon at stay at home ako for awhile at kapapanganak ko me 2 yrs old son pako. Be a good partner also not only in bed but also in marriage. Pero the best thing pa din na pinaniniwalaan ko is hindi lang sa pagiging mistress nakasalalay ang success ng isang marriage.

Hindi ba dapat din we consider on how we emotionally take good care of our husbands at ganun din sila satin? working the marriage as two hindi lang mag isa ka nag eefort? Why not read about 5 language of love to learn how you would fill the love tank of your husbands and so are them to you. Its a nice topic me test din dun na if ano language of love ang meron ka na dapat macommunicate sa husband mo at ganun din sya sayo. Natutunan ko to nun umattend kami ng seminar before we got married.

And most of all.. Tama nga si justin 3 God being the center of your life. If matatag ang paniniwala nyong dalawa na unfaithfulness is a sin then you will stick to that law and follow God.

Nga pala.. yun asawa (1st wife legal wife) ng father ni hubby.. Hubby kasi was son ng 5th woman na ng tatay nya. and his father started mambabae nun nasa 50s na rin sya or maybe 40s. Nakakalungkot lang isipin kung kailan lumaki na ang mga anak at tumanda na sila dun pa nambabae.

My point here naman is.. Lahat tayo tatanda, kukulubot Ok fine at 50 maganda ka padin pero what if 60 kana what if 70s kana.. physically hindi kana kasing kinis at ganda when you were at your 20s and 30s so you cant even have sex na possible yan pano na diba.. Pero if andyan ang respect andyan ang love andyan ang commitment nyo sa isat isa to love each other till death do you part, andyan yun paniniwala nyo sa batas ng Diyos then you will be happy sitting with you husband sipping a cup of coffee tumitingin ng mga old albums laughing together as you reminisce the past, walking together, eat out for a breakfast after a short walk in the morning. Yan ang gusto ko maabot na klase ng marriage balang araw..
Yun asawa ko will remain as my bestfriend.. my lover...

Goodluck naman sa atin mga sis..

[RapCzarChel]

God should be the center of the marriage.. para kahit anong problem na dumating.. matibay ang foundation. Its so fulfilling to hear my husband's prayer.. lalo na para sa akin bilang asawa nya. I feel his care, concern, respect & love for me.. 

[ecnarfoj]

Mabuti na lang yung husband ko eh takot mambabae.
Galing kasi siya sa broken family eh and ayaw niyang maranasan ng anak namen yung dinanas niya.

Lahat ng sagot dito may point.
God being the center of the relationship.
Women being more than just a wife.
The wife giving all the best for her famiyl and husband.

Siguro talagang hindi tayo pwedeng maging complacent once kahit married na tayo. Ang daming gusto ng mga lalaki.
Kailangan nag-a-adjust ka sa kanila. Kasi pag di ka nag-adjust, magpag-iiwanan ka at kahit ginagawa mo ng maayos yung duties mo, ikaw pa rin ang magkukulang at ikaw pa rin ang boring.

Siguro at this age para pa rin kaming nasa honeymoon stage pero we'll never know kapag nasa 40 na or 50 na. I can only hope na pareho pa rin kami ng utak. Alam ko kung ano yung gusto niya at yung gusto niya kaya kong ibigay. Kasi tayo namang mga babae basta kaya natin binibigay natin eh.

[soulace]

i wanna read some of these.. later siguro dami ko matutunan..

[aquacharly]

IMO, sex is important in a marriage,  but not the most important element. 

There are other ties that bind a couple, aside from sex.
Even if the sex is the greatest -- if there is no respect and kindness for each other -- the relationship eventually weakens.

Let's face it - as we age, our  physical profile & capacity change. Everything in life changes --- so,  the relationship must change too to adapt to changes, to be able to remain strong and satisfying in old age -- dun naman bagsak ng lahat.

So perhaps, among other things, yes be his mistress... But eventually, you gotta be more than that....Hindi puedeng ganun ka babaw as you gain more maturity, take on more responsibilities, have more goals, face more challenges...   You gotta be his Partner in this journey called Life, his Rock, his Motivator, his Sanctuary. 

   

[glamorosa_09]

^very well said sis aquacharly  I like the last paragraph.

[mitchymumay]

I agree. Other than be a wife and a mom, a best friend, a partner to him, be his mistress too in that way you all in one package.

You know you are doing a good job when he says that without you fishing for compliments, or when you are just talking to each other one day and he would just bring that up that youre awesome rolled into one. ;-)

Super good job pat on the back yan sayo when you hear that.

[mitchymumay]

One more thing, when at times ikaw naman ang maglambing magsabi (random check) na baka palitan mo ko or baka may ibang babae ka na ha... Without pause or second thoughts he will reply "sus sayo palang sobra sobra na ako sayo" and you can see or feel naman the sincerity then youre doing a good job.

[jhenbreak]

Nice thread, dami ko natutunan in being a wife. 

[guilleanne]

sabi ni hub kanina, pag naiistress daw sya ako daw ang hinahanap nya. treasurer kasi sya sa homeowner's association namin, tapos umuwi na naiinis.

ang sagot ko naman, naku honey gising pa si baby, maya maya na lang. hehe. tawa naman agad si hub at sabay hug.

tapos ayun nag kwento na sya kung bakit sya naasar.

well maliban kasi sa i try to be a good stress reliver in bed! hahaha. charing. Im a good listener daw kasi. But in reality, ang gawain ko lang naman is to say "oo nga" "tama nga" "dapat naman" "correct ka jan!" "um-um.".

masaya naman ako na feeling ko very open sakin ang asawa ko. pati chismis ng mga kaibigan nya kinukwento nya rin sakin. pag nang gagaling yan sa labas, ang tanong ko minsan, oh honey anong bagong juicy?

sana always ganun, at sana sa lahat ng bagay pwede nya i open up sakin.

[curlyhair]

really love all of your opinions
minsan we do role playing din while having sex. we don't think na we are husband and wife, kakaiba di ba? kaya siguro me mga suggestion na ganyan. at ang mga mistress daw kasi, super magagaling sa bed at maalaga, so, dapat maging ganon din tayo. as much as possible, dapat excited pa din si hubby sa atin. what i do, minsan pa hard to get pa ako pag sa bed, pag talagang horny na horny na siya, talagang super naeenjoy niya ako. praying that our sex life will be still the same even after soooo many years of being together 

[k_heart]

I am, : )! But i'm also his bestfriend! : )

[Ncolette]

This is just a piece of the cake na hinahati hati natin para sa asawa natin. I read also 11 minutes nung dalaga pa ako and somehow yung idea lang naman ng pagiging mistress sa asawa natin is hindi naman kailangan kainin yung buong routine sa araw-araw. May mga times lang talaga na kailangan nating ilabas. Or gawin para sa kanila sa mga times na kailangan nilang "maging" ganun tayo.

Pag alam kong pauwi na sya ng work. Nag-aayos na ako para hindi nya ako abutan na mukhang pagod. Powder lang kadalasan at suklay ng buhok. Then never as much as possible na nakasimangot ako pagdating nya. Tapos pag dumadating yung "mood" nya na ganun. Meaning I know he's got things on his mind that's bugging him. I just let him be. I talk to him when he feels like talking without saying anything. Reactions lang pag kailangan. Because this whole concept thing boils down to this. When he needed someone to listen. When he can be just himself without worrying na as a wife we would be judgemental of him. Na mention dito why most men go to bars when they feel so down. And then some GRO would then become someone's husband mistress. Hindi yun kadalasan dahil sa sex. Benifits na lang yun dun actually. 

I already made hubby believe that I AM the coolest person he could hang-out with. And OUR HOUSE is the happiest place on earth, come what may sa buhay nya bilang asawa. Bilang lalake. Hindi ko rin ito alam sya lang ang nagsabi sa akin nung pinapalayas ko sya last month  Ayaw nya umalis dahil malungkot daw sa ibang lugar.

Plus I already learned that when he's around kahit nasa bahay lang ako. Nag-aayos ako. Hindi ako nasusuot ng kung ano lang. I save all that buggy shirts and butas na mga shorts ko pag hindi nya day-off  Plus I always hear this fom may mga edad na mga tita. Mag suot ka ng sexy bago matulog. Wag ka matulog na suot ang tshirt ng asawa mo! Wear something sexy kahit effort yun sa part mo. And yeah! proven sya. Hubby appreciate it. Kahit oversize tshirt pantulog ko pero may nakapa syang something sexy underneath. Yung look pa lang ng mata nya bayad na sa effort ko. Excited sya kahit wala namang mangyayari talaga.

[Analene3]

I'm afraid of that word-- Mistress. Just the thought of it creeps me out. But it does make a lot of sense when you say, "Be your husband's mistress." It simply tells you to be what your husband must be missing from you as a wife that only the mistress can provide-- whether it be sex, comfort, admiration, spice, etc. Bring in some spice in yor relationship.

[joydy]

ang hirap maging wife.. you have to take care of your husband, your children, your house, at kng working ka, your career or business. tapos you have to be a mistress pa? kailangan mo pang magpaganda at magpasexy lagi.. hindi na nga ako mag kandaugaga sa mga trabaho as a wife.. magiging mistress pa    kaya siguro ang mga babae multi-tasker talga because of men!! lol