House For Single Momma Part 5

[momentum]

^hello sis mejo okay naman kahit papano healing process parin haha but getting there

Ikaw?

[slickchick]

^ so far ok naman sis.. it's good to know that continue pa rin yung healing process mo. i'm sure one day you will be completely ok and parang bad dream na lang yung nangyari sa SD (sperm donor) mo. pray lang sis, and stay positive ang outlook.. 

[finally]

Ho are you single moms an single dad ?
It's been a while since i drop by in GT.

currently back to work na ko sa ship, kin of hard but then i have to endure it for my baby's future.

[amethyst028]

hi kamusta mga mommies.

ako naman my son is 9yrs. old na. he has communication with his dad na nasa abroad. nag me-message sila thru fb and skype. so far hindi ako nakiki-alam sa kanilang dalawa. lalake kasi
anak ko and i feel na may mga things na mas makaka relate and mas makakapag advice dad
niya. since girl ako and pre-teens na anak ko i allowed him to have a relationship with his father
in preparation for his teen years na alam kong magiging madugo. with their hormones and all. alam naman natin ang mga teenager now a days. how much more sa time niya.

i have this idea nga na pag teenager ibibigay ko muna siya sa dad niya and let his father deal with
him. then pag nalagpasan niya na yun pwede na siya ulit bumalik hehe! weird daw sabi ng ibang friends ko. i'm a very hands on mom, since day 1 up to now wala siya yaya. i try to raise him the best i could pero there will come a time na we won't see eye to eye anymore and his father would be his best choice. i am just being practical. pero idea lang naman siya hindi ko kasi alam how i'll deal with him pag pasaway na.

[cutiegirl]

Single mom here, separated. My daughter is 2 years old. Every week hinihiram siya ng dad niya. Dati ayaw ko pahiram kasi galit pa ako nun but inisip ko rin na need ni baby makilala dad nya at darating yung time na makakaunawa na siya sa mga bagay. Ayaw ko rin dumating yung time na sabihin sakin ni baby bakit ko pinagdamot na makilala niya father nya. No financial support since separation din. Lagi ko iniisip future ni baby. Need talga paghandaan.

[Girltalker2]

hi kamusta mga mommies.

ako naman my son is 9yrs. old na. he has communication with his dad na nasa abroad. nag me-message sila thru fb and skype. so far hindi ako nakiki-alam sa kanilang dalawa. lalake kasi
anak ko and i feel na may mga things na mas makaka relate and mas makakapag advice dad
niya. since girl ako and pre-teens na anak ko i allowed him to have a relationship with his father
in preparation for his teen years na alam kong magiging madugo. with their hormones and all. alam naman natin ang mga teenager now a days. how much more sa time niya.

i have this idea nga na pag teenager ibibigay ko muna siya sa dad niya and let his father deal with
him. then pag nalagpasan niya na yun pwede na siya ulit bumalik hehe! weird daw sabi ng ibang friends ko. i'm a very hands on mom, since day 1 up to now wala siya yaya. i try to raise him the best i could pero there will come a time na we won't see eye to eye anymore and his father would be his best choice. i am just being practical. pero idea lang naman siya hindi ko kasi alam how i'll deal with him pag pasaway na.

Iyan nga mahirap. Pag boy. pero kung inutil or di mo maasahan yung dad? 

I guess walang choice but to raise him lika as a mom and dad. For me, I just keep the communication open. I know it is not the same with dads, pero I would rather be there kesa naman ma impluensiyahan pa sya nang di mabuti (ie lying, smoking) nung tatay nya.

[Jaguar.Paw]

pasali!

[lovely_carrot]

Single mom for 7 years. Had a BF for almost 6 years pero nagkahiwalay din. Nag try kami magayos nung father ng anak ko, pero di na kayang ma-overcome yung differences and incompatibility. My daughter has a good relationship with her Papa and her paternal relatives which is a good thing. Dati nung kakahiwalay lang namin, hirap ako i-embrace yung idea na kailangan ko sya i-share sa kanila but eventually umokay na din yung takbo ng utak ko 

I'm not in a hurry naman to find another partner, feeling ko hindi naman talaga dapat hanapin but on the other side I'm torn kasi I'm in my early 30s na syempre gusto ko din ng companion, tsaka gusto ko pa magkababy kahit 1 nalang pero what can I do? Hindi naman pwede ipilit ang wala pa sa panahon.

[Shin6745]

Thanks for info.

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[momentum]

hello everyone!!! how's life na? 

kamusta summer ninyo with your kids?
tagal ng walang update dito hehe


sana may meetup tayo lahat with our kiddos hehe

 

[twenty5]

I just saw this thread..
Single mom here for 7years. 6 years old na yung panganay ko.

I had a relationship at nagka anak din ako girl ulet 3 years old pero hindi din kami okay nun dad nya for 4 years... Medyo complicated ang sitwasyon. I am hurt talaga kasi nakita ko na naman naparang umuulit yung nangyare sakin before.

At siyempre ang lagi sinasabe ng mom ko.. "Napangalawahan ka pa"- masakit oo syempre kasi hindi ako nagtanda. Pero I am accepting na lang para positive ang outlook ko. Naniniwala ako sa gulong ng palad. ewan ko ba. Hindi ko talaga alam na magiging single mom ako. Pero I have to accept.

Hirap pa din ako lalo na pag naiisip ko pa din pero need ko mag move on hay hay

[momentum]

^hello sis twenty5..welcome to this thread

okay lang yan sis, things happen for a reason talaga just focus nalang sa kiddos mo..in time magiging okay din lahat. i-delay mo nalang yung love-life, and pray hard to God na bigyan ka ng strength kayanin ang lahat hindi ka nag-iisa sis..lahat naman tayo hindi akalaing magiging single moms..hindi natin ito pinangarap pero andito na tayo

maybe sis next time magka relationship ka, protect yourself always..alam naman natin mga guys ngayon eh halos lahat ligaya lang naiisip at kapag nakuha na eh goodbye na..kaya it is on our part narin to make sure we are protected, hindi natin pwede iasa sa kanila to..

smile sis. hindi tayo pababayaan ni God 

[momentum]

just a bit of kwento sakin..

minsan talaga kapag nasa lowest point ka ay duon mo talaga mararamdaman na hindi ka talaga pinapabayaan ni God. Incoming grade 1 na kiddo ko.and heto, namrumurblema sa kung paano ko kakayanin na ilagay daughter ko sa better school..kasi yung previous niya is hindi okay.

mabait talaga si God at eto, my uncle offered to help me finance my daughter's school. actually the past 2 years pa niya sinasabi kay mama na if I needed help for my daughter's school eh willing siya tumulong at mas okay daw if sa mas magandang school siya ilagay at huwag daw ako magtipid kasi yung formative school years ang pinaka important na foundation for our kids. this month my uncle mentioned it to my mom again that he can help..I took the opportunity na kasi I really need help..ang laki na kasi ng gastos mga sis kapag gradeschool na..tapos wala man lang kwenta yung annual increase ko sa work I feel so lucky parin, kasi despite mga painful things that have been happening to me, still I am blessed. May iba pang blessings na dumating aside from this..sobrang thankful talaga ako 

so ayun, na-share ko lang..na hindi talaga tayo pababayaan ni God. as long as we do our part too and pray for guidance..He will see us through..stay strong fellow single moms! 

[slickchick]

hi sis momentum and sis twenty5!! musta na?  summer time na naman ang mga chikitings natin. mine is andito lang sa bahay. ano pinagkakaabalahan ng mga kids nyo? agree ako with the meet up.. sana lang may mag organize. 

sis momentum, glad to know the good news about the financial help from your uncle. and i really believe na God will never abandon us, as long may faith tayo sa kanya. kumbaga, dasal at kapit lang, at wag mang-agrabyo sa kapwa, para good karma din ang balik sa atin. 

sis twenty5, i agree with what sis momentum said. try to focus na lang muna on your kids, they need you more and they deserve the love and affection more than their respective fathers do. yung sinasabi ng mom mo, take it as a challenge - na kahit "napangalawahan" ka na, you can still be a loving and  responsible parent to your kids - with or without their fathers. hindi naman masama ma-inlove sis. pero siguro leave some for yourself AND leave a lot for your kids. 

[momentum]

^ hello sis kamusta ka na? kami ni kiddo sa bahay lang din hehe pero baka ipasama ko na siya bukas sa ate ko to go to La Union para naman makapag beach siya tagal na kasi niya request. sana makahabol ako..hirap lang kapag mapag-initan ng HR sa work kapag biglaang absent  bahala na

very lucky talaga ako..sobrang thankful ako sa uncle ko..gusto pa niya full payment..nahiya talaga ako..kahit konting tulong lang okay na ako, kakayanin ko na now that tumulong siya, maeenroll ko na daughter ko sa swimming lessons dahil may extra money na ako God is good talaga..hindi tayo pababayaan 

[twenty5]

@momentum- Thank God at least mababawasan na ang iniisip mo sa anak mo at set mo nalang yung pag intindi sa mga pamangkin mo. At I hope yung eldest lang ang maging ganun sis noh?

Yung dad ng panganay ko nasa SG at may pamilya ng iba. Im thinking lang naman na imessage siya minsan at siya magpaaral ahahha kaso alam ko naman may kapalit yun ahahahah

Okay lang naman ako, kaso minsan siyempre hindi mo maalis ang stress sa katawan lalo na pag nagaaway yung 2 bata. Pareho silang girls pero pag nagaway grabe.. Ayun napapa sigaw nalang ako. Iba din ang kulit. Minsan kasi stress ka na sa trabaho pag uwi mo may manenermon pang stress din na mommy mo.. ahahaha pero hinahayaan ko nalang ang mother ko. Hindi nya talaga matanggap nangyare sakin. Lagi nya sinasabe na pinag aralan naman daw ako sa magandang school pero bat daw ganito ang nangyare sakin ahahahahahah. Ako carry lang. Minsan dinedeadma ko na lang.



@slickchick  Thank you sanyo sis
alam natin ang pinagdadaanan natin talaga...
Ibang klase. Masaya an mahirap.

Pinlano ko i-enroll sa kumon or Ballet school ang bata pero May na.... Hay wala ng pag asa.
Wala kami masyado alis. Minsan sa Market Market lang kami napunta nag lalaro sila sa may Serendra.
Ganun lang sis. Medyo nagtitipid for school din at lahat ng expenses. Working ako sa Callcenter sis alam mo naman

[yannanuhbananuh626]

Single mom here as well! 

Separated from my ex-husband of 2.5 years last October and I have never been happier!  I moved back to my parents' house din. I feel fortunate na kinupkop nila ako ulit, and that they have offered to shoulder everything muna for the next three years so I can take care of my son full time. Nangungulit pa rin yung dad ng son ko na makipagbalikan, sayang daw 7.5 years namin, but I've already had enough. Besides, I've dated guys na rin after we separated, and dun ko na-affirm na I really don't want him back.

Hay, annulment na lang talaga kulang.

[momentum]

^happy for you sis bait ng parents mo na they have been supporting you and your kid..

Annulment din hanap ko. Hihingi nalang ako ng tulong sa papa ko hehe

[slickchick]

alam nyo mga sis, speaking of annulment, i don't know if masyado lang ako naging nega or jaded, after hearing a lot of failed marriages (here sa GT and sa mga friends and officemates ko), minsan naiisip ko nakakatakot na talaga magpakasal these days. andun na yung thought na mahal ang annulment, plus the fact na napaka hassle sa parties involved - lalo na wife at sa kids.. haist...

[momentum]

^same sentiments sis.. Andun narin ako sa point na kapag na annul na ako and eventually find someone else, parang ayoko na uli magpakasal kasi what if hindi nanaman magwork.. Ayoko ko rin maging nega pero hindi rin natin mapigil na ganito na maramdaman diba? Buti kung mayaman ako at laging may budget for that

Pati narin for my daughter.. Parang naiisip ko na huwag na muna siya magpakasal... Maybe kapag 30 na siya at matured, saka nalang niya isipin yun .. Ewan ko pero ayoko talaga na she'll end up like me too na proproblemahin ang annulment..