The Simplest Wedding One Can Imagine

[caprice]

Mga sis, let me know please kung ano opinion nyo sa plan namin ni bf...

We got engaged 2 months ago and since we are nearing our 12th year, ayaw na namin patagalin pa. We are planning to get married on March this year. Initially, ok na kami sa civil wedding. Ayaw na namin gumastos pa sa malakihang celebration kasi hindi kami nakapag-ipon and mas priority namin na may pera kami once we are married. Kaso, ayaw pumayag ng mommy and brother ni bf. Church man lang daw kahit super simple. Si brother ni bf na lang daw ang sagot sa reception though simple rin lang.

At first, ayaw namin pumayag ni bf kasi once nag-church, dadami ang gastos kasi mas maraming ipreprepare whether we like it or not. Si mommy na rin daw sagot nya sa church fees. Pero, tulad ng reception, simple rin lang. Gusto lang talaga na may blessing ng simbahan.

And to show you how simple our wedding will be...

1. Wedding rites lang sya. Tipong no bridal march, no entourage, no choir, no music... as in super simple. para bang civil wedding pero ibahin mo lang ang location. Parang magpapabinyag ka lang na derecho na kayo sa altar. At saka sa church sa subdivision lang nila which is ok lang with me kasi tahimik and walang tao sa paligid.

2. Guests... immediate family lang namin plus 2 sets of sponsors ang invited. This is a total of 30 persons. Though sabi ng kuya nya, depende sa makukuha naming package for the reception yung maiinvite namin. kung mura naman, baka we can invite more.

3. Bridal gown... I plan not to wear one. Since derecho lang naman sa altar, balak ko e bibili na lang ako ng white dress na formal. Hanap na lang siguro ako sa landmark or sa mga shops ng formal wear sa mga malls. Dadaanin ko na lang siguro sa hair and makeup though unang plano ko e wala rin. hehe.  Si bf daw baka mag-polo barong na lang daw sya. Good at baka mamaya mas maganda pa suot nya sa akin. 

4. No photos and no video. Though mahilig naman kasi magpicture-picture family nya kaya meron naman kahit papaano. His father is into photography pero sa church malamang di sya makapag-take. sa reception na lang siguro.

5. Coordinator... syempre lalong wala. hehe. 

6. Flowers... siguro isasama na lang namin sa package sa church. pero sabi namin, sobrang minimal lang. kasi naman, ilan lang naman kami tapos baka hindi naman maglast ng 30mins yung wedding rites.

7. Reception... pag nakahanap kami ng murang caterer, siguro sa clubhouse na rin ng subdivision sa tabi ng church. ok naman ang clubhouse. simple pero airconditioned. pagawa na lang siguro ako sa red ribbon ng cake. wala na ring programme. hehe. derecho kainan na. para wala na ring speech or kahit ano.

8. Invitation and souvenir... wala na rin kasi immediate family lang naman. yung 2 sets of sponsors mga tito at tita naman namin.

9. Bridal car... syempre wala na rin. Kitakits na lang sa church. 

10. Wedding rings lang ang pagkakagastusan namin ni bf para meron naman kaming masabi na amin talaga at may proof kami na kasal kami. 

11. So, ang ipreprepare na lang namin e yung mga symbols sa sacrament of matrimony like veil, cord, candles, arrhae and bible. di naman kelangan yung veil sa mukha di ba? yung veil lang na ipipin sa amin?

What do you think, girls? Masyado bang api wedding namin? hehe. sa akin naman, ok lang kasi di ba sabi nga nila, it's not the wedding but the marriage that matters. though may times na nakakalungkot. this is not the wedding i was expecting. lalo na ng mga tao sa paligid ko na nakakita ng mga nakasanayan ko paglaki. at ng mga taong nangulit sa amin for the past 12 years kung kelan kami ikakasal. basta importante sa amin ngayon e makasal na.
 

[iamruthie]

hi sis caprice, first of all, congratulations in your recent engagement and deciding to tie the knot na.. Also, welcome to the club! 

From elegant and classy to a super-tight budget wedding, it doesn't matter, sis. What matters most is both of you decided to tie the know because you want the blessing to be given upon both of you by God and be recognized legally by the state as husband and wife. 

We can help you by telling us (if you don't mind) how much will be your budget for the whole event. We can atleast make something much more memorable even if it is a simple wedding. Like the photographer, tama ka naman, not necessary and if you can borrow SLR camera na lang or you know a friend who atleast know how to shoot, invite him na lang. One sould to feed is OK naman if he can make good pictures for your event. 

Tell us more. We can even share our DIY stuffs with you, sis. 

[showermist]

^^ hi sis,

if you must know hindi ka nag iisa dito. ginawa na rin ito ng friend ko.  the groom and my friend got married in the, as you said, 'the simplest wedding one can imagine'

they got married in a methodist church. friend wore a champagne long dress, made-up herself. groom wore his best suit he can find in his closet. just their immediate families and 2pairs of sponsor. no frills. the groom gave the bride a bouquet of flower on the day of the wedding which served na rin as her bouquet. photog/videog were the families. after that they went to a restaurant.  no cars either. nagtaxi lang sila.
so there, teh simplest wedding in church and in a hotel resto

[carmichael18]

may kakilala rin ako, walang bouquet yung girl, flower wreath lang.. tapos ayun naka white dress lang siya, family groom naka long sleeves lang... walang ento, ninong, ninang lang, tapos sa bahay lang ang reception.. and guess what, the guy is the youngest son of the former mayor of our town. they have the resources kumbaga, pero they decided to have a simpler, more intimate wedding... if given a chance, i would like to have such kind of wedding.. kaso h2b wants his closest friends (na napakarami) to witness our marriage.. same din sa akin, sa immediate family ko pa lang hindi na intimate.. kasi 7 kami magkakapatid, yung iba may asawa't anak na... hehe

[RiaLity]

In my opinion, ok din yung ganito sis kung yan talaga ang preference ninyo. Siguro just make it more personal and romantic by doing some DIY stuff or may gimik ng konti para memorable pa rin. Actually practical talaga yung ganito. Personally, I also would like to have one like yours na simple lang kaso pag naiisip ko na once in a lifetime lang ito saka kami napapaisip ni fiance na sige gawin na lang namin yung gusto namin kasi nga minsan lang to mangyayari.

[goddess_diana3584]

Sis ganito din ang plano namin ni bf noong una. Ganito din ang wedding ng parents ko talagang simple church wedding lang tapos naka dress lang din si mommy and sa bahay nila ang reception..It doesnt matter really kung simple or bongga..As long as it is your wedding, super memorable niyan..

Sa amin napagastos lang ng todo dahil sa parents namin eh..Minsan lang daw kami ikasal kaya gastusan na..Lalo na ang dad ko..haay

[goddess_diana3584]

Oo nga sis, nakakatuwa..napaka intimate and solemn ng ganitong wedding. Ang important is you get married in the eyes of God with your family and close friends. Marriage after all is for you and your husband and hindi para sa ibang tao..At sa hirap ba naman ng buhay ngayon di ba?

[hot_lalai]

yeah, i love solemn weddings.. ganyang ganyan yung wedding ng friend ko last may 2009. na-post ko na nga yata sa kabilang thread yung story nila. as in super simple. nagulat lang ako the night before, tinawagan ako ni h2b nya and was asking if they could borrow our car for a wedding the next day. akala ko naman it's somebody else's wedding. and they were inviting me to come with them and magsuot daw ako ng dress. come the next day, they picked up the car and inis na inis si friend ko that i was not wearing a dress. i never had a clue na sila pala yung ikakasal! ayun... a simple church wedding, the groom wore his old barong, as well as the dads. they had 2 pairs of sponsors. i stood in as the moh/photographer and the groom's bestfriend as the bestman/videographer. my daughter was the flower girl (na nagpulot ng petals instead of showering them). after the ceremony, we ate out. together with the priest. hehe... the church fee was supposedly 13k. but they begged father. sabi nila 3k lang talaga kaya nila. pumayag naman yung pari.... after nung vows nila, we were crying. nakaka-inspire...

[RiaLity]

awwww ang sweet naman, sis lalai!

[msg]

Nice.

I am and never will be a fan of big weddings. Ako kasi kung ako lang masusunod ang gusto ko na wedding eh sa beach or some where peaceful.

Tapos puro close friends lang and first degree relatives.

Walang entourage. Best man of my choice not because of by default. Principal sponsors, one each sa side namin ni soon to be wife.

Simpleng ceremony lang. Then sa reception, konting pasasalamat lang. Kain. Then mag si uwian na sila lol

Kaso hindi yun ang mangyayari. 

[mizizlim]

ako gusto ko din sana simple wedding, pero hindi din yun ang nangyari sakin.    though i tried naman din to make everything lowkey, and maganda pa din naman lumabas. 

maganda nga mas simple, basta ang important lang, maging solemn and heartfelt ang rites sa church...and gawin super fun ang relaxed ang reception!

suggestions lang sis, if i may:

1.  sana you still walk down the aisle.    for me lang ha, every girl naman deserves her "walk to remember".  for me, it's a special moment for the girl and symbolic na lalakad ka na towards the love of your life.  also, it's a proud moment din for the guy na parang heto na si love of my life, walking towards me in full surrender echos!   

libre naman sis e, and parang feel na feel mo na ikakasal ka.   

2.  you said also you have 2 pairs of ninongs/ninangs...why not make it 3 tapos sila na din yung candle, veil, and cord?  tapos wala nang secondary sponsors, bridesmaids, etc. 

3.  no need for coordinator naman talaga e.  ako i managed naman without one.  pero delegate one person to oversee stuff na lang for you on the day itself, just in case you'll be too busy doing your bridely duties.  parang second in command lang na close friend or relative. 

4.  photo/video - kung ako, ito ang isang portion na ayoko din tipirin.  kasi souveneir ko ito e. 

pero if you absolutely want to make tipid, baka naman you have friends who are into photography?  uso naman ngayon e.  i'm sure pag inassign mo pa yan sila to be "official photographers" e todo career nila yun.    video naman, ganun din, baka you can assign 2 people who have videocams or digicams with video capability na pwede na magvideo na lang sayo. 

but, make sure you discuss with them also yung mga "MUST CAPTURE MOMENTS" mo.  like yung kunwari, the you may now kiss the bride kiss, or yung walk down the aisle (should you choose to do it), etc.

5.  for the reception naman, kahit kayong 2 na lang magbigay ng speech to thank everyone who came, etc.  wala na yung ibang chever. 

good luck on your wedding! 

[iamruthie]

nakakakilig talaga pag small and intimate wedding. Mas ramdam mo yung event, promise.

To share my story, we initially planned for a small wedding to be attended by our families lang mga around 50-60 people. The reception we want is a simple backyard bbq wedding and theme. As we go along nga lang, ayun dumadami na guests pero we keep it close to like 100-120 kasama na jan ang 3 pairs of PS and our very own entou na kapamilya din namin pareho. So ginamit lang namin yung resources namin within the family. Now, it will still be a small and intimate wedding with immediate family up to the first degree and closest as in closest friends lang from both sides na. Mas ramdam namin kasi na we just have to share the most memorable day of our lives sa mga taong importante lang talaga samin.

Sis, tama sila. If you can do some DIY stuff, mas memorable ang event. It doesn't have to be grand. More touching nga kasi talagang pinaghirapan nyo ang wedding na yan. 

[paulineb54]

Hi sis,

That's actually what I'm planning right now; simple & intimate wedding. No ento, no program sa reception, sit down brunch lang with 50-60 guests; kumbaga stripped down to the most basic that the church would allow.  I suggest that the 1st thing you do is find a church that will accommodate your request.  In my case since sa Archbishop's Palace kami, sabi ni Bro. Alexis, depende sa officiating priest na kukunin nyo (ie. no ento, 1 pair of sponsors, etc).

Instead of getting additional PS, I suggest for the candle, cord and veil, have your PS and Parents do it.  Kasi if you think about what those 3 symbols mean, imo, they would be the most appropriate options since they are the ones you will guide you through your marriage.

Just my 2 cents. 

 

[sweetscience]

ganito din yung wedding na gusto ko, very practical yet intimate and solemn..

update us sis ha..

[nikki]

nice to know there are other sisses here who are into simple, intimate weddings.  since i got engaged kasi i've been feeling weird seeing my friends and officemates do the "usual" wedding complete from pre-nup to speeches in reception, etc tapos ako, i cannot relate lol.  kung pwede nga lang mag-tanan.. then again, hindi na yun applicable. hehe

anyway, i've decided since my family is based in the US that i'll have mine there.  as in with immediate family only that's less than 20 and a couple of fiance's best buddies..  just happy that fiance is perfectly fine with what i want.

i've so far found a venue in Napa Valley.  package comes with minister, bouquet, boutonniere, wedding cake, champagne, professional photographer and a 2-night stay.  we also get to use the whole B&B to ourselves..  as for reception, will just book a nice, fine dining restaurant nearby.

[paulineb54]

4.  photo/video - kung ako, ito ang isang portion na ayoko din tipirin.  kasi souveneir ko ito e. 

pero if you absolutely want to make tipid, baka naman you have friends who are into photography?  uso naman ngayon e.  i'm sure pag inassign mo pa yan sila to be "official photographers" e todo career nila yun.    video naman, ganun din, baka you can assign 2 people who have videocams or digicams with video capability na pwede na magvideo na lang sayo. 

but, make sure you discuss with them also yung mga "MUST CAPTURE MOMENTS" mo.  like yung kunwari, the you may now kiss the bride kiss, or yung walk down the aisle (should you choose to do it), etc.

I agree with sis mizizlim on this one.  I suggest you look for amateur photography peeps who are just starting out and are looking into building their portfolio.  You can make a good deal in exchange for rave reviews or referrals here sa GT, other forums and FB.  I'm sure that kind of deal would be more beneficial for them.

[iamruthie]

and if you opt to have a cake, tamang red ribbon or goldilocks pwede na.. Pero i still prefer RR over goldi.. 

[msg]

Ang sarap kaya ikasal na CLOSE VERY CLOSE friends and RELATIVES lang yun invited kasi you can be yourself around them and they can relate sa love story nyo.

Bottom line eh ang sarap when you are surrounded by people who really CARES sa wedding nyo.

Tapos sobrang intimate and casual na walang na tetense or na stress. Lahat nag eenjoy.

Sabay inuman na malupit para lahat basag na basag kasi sarap malasing sa beach. Tapos after ng party lakad lang kayo ni h2b or w2b sa shore ng beach

Now thats a great wedding!

[abitha]

hi caprice:)

i super love your idea of a simple wedding...kaw or kayo naman talaga ng bf mo ang magdedecide ng gusto at plano ninyo na ceremony.. it's very intimate..mostly lang naman kasi it's the family of either bride or groom na gusto ng malaking celebration diba?!

so go!go!go! lang girl sa plano nyo..good luck:)

[iamruthie]

true mga kapatid. lalo na si h2b, ayaw nya nung may bisita kasi pinsan ni ganito yun, kumare ni ganyan, gf ni ganito.

we only want those people that we really know and sobrang importante sa aming dalawa to witness our ceremony. sabagay kanya-kanya yan. kaso minsan, circus na ang dating. once you see your wedding album, may magtatanong, sino yan? sasagot ni bride, hmm.. di ko kilala e.. o kaya sasagot ni groom, ah bf ni ano, yung kaklase ko nung college.. haha..

much memorable is when you look back through your wedding pictures, you still recognize those smiles of the people surrounding both of you..

ayiiiih!! kinikilig tuloy ako.. haha!