bakit kaya may mga taong ayaw sayo kahit wala ka naman ginagawang masama?

[rae]

Ganun talaga, kahit ano namang gawin natin, meron at merong may ayaw sa 'tin.

That's just the way it is.

What others think of me, is none of my business. Nag-change din ako ng mindset since years ago: "it is not anyone's obligation to understand me, if someone does, I appreciate it." With this frame of thought, di ko na nararamdaman yung sense of entitlement na "bakit di nila ako maintindihan?"

Pero kapag may ginagawa deliberately to RUIN my life and/ or scheme against me, that's a different story. I fight back of course.

[younis]

walang pinagkaiba ang tanong na ito sa tanong na "bakit may mga taong kinaiinisan natin kahit walang ginagawa"

[rheinfall18]

e di ire-phrase na lang yung question to..

ano kayang nagawa ko bakit sila naiinis sakin??

lahat kasi may dahilan e, di pwedeng wala kaya for sure may nagawa ka para mainis sila sayo?? di mo lang alam kung ano yun kaya akala mo wala??

[shineadet]

pag alam mong wala kang ginagawang masama, malamang naiinggit lang sayo yun. baka you're smarter or sexier or more friendly than her.

[ysa.belle]

hmmm... hindi ko nga alam... yung nangyayari sa akin ngayon sa mga kasama ko sa work
nakakpagtaka at nakaka-hurt ah pero bahala na... share ko din dito kwento ko:

See, I'm new at this job. All of us are new, mga 2-3 weeks lang ang lamang ng bawat isa sa iba. We are a total of 6. So lets call the other 5 girls A, B, C, D and E.

Nagka-gap si A versus B and C. Ako naman, okay okay sa lahat but mas kasundo ko si A coz we live medyo malapit lang. Sumasabay si A sa akin pauwi, everynight.

Then all of a sudden, last Monday parang I was not included in the group. A stopped talking to me. I was wondering what was wrong. Lahat kinakausap niya pwera lang ako. Inaaya niyang kumain except me. Syempre napaisip ko since I was so nice to her and I am expecting na nice din sila sa akin. As in nice.

They were talking about something tapos nung natanong ko, they all looked at each other obviously na may tinatago and I just found out they will be going out and hindi ako kasama. It's okay naman na hindi ako kasama eh.

Syempre nainis ako kase mafe-feel mo naman if they are chatting about you di ba? Kaka-hurt kaya ng feelings. I still gave her a ride but mafe-feel mo yung ka-plastikan niya. Sana nalang hindi nalang siya sumabay if she will just be plastic.

I asked them kanina if they would go to this place since they were talking about it but halos hindi nila masabi na they will be going to another place. Parang yung dating is pag sinabi nila is I will be going with them.

I don't care naman if hindi nila ako isama but I really felt unwanted. Naiinis talaga ako. I don't to ask A if she has a problem with me since parang si A ang pasimuno ng lahat. Kakainis.

Ayoko na siyang isabay pauwi. Bad ba yun? Pero kase parang di ba if you're not nice to a person, you should not expect anything or any favors from that person.

I dont want to apologize kase alam ko wala akong ginawang masama. I dont wanna ask din
kase I know magiging issue pa sa kanila... so... I think I'll just leave it hanging since malapit na rin akong umalis dito.

[mooncake and leaves]

^ huwag mo nang isabay. you're not bad but kung ganyang ang user friendly lang ni A eh to hell with her loljk. and it's not really the worst thing in the world IF they don't like you. some friendships just aren't meant to happen. be nice pa din and civil though

[gab54]

usually feeling lang natin "walang ginagawang masama", pero para sa kanila "masama". may mga tao kasing hindi masaya sa nuhay nila or insecure, kaya naghahanap ng ikakainis/ikakapintas sa ibang tao, para feeling nila they are better than you, para hindi nila maalala na unhappy sila sa sarili nila. Since naghahanap sila ng masama, mayroon at mayroon silang makikita, kahit hindi naman talaga masama, masama na sa paningin nila... 

[chichi143]

some people are just plain bullies. tsk.
especially, if you're new in the group.

[lady_liberty]

okay, i'm in this situation right now pero the other way around. let me explain mga sis
we have this new girl assigned to our department, before she started people were already talking about her because she was a beauty contestant sa city namin and she was a cum laude in college, etc.
so we thought "good addition to sa office"

when she started, she was nice and pretty and sweet and very fun to talk to
but as the weeks passed, nakita namin na she was picky about the work given to her and parang she complains about every single thing!
parang feeling niya she's too good for her job and ang liit ng salary niya, etc
she get's offended nga when our boss asks her to make coffee.

BUT she doesnt see anything wrong with what she's doing, she justifies it by saying na it's not her job or it's beneath her to do a certain thing..
we TRIED to talk to her and explain to her that we do whatever the boss says kahit na its beyond our job descriptions pero wala talaga..

now she's wondering why people do not like her?
akala ko pa naman matalino siya.

currently she was transferred to another department because our boss didnt like her, and we still keep hearing complaints about her until now.

i'm not saying na hindi ko siya gusto, pero as a workmate, she makes office life that much harder and stressful . we're still friends but not that close and i dont think we will be. 

[Purple_Power]

Ika nga! you cannot really please everybody. Naging frustration ko ito noon especially when I was in college. Ang mentality ko kasi is makakasundo ko mga classmates ko but it all went wrong. Ako naman super humble ako nun na pinakikisamahan ko kahit ayaw nila sa akin. Iniignore ko lang yung pagkainis nila. But then I realized that is my biggest mistake that  I have done in my life yung magplease ng tao kaya no wonder it went much horrible. It makes me stronger not to abuse my humility and kindness. Frustrating part ngayon pamilya ko na ang gumagawa sa akin nito. In my family or clan I am also frustrated with other relatives but then I realized now na mas nakakatakot ang makasundo sila dahil puro sila manggagamit. After all it just about money. So sad that people around me will judge you base on the wealth or money at talagang bubulyawan ka lang at makakarinig ka ng masasakit na salita just because you are not rich. It runs in our clan. May mga tao talaga na puro gulo ang nasa isip.

[mischa04]

when I encounter people na ayaw sakin kahit wala naman ako ginagawang masama sa kanila, I just live by this quote.. "If people are trying to put you down be PROUD of it, it only mean one thing..YOU ARE ABOVE THEM! and one sure reason why they would hate you..because they want to be just like YOU!"

[sixteen16]

deadma.. para sa akin positive ito.. ibig sabihin "Good Job!", "You're Pretty!", "CONGRATULATIONS! you're doing the right thing" hehe.. hindi ko na problema kung ayaw nila sa akin basta ako ginagawa ko ang tama at kung ano ang ikakasaya ko. kung siraan man nila ako sa ibang tao.. hindi naman ako ang nakakarma. happy ako kasi puro blessings ang dumadating sa kin. maghanap sila ng ikakasira ko GO!

minsan nga hinahanapan ako ng credit card, wala naman ako transaction sa kanya na need ng credit card ko.. so sinagot ko ng maayos "wala akong credit card".. nagulat ako sa follow-up na tanong nya, "bakit wala kang cc? hindi mo ba kaya magbayad o hindi mo afford?".. nainis ako.. gusto ko man sagutin pero wag na lang. hinayaan ko na lang sya. pero sa totoo, wala talaga akong cc puro debit card meron ako. wala sa vocabulary ko ang cc kasi sakit sa ulo yan. if i need cc for any transaction, humihiram na lang ako at binabayaran ko ng cash.

if ako naman ang may ayaw sa isang tao, hindi ko na lang kinakausap kaysa makipagplastikan.

[ayka]

this usually occurs when either naunahan ka na ng mga chismis about you which gave them a pre-conceived idea and/or prejudice about you, or iba lang talaga ang dating/aura mo sa kanila. it happens.

[fairywinkle79122]

siguro talagang di ka gusto,o baka mainit lang talaga dugo sayo.pwedeng sa ginagawa mo naiirita mo siya.o baka insecure..ganyan kasi sa akin.di naman ako maganda,di ako mayaman,ewan ko may taong galit o inis sa ginagawa ko..iwasan na lang pag ganyan.

[iwannabeasupermodel]

merong ganitong girl sa akin. duh. di ko nga siya kinakausap eh. one time i offered to hold her very heavy ipad and video the presentation. aba di man lang nagthank you! antagal ko kaya yung vinideo! mga 30mins! 

[mdy]

We simply cannot please everybody. I've learned not to be bothered anymore. I just let it go and move on 

[errolavi14]

sa mga babae super uso yan talaga. ako i always deadma. e kase kung ayaw sayo bat mo naman ipipilit. marami namang iba na gusto ka. so ganun nalang.

ako nga mula nung naging kami ni hubby lahat ha, halos lahat ng mga "girl" friends nya na friend ko ni hindi ni la like ang mga pictures namin sa facebook. so anong ibig sabihin non?

[alexandrea]

You can't expect everyone to like you. People who don't like you aren't necessarily bad, in the same way that you aren't. It just that you are too different from each other. News flash: It happens.

Letting yourself get affected whenever people dislike you is a sign of insecurity on your part, not theirs.

[yezzi]

you can never please everybody

as for me wala pa naman akong nae-encounter na 1st meeting palang namin eh ayaw na "agad" sa akin, what happened is biglang ayaw na sa akin, wala talaga kong maisip na reason bakit? siguro siniraan ako or wala akong pera, I dunno I asked myself naman why and our common friends pero kahit sila walang mahanap na sagot so, ending, alam kong wala akong ginawa na masama sa kanila enough reason na yun why shouldn't I give a d@mn. "Ayaw mo sa akin? wala naman akong ginagawang masama sayo, eh di wag I couldn't care less "

[younis]

ako na niniwala ako sa sinasabi nilang good or bad "aura", I myself experienced this. may tao talaga akong kahit walang ginagawa sa akin eh not to the point na naiinis ako agad, but hindi lang pleasing at first ang personally nya sa akin. maybe most of the time yung aura nya hindi ko feel.

but eventually, nagbabago yan.. that person I was talking about is now my good friend and I told her about my impression of her na ang arte arte nya, aminado naman sya hehe.... kaya ngayon biruan naming 2 yan eh sabihan ko lang na "ang arte mo talaga" tatawa lang yun hehe...