Would you ever take back a guy who has cheated on you?

[pinklilac]

Wag na lang dahil uulit at uulit yan.

[zee87]

I thought i wouldnt but i did.
I was pregnant and he promised it will not happen again.
We never had the same issue for 2 years.
I was thinking, he really did changed.
But i realized, it's me who changed.

I stopped snooping around.
I stopped asking him where he went or what he did or who's with him.
I started believing him.
And we stopped fighting.

[dumpee.o13]

I thought i wouldnt but i did.
I was pregnant and he promised it will not happen again.
We never had the same issue for 2 years.
I was thinking, he really did changed.
But i realized, it's me who changed.

I stopped snooping around.
I stopped asking him where he went or what he did or who's with him.
I started believing him.
And we stopped fighting.

^ nice sis! will do the same thing of ever. i just realized things after the break-up. =) are you guys still together?

[zee87]

Yep, we're still together.
So far, wala pa naman same incident na nangyayari in 2 years.
He still go out with friends but he never fails to text me kung saan siya pupunta or kung sino kasama nya. Di rin na ako nagtatanong masyado, basta ganun lagi ang routine.
Ewan ko, siguro, napagod na lang ako sa paghihinala at pagiimbestiga.
So far, it works for both of us.
Mas may peace sa relationship, nandun pa rin [textspeak!] nagiisip ako kung talaga bang friends niya kasama niya, i guess matagal tagal pa bago mawawala yun.

And i think, kung may ginagawa man siyang kalokohan ngayon, mas maingat na siya.
I think he knows na if it happens again, there wont be a 2nd chance.

Sabi ko nga, kung naghiwalay kame that time, it will be his loss.
Kasi he's so fond with our child right now, sobrang kamukha niya kasi.

[dumpee.o13]

^ @zee87, nice! good for you both, goodluck sis!

[ettevyvi]

On a lighter note, ayoko na maging kaibigan ang cheating ex ko.

[bluestocking]

I have and continuously struggling to get back the trust that was once there.
It wasn't just once, but I continued to love him even so.
Now he has promised that he will change and I've been praying that he really would.

One bit of factor was that we were too young then, he was my first boyfriend.
I know it won't justify that but I guess better than having them experiment when you're married.

I still don't know where we're headed but he made it clear that this will be for good.
I have my doubts and it's a long shot as all my friends and family hate him now.

I guess one factor was we were always communicating even after the breakup. A few months after the breakup we'll text each other his and hellos. Accompany each other to errands, watch movies or do activities together when he becomes single again.
So for girls who really want to get over the cheating ex, Stop communicating with him.

[dumpee.o13]

So for girls who really want to get over the cheating ex, Stop communicating with him.

^ hehe' in my case sis, he stopped communicating with me one day. nahuli na ata kami ng current gf nya na magka-email. ayun, medyo i'm getting over him na. but i recently saw his Twitter status na he's missing someone daw and i know it's me. haha' oh well, sya naman may dahilan kung bat ako nawala sakanya. pero sis, aren't you happy na kayo na ulet?

[redsh0es]

--ang sinungaling habang buhay na sinungaling
--pag naloko ka ng isang beses, maloloko ka ulit sa pangalawang beses

[Kriman]

Nope tapos na eh, baka ulitin nya pa ulit yun

[kukaii]

May dilemma kasi ako, first namin ang isa't isa (we've been together more than four years, going 5 this year). Recently I found out he cheated online with another (PS, SC). He did it for variety kasi nga ako raw ang first niya. Pero he was sincerely sorry for what he did and first time din niyang umiyak sakin ng ganun. So I forgave him, not because his reasons are justifiable pero I still want to try to work things out.

It has not been easy pero the memory of what he did still sparks anger. Ang hirap kalimutan at ibalik ng tiwala. Hanggang ngayon adjusting pa rin ako 

[jenybasti]

hayyy,yan din ang dilemma ko mga sis.after ng mga ginawa nya sakin.sa dinami dami ng natuklasan ko.ilang beses nya na ko niloko.ngayon for the nth time nag sorry nanaman sya.promise uli.tama bang pinatawad at tanggapin ko pa sya.tapos parang kulang pa sya sa effort.sabi naman namin last chance nya na to.pag inulit nya pa talaga never nya na kami makikita ng mga anak nya......
tinanggap ko pa din sya kahit na alam kong kaya lang sya nagbabalik loob samin dahil nakipaghiwalay na yung kabit nya sa kanya.yun lang parang di na kami tulad ng dati.narealized ko din na madali magpatawad.mahirap makalimot

[megansmomma]

been there done that.

i think its unfair if you wont give that someone "HIS" second chance, everyone deserves it after all. but you must set limit or boundaries, its woman nature to fall and get hurt but over and over? i dont think love pa yun. if ganito na situation na on and off for the nth time eh marse, try seeing other options. i still believe theres tons of fish in the sea

[Mommy•Shey]

My answer is NO. Kahit siya pa ang ama ng mga anak ko, once he cheated on me, hinding hindi ko siya pababalikin sakin. Kahit sabihin niyang, magbabago siya or whatsoever! Kasi, once na nawala ang tiwala, mahirap ng ibalik. Kung nagsama ulet sila (for example), hindi mawawala ang pag-seselos, pag -aalala, pagiging paranoid na baka meron nanaman siyang iba, hanggang sa pagsimulan nanaman ito ng away. Away na mauuwi sa sakitan, hiwalayan at makakatanggap kapa ng masasakit na salita.

Pero kung sa tingin ko eh determined talaga siyang bumalik sakin, saming family niya, I'll tell him to prove himself first, fix his self, his life, and for the meantime, magliliwaliw muna ako hahaha!

Seriously, hindi kasi ako yung tipo ng babae na mag stick sa isang lalaki kahit sinasaktan ako, nambabae, or kahit mahal ko for the sake of our children? or dahil sobrang dami na naming pinagsamahan? NO! hindi ako ganon. Mas gusto ko pang maghiwalay nalang kami kesa makita ko mga anak kong nahihirapan ( let's say lagi kaming nag aaway). Mataas ang pain tolerance ko ahahah, and I'm sure MAS MATAAS and Pain tolerance ko pagdating sa Heartaches. Hindi hihinto ang mundo para sa kanya. There's a lot of things na worth pagka abalahan, kesa maglugmok lang sa tabi 

[cristyles]

No, period.   

[jenybasti]

been there done that.

i think its unfair if you wont give that someone "HIS" second chance, everyone deserves it after all. but you must set limit or boundaries, its woman nature to fall and get hurt but over and over? i dont think love pa yun. if ganito na situation na on and off for the nth time eh marse, try seeing other options. i still believe theres tons of fish in the sea

ang t**** ko ba mga sis??

My answer is NO. Kahit siya pa ang ama ng mga anak ko, once he cheated on me, hinding hindi ko siya pababalikin sakin. Kahit sabihin niyang, magbabago siya or whatsoever! Kasi, once na nawala ang tiwala, mahirap ng ibalik. Kung nagsama ulet sila (for example), hindi mawawala ang pag-seselos, pag -aalala, pagiging paranoid na baka meron nanaman siyang iba, hanggang sa pagsimulan nanaman ito ng away. Away na mauuwi sa sakitan, hiwalayan at makakatanggap kapa ng masasakit na salita.

Pero kung sa tingin ko eh determined talaga siyang bumalik sakin, saming family niya, I'll tell him to prove himself first, fix his self, his life, and for the meantime, magliliwaliw muna ako hahaha!

Seriously, hindi kasi ako yung tipo ng babae na mag stick sa isang lalaki kahit sinasaktan ako, nambabae, or kahit mahal ko for the sake of our children? or dahil sobrang dami na naming pinagsamahan? NO! hindi ako ganon. Mas gusto ko pang maghiwalay nalang kami kesa makita ko mga anak kong nahihirapan ( let's say lagi kaming nag aaway). Mataas ang pain tolerance ko ahahah, and I'm sure MAS MATAAS and Pain tolerance ko pagdating sa Heartaches. Hindi hihinto ang mundo para sa kanya. There's a lot of things na worth pagka abalahan, kesa maglugmok lang sa tabi 

sana ganyan din ang maging attitude ko.mataas din naman ang pain tolerane ko.sana ganun nga din sa heartache

[Mommy•Shey]

@ Sis jenybasti, kaya mo yan Sis, minsan kasi dapat turuan din ng leksyon ang mga ganyang klaseng lalaki. Minsan masarap iparamdam sa kanila na kaya mo kahit wala sila. Dyan kasi sila nasasanay, once na may ginawa at pinatawad mo, tapos gagawin ulet then papatawarin mo nanaman, namimihasa, iniiisip nila na "ay pinapatawad naman niya ako eh, konting lambing ko lang sa kanya, ok na kami agad". Wala na tayo sa panahon ng kastila, at hapon, na lalaki lang ang nasusunod. Lalaki ang superior. Mahalin natin sarili natin mga Sis, dapat may respeto din tayo sa sarili natin. Ok lang na binigay mo lahat ng pangunawa mo sa kanya, tiwala at pagmamahal pero kung ganyan at ganyan ang ginagawa niya, wag kang matakot na hiwalayan siya. At least nasabi mo sa kanya na hindi ikaw ang nagkulang kasi binigay mo sa kanya kung ano yung binibigay ng isang asawa/gf. Para makunsensiya siya. Wag kang papatalo sa emosyon sis. Kung iiral lang lagi ang pagmamahal mo sa kanya, ganyan at ganyan ang gagawin niya sayo.

Surround yourself with positive and lively people. Pray and asked for HIS guidance. Keep yourself busy, magpa spa ka, mag shopping ka. Pamper yourself.

[~lovesick~]

yes, iba naman kasi sa kanya. he flirted with some girl online. nabasa ko conversations nila. he said sorry naman and promised me hindi na mauulit yun. so far nagbago naman siya. natatakot na siyang hiwalayan ko. yan din kasi ang cause nung huling pinag-awayan namin.

[mooncake and leaves]

boyfriend? no.

husband? no pa din. or maybe. but i like no.

[eeekar]

I have.
And I am having 2nd thoughts about it.
Kahit na nakikita ko na yung napakalaking improvement on his part, mahirap pa din kasi nawala na yung trust. And a relationship will not work if there's no trust.
I find it extremely hard to accept it and move on.
Siguro mahirap mag-move on kasi the guy is still with me