do you know a mother who has abandoned her child/children?

[lexi_girl]

gosh di ko ma-imagine na may mga ganitong klaseng nanay  di nalang sana sila nagpabuntis in the first place kung di rin naman nila mamahalin ang anak nila. nakakainis. nakakaawa ang mga kids... they dont deserve to be treated that way and to be deprived of love. hay naku di ko nga lang makasama ang anak ko ng ilan oras eh sobrang miss na miss ko na! what more pa iwan ko ng years!?! di ko kakayanin yun.

[l4dybu6]

hindi naman abandoned. pero nung bata kami, pina alaga kami ng mga kapatid ko sa kapitbahay nag abroad kasi mom ko.

[bluemargarita]

unfortunately yes may kilala ako. meron pa both nanay at tatay. super sad talaga. i guess people have a way of dealing with things. yung iba kasi they just can't handle it and the only way they know is to escape from it all. i agree with one comment here. not everyone is fit to be a parent. its not true na instinct lang siya. it also takes maturity and strong will.

[Kady_14]

Oo meron,

Story 1- Dalawang Pinsan ko, both boys. Matatanda na din sila ngayon siguro 30 and 25. Nung bata pa kami, Iniisip ko bakit umalis na yung Mommy nila plus yung isang older brother nila. Yun pala half-brother lang nila yun. Anak ng Mom nila sa iba. Sabi ko nun bata pa kami bakit iniwan sila, yung kuya lang ang dinala. Di na sila binalikan to think na nasa Cavite lang naman ang Mom. Happy sila nuon pag bumibisita yung Mom pero eventually kumonti na yung mga dalaw sa kanila even phone calls wala na. Ng-asawa na din yung Mom nila ulit and yung Uncle ko. Ang weird lang kasi as a Mom di ko matitiis or magagawang makalimutan ang mga anak ko. Ganun na lang, parang mga nakalimutang tuta.

Story 2- Kalaro ko, both girls. Raised by Dad. Nung mga bata pa kami, ang alam ko lang Mom nila works abroad. Happy and proud sila (natatandaan ko) to bring out her stuff, even wear her dasters kapag naglalaro kami. Pero she never went home. When we got older. Ayaw na lang nila pag-usapan. Parang Lord Voldemort. Dad re-married nun college graduate na sila. Si Dad lang talaga nila ang ng-palaki sa kanilang dalawa. Pareho pang babae yun eh. Mom ata (chismis) went abroad to help augment their family's income pero met someone else and had another family in the states, forgetting the one she left home.

Ka-sad. Me mga ganun palang Nanay.

[mademoiselle]

^ why did she abandon her daughters? Sorry ah I'm just wondering what makes a mother do that. Bait mo namang tita, they are lucky to have you. Ako kase I know my mother chose to live a new life meaning she got married again and she's in a different country and no obligations to us. It's not that we're expecting anything from her. Yung needs ng mga kapatid ko halos magmakaawa pa kame sa kanya eh. she's even my friend in FB, bday ko ayan greet siya parang pa-guilty type pa pero when I sent her a message she didn't reply back. Parang feeling of rejection samantalang she can make comments sa wall ng mga tita ko and friends niya.

hi sis, bigla na lang siya nag disappear she left a letter though saying gusto niya daw magisip isip etc etc 3 years after she left we were able to trace her and asked her to watch after her kids since we were busy with my grandma's funeral and yet she left the kids again with our neighbor we haven't heard from her since then and we never tried to look for her either.

[gilenn]

^ ganun, parang she doesn't really have any intentions of taking care of them. gumawa pa siya ng excuse. kawawa naman mga pamangkin mo pero they are living with good relatives like you so sana hindi nila dalhin yun bad feelings, mahirap naman lumaki ng bitter. are you still trying to find her now?

[carlijn]

My grandmother abandoned my mom so my mom was raised by her grandmother, titos and titas.  My grandmother remarried and never introduced my mom to her half siblings, and never even told her second husband kahit  hanggang namatay na lang yung guy.  Even if my mom was with her and whenever other people would ask her how many kids she has she would always answer 3 only, always counting my mom out kahit 4 sila dahil eldest ang mom ko sa first marriage nya and yet she never acknowledged my mom. Pero nung kinakailangan nya ng magbabantay sa kanya sa hospital, pinapunta pa nya mom ko sa US para lang samahan sha even if yung dalawang anak nyang babae nasa US naman.

And kahit ako nga panganay nya na apo, she doesnt care, all she cares about are her grand children sa mga anak nya sa second husband.  Minsan lang ang sarap sabihin na sana ibinigay na lang nya sana ang mom ko sa dad nya kesa itinago tago nya pero pababayaan din naman pla nya.

[super bratinella]

Nalungkot naman ako sa ganitong story. Those people can not really be called as Mothers. Because mothers are nurturing, the half of their childrens, but for me, my kids are the whole of me.

Ang tawag sa kanilang "pa-anakan", anak lang ng anak pero hindi naman nagiging nanay.

salot sila sa lipunan.

[chengkii]

Meron din ako alam.
Baby na napulot ng sister ng friend ko sa Baclaran. As in she heard baby cries after ng mass. Tapos nung ni-check niya iyun source, sa may tree sa Baclaran. So, hinango niya iyun baby na balot ng lampin pero puro langgam na from the ground na may tree and waited, baka may bumalik na parent. Pero natapos na ang next mass, wala dumadating. She brought the baby home. Their family took care of the baby and worked on the baby's birth certificate para ipalabas na baby nung friend ko. Ewan namin bakit iniwan nalang doon iyun.

The baby is well now. He's now 8 years old. Grabe pa iyun experience ng parents ng friend ko sa Cityhall when they were trying to secure a birth certificate for the baby but that's another story.

[gilenn]

^ ang bait ng friend mo. sana dumami ang ganyang tao sa Pinas.

[mdy]

I have a college friend na never pa nya nakita mom nya. Her dad's mom ang nagpalaki sa kanya. Nakakaawa lang kasi I know may impact yun pag-a-abandon sa kanya ng mommy sa buhay nya ngayon. She looks lost and most of the time, attention-seeker. What's with those moms na kayang iwanan ang mga anak nila? For me hindi kasi valid reason ang financial incapacity, very gasgas excuse.

[lilstar]

Hindi ko ata magagawang iwan ang anak ko ever..
Dati nung ako pa lang sa mundo, pag may problem naiisip ko sirain ang buhay ko kasi mababaw ang tolerance ko sa pain, lahat ng nega naiisip ko. But everything changed when I became a mom. Hindi mo magagawang sirain ang buhay mo dahil may umaasa sayo. Kahit nga mag abroad di ko magawa kasi di ko kayang lumaki sa ibang tao ang anak ko. Gusto ko every step of the way nandyan ako for him..

May kilala din ako na iniwan ang mga anak nya for a new found love.. hayyysss... mas gusto ko pa yung mga stories ng single moms kesa sa nag karoon nga ng new lover pero iniwan naman ang mga anak sa iba,, 

[vanessas]

when i was pregnant sabi ko talaga iiwan ko baby ko sa daddy niya since un daddy naman niya may gustong buhayin siya. un yung stage na gusto ko ipalaglag baby ko. gagraduate palang kasi ako and ang dami kong gustong gawin gusto ko takasan un magiging responsibilties ko.

pero eto ako ngayon ngtytype habang kandong si baby.

i love her sooo. hinding hindi ko siya iiwan at sasaktan. iiwan ko man siya pero para magwork for her future! 

[gilenn]

^ good for you! you made the right decision. 

siguro ang dahilan talaga kung bakit nakukuha ng ibang nanay iwan anak nila kase gusto nila takasan yung responsibility. it's not right to say iiwan mo anak mo dahil mas maganda future niya sa ibang tao. dapat panindigan nila ang ginawa nila.

[vanessas]

feeling ko nakakayang iwan ng mommies baby nila kasi akala nila mas maganda ang future nila ng walang kargo.

at tingin nila hindi sila magiging mabuting ina sa mga anak nila.

naaalala ko din nung buntis ako lagi ko sinasabi sana sa iba nalang binigay ni God si baby. kasi mas maaalagaan siya at mas mamahalin. but i was wrong. walang ibang mas magmamahal at mas magaalaga sa sariling anak ko kundi ako. dahil sakin siya binigay ni God.

sa mga sis na iniwan ng mommy nila sana magkaroon kayo ng time na makapagusap ng maayos. naniniwala ako na may maganda silang rason at mahal nila kayo.

[-teazer29-]

hi.. i have my own story to share.. and i need advices on what to do.. I have a 3-year-old son (out of wedlock) and I raised him as a single parent.. Then I met my bf now my fiance and right now meron na kami baby.. so in short, 2 na baby ko from two different guys.. now im living with my guy's family with our baby.. the problem is his parents don't know of my son's existence.. i left him with my grandparents.. don't get me wrong, i really really love my son (sometimes i think mas mahal p kesa sa second baby ko). I was so used to being with him but now i feel that he's starting to be distant saken.. I couldn't tell my guy's parents about him cause we're living in their house and ayoko ng awkwardness.. they're sort of conservative kasi.. i don't want my son to get used na wala ako but i can't afford to have my own place and get him pa.. pero i also can't live with my grandparents with my second baby cause my grannies don't want to.. help!

[gilenn]

^ dapat yata you should talk to your fiance. alam naman niya situation mo dba? he knows you have a 3 year old son and kilala niya parents niya baka pwedeng siya mag-explain sa kanila. Naisip ko rin kahit na you have your own place malalaman at malalaman din nila yun.

[joban99]

I agree with gilenn, you need to talk to your fiance. Also you should both talk to his parents together. Wag mo patagalin pa. Hope everything works out for you guys and remember; the kids should always come first.

[shinta]

my mother had 3 children with her first husband and she left them when they were still very young. but she had compelling reasons. she had to leave or else baka mamatay sya sa first husband nya. she's battered and was being used as a sex slave.

di nya to kinuwento sakin, but i overheard her talking to one of her relatives about her experiences sa first husband nya. her experiences were horrible, it was hell for her. tumakas lang sya at di nya naisama yung mga anak nya. if she would go back to get them, baka mapatay sya sa bugbog.

my mom married him when she was just 15. sa probinsya ito at parang pinambayad utang sya nung lolo nya at pinagkasundo dun sa naging first husband nya. when she left them, she was 20.

only my dad knows about them nung una. yung relative kasi naman sa father-side, laging pinupuna ang mother ko and she fears pag nalaman nila about her past, baka lalo syang lait-laitin at alipustahin ng mga in-laws nya.

but eventually we found out about it. when my eldest half sibling was old enough, hinanap nila mother namin. sadly, di naging maganda ang mga buhay nila. my mother suffered a lot knowing this and until now, ginagawa nya lahat ng makakaya nya to make it up to them.

it's hard. sometimes it puts a strain on our relationship kasi i get jealous. we don't exactly have the best relationship. but she's not a bad mother.

[young_maiden]

my mother had 3 children with her first husband and she left them when they were still very young. but she had compelling reasons. she had to leave or else baka mamatay sya sa first husband nya. she's battered and was being used as a sex slave.

di nya to kinuwento sakin, but i overheard her talking to one of her relatives about her experiences sa first husband nya. her experiences were horrible, it was hell for her. tumakas lang sya at di nya naisama yung mga anak nya. if she would go back to get them, baka mapatay sya sa bugbog.

my mom married him when she was just 15. sa probinsya ito at parang pinambayad utang sya nung lolo nya at pinagkasundo dun sa naging first husband nya. when she left them, she was 20.

only my dad knows about them nung una. yung relative kasi naman sa father-side, laging pinupuna ang mother ko and she fears pag nalaman nila about her past, baka lalo syang lait-laitin at alipustahin ng mga in-laws nya.

but eventually we found out about it. when my eldest half sibling was old enough, hinanap nila mother namin. sadly, di naging maganda ang mga buhay nila. my mother suffered a lot knowing this and until now, ginagawa nya lahat ng makakaya nya to make it up to them.

it's hard. sometimes it puts a strain on our relationship kasi i get jealous. we don't exactly have the best relationship. but she's not a bad mother.

eh sis,kumusta naman na ang relationship nya sa mga anak niya sa unang asawa?