mga sisters, pasali naman... i really need the POV of single moms (just like me) about my latest dilemma. here's my story...
i'm 38 years old and i am a single mom to a 1 year old boy. i am not married to the father of my son. SD did not acknowledge my baby. in fact, when i told him i was pregnant, his response was "nadagdagan na naman ang problema ko" and then he asked kung ano gusto kong gawin nya. of course, after marinig na tawagin nya ang anak ko na problem, i told him that i don't need anything from him be it financial or emotional support. i asked him to get out of my life.
from that time on, hindi na kami halos nagkita. i went through the entire pregnancy all by myself. nung ika 31st week ko na lang ako humingi ng tulong sa parents ko bcoz i was required to go on complete bedrest due to pregnancy related issues. i gave birth to my son na ako lang & my parents. NA ang father's name sa birth certi ng baby ko.
from the time i gave birth, nag tetext naman si SD paminsan-minsan. pero since february this yr, hindi nya na kinukumusta baby ko as if hindi nag eexist si baby sa mundo.
last nov, nag text yung latest gf ni SD asking if SD fathered my baby & kung ano arrangement namin. i told her na NA ang father ni baby sa birth cert, which is the truth.
while the gf was polite & kind sa text, ang dami nyang drama. dapat daw ikakasal na sila ni SD but bcoz SD did not tell her the truth agad about my baby, di na daw nya itutuloy. then she also said that she got pregnant daw & ang father din ng twins nya si SD. kaya lang daw, bcoz she got sick the twins did not make it daw.
when i asked her why she was texting me, she said na since they will be starting a family na ni SD, she wants to protect daw the family they will soon start. ayaw daw nya na someday someone will be at their doorstep claiming that SD fathered him.
i know she was referring to my boy but bcoz she was polite, i assured her that i am capable of supporting my child financially & emotionally. if she fears na pupuntahan sila ng baby ko for support, then wag sya mag-alala.
our texting ended with her attempting to call me pero ni reject ko yung call. sabi nya gusto lang daw nya mag apologize. for what, i really don't know. to end the texting in a nice way, i told her that i will be praying for them. she said naman that she wish everyone well. pag papa sa Diyos na lang daw nya ang buhay nya pati buhay ni SD. kung sila daw talaga ni SD, it will happen in God's time.
then a few days before christmas naman, it's SD's turn to call. kunyari greet pa siya ng merry christmas. tapos heto na, nag tanong na kung nag text daw si gf nya. i confirmed na nag text & i requested na kung pwede ayusin nya yun.
sabi naman nya di daw nya alam na nag text sa akin. it was only last week na nag kwento yung girl. then he said na dapat daw mag papakasal na sila. so i asked him if my son is the reason why hindi matutuloy yung kasal. he said na hindi naman daw, may ibang bagay pa daw. he then asked if it will be okay for me to meet his gf. sabi ko naman "what for?" considering na wala naman nang connection kami sa isa't isa. my son's birth certificate does not even carry his name. i also reminded him na ni hindi na nga ako nag tetext sa kanya except to respond to his once in a blue moon text messages. sabi ni SD, yung girl lang daw gusto ng maayos na buhay kasi they have a daughter daw who is 9 months old na. twins daw dapat yun pero namatay yung isa kasi premature! (how inconsistent sa story nung girl!)
SD also said na what if ithe girl's last wish is to meet me. so i asked SD if the girl is dying, SD said yes. per SD, the girl daw has 6 months to live may brain tumor daw kasi. hindi din daw nya alam parang a few days ago lang din daw nya nalaman. wish lang daw talaga nung girl na mameet ako kasi daw gustong ibilin sa akin nung girl si SD! kasi daw sabi nung girl i am someone highly regarded by SD (nang bola pa!).
ang tagal naming nag-usap sa phone ni SD dahil sa wish nung girl. i was insisting na there's no need kaya lang nung narinig ko na last wish, natakot naman ako. i told SD to text me again on monday, pag-iisipan ko during the weekend.
right now, i don't know whether i should meet the girl or not. the only reason why i am considering is because she might really be dying. baka naman maguilty ako later kapag di ko ginawa.
kaya lang, for my son's sake, ayoko talaga. matapos ni SD tawaging problema yung anak ko & di nya pansinin nang nag bubuntis ako hanggang mag 1 yr old, ngayon tatawag sya & hihingi ng favor sa akin? ang kapal naman nya!
parang ang sakit pati na ang anak kong inosente as early as now pinag-iisipan na ng girl na guguluhin sila. while i understand where she is coming from, gaya din nya gusto ko ding protektahan ang anak ko by doing everything i can para wala na kaming connection sa kanila.
also, after hearing kay SD na may anak na sila made me realize that she has not been truthful nung nag text sya. i did not ask her if they have kids, she volunteered the info. tapos, nag sinungaling pa sya?
now, i don't know if she is really kind or nagbabait-baitan lang. wala naman akong paki alam kung may isang baranggay silang anak ni SD. care ko naman dun? for her to say na patay na anak nila gave me the goosebumps. what kind of mother is she?
now, my impression of her changed from a kind woman to numero unong sinungaling! tuloy, yung claim ni SD na dying yung girl, hindi ko na rin alam kung paniniwalaan.
mga sisters, pasensya na sa haba ng nobela ko. i just need to vent kasi parang ang sama ng timing nilang dalawa. first, kakatapos pa lang ng 1st birthday ng baby ko nung nag text yung girl. tapos, a few days before my baby's 1st christmas, si SD naman. hay naku!
mga sisters, what do you think? will i be too mean if di ko i-meet yung girl kahit dying na sya (assuming this is true ha)... or pagbigyan ko na?
